Kuthetha Ukuthini ukuba sexualexual?

Umxholo

• Kuthetha ntoni kanye ngokutshatyalaliswa?
• Loluphi uhlobo lwebhondi othetha ngalo- uthando?
• Yima, kutheni le nto ifuna ilebheli?
• Ngaba ukudibana ngokweemvakalelo kuqinisekisa ukuba umnqweno wesini uya kukhula?
• Ngaba olu qhelaniso lungena phantsi kwesambrela se-asexual?
• Ngaba ungafaka isicelo sokuqhelaniswa nesini koku?
• Kubonakala njani ukuba demisexual xa usenza?
• Oku kwahluke njani ekubeni ungwevu ngokwesini?
• Ngaba kunokwenzeka ukuba bobabini ngaxeshanye okanye baguquguqukayo phakathi kwezi zimbini?
• Kuthekani ngenye indawo kwibala? Ngaba ungahamba phakathi kwamaxesha ezesondo kunye ne-asexuality?
• Ngaba abantu abathandanayo banokufumana ezinye iindlela zokutsala?
• Kuthetha ntoni ukuba phakathi kwabantu abathandanayo kunxibelelene ubudlelwane?
• Ngaba kulungile ukungafuni ubudlelwane konke konke?
• Kuthekani ngesondo?
• Ingena phi i-masturbation kule nto?
• Wazi njani ukuba ungena phi phantsi kwesambrela se-asexual- ukuba kunjalo?
• Ungafunda phi ngakumbi malunga nokutshatyalaliswa ngokwesini?

Kuthetha ntoni kanye ngokutshatyalaliswa?

I-Demisexuality luqhelwano ngokwesondo apho abantu bafumana amava okutsala ngokwesondo kuphela kubantu abanonxibelelwano olusondeleyo lweemvakalelo nabo.

Ngamanye amagama, abantu abathandanayo badibana kuphela nomtsalane wesini emva kokuba ubudlelwane beemvakalelo benziwe.

Loluphi uhlobo lwebhondi othetha ngalo- uthando?

Olu manyano lweemvakalelo alunyanzelekanga ukuba luthando okanye uthando.

Kwabanye abantu abathandanayo, inokuba bubuhlobo- kubandakanya ubuhlobo beplato.

Basenokungamthandi umntu-nokuba bayathandana okanye bayathandana - konke konke.

Yima, kutheni le nto ifuna ilebheli?

Ukuqhelaniswa kwethu kuchaza ukuba ngubani onomdla kuthi. Abantu abathandanayo abathandanayo bafumana amava kwiqela elikhethiweyo labantu.

Unokuzibuza, "Kodwa ngaba abaninzi bethu abalindi ukuba bazive benxibelelana nomntu ngaphambi kokulala naye?"

Ewe, abantu abaninzi bakhetha ukulala kuphela nabantu abanesibophelelo nabo-nokuba ngumtshato, ubudlelwane obuzinikeleyo kwezothando, okanye ubuhlobo obonwabileyo nobuthembakeleyo.

Umahluko kukuba ukuxhatshazwa ngokwesini akukho malunga nokwabelana ngesondo. Imalunga nokukwazi ukuziva umtsalane wesini kubantu abathile.

Unokutsalwa ngesondo nomntu ngaphandle kokuba ulale naye, kwaye ungabelana ngesondo nomntu ngaphandle kokuziva utsalelekile kuye.

Abantu abathandanayo abathandani nabantu abathandayo abagqiba ekubeni bathandane nomntu ixesha elide ngaphambi kokulala nabo. Ayisiyo malunga nokuthatha isigqibo sokulala ngesondo, kodwa endaweni yoko uzive utsalelekile emntwini.

Oko kwathethi, abanye abantu abathandanayo banokukhetha ukulinda ithutyana ngaphambi kokuba babelane ngesondo kunye neqabane elithandanayo- kodwa oku kuzimeleyo kukhetho lwabo ngokwesondo.

Ngaba ukudibana ngokweemvakalelo kuqinisekisa ukuba umnqweno wesini uya kukhula?

Hayi!

