Yiba ne-Orgasm engcono: Ukuphelisa ukuphazamiseka

Umxholo

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Ngendlela efanayo noxinzelelo malunga nokuzama ukwehla kunokwenza kube nzima kakhulu ukufikelela kulonwabo lwe-orgasmic, ukuphazamiseka-nokuba kungokwengqondo okanye ngokwasemzimbeni-kunokwenza ukuba kube lula ukufikelela entanjeni.

"Ngokuqhelekileyo, abafazi baya kufinyelela kwinqanaba elithile lokuvusa kwaye babe ne-bombardment yeengcamango-Ukuba ndiyenzile? Kuthekani ukuba andenzi njalo? Ngaba ndizokwazi ukuba ndinayo? Zonke ezi ngcinga zichasene nokuvuswa, utshilo uEmily Nagoski, Ph.D., umbhali we Yiza njengoko unjalo: INzululwazi eNtsha eyothusayo eya kuguqula uBomi bakho boSondo. Ke yintoni intombazana eneengcinga ezibhadulayo? Yamkela ukuba bakhona, emva koko bayeke bahambe babuyele kuluvo oluvayo, utshilo uNagoski.

Kwaye, ewe, siyazi ukuba oku kulula ukuthetha kunokukwenza. "Ukuphawula imvakalelo emzimbeni wakho kunokuvuselela iingcinga ezibalulekileyo malunga nomzimba wakho-indlela amanqatha asesiswini sakho ahamba ngayo, indlela amathanga akho ajongeka ngayo, okanye nokuba yintoni na," utshilo uNagoski.Ngelixa la mazwi eqhelekile kwaye endalo, uthi, isitshixo sokuba ne-orgasm kukugxila kulonwabo, hayi elo lizwi libambezelayo entlokweni yakho.

Kuba ubuchwephesha lelona lungu likhulu lokwabelana ngesondo, kubalulekile ukuba uzenzele eyona nto iphambili, utshilo uEmily Morse, ugqirha wezesondo, kunye nomgcini wezesondo noEmily podcast. Khumbula iimeko zesondo ezidlulileyo ezityhale amaqhosha akho okanye ucinge ngeemeko ozaziyo ukuba ziya kukwenza uvule. Ngale ndlela, xa isenzo siqala, ingqondo yakho (kunye nomzimba) kuya kuba sele kulungile, uyacebisa.

Ukongeza kwingqondo yokubhadula, kukwakho neziphazamiso ezibonakalayo-iselfowuni yakho ibhuza ngokungapheliyo, abantwana bakho okanye abo uhlala nabo kwelinye igumbi, ikati yakho ikrwemka emnyango, njl njl. Zintofontofo kangangoko kunokwenzeka, utsho uNagoski.

Imeko? Abasetyhini babenethuba lokufikelela kwi-orgasm xa benxibe iikawusi, abaphandi bezesondo baseDatshi abafunyenwe kwisifundo esinye. Hayi, iikawusi aziyiyo imfihlo-iinyawo zabo ezibandayo zazibaphazamisa. (Ngezinye izinto ezixhaswayo ezifundwayo, funda ezi zinto zi-8 zimangalisayo ezichaphazela uBomi bakho boSondo.) Ke, nokuba kukuhlengahlengisa i-thermostat okanye uqiniseke ukuba ifowuni yakho ayibonwa, cwangcisa kwangaphambili ukuze wenze into emnandi, enexhala- kunye nokuphazamiseka- indawo ekhululekileyo eya kukuvumela ukuba ugxile kumsebenzi okhoyo. "Umxholo oququzelela i-orgasm enkulu wahlukile kuye wonke umntu, kodwa kufuneka uwamkele kwaye uwuthande kwaye wenze ukuba yenzeke," utshilo uNagoski.

Ngenxa yokuba xa kuziwa kwisondo, kufuneka uphume entloko yakho kwaye ugxininise kumsebenzi okhoyo-okanye nayiphi na inxalenye yomzimba eyenza uzive ungcono.

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