Ukuzalwa kubhubhane: Indlela yokujongana nezithintelo kunye nokufumana inkxaso

Umxholo

• Izigulana ezikhulelweyo zifuna inkxaso
• Izinto ziyatshintsha, kodwa awunamandla
• Cinga ngezinye iindlela zokufumana inkxaso
• Yiba nolindelo oluguquguqukayo
• Nxibelelana nababoneleli
• Nxibelelana nabongikazi
• Yilungele ukuzithethelela
• Khumbula ukuba le migaqo-nkqubo ikugcina wena nosana ukhuselekile
• Musa ukoyika ukucela uncedo

Njengokuqhambuka kwe-COVID-19, izibhedlele zase-US zibeka umda kubatyeleli kwiwadi zokubeleka. Abafazi abakhulelweyo kuyo yonke indawo bayaziqinisa.

Iinkqubo zokhathalelo lwempilo zizama ukuthintela ukuhanjiswa kwe-coronavirus entsha ngokuthintela iindwendwe ezingabalulekanga, ngaphandle kwenkxaso yabantu ebaluleke kakhulu kwimpilo nakwintlalo-ntle yabasetyhini ngexesha nangoko emva kokubeleka.

Izibhedlele zaseNew York-Presbyterian zinqunyanyisiwe ngokufutshane konke Iindwendwe, zikhokelela abanye abantu basetyhini ukuba bakhathazeke nokuba ukuthintela inkxaso yabantu ngexesha labasebenzi kunye nokuhanjiswa kuya kuba yinto exhaphakileyo.

Ngethamsanqa ngo-Matshi 28, iRhuluneli yaseNew York u-Andrew Cuomo watyikitya umthetho olawulayo ofuna ukuba izibhedlele zikarhulumente zivumele umfazi ukuba abe neqabane lakhe kwigumbi labasebenzi nelokubeleka.

Ngelixa oku kuqinisekisa ukuba abantu basetyhini baseNew York banelungelo ngoku, amanye amazwe awakasenzi isiqinisekiso esifanayo. Kwabafazi abaneqabane, i-doula, kunye nabanye abaceba ukumxhasa, izigqibo ezinzima zinokufuna ukwenziwa.

Izigulana ezikhulelweyo zifuna inkxaso

Ngexesha lokuqala kwam ukubeleka nokuhanjiswa, ndanyanzelwa ngenxa yepreeclampsia, ingxaki enokubulala yokukhulelwa ebonakaliswa luxinzelelo lwegazi oluphezulu.

Ngenxa yokuba ndandine <em> preeclampsia eqatha, oogqirha bandinika ichiza ekuthiwa yi <em> magnesium sulphate xa ndandiziswa nangeeyure ezingama-24 emva kokuba intombi yam izelwe. Iyeza landishiya ndiziva ndididekile kakhulu kwaye ndinamaxhala.

Ndiziva ndigula kakade, ndichithe ixesha elide ndityhala intombi yam emhlabeni kwaye bendingekho kwimeko yengqondo ukuzenzela naluphi na uhlobo lwesigqibo. Ngethamsanqa, umyeni wam wayekhona naye njengomongikazi onobubele.

Unxibelelwano endilwenzileyo nalo mongikazi lwajika laba lubabalo lwam lokusindisa. Ubuyile wazokundityelela ngeentsuku zakhe zokuphumla ngelixa ugqirha endingazange ndadibana naye elungiselela ukundikhulula, nangona ndaziva ndigula kakhulu.

Umongikazi wandijonga wathi, "Hayi, sithandwa, awuzukuya ekhaya namhlanje." Kwangoko wazingela ugqirha wathi mabandigcine esibhedlele.

Kwisithuba nje seyure oku kwenzekile, ndiye ndadilika ngelixa ndizama ukusebenzisa igumbi lokuhlambela. Ukutshekishwa okubalulekileyo kubonakalise ukuba uxinzelelo lwam lwegazi luye lwaphinde lwaphakama kwakhona, lubangela omnye umjikelo we-magnesium sulfate. Ndiyabulela ukuba umongikazi owayethethelela mna ngokundisindisa kwinto embi kakhulu.

