Ukuba neNtetho ngobuhlanga nobuhlanga naBantwana baKho

Umxholo

• Ixesha elifanelekileyo ngoku
• Ukuba mtsha kwincoko akuthethi ukuba incoko intsha
• Uncedo lokwazi ukuba uthini…
• Emva kwentetho kuza umsebenzi

Ukuba nencoko ethembekileyo malunga nemicimbi esiyibonayo namhlanje kufuna ukujongana neenzima zenyhweba kunye nendlela esebenza ngayo.

"Ngoku ukholo sisiqinisekiso sezinto ezithenjiweyo, ubungqina bezinto ezingabonwayo." Hebhere 11: 1 (NKJV)

Le yeyona vesi ndiyithandayo eBhayibhileni. Njengomzali ikwangumnqweno wam ukuba nonyana wam oneminyaka emihlanu ubudala. Ndinokholo lokuba yonke into endiyilindeleyo, yonke into endingayiboniyo kweli lizwe, izakufumaneka kuye. Phezulu kuluhlu lwezinto endinethemba lazo bubomi obude.

Simnyama, kwaye kuye kwacaca kwezi veki zimbini zidlulileyo, kukuba ubumnyama bethu luxanduva. Kuyingozi kubomi bethu, kukwazi kwethu ukuphefumla ngokukhululekileyo, ngaphandle kokubuzwa okanye ukubulawa ngenxa yako.

Ngelixa ndiyazi kakuhle le nyaniso, unyana wam akakho, kwaye kodwa ngenye imini kungekudala, kunokuba kamva, kuya kufuneka azi. Kuya kufuneka ukuba ayazi imigaqo yobubini-bokuziva-kabini i-WEB. UDuBois uqale waxoxa ngasekupheleni kwenkulungwane ye-19- kufuneka agcine inzame zokuphila.

Ke, ndinencoko njani? Unjani na umzali le incoko nomntwana wabo? Siwuthetha njani umxholo oqhubeka nokufa konke okutsha, kuyo yonke into enobungozi kunye neyobubi enokuthi ikhokelele kwiziphumo ezahlukileyo ngokungafaniyo ukuba i-melanin eluswini lwamaxhoba yajikwa yangabinalo nebala?

Ixesha elifanelekileyo ngoku

Bobabini uJennifer Harvey, unjingalwazi wemikhwa yokuziphatha yobuKristu kwiDyunivesithi yaseDrake eDes Moines, eIowa, kunye noGqirha uJoseph A. Jackson, ugqirha wabantwana eDuke University School of Medicine, bakholelwa ukuba le ncoko ngobuhlanga, ubuhlanga, inkululeko kunye nenkululeko yabantsundu iyaqala ekuzalweni.

"Ukuba abazali bam bebeqale nam ekuzalweni, ngendibe liqabane kungekudala ebomini bam kwaye ndenza iimpazamo ezimbalwa kakhulu kwaye ndenzakalisa abantu abambalwa kuhambo lwam lokufunda," watsho uHarvey kum xa sithetha nomnxeba.

KuJackson, kuya kufuneka abenayo intetho nabantwana bakhe abathandathu. Kwintombi yakhe eneminyaka emi-4 ubudala, ukugxila kwakhe kuyamqinisekisa kubumnyama bakhe, kubuhle bakhe, kubuchule bakhe bokubona ubuhle ngokwahluka. Kubantwana bakhe abahlanu incoko ithatha imo eyahlukileyo ngomntwana ngamnye.

"Ngokwenyani ndineeseti ezintathu, enye yazo ndicinga ukuba ayazi ukuba kwenzeka ntoni macala onke, emva koko ndiye ndafumana omnye owaphuke kwaphela ngenxa yeengxaki ezisehlabathini," utshilo uJackson. "Ke, ngezo ncoko ndizama ukungena, ngexesha elifanelekileyo ukubuza imibuzo emininzi evulekileyo ukuze bazobe."