Amadoda athandana nabantu abathandana nabesini esinye abathandana nabasetyhini, kodwa abatsali bonke abantu ababhinqileyo abadibana nabo.

Kwangokunjalo, ukungatshatani akuthethi ukuba umntu ongatshatanga naye utsala umdla kuye wonke umntu abanolwalamano olusenyongweni naye.

Ngaba olu qhelaniso lungena phantsi kwesambrela se-asexual?

Lo mbuzo uyimbangela yengxoxo mpikiswano kwiindawo ezi-asexual, greysexual, kunye noluntu oluxhomekeke kwisini.

Umntu we-asexual akanawo umtsalane wesini. "Umtsalane wezesondo" umalunga nokufumana umntu onomdla ngokwesondo kunye nokufuna ukulala naye.

Ukuchasana kwe-asexual ngokwesondo, kukwabhekiswa kuko njengobufanasini.

Ubungqingili bokwabelana ngesondo kuhlala kuthathwa njenge "midpoint" phakathi kwe-asexuality kunye nayo yonke into yokuba ngabantu abathandana nabantu besini esinye-abantu abathandanayo abathandanayo abafane babenomtsalane kwezesondo, okanye bayifumana ngamandla aphantsi.

Abanye abantu bathi ukungaziphathi ngokwabelana ngesondo akuhambelani phantsi kwesambrela se-asexual kuba kubhekisa kuphela kwiimeko oziva unomdla kuzo ngokwesondo. Ayithethi nto malunga nokuba uziva umtsalane kangakanani ngokwesondo.

Umntu othanda ukuziva enomtsalane kwisini phantse kubo bonke abahlobo bakhe abasenyongweni kunye namaqabane- kodwa hayi kubahlobo okanye nabantu angabaziyo- unokuziva ngathi bathandana ngokwesini kodwa abangahambi kwaphela.

Umntu onomdla ngokwesondo kuphela kumhlobo omnye okanye ababini abasenyongweni okanye amaqabane, kodwa hayi rhoqo kwaye hayi kakhulu, unokuchonga ngamandla ubungqingili okanye isexexity.

Kwelinye icala, abantu baxoxa ukuba imeko yangaphakathi iwela phantsi kwebhanile ye-asexual. Kungenxa yokuba ukungahambelani ngokwesini kuyayichaza imeko apho ufumana khona umtsalane wesini kwiimeko ezinqunyelweyo.

Ekupheleni kosuku, ayibalulekanga ukuba umntu ucinga ntoni malunga nokuba olu qhelwaniso luwela phi kwibala lobungqingili.

Uvumelekile ukuba uchonge nangona ungathanda, kwaye wamkelekile ukuba ukhethe iilebheli ezininzi zokuchaza ulwalamano lwakho ngokwesondo kunye nothando.

Ngaba ungafaka isicelo sokuqhelaniswa nesini koku?

Uninzi lweelebheli zokuziphatha ngokwesondo- ezinjengobufanasini, isini okanye ipansexual -bhekisa kwisini / kubantu esibathandayo.

I-Demisexual yahlukile kuba ibhekisa kwimeko yolwalamano lwethu nabantu esibathandayo. Kulungile ukufuna ukusebenzisa inkcazo ebhekisa kuqhelwaniso lwesini.

Ewe ewe, unokwabelana ngesini kunye nokwabelana ngesini, ubungqingili, isini, isini esahlukileyo, njalo njalo-nokuba yeyiphi na echaza imeko yakho.

Kubonakala njani ukuba demisexual xa usenza?

Ukwehla ngokwesini kubonakala kwahlukile kubantu abohlukeneyo.

Ukuba utshatile, unganxulumana nezi mvakalelo okanye imeko zilandelayo:

• Ndifane ndizive nditsaleleke kubantu endibabona esitratweni, abangabaziyo, okanye abantu endibaziyo.
• Ndiziva nditsaleleka ngokwesondo kumntu endikufutshane naye (njengomhlobo okanye iqabane elithandanayo).
• Unxibelelwano lwam ngokweemvakalelo nomntu othile luchaphazela ukuba ndiziva ndinomdla wesondo kubo.
• Andivuswanga okanye ndinomdla wokucinga ngokulala nomntu endingamazi kakuhle, nokuba umhle okanye unobuntu obumnandi.