Ukuhanjiswa kwam okwesibini kubandakanya olunye useto lweemeko ezigabadeleyo. Ndikhulelwe i-monochorionic / diamniotic (mono / di) amawele, uhlobo lwamawele afanayo abelana nge-placenta kodwa hayi i-amniotic sac.

Kwi-32 yam iveki ye-ultrasound, safumanisa ukuba u-Baby A wayeswelekile kwaye u-Baby B wayesemngciphekweni weengxaki ezinxulumene nokusweleka kwewele lakhe. Xa ndaya kubeleka kwiiveki ezingama-32 kunye neentsuku ezi-5, ndahambisa ngecandelo le-C elingxamisekileyo. Ogqirha khange bandibonise unyana wam ngaphambi kokuba asiwe kwindawo yonyango.

Xa ndadibana nonyana wam okhawulezayo, ugqirha obandayo, kwacaca ukuba akanalo uvelwano ngenxa yeemeko zethu ezinzima. Wayexhasa umbono othile wokukhathalela abantwana: yenza okona kulungileyo emntwaneni ngaphandle kwezimvo kunye neemfuno zakhe nabani na osapho. Uyicacisile le nto xa simxelela ukuba siceba ukondla unyana wethu ngobisi olungumgubo.

Kwakungakhathali kugqirha ukuba kufuneka ndiqale ukuthatha amayeza ayimfuneko kwimeko yezintso echasene nokuncancisa, okanye ukuba andizange ndenze ubisi emva kokuzalwa kwentombi yam. Ugqirha wezono uye wahlala kwigumbi lam lasesibhedlele ngelixa bendiphuma kwi-anesthesia kwaye wandingxolisa, endixelela ukuba unyana wam oshiyekileyo usesichengeni esikhulu ukuba simdlisa ubisi olungumgubo.

Uye waqhubeka nangona bendilila ngokuvulekileyo kwaye ndimcela ukuba ayeke. Ngaphandle kwezicelo zam zokucinga kunye nexesha lokuba ahambe, ngekhe. Umyeni wam kuye kwanyanzeleka ukuba angenelele ndimcele ukuba ahambe. Kusemva koko apho washiya igumbi lam lixakekile.

Ngelixa ndiqonda inkxalabo kagqirha yokuba ubisi lwebele lubonelela ngezakha mzimba ezifunekayo kunye nokukhusela abantwana be-preemie, ukuncancisa bekuya kulibazisa nokukwazi kwam ukuphatha ingxaki yam yezintso. Asinakho ukubonelela iintsana ngelixa singamhoyi umama - zombini izigulana zifanelwe ukhathalelo kunye nokuqwalaselwa.

Ukuba umyeni wam ebengekho, ndiziva ngathi ugqirha ngesele ehlala ngaphandle koqhanqalazo. Ukuba wayehleli, andifuni nokucinga ngeziphumo ebeya kuba nazo kwimpilo yam yengqondo nengokwasemzimbeni.

Ukuhlaselwa kwakhe ngamazwi kwandibamba ngaphaya komda ekukhuleni koxinzelelo lwasemva kokubeleka kunye noxinzelelo. Ukuba ebendiqinisekisile ukuba mandizame ukuncancisa, ngendiyeke amayeza afunekayo ukulawula isifo sezintso ixesha elide, esinokuba neziphumo zomzimba kum.

Amabali am awaphumeleli; uninzi lwabasetyhini lunamava anzima okuzalwa. Ukuba neqabane, ilungu losapho, okanye i-doula ekhoyo ngexesha lomsebenzi ukubonelela ngentuthuzelo kunye nokuxhasa impilo kamama kunye nokuphila kakuhle kunokuhlala kuthintela ukwenzakala okungafunekiyo kunye nokwenza umsebenzi usebenze ngokutyibilikayo.

Ngelishwa, ingxaki yangoku yezempilo yoluntu ebangelwa yi-COVID-19 inokwenza oku kube yinto engenakwenzeka kwabanye. Nangona kunjalo, kukho iindlela zokuqinisekisa ukuba oomama banenkxaso abayifunayo xa besebenza.

