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I-maniac ehamba ngomsindo ikhwaza amanyala kuwe kwimpambano, nkqu nabantwana bayo kwisitulo esingasemva. Umfazi usika phambi kwakho emgceni kwaye, xa ujongana naye, ukuxelela ukuba uphume.

Uninzi lwabantu, kubonakala ngathi, aloyiki ukukhulula kwezi ntsuku, nokuba bayawukhuphela umsindo wabo kubantu abangabaziyo ababukrwada, amaqabane angalindelanga okanye abasebenza bothukile. Iindaba ezimnandi zabafazi kukuba ekugqibeleni sikhululwe kwizithintelo zeminyaka edlulileyo ukuba sifane neladies (funda: akukho ngxolo) kwaye bayathetha, ngokuvakalayo nangokucacileyo. Kodwa kwesi sithuba se-grrrl-amandla exesha, ngaba siya naphi na ngokuveza umsindo wethu?

Oko kuxhomekeke. "Ukungalawulwa Umsindo yindlela engenamsebenzi kakhulu kubafazi yokufumana oko bakufunayo ebomini, utshilo uSusan Heitler, Ph.D., ugqirha wezengqondo eDenver nombhali we Amandla amabini (IHarbinger entsha, 1997). "Umsindo ongafanelekanga uyampompa abantu ukuze bazive banamandla, kwaye enyanisweni banika ifuthe elinamandla xa besenza ngomsindo. Kodwa okona kulungileyo baya kuyiphumelela idabi kwaye boyise emfazweni."

Nangona ingqumbo ifumana abafazi abaninzi into abayifunayo kwixesha elifutshane, ekuhambeni kwexesha ikhuthaza ukungabi nantlonelo kunye nenzondo. UHeitler, osebenze nezibini ezizama ukulungisa imiba yomtshato kwaye uvelise ividiyo ebizwa ngokuba yi "The Angry Couple," ufumene indlela ephindaphindayo phakathi kwabaxumi. "Umlingane obhinqileyo ugxotha ngokungafanelekanga, kwaye iqabane eliyindoda liyarhoxa," utsho uHeitler.

Rhoqo, ucacisa uHeitler, abasetyhini baxelisa oomama babo bokuzibamba-de bangabinako ukuyithatha loo nto, emva koko bagqabhuke.

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Endaweni yokuvumela umsindo ukoyise, tshintsha isenzo. Ngexesha elizayo xa ukhutshiwe, sebenzisa umsindo kwikona yakho. Umzekelo, unokuba nomsindo neqabane lakho ngokurhoxa kumabonwakude emva nje kokutya isidlo osele usenzile. Ngaphambi kokuba uthethe kuwe (okanye kuye), "NguNeanderthal ongacingeliyo ocinga ukuba mandimlinde," zama la manyathelo:

1. Wujonge umsindo njengophawu lokumisa. "Sinokuva umsindo njengombane oluhlaza ukuze senze ngokukhawuleza," utsho uHeitler. Ngokukhawuleza intliziyo yakho ibaleka, kokukhona ingqondo yakho ibeka kancinci iziqwenga - awunakucinga kakuhle. Yima kwaye unike ixesha lakho lesizathu sokubamba iimvakalelo.

2. Ukufumana ulwazi nokuqonda. Zama ukuqonda ukuba kwenzeka ntoni. Mhlawumbi ulandela umzekelo kayise kwaye akakhange acinge ngenye indlela.

3. Zekelisa, ndifuna ntoni? Zibuze ukuba yintoni ekutyayo. Sebenzisa impendulo ukwenza impendulo efanelekileyo. Mhlawumbi into oyifunayo kukuba abulele ukutya, okanye ahlambe izitya, okanye uzenzele kunye.

4. Khangela indlela esebenzayo nenesidima yokuyifumana. Nje ukuba uyazi ukuba ufuna ntoni, phakamisa isihloko kwithoni yakho eqhelekileyo, nethoni yelizwi.

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