Oko kwathethi, zonke ii-demisexual zahlukile, kwaye unokuba we-demisexual nokuba awuhambelani noku kungasentla.

Oku kwahluke njani ekubeni ungwevu ngokwesini?

Abantu abathandanayo abathandanayo bafumana amava kuphela ngokwesondo emva kokuba ubudlelwane obusondeleyo bemvakalelo benziwe. Oku kwahlukile kunqabile ukufumana umtsalane kwezesondo.

Abantu abathandanayo abathandanayo banokufumana umtsalane ngokwesini rhoqo nangamandla, kodwa kuphela ngabantu abasondele kubo.

Kwangokunjalo, abantu abakwimeko engwevu bangafumanisa ukuba xa besenza umtsalane kwezesondo, ayisiyiyo into yokuba abantu banolwalamano olusondeleyo lweemvakalelo.

Ngaba kunokwenzeka ukuba bobabini ngaxeshanye okanye baguquguqukayo phakathi kwezi zimbini?

Ewe. Unokubonisa ngaxeshanye njenge-demisexual kunye greysexual okanye demisexual kunye asexual. Kukwalungile ngokupheleleyo ukuhla phakathi kokuqhelaniswa.

Kuthekani ngenye indawo kwibala? Ngaba ungahamba phakathi kwamaxesha ezesondo kunye ne-asexuality?

Ewe. Njengoko bekutshiwo ngaphambili, abantu abathandanayo banokuthi bachonge njenge-asexual, greysexual, okanye bonke abantu abathandanayo.

Ukwabelana ngesondo kunye nokuziqhelanisa kunamanzi. Unokufumana amandla okutsala ngokutsala ngokwesondo ngokuhamba kwexesha. Umzekelo, unokuhamba ukusuka ekubeni sisini sonke ukuya kwisini esingamanyala ukuya kwi-asexual.

Into enomdla kukuba, ubalo lwabantu ababesabelana ngesondo ngo-2015 lufumanise ukuba ngaphezulu kweepesenti ezingama-80 zabaphenduli bazo zichongiwe njengenye indlela yokuziqhelanisa ngaphambi kokuba zichongwe njenge-asexual, ebonisa ukuba isini sinokuba njani.

Khumbula: Oku akuthethi ukuba babengekho nakweyiphi na into abachonge ngayo ngaphambili, kwaye oko akuthethi ukuba abekho ngokwesini ngoku.

Ukuziqhelanisa nolwelo alusebenzi ngaphantsi kunalawo angenamanzi.

Ngaba abantu abathandanayo banokufumana ezinye iindlela zokutsala?

Ewe! Abantu abathandanayo banokufumana ezinye iindlela zokutsala. Oku kunokubandakanya:

• Umtsalane wothando unqwenela ukuthandana nomntu
• Umtsalane ngobuhle: ukutsalwa ngumntu ngokujonga indlela abajongeka ngayo
• Ukutsala ngokwenyama okanye ngokomzimba: ukufuna ukubamba, ukubamba, okanye ukumanga umntu
• Umtsalane wePlatonic: ukufuna ukuba ngumhlobo womntu
• Umtsalane ngokweemvakalelo: ufuna unxibelelwano lweemvakalelo nomntu

Kuthetha ntoni ukuba phakathi kwabantu abathandanayo kunxibelelene ubudlelwane?

Abantu abathandanayo banokuthi okanye bangabinqweneli ubudlelwane bezothando kunye nentsebenziswano.

Kubudlelwane, abantu abathandanayo banokuthi okanye bangakhethi ukuba babelane ngesondo. Kubantu abathandanayo abathandanayo, isondo sinokuthi singabaluleki kubudlelwane. Kwabanye, kubalulekile.

Abanye abantu abatshatileyo banokuziva ukuba ukudibana kwabo neqabane labo akusoloko kusondele ngokwaneleyo ukuba bazive betsala ngokwesondo kwiqabane labo.