Izinto ziyatshintsha, kodwa awunamandla

Ndithethile noomama abalindeleyo kunye nengcali yempilo yengqondo ukuze ndibone ukuba ungazilungiselela njani ukuhlala esibhedlele okunokubonakala kwahluke kakhulu kule nto ubukade uyilindele. Ezi ngcebiso zinokukunceda ulungiselele:

Cinga ngezinye iindlela zokufumana inkxaso

Ngelixa usenokuba uceba ukuba nomyeni wakho kunye nomama wakho okanye umhlobo wakho osenyongweni kunye nawe ngelixa usebenza, yazi ukuba izibhedlele kwilizwe liphela ziyitshintshile imigaqo-nkqubo yazo kwaye zithintela iindwendwe.

Njengoko umama ozayo uJennie Rice esitsho, “Ngoku sivunyelwe kuphela umntu omnye wokuxhasa kwigumbi. Isibhedlele sivumela isihlanu ngesiqhelo. Ukongezwa kwabantwana, usapho kunye nabahlobo abavumelekanga esibhedlele. Ndinexhala lokuba isibhedlele siza kuphinda sitshintshe izithintelo kwaye andisayi kuvunyelwa ukuba ngumntu omnye ondixhasayo, umyeni wam, kwigumbi labasebenzi kunye nam. ”

UCara Koslow, MS, ongumcebisi onelayisensi ovela eScranton, ePennsylvania, oqinisekisiweyo kwimpilo yengqondo yokubeleka uthi, “Ndiyabakhuthaza abantu basetyhini ukuba bacinge ngezinye iindlela zokuxhasa abasebenzi nokubeleka. Inkxaso ebonakalayo kunye neenkomfa zevidiyo zinokuba zezinye iindlela ezilungileyo. Ukuba namalungu osapho abhale iileta okanye akunike izikhumbuzo zokuba uhambise esibhedlele isenokuba yindlela yokukunceda uzive usondele kubo ngexesha lokubeleka nasemva kokubeleka. ”

Yiba nolindelo oluguquguqukayo

U-Koslow uthi ukuba unengxaki yoxinzelelo malunga nokuzala ngokukhanya kwe-COVID-19 kunye nezithintelo eziguqukayo, kunokunceda ukucinga ngemeko ezimbalwa zomsebenzi ngaphambi kokuzalwa. Ukujonga ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo amava akho okuzalwa angadlala kunokukunceda ubeke ulindelo oluqinisekileyo losuku olukhulu.

Ngento yonke etshintsha kakhulu ngoku, uKoslow uthi, "Sukugxila kakhulu, 'Yile ndlela kanye endifuna ukuba ihambe ngayo,' kodwa jonga ngakumbi, 'Yile nto ndiyifunayo.'”

Ukuyeka ezinye izinto ngaphambi kokuzalwa kunokunceda ukuthomalalisa ulindelo lwakho. Oku kuthetha ukuba kuya kufuneka unikezele ngombono wokuba neqabane lakho, umfoti wokuzalwa, kunye nomhlobo wakho njengenxalenye yokuhanjiswa kwakho. Nangona kunjalo, unokubeka phambili iqabane lakho ekuboneni ukuzalwa komntu kunye nokunxibelelana nabanye ngokusebenzisa umnxeba wevidiyo.

Nxibelelana nababoneleli

Inxalenye yokulungiswa kukuhlala unolwazi malunga nemigaqo-nkqubo yangoku yomboneleli wakho. Umama okhulelweyo uJennie Rice ebesoloko efowunela isibhedlele sakhe yonke imihla ukuba ahlale esazi ngalo naluphi na utshintsho olwenziweyo kwiyunithi yokubeleka. Kwimeko ekhathalela impilo ngokukhawuleza, iiofisi ezininzi kunye nezibhedlele ziye zatshintsha iinkqubo ngokukhawuleza. Ukunxibelelana neofisi kagqirha wakho kunye nesibhedlele sakho kunokunceda ulindelo lwakho luhlale lukho ngoku.

Ukongeza, ukuba nengxoxo evulekileyo nethembekileyo nogqirha wakho kunokunceda. Ngelixa ugqirha wakho engenazo zonke iimpendulo ngeli xesha lingazange libonwe, ukuvakalisa naziphi na iinkxalabo onokuthi ube nazo malunga notshintsho olunokubakho ngaphambi kokuba inkqubo yakho ikunike ixesha lokunxibelelana ngaphambi kokuba ubeleke.

