Ukufunda Ukuthanda Umzimba Wakho Kunzima-ngakumbi emva koMhlaza weSifuba

Njengokuba sikhula, siphethe amanxeba kunye neempawu ezolulekayo ezixela ibali lobomi obuphila kakuhle. Kum, elo bali libandakanya umhlaza webele, isifo sokuqaqamba kwamalungu amabini, kwaye akukho lwakhiwo kwakhona.

UDisemba 14, 2012, yayingumhla owawuza kuguqula ubomi ngonaphakade njengoko ndandisazi. Yayingumhla endiva awona magama mathathu oyikisayo nabani na afuna ukuweva: UNOMHLAZA.

Kwakunganyanzelekanga - {textend} Ndaziva ngathi imilenze yam iyakukhupha. Ndandineminyaka engama-33 ubudala, ndingumfazi, nomama wamakhwenkwe amabini, uEthan oneminyaka emi-5 kunye noBrady ababeneminyaka emi-2 ubudala. Kodwa ndakuba ndikwazi ukuyicoca intloko yam, ndazi ukuba ndifuna isicwangciso samanyathelo.

Ukufunyaniswa kwam kwinqanaba le-1 yebanga le-3 ductal carcinoma. Ndazi phantse kwangoko ukuba ndifuna ukwenza imastectomy yamazwe amabini. Kwakukho ngo-2012, ngaphambi kokuba uAngelina Jolie abhengeze esidlangalaleni idabi lakhe lomhlaza wamabele kunye nokukhetha i-mastectomy yamazwe amabini. Akufuneki ukuba ndithethe, wonke umntu wayecinga ukuba ndithatha isigqibo esinzima. Nangona kunjalo, ndahamba namathumbu wam ndaye ndenziwa ugqirha wotyando omangalisayo owavumayo ukwenza olu tyando, kwaye wenza umsebenzi omhle.

Ndikhethe ukulibazisa ukwakhiwa kwakhona kwamabele. Ngelo xesha, andizange ndibone ukuba i-bilate mastectomy ibukeka njani. Bendingazi ukuba mandilinde ntoni xa ndisusa ii-bandage okokuqala. Ndihleli ndedwa kwigumbi lam lokuhlambela ndazijonga esipilini, ndabona umntu endingamaziyo. Andizange ndilile, kodwa ndaziva ndilahlekelwe kakhulu. Ndisenayo icebo lokwakhiwa kwamabele ngasemva kwengqondo yam. Ndineenyanga ezininzi ndinyangwa ngamachiza.

Ndandihamba nge-chemo, iinwele zam ziphinde zibuye, kwaye ukwakhiwa kwakhona kwamabele kuya kuba "ngumgca wokugqibela" wam. Ndiza kuba namabele kwakhona kwaye ndiza kuba nakho ukujonga esipilini kwakhona kwaye ndibone okudala kum.

Ekupheleni kuka-Agasti 2013, emva kweenyanga zonyango lwe-chemotherapy kunye nolunye utyando oluninzi phantsi kwebhanti lam, ekugqibeleni ndandikulungele ukwakhiwa kwakhona kwamabele. Yintoni abangayaziyo abafazi abaninzi - {textend} into endingakhange ndiyiqonde - {textend} kukuba ukwakhiwa kwakhona kwebele yinkqubo ende kakhulu, ebuhlungu. Kuthatha iinyanga ezininzi kunye nophando oluninzi ukugqibezela.

Isigaba sokuqala kukuhlinzwa ukubeka abanyuseli phantsi kwemisipha yamabele. Zezi nzima iifom zeplastiki. Banamazibuko esinyithi kuwo, kwaye ngaphezulu kwexesha, bazalisa izandiso ngolwelo ukukhulula umsipha. Emva kokuba ufikelele kubungakanani bakho bebele obunqwenelekayo, oogqirha benza ishedyuli yotyando "lokutshintsha" apho basusa khona izandisi kwaye bazitshintshe ngokufakelwa kwamabele.

Kum, le yayiyenye ye
loo mizuzu- {textend} ukongeza esinye isibanda, "itattoo efunyenwe," kuluhlu lwam.

Emva kweenyanga ezininzi ndisanda, ndizalisa, kwaye ndineentlungu, ndandikufutshane ekupheleni kwenkqubo yokwakhiwa kwakhona kwamabele. Ngenye ingokuhlwa, ndaqala ukuziva ndigula kakhulu kwaye ndinesifiva. Umyeni wam wanyanzelisa ukuba siye kwisibhedlele sasekhaya, kwaye ngelixesha sifika kwi-ER ukubetha kwam kwakungu-250. Kungekudala emva kokufika, sobabini nomyeni wam sathunyelwa ngenqwelo yezigulana saya eChicago ezinzulwini zobusuku.

Ndahlala eChicago iintsuku ezisixhenxe ndaza ndakhululwa ngomhla wesithandathu wonyana wethu omdala. Kwiintsuku ezintathu kamva ndazisusa zombini izifuba.

Ndiyazi ke ukuba ukwakhiwa kwakhona kwamabele bekungazukundisebenzela. Khange ndifune ukuya nakweyiphi na inkqubo yenkqubo kwakhona. Kwakungafanelanga ukuba buhlungu kunye nokuphazamiseka kum kunye nosapho lwam. Kuya kufuneka ndisebenze ngemiba yomzimba wam kwaye ndamkele into endishiyeke nayo- {textend} scars and all.

Ekuqaleni, ndandineentloni ngomzimba wam ongenamabele, unamava amakhulu awayevela kwelinye icala lesakhelo ukuya kwelinye. Ndandingazithembanga. Ndandisoyika malunga nokuba uziva njani umyeni wam. Ukuba yindoda emangalisayo ukuba ingubani, wathi, “Umhle. Andizange khe ndibengumfana we-boob, nangona kunjalo. ”

Ukufunda ukuthanda umzimba wakho kunzima. Njengokuba sikhula kwaye sizala abantwana, sikwafumana amanxeba kunye neempawu ezolulekayo ezibalisa ibali lobomi obuphila kakuhle. Ngokuhamba kwexesha, ndakwazi ukujonga esipilini kwaye ndabona into endandingazange ndiyibone ngaphambili: Amanxeba endandineentloni ngawo ayethathe intsingiselo entsha. Ndaziva ndinekratshi kwaye ndomelele. Ndifuna ukwabelana ngebali lam kunye nemifanekiso yam nabanye abafazi. Bendifuna ukubabonisa ukuba singabo Kaninzi kunamava esishiyeke nawo. Kuba ngasemva kwawo onke amanxeba, kukho ibali lokusinda.

Ndiye ndakwazi ukwabelana ngebali lam kunye nezibazi zam kunye nabasetyhini kulo lonke ilizwe. Kukho isibophelelo esingathethwayo endinaso nabanye abafazi abaye bahamba nomhlaza webele. Umhlaza webele ngu eyoyikisayo isifo. Iba kakhulu kuninzi.

Kwaye, ndiyazikhumbuza ngoku rhoqo. Sisicatshulwa esivela kumbhali ongaziwayo: “Somelele. Kuthatha okungakumbi ukusoyisa. Iimpawu azinamsebenzi. Zizimpawu zamadabi esiye sawaphumelela. ”

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