Abanye banokukhetha ukulinda de bazive besondele ngokwaneleyo kumaqabane abo, kwaye abanye banokukhetha ukuphuma ngokupheleleyo.

Abanye banokulala ngesondo namaqabane abo ngaphandle kokuziva bethandana ngokwesondo namaqabane abo. Wonke umntu ongowesini esahlukileyo wahlukile.

Ngaba kulungile ukungafuni ubudlelwane konke konke?

Ewe. Abantu abaninzi-kubandakanya abantu abathandanayo abathandanayo- abafuni ubudlelwane kwaye oko kulungile.

Khumbula ukuba ukuba nolwalamano ngokweemvakalelo nomntu akufani nokuba okanye ukufuna ukuthandana naye.

Ke, umntu ongatshatanga ngokwesini unokuba nolwalamano ngokweemvakalelo nomntu kwaye azive etsala ngokwesini kubo, kodwa engafuni ukuba nolwalamano naloo mntu.

Kuthekani ngesondo?

Ukuba demisexual ayisiyiyo malunga namandla akho okonwaba ngokwesondo, kuphela kukutsala ngokwesondo.

Kukho umahluko phakathi komtsalane wesini kunye nokuziphatha ngokwesondo. Unokuba nomtsalane komnye umntu ungakhange ulale naye, kwaye ungabelana ngesondo nomntu ongathandanga kuye.

Zininzi izizathu zokuba kutheni abantu besabelana ngesondo, kubandakanya:

• ukuba ndikhulelwe
• ukuziva usondelene
• yokudibanisa imvakalelo
• ukonwaba nokuzonwabisa
• ulingo

Ke, abantu abathandanayo besini esinye nesinye - njengalo naliphi na elinye iqela labantu - banokuba neentlobano zesini kunye nabantu abangatsalelekanga kubo.

Ngokubhekisele kubantu abathandana ngokwesini kunye nobungqingili, bonke bahlukile, kwaye banokuba neemvakalelo ezahlukeneyo ngesondo. Amagama asetyenziselwa ukuchaza ezi mvakalelo aquka:

• ngesondo, Oko kuthetha ukuba abayithandi isondo kwaye abafuni ukuba nayo
• ngesini-ngokungakhathali, Oko kuthetha ukuba baziva bedikidiki malunga nokwabelana ngesondo
• isini-esithandekayo, Oko kuthetha ukuba banqwenela kwaye bonwabele isondo

Ingena phi i-masturbation kule nto?

Abantu abathandana nabantu abathandana nabantu abathandanayo nabangatshatanga nobungqingili banokuphulula amaphambili.

Oku kubandakanya abantu abathandanayo abanokuchonga njenge-asexual okanye i-greysexual. Ewe, banokuziva bonwabile kubo.

Kwakhona, wonke umntu wahlukile, kwaye into ayonwabisayo umntu ongatshatanga naye isenokungabi yile nto ayonwabelayo omnye umntu.

Wazi njani ukuba ungena phi phantsi kwesambrela se-asexual- ukuba kunjalo?

Akukho luvavanyo lokuchonga ukuba ngaba ungowesini, ungwevu ngokwesini, okanye uxhatshazo ngokwesini.

Unokukufumanisa kuluncedo ukuzibuza imibuzo efana nale:

• Ngubani endifumana umtsalane kuye?
• Ndiziva njani ngaba bantu?
• Ndihlala ndifumana umtsalane kwisini?
• Unzulu kangakanani lo mtsalane wesini?
• Ngaba umtsalane wesini yinto ebalulekileyo ekukhetheni umntu endithandana naye?
• Ngaba ndikhe ndizive nditsaleleka kubantu esingabaziyo okanye kubantu endibaziyo?

Ewe akukho mpendulo zichanekileyo okanye zichanekileyo. Wonke umntu odibanayo uya kuphendula ngokwahlukileyo ngokusekwe kwiimvakalelo zabo kunye namava.

Nangona kunjalo, ukuzibuza le mibuzo kunokukunceda uqonde kwaye uqhubekeke neemvakalelo zakho malunga nomtsalane wesini.

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