Nxibelelana nabongikazi

UKoslow uthi ukufuna unxibelelwano kunye nomongikazi wakho wezabasebenzi kunye nokubeleka kubaluleke kakhulu kubafazi abaza kuzala ngexesha le-COVID-19. UKoslow uthi, "Ngokwenene abongikazi bakumda wokuqala kwigumbi lokubeleka kwaye banokunceda ukukhuthaza umama osebenzayo."

Amava am ayayixhasa ingxelo kaKoslow. Ukunxibelelana nomsebenzi wam wokuhambisa kunye nokuhambisa kundithintele ukuba ndingawi ngeentanda zenkqubo yam yesibhedlele.

Ukwenza unxibelelwano olufanelekileyo, umongikazi wezabasebenzi kunye nonikezelo uJillian S. ucebisa ukuba umama osebenzayo anganceda ukukhulisa unxibelelwano ngokubeka ithemba lakhe kumongikazi. “Myeke unesi [am] akuncede. Vula le nto ndiyithethayo. Mamela le ndiyithethayo. Yenza le nto ndiyicelayo kuwe. "

Yilungele ukuzithethelela

UKoslow ukwacebisa oomama ukuba bazithethelele ngokwabo. Ngabantu abambalwa abakhoyo ukuxhasa umama omtsha, kuya kufuneka ulunge kwaye ukwazi ukuthetha izinto ezikuxhalabisayo.

NgokukaKoslow, “Uninzi lwabasetyhini luziva ngathi abanakho ukuba ngabameli babo. Oogqirha nabongikazi bakwimeko yamandla kwezabasebenzi nasekubelekeni kuba babona ukuzalwa yonke imihla. Abasetyhini abazi ukuba balindele ntoni kwaye abaqondi ukuba banelungelo lokuthetha, kodwa bayazi. Nokuba awuziva ngathi uyaviwa, qhubeka uthethe uthethe kwaye uvakalise into oyifunayo ude uve. Ivili elixinayo lifumana ioli. ”

Khumbula ukuba le migaqo-nkqubo ikugcina wena nosana ukhuselekile

Abanye oomama abakhulelweyo bayafumana ukukhululeka kutshintsho lomgaqo-nkqubo omtsha. Njengomama olindeleyo uMichele M. uthi, "Ndonwabile ukuba abayi kuvumela wonke umntu ukuba angene ezibhedlele ngenxa yokuba ayinguye wonke umntu olandela izikhokelo zokuphambuka koluntu kakuhle. Indenza ndizive ndikhuselekile kancinci xa ndinikezela. ”

Ukuziva ngathi usebenzela ukukhusela impilo yakho kunye neyomntwana wakho ngokugcina imigaqo-nkqubo kunokukunceda uzive ulawula ngakumbi ngeli xesha lingaqinisekanga.

Musa ukoyika ukucela uncedo

Ukuba ufumanisa ukwanda okanye ungalawuleki uxhalabile okanye usoyika ngaphambi kokuzalwa ngenxa ye-COVID-19, kulungile ukucela uncedo. UKoslow ucebisa ukuba uthethe nonyango ukuze ukwazi ukulawula uxinzelelo lwakho. Ucebisa ngokukodwa ukuba ujonge ugqirha oqinisekisiweyo ngempilo yengqondo yangaphambi kokubeleka.

Abafazi abakhulelweyo abafuna inkxaso engaphezulu banokujikela kwiPostpartum Support International kuludwe lwabanyangi abanamava kukhathalelo lwempilo yengqondo kunye nezinye izixhobo.

Le yimeko ekhula ngokukhawuleza. UKoslow uthi, “Okwangoku, kufuneka sithathe izinto mihla le. Kufuneka sikhumbule ukuba yintoni esinokuyilawula ngoku kwaye sigxile kuyo. ”

UJenna Fletcher ngumbhali ozimeleyo kunye nomyili womxholo. Ubhala ngokubanzi malunga nempilo kunye nokuba sempilweni, ukuba ngumzali, nendlela yokuphila. Kubomi obudlulileyo, uJenna wasebenza njengomqeqeshi wabucala oqinisekisiweyo, iiPilates kunye nomqeqeshi wempilo yeqela, kunye notitshala wokudanisa. Uphethe isidanga sokuqala kwiKholeji yaseMuhlenberg.