Ndigcina njani ukuzithemba kwam ngelixa ndinesifo esingabonakaliyo

Umxholo

• Ibipolar kunye nam
• Uthando ludinga ixesha lokukhula
• Awusosigulo sakho

Ndiyazi ukuba ucinga ntoni: Inokwenzeka njani le nto?

Unxunguphalo inokuba sesinye sezifo zokuzithemba esonakalisa izifo. Sisifo esenza ukuba izinto ozithandayo kunye nezinto onomdla kuzo zingaphantsi, isigulo esenza abahlobo bakho babe ziintshaba zakho, isifo esigxotha ukukhanya kwakho sikushiye nobumnyama kuphela. Kwaye ngoku, ngako konke okuthethileyo, wena unako chaza ukuzithemba nokuba uhlala noxinzelelo.

Ngaphambi kokuba ndiqhubele phambili, kuya kufuneka uyazi ukuba eli ayilo nqaku lokuzinceda. Le ayisiyiyo "ndingabutshintsha ubomi bakho ngeentsuku ezili-10". Endaweni yoko, eli "unamandla, ukhaliphile, kwaye uyamangalisa kunokuba ucinga, ke zinike ityala" inqaku. Ndiyithetha le nto ngoba yile nto endiyifundileyo ngam.

Ibipolar kunye nam

Ndiphila nesifo esiyibipolar. Sisifo sengqondo esinamaxesha okuphantsi kakhulu kunye nokuphakama. Ndifumene ukuxilongwa ngo-2011, kwaye ndiye ndafunda iindlela ezininzi zokuhlangabezana nale meko kule minyaka idlulileyo.

Andinantloni zokugula kwam. Ndaqala ukubandezeleka xa ndandineminyaka eyi-14. Ndaba ne-bulimia kwaye ndaqala ukuzenzakalisa ukujongana neengcinga eziqhubeka entlokweni yam. Akukho mntu wayesazi ukuba kuqhubeka ntoni kum kuba, ngelo xesha, kwakungathethwa nje esidlangalaleni. Yayicalucalucalucalucalulo ngokupheleleyo.

Namhlanje, ndiqhuba iakhawunti ye-Instagram ukuqaqambisa ukugula kwengqondo kunye nokwazisa ngeemeko ezahlukeneyo- hayi eyam kuphela. Nangona bendifuna ikhefu ngamaxesha athile kwimithombo yeendaba zentlalo, kuyandinceda ukuba ndifumane amandla ngamaxesha obuthathaka ngokunxibelelana nabanye. Kodwa ukuba wawundixelele kunyaka ophelileyo ukuba bendiya kuba nokuzithemba ndingapheleli ekuthandeni umzimba wam kuphela kodwa nakwiimfihlelo zam ezinzulu, ezimnyama kakhulu, bendiya kuhleka ebusweni bakho. Mna? Ngaba ndizithembile kwaye ndonwabile nam? Akho ndlela yimbi.

Uthando ludinga ixesha lokukhula

Nangona kunjalo, ngokuhamba kwexesha, ndiye ndazithemba ngakumbi. Ewe, ndisajongana nokuzithemba okuphantsi kunye neengcinga ezimbi - ngekhe zihambe. Kuthatha ixesha kunye nokuqonda, kodwa ndifunde indlela yokuzithanda.

Oku akunakuba kude nenyaniso. Inyaniso yokuba awuhambi nje kuphela kukugula ngengqondo, kodwa kufuneka ujongane nebala loluntu, kuthetha ukuba womelele kunokuba ucinga. Ndiqonda ngokupheleleyo ukuba ukuzithemba kunye nokugula ngengqondo akuhambelani. Awuyi kuvuka rhoqo kusasa uziva uphezulu kwehlabathi, ulungele ukoyisa zonke iinjongo ozibekayo.

Into endiyifundileyo kukuzinika ixesha. Vumela ukuba uzive iimvakalelo zakho. Zinike ityala. Zinike ikhefu. Zinike ithuba lokuthandabuza. Kwaye ngaphezu kwako konke, zinike uthando olukufaneleyo.

Awusosigulo sakho

Kulula ukubeka abanye kuqala, ngakumbi xa ungazithembanga. Kodwa mhlawumbi lixesha lokuba uziqwalasele njengeyona nto iphambili. Mhlawumbi lixesha lokuba uyeke ukugxeka wena, kwaye okunene uzinike ukuncoma. Uyabaxhasa kwaye ubaphakamise abahlobo bakho- kutheni kungenzi ngokwakho, nawe?

Iingcinga ezingalunganga entlokweni yakho zinokuvakala ngathi zezakho, kodwa azinjalo. Kukugula kwakho ukuziqinisekisa ngezinto ongekhoyo. Awuxabisekanga, uxanduva, usilele. Uvuka ntsasa nganye. Awunakushiya ibhedi yakho, usenokungayi emsebenzini ngezinye iintsuku, kodwa uyaphila kwaye uyaphila. Uyayenza!

Kujikeleze ihlombe kuwe!

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Jongana nentloko yehlabathi. Jonga ubomi ebusweni kwaye uthi, "Ndinayo le."

Uyamangalisa. Ungakulibali oko.

UOlivia - okanye uLiv ngokufutshane - uneminyaka engama-24, e-United Kingdom, kunye nebhlog yezempilo yengqondo. Uthanda zonke izinto ze-gothic, ngakumbi iHalloween. Ukwangumntu othanda umvambo omkhulu, nangaphezulu kwama-40 ukuza kuthi ga ngoku. Iakhawunti yakhe ye-Instagram, enokuthi inyamalale amaxesha ngamaxesha, inokufumaneka Apha.