Ukuzoba ukunceda uMakhulu wam ukuba anyange uxinzelelo

Umxholo

• Ezinye iintaka ezilahliweyo ezenziwe ngezandla zikhokele ibhinqa elinye phantsi kwendlela yokufumanisa esona sizathu sokuba umakhulu wakhe enze-kwaye kutheni isenokuba lixesha lokuthabatha ibrashi yokupeyinta.
• Izibonelelo zempilo yengqondo ngobuqhetseba
• Ukunciphisa uxhalaba
• Ukuphucula imeko
• Ukwanda kokonwaba
• Yenza ubuchule
• Iintaka zethemba

Ezinye iintaka ezilahliweyo ezenziwe ngezandla zikhokele ibhinqa elinye phantsi kwendlela yokufumanisa esona sizathu sokuba umakhulu wakhe enze-kwaye kutheni isenokuba lixesha lokuthabatha ibrashi yokupeyinta.

Ndiqaphele iintaka ezihlaza eziluhlaza ezifumba inkunkuma ngelixa sicoca indlu katatomkhulu notamkhulu. Ndikhawuleze ndazikhupha ndaza ndafuna ukwazi ukuba ngubani oza kulahla iintaka ezilandelelweyo (kunye ne-gaudy). Babengabo kuphela imihombiso kumthi weKrisimesi katatomkhulu notatomkhulu ixesha elide endinokulikhumbula. Emva kokujonga kancinci kunye nokuncokola, ndifunde imbali elusizi yeentaka: umakhulu wam wazenza ngelixa ejongene nokudakumba kwiziko labagula ngengqondo.

Ndithathe isigqibo sokumba nzulu ebalini, ndafumanisa ukuba iziko belikhona. Uphando lubonisa ukuba ubugcisa bungaphezulu kokukhuphela nje intetho yakho okanye indlela yokudlulisa ixesha. Ukuzoba kunokunceda ukunciphisa uxinzelelo, ukuphucula imeko, kunye nokonyusa ulonwabo, zonke ezo zinokunceda ukulwa nokudakumba.

Izibonelelo zempilo yengqondo ngobuqhetseba

Ngokutsho kweZiko leSizwe lezeMpilo yeNgqondo, ukudakumba okukhulu -ingxaki yeemvakalelo ebangela iimvakalelo eziqhubekayo zosizi kunye nokuphelelwa ngumdla-sesinye sezona ngxaki zixhaphakileyo zengqondo e-United States. Unyango lwesintu ngamayeza kunye nokucebisa ngengqondo kusebenza kakhulu kubantu abaninzi abanokudakumba. Kodwa ezinye iindlela zonyango ziya ngokujonga ngakumbi kwezi ntsuku, kwaye abaphandi baqala ukufunda izibonelelo zempilo yengqondo yoyilo kunye nobugcisa.

ukuba ukupeyinta imifanekiso, ukwenza umculo, ukuthunga iziketi, okanye ukwenza iikeyiki kunokuba nezi zibonelelo zilandelayo zempilo yezengqondo.

Ukunciphisa uxhalaba

Ixhala kunye noxinzelelo zihlala zihamba kunye. Ngokwe-Anxiety and Depression Association of America, phantse isiqingatha sabo bafunyaniswe benokudakumba banesifo sokuphazamiseka. Uphononongo olubizwa ngokuba "yimpembelelo yokwenziwa kobuGcisa kwiXhala: Isifundo sePilot" lubonisa ukuba ixesha elincinci lokusebenza kwezobugcisa linokunciphisa ngokubonakalayo imeko yomntu yokuxhalaba. ibonisa ukuba ubugcisa buvumela abantu ukuba balibale malunga nemeko yabo okwethutyana, ebavumela ukuba bagxile kwizinto ezintle ebomini babo. Ukugxila ngokupheleleyo kwiprojekthi yobugcisa kunokuba nefuthe elifanayo nokucamngca, okucebisa ukuba kunokunceda kulawulo loxinzelelo noxinzelelo.

Ukuphucula imeko

Yintoni abaphandi abaqala ukuyibhala malunga nobugcisa kunye nemood yethu, siyazazi ngokwendalo ixesha elide. Ukucima iinyosi kunika abafazi basekoloniyali ukuba babaleke bodwa. Ukhuphiswano lobugcisa kwii-fairs County ezinikezela ngenjongo yabantu kwi-20^th kwinkulungwane. Kutshanje, i-scrapbooking inike abantu imo yokuzingca kunye nobuhlobo. Uphando lwamva nje lubonelela ngobungqina bokuba ubugcisa kunye nobuchule bokuyinyusa njani imeko yomntu.

