Ubungqongqo babantwana: Ukuqonda ukuThathelwa ingqalelo koDumileyo

Umxholo

• Yintoni eQhelekileyo?
• Ngaba Ugqithise Kangakanani?
• Kuthekani Ukuba awumthandi uMdumo?

Ushwankathelo

Ngaba umntwana wakho uyiBelieber, iSwiftie, okanye uKaty-Cat?

Abantwana abathanda abantu abadumileyo ayisiyonto intsha, kwaye ayiqhelekanga ebantwaneni - ngakumbi ulutsha - ukuthatha fandom ukuya kwinqanaba lokuthabatheka. Kodwa ngaba ikhona indawo apho u-Justin Bieber obsession womntwana wakho kufuneka akunike inkxalabo?

Nantsi indlela yokwahlula ukuba ukuthanda umntwana wakho ngodumo kunokuba ngaphezulu.

Yintoni eQhelekileyo?

Akukho ukuxilongwa ngenxa yokuzibandakanya kwabantu abadumileyo, kwaye kwiimeko ezininzi, umdla womntwana wakho okanye ulutsha ngegorha lamva kuqhelekile.

"Kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukubancoma abantu, kwaye wonke umntwana unale nto ukusa kumkhamo othile," ucacisa watsho uGqr. "Abantu abadumileyo bayaphumelela kwaye bankulu kunobomi, kwaye abantwana abasoloko beqonda ukuba yimboniso bhanyabhanya."

Nabantwana abancinci banokuthi bathande kakhulu iqhawe okanye ikhathuni, kodwa kulutsha, ukunqula amaqhawe kwemvumi okanye inkwenkwezi yemovie phantse ibe sisiko lokuhamba.

Njengomzali, kunokuba lula ukucinga ukuba ukuthanda komntwana wakho kungqamene nokungazinzi okunempilo, ngakumbi ukuba awubathandi abantu abadumileyo. Kodwa kwiimeko ezininzi, yintoni ekubetha njengokuziphatha okugabadeleyo kusenokwenzeka ukuba kuyinto eqhelekileyo.

UGqirha Legg uthi: “Ukunxiba njengosaziwayo nokutshintsha iinwele zakho ukuze ubukeke njengosaziwayo kuyinxalenye eqhelekileyo yokuzama ukwahluka kwabanye nokufumanisa ukuba ungubani na. Ezo ndlela zokuziphatha aziyonto ekukhathazayo.

I-Ditto yokujoyina iiklabhu zabalandeli, ukukhumbula ngentloko, kunye nokuchitha ixesha elininzi ucinga malunga nokuthetha ngosaziwayo. Kuphela ukuba umdla womntwana wakho kubantu abadumileyo uqala ukuphazamisa ubomi bemihla ngemihla apho kunokubakho isizathu sokukhathazeka.

Ngaba Ugqithise Kangakanani?

Nangona kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuba umntwana wakho achithe ixesha elininzi ecinga ngeqhawe lakhe, kukho umda.

Ukuze ukuthanda abantu abadumileyo kuthathelwe ingqalelo njengesiqhelo, kufuneka ihlangabezane neenqobo zokuphazamiseka okungafunekiyo.

UGqirha Legg uthi: “Umbuzo ngowokuba unwenwele kangakanani na. "Ngaba kuyaphazamisa ukukwazi komntwana ukwenza imisebenzi ebalulekileyo yemihla ngemihla?" Njengomzali, ukuba unenkxalabo ngomtsalane womntwana wakho, thembeka kuvavanyo lwakho lokuba luchaphazela njani ubomi bomntwana wakho.

Ukuba umntwana wakho okwishumi elivisayo uyala ukwenza imisebenzi yasekhaya kunye ne-slouches off ukuze abukele ividiyo kaJustin Bieber endaweni yoko, u-Justin Bieber mhlawumbi akanatyala. Nokuba umntwana wakho uthathe isigqibo sokuyeka imisebenzi ebikade inomdla kuye kuba ukhetha ukuchitha ixesha ethetha nabahlobo bakhe ngosaziwayo abathandayo, oko akusosizathu sokuba ube nexhala. Kuqhelekile ukuba ulutsha lufike ngokukhawuleza kwimidla, ngenxa yoko ukuphulukana nomdla omnye endaweni yalo ngomnye ayisiyiyo yezifo.

