Ukulumla: Iingcebiso ezi-4 zokuyeka ukuncancisa ngaphandle komothuko

Umxholo

• 1. Nciphisa ukondla kunye nokudlala nosana
• 2. Ukunciphisa ixesha lokutya
• 3. Cela omnye umntu ondle umntwana
• 4. Musa ukulizisa ibele
• Nini ukulumla
• Nini ukuyeka ukuncancisa ebusuku
• Ungalutyisa njani usana oluyekileyo ukuncancisa

Umama kufuneka ayeke ukuncancisa kuphela emva kweminyaka emi-2 yosana kwaye ukwenza njalo kufuneka anciphise ukuncancisa kunye nexesha lalo, ukuze aqale ngokuthe chu inkqubo yokuncancisa.

Umntwana kufuneka ancancise ibele lodwa kude kube ziinyanga ezi-6, engafumani okunye ukutya kude kube kweli nqanaba, kodwa umama kufuneka aqhubeke nokuncancisa ade umntwana abe neminyaka emibini ubuncinci, kuba ubisi lwebele lulungele ukukhula kakuhle kunye nokukhula komntwana. Bona ezinye izibonelelo ezintle zobisi lwebele.

Nangona akusoloko kulula ukuyeka ukuncancisa umama okanye usana, kukho ubuchule obulungiselela ukulunyulwa, njengoku:

1. Nciphisa ukondla kunye nokudlala nosana

Olu khathalelo lubalulekile kuba, ngokunciphisa inani lamaxesha okuncancisa usana, ukuveliswa kobisi lwebele kukwehla kwinqanaba elifanayo kwaye ke umama akanamabele anzima kwaye apheleleyo.

Ukwenza oku ngaphandle kokonzakalisa umama nosana, kunokwenzeka, ukusukela kwiinyanga ezisixhenxe ukuya phambili, ukubuyisela ixesha lokutya.

Umzekelo: ukuba umntwana utya ukutya komntwana kwisidlo sasemini, akufuneki ancancise ngeli xesha, nokuba yeyure ngaphambili okanye iyure kamva. Kwiinyanga ezi-8, kuya kufuneka ubeke endaweni yokutya, umzekelo, njalo njalo. Ngokwesiqhelo, ukusuka kunyaka-1 ubudala umntwana angaqala ukutya isidlo esifanayo nabazali kwaye, ngeli xesha, umama angaqala ukuncancisa kuphela xa umntwana evuka, ngaphambi kwesidlo sakusasa sentsana naxa umntwana elala emva kwemini nasebusuku.

2. Ukunciphisa ixesha lokutya

Enye indlela elungileyo yokuphelisa ukuncancisa ngaphandle koxinzelelo kukunciphisa ixesha lokuncancisa usana kusondlo ngalunye.

Nangona kunjalo, umntu akufuneki anyanzele usana ukuba lushiye ibele, kubalulekile ukuba umama agcine ixesha elifanayo njengangaphambili ukuze aqhubeke nokunika ingqalelo umntwana emva kokuncancisa, ukudlala naye, umzekelo. Ke umntwana uqala ukudibanisa ukuba umama ayisiyoncanciso kuphela, kodwa unokudlala.

Umzekelo: ukuba umntwana uchitha malunga nemizuzu engama-20 kwibele ngalinye, into onokuyenza kukumvumela ancancise kuphela imizuzu eli-15 kwibele ngalinye kwaye, veki nganye, anciphise eli xesha kancinci.

3. Cela omnye umntu ondle umntwana

Kuqhelekile ukuba xa umntwana elambile, idibanisa ubukho bukanina kunye nomnqweno wokuncancisa. Ke, xa umama enengxaki yokondla umntwana, endaweni yokuncancisa, kunokuba yinto elungileyo ukucela omnye umntu, onje ngutata okanye umakhulu, ukuba enze oku.

Ukuba umntwana usafuna ukuncancisa, isixa sobisi aza kulusela kufuneka sibe ngaphantsi kunesiqhelo.

Jonga kwakhona ukuba ukwaziswa kokutya okutsha kosana kufuneka kube njani.

4. Musa ukulizisa ibele

Ukusukela kwiminyaka eyi-1 umntwana angatya phantse yonke into kwaye, ke, ukuba ulambile angatya enye into endaweni yokuncancisa. Isicwangciso esilungileyo sokulungiselela ukulunyulwa kukuba umama akaluniki ibele okanye unxibe iiblawuzi ezenza ukuba umntwana akwazi ukufikelela ebeleni, ukuncancisa kuphela kusasa nasebusuku kwaye, xa sele esondele kwiminyaka emi-2 ubudala, unikezela kuphela kula maxesha ukuba umntwana uyabuza.