Umzekelo, uphononongo ngomsebenzi wodongwe opapashwe kuNyango lobuGcisa ucebisa ukuba ukuphatha udongwe kuyasebenza ekunciphiseni imeko engalunganga. Olunye uphononongo lufumanisa ukuba uyilo luvumela abantu ukuba batshintshe indlela abajonga ngayo ebomini, ethi ibancede baguqule iimvakalelo ezingalunganga zibe zezakhayo.

Ukwanda kokonwaba

I-Dopamine yikhemikhali ehambelana neziko lomvuzo kwingqondo yakho. Phakathi kwezinye izinto, inika iimvakalelo zokonwaba ukukunceda ukuba uqale okanye uqhubeke nokwenza imisebenzi ethile. Ukupapashwa kuVimba woGqirha wengqondo kucebisa ukuba abantu abanedepression bayasilela kwi-dopamine. Crafting yindlela engeyoyamayeza yokukhuthaza i-dopamine, ethi ekugqibeleni ikwenze uzive wonwabile. Kuphononongo lwama-knitters angama-3 500, abaphandi bafumanise ukuba iipesenti ezingama-81 zezinto ezazinxitywa ezazinoxinzelelo zaziqonda ukuba ukunitha kwazo kwakubenza bonwabe ngakumbi.

Yenza ubuchule

Ukuba wena okanye umntu omthandayo unengxaki yokudakumba, thetha nomboneleli wezempilo. Banokucebisa amayeza okanye iingcebiso. Ukongeza kwizindululo zesiko, cinga ngokuthatha ixesha lokuyila. Nazi ezinye izimvo:

• Joyina iqela lokuluka. Ayisiyiyo kuphela amalungu eqela anokukunceda ukuphucula izakhono zakho, banokuba ngabahlobo kwaye bakugcine ungaziva ulilolo.
• Bhaka kwaye uhombise ikeyiki.
• Faka umbala kwincwadi yemibala yabantu abadala.
• Zoba umfanekiso.
• Yenza isithsaba somnyango.
• Yenza indawo ephambili yonyaka kwitafile yakho yasekhitshini.
• Sula ilokhwe okanye isiciko somqamelo.
• Phuma kwindalo kwaye uthathe iifoto.
• Funda ukudlala isixhobo somculo.

Iintaka zethemba

Ndimele ndikholelwe ukuba ukwenza ezo ntaka zivakala ziluhlaza kwamnceda umakhulu wam ukuba akwazi ukumelana nokudakumba kwakhe. Kuya kufuneka ukuba abe neenkumbulo ezimnandi zokuzenza, ngaphandle kokuba wayejongana nemiceli mngeni ebomini bakhe ngelo xesha. Ndiyathanda ukukholelwa ukuba ukuthunga iimvakalelo kunye nokukhetha ii-sequins kumncedile ukuba alibale iingxaki zakhe, anyuse imood yakhe, kwaye amenze onwabe. Kwaye ndiyathanda ukukholelwa ukuba ukuzisebenzisa ukuhombisa umthi wakhe rhoqo ngoDisemba kwakumkhumbuza ngamandla akhe.

Ndagcina enye yeentaka ezibukeka zihlekisayo, kwaye unyaka nonyaka, ndiyixhoma kumthi wam weKrisimesi. Ndihlala ndincuma njengoko ndibeka phakathi kweglasi ephucukileyo kunye nezinto zokuhombisa zeceramic. Iyandikhumbuza ukuba phakathi kwemizabalazo yethu, sinokuhlala sinethemba.

ULaura Johnson ngumbhali okonwabelayo ukwenza ulwazi kwezempilo ukuba lubandakanyeke kwaye kube lula ukuluqonda. Ukusuka kwizinto ezintsha ze-NICU kunye neeprofayili zesigulana ukuya kuphando lomhlaba kunye neenkonzo zoluntu eziphambili, uLaura ubhale malunga nezihloko ezahlukeneyo zononophelo lwempilo. ULaura uhlala eDallas, eTexas, nonyana wakhe okwishumi elivisayo, inja endala, kunye neentlanzi ezintathu ezisindayo.