Nangona kunjalo, ukuba umntwana wakho uthe phithi ngosaziwayo kangangokuba uthatha yonke imisebenzi yabo, isenokuba lixesha lokuthetha nogqirha.

"Ukuba umsebenzi wesikolo womntwana uyatyibilika kwaye bancama bonke abahlobo babo ukuba bahlale kwigumbi labo imini yonke batshintshelwe kwikhompyuter bebukele iikonsathi, kuya kufuneka unxibelelane nengcali ukuze uyivavanye," ukholelwa uGqirha Legg. Oko akuthethi ukuba kuya kufuneka ukhathazeke ukuba umntwana wakho uchithe umgqibelo ophelileyo ebukele umdyarho wekhonsathi-kuphela ukuba indlela yokuziphatha enje iyahambelana kwaye iqhelekile.

Kwaye, ewe, ukuba umntwana wakho uthetha ngokudakumba okunzima okanye akhankanye iingcinga zokuzibulala ezinxulumene nosaziwayo, ke lixesha lokuba unxibelelane nengcali ngokukhawuleza. Ukuba umntwana wakho ubonakala ekholelwa ngokwenyani ukuba iqhawe labo liyabazi buqu okanye linyanzelisa ukuba uthando lwabo lubuyiswe, oko kunokuba ngumqondiso wokuba unengxaki yokwahlula phakathi kwamaphupha kunye nenyani.

Kuthekani Ukuba awumthandi uMdumo?

Nokuba indlela yokuziphatha komntwana wakho iwela kuluhlu lokunconywa okuqhelekileyo, unokuba neenkxalabo ezithile ezingasekelwanga kwinqanaba lokuthambekela komntwana wakho, kodwa kuhlobo lomntu okhethwe ngumntwana wakho.

Kodwa uGqirha Legg uthi, “abazali basoloko bezonda izinto abazenzayo abantu abadumileyo. Kungenxa yokuba umntwana wakho umamele umculo malunga nokuqhutywa ngokudubula akuthethi ukuba ukuthanda kwabo umculi we-rap akunampilo. UGqirha Legg uthi: “Abazali kufuneka babuze ukuba siyintoni na isizathu soko. Thetha ngezinto ezikukhathazayo nabantwana bakho, kodwa ungazoyikisi. ”

Amaxesha amaninzi, ulutsha lwakho luza kujonga lonyanya kwaye lukuqinisekise ukuba abanakuze bacinge ngokulinganisa indlela abaziphethe ngayo kumculo abawumameleyo- bayazi ukuba bubugcisa, ayibobomi.

Ukuba umntwana wakho oneshumi elinesibini okanye omncinci unomdla kwiqhawe elingenantlalontle, akusekho sidingo sokutsiba kwisifo, kodwa licebo elihle ukuba usebenze ngakumbi kunxibelelwano lwakho. Abantwana abancinci banokuba nexesha elinzima lokwahlula into eyinyani kunye nengacingelwayo, ke thetha nomntwana wakho ukufumanisa ukuba zithini iingcinga zakhe ngomculo.

Uninzi lwexesha, ukuthanda komntwana wakho nosaziwayo akukho nto inokukhathazeka ngayo. Ngapha koko, inokuba sisixhobo esikhulu kuwe njengomzali. UGqirha Legg ucebisa ngelithi: “Yisebenzise ukuze kungenelwe wena. "Abazali akufuneki basabele ngokukhawuleza, kuba ungayisebenzisa njengesixhobo sokuthetha-thethana."

Zama nje ukucebisa ukuba umntwana wakho angazuza amatikiti ekhonsathi ngemisebenzi engaphezulu okanye amabakala amahle, kwaye uya kumangaliswa yindlela ekhawulezayo umntwana wakho anokuyifumana ngayo impahla.