Umzekelo: ukuba umntwana uvuka efuna ukudlala, umama akunyanzelekanga ukuba amkhuphe ebhedini kwaye ancancise, angamshiya umntwana edlala ekhitshini ngelixa elungiselela ukutya kwakhe kosana, kodwa ukuba umntwana ukhangela ibele, umama akufuneki ayilandele ngequbuliso, izama ukuphazamisa umntwana kuqala.

Nini ukulumla

Umama unokukhetha ukuba ayeke nini ukuncancisa, kodwa kungcono emntwaneni ukuba ancanciswe ubuncinci ade abe neminyaka emi-2 kwaye kufuneka ayeke ukuncancisa ukusukela kuloo minyaka.

Nangona kunjalo, inani lokondliwa emini kufuneka lehle kancinci ukusuka kwiinyanga ezisixhenxe ukuya phambili ukulungiselela ukulunyulwa kunye neengxaki ezinokubakho, ezinje ngobisi lwamatye kunye nesifo sokukrala kwebele, kunye nemvakalelo yokulahlwa enokuthi ivele emntwaneni.

Ngamanye amaxesha, lo mfazi kungafuneka ayeke ukuncancisa ukuze angonzakalisi impilo yosana njengoko kwimeko yenkukhu, iherpes enezilonda esifubeni okanye kwisifo sephepha. Funda ngakumbi kwi: Xa ungancancisi.

Nini ukuyeka ukuncancisa ebusuku

Ngokubanzi, ukondliwa kokugqibela kosuku, okwenzeka ngaphambi kokuba umntwana alale, kokokugqibela ukuthathwa, kodwa xa umntwana efunda ukulala yedwa kwaye engasafuni ibele ukuba lizole, lixesha elifanelekileyo lokuyeka uhambisa isifuba ngaphambi kokuba ulale. Kodwa le yinkqubo enokuthatha iinyanga ngaphambi kokuba kulunyulwe. Abanye abantwana banokuya kwiintsuku ezi-2 okanye ezi-3 ngaphandle kokuncancisa emva koko bajonge ibele, bahlale nje imizuzu embalwa. Oku kuqhelekile kwaye kuyinxalenye yokukhula komntwana, into ongafanele uyenze kukuqhubeka usithi 'hayi' okanye ulwe nomntwana.

Enye impazamo enokonakalisa ukulunyulwa kukufuna ukuba le nkqubo yenzeke ngokukhawuleza. Xa umntwana eyekile ukuncancisa ngequbuliso angaphoswa ngunina kwaye azive elahliwe kwaye oku kunokuba neziphumo ezingathandekiyo kowasetyhini kuba ubisi oluqokeleleke ebeleni lunokubangela usulelo.

Ungalutyisa njani usana oluyekileyo ukuncancisa

Ngokwesiqhelo umntwana uqala ukutya ukutya okuqinileyo phakathi kweenyanga ezi-4 ukuya kwezi-6 zobomi, kwaye ukuya kuthi ga kunyaka-1 ubudala, unokuqhubeka nokutya ukutya kwakhe kosana okuhambelana nokutya okanye ibhotile. Nantsi into onika umntwana wakho oneenyanga ezi-6 ukuba ayidle.

Emva konyaka omnye wobomi, umntwana angancancisa okanye athathe ibhotile kuphela xa evuka naphambi kokuba alale, ebusuku. Kuzo zonke ezinye izidlo kufuneka atye imifuno, iziqhamo, inyama engenamafutha kunye neemveliso zobisi, ukuba nje akanako ukutya komzimba okanye ukunganyamezelani. Jonga ukuba umntwana kufuneka abe njani ukusuka kunyaka omnye ukuya phambili.

Ukuba umntwana uncanca ukuya kwiminyaka emi-2 ubudala, kweli nqanaba kufanele ukuba sele ekuqhelile ukutya yonke into, esenza ukutya etafileni, kunye nokutya okufanayo nabazali, kwaye ke ngoko xa ukuncancisa kugqityiwe, akusayi kubakho mfuneko Nasiphi na isongezelelo, ukukhathalela kuphela ukusoloko unika ukutya okusempilweni kwaye okunesondlo ukuze umntwana akhule esempilweni.