Kodwa akukho nto iyinyani yobudala malunga nokufa kwabantu abamnyama, kunye nokubulawa ngabom kwabantu abamnyama ngabo basemagunyeni abakhuselwe ngumyalelo wehlabathi omhlophe - amandla obandlululo asebenzayo kwaye anyanzeliswa ukusukela nge-1619.

"Ndicinga ukuba enye yezinto ezibaluleke kakhulu ngeli xesha lexesha kukuba kukho izinto ezindabeni ezingandothusiyo," utshilo uJackson.

Ukuba mtsha kwincoko akuthethi ukuba incoko intsha

Kunzima kwaye kubangela ukuba ubone amaxesha okugqibela obomi enyuka emzimbeni womntu emva kokuba ecele ukuphefumla, ayonto intsha. I-America inembali yokubukela abantu abamnyama besokola kwaye / okanye besifa ngenxa yezemidlalo.

Kwiminyaka elikhulu elinanye emva kwehlobo elibomvu kubonakala ngathi ilizwe lethu likhona kwakhona. Endaweni yokuba abantu abantsundu batsalwe emakhayeni abo baxhonywe kwimithi emikhulu kwiindawo zikawonke-wonke kwitheko lomculo, ngoku sidutyulwa sabulawa emakhayeni ethu, ezicaweni zethu, ezimotweni zethu, phambi kwabantwana bethu, kwaye kakhulu, kakhulu Kaninzi.

Kwiintsapho zabantsundu ezine intetho malunga nobuhlanga kunye nobuhlanga kunye nabantwana babo kukho umlinganiso onobungozi ekufuneka siwenzile phakathi kokubethelela inyani kunye nokuzama ukungakhulisi isizukulwana esihlala sisoyika.

Kwiintsapho ezimhlophe ezine intetho, Kuya kufuneka uqale uyiqonde imbali kunye nolwakhiwo lwentlalo owazalelwa kulo kwaye uxhamle kuyo ngenxa yelungelo lombala wolusu lwakho. Emva koko umsebenzi ulala ekuxolelaniseni ezi zinto ngaphandle kokugxothwa, ukuzikhusela, okanye uxakeke kakhulu kukuziva unetyala uye ungakhathali- okanye mandundu, ukhathazeke kangangokuba awukwazi ukugxila ngaphandle kwakho.

UHarvey uthe, "Ukuzikhusela kwabamhlophe kukhulu, ngamanye amaxesha kungenxa yokuba asikhathali kwaye yingxaki leyo, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha kungenxa yokuba asazi ukuba senzeni kwityala lethu. . . [Akusoloko] kufuneka sizive sinetyala. Singazibandakanya kwaye sithathe amanyathelo njengamahlakani kumzabalazo olwa ubuhlanga. ”

Uncedo lokwazi ukuba uthini…

I-Healthline iqokelele uluhlu lwezixhobo ezichasene nobuhlanga zabazali kunye nabantwana. Sihlaziya rhoqo, kwaye siyabakhuthaza abazali ukuba baqhubekeke nemfundo yabo ngendlela yokukhulisa abantwana abaqukayo, abanobulungisa, nabachasene nobuhlanga.

Emva kwentetho kuza umsebenzi

Okwangoku, kufuneka kubekho okungaphezulu kunenkonzo yomlomo malunga nobudlelwane kunye nokuma kubumbano. Zonke izandi zilungile, kodwa ngaba uza kubonakala?

Ilungelo liphumeza injongo. Kudala isetyenziselwa ukuxhasa uninzi lweli lizwe ixesha elide, kulula ukuqonda ukuba abantu abamhlophe bangayijongi njani intlungu yabantu abamnyama. Yintlungu uGqirha Jackson uziva njengeyakhe.

"Ngalo mzuzu, sonke siyibonile ividiyo, kwaye siyazi ukuba ubomi bulahlekile, ubukhulu becala ngenxa yombala wesikhumba [sikaGeorge Floyd]. Kwakukho ilungelo abanye abantu ababemi malunga nalo mzuzu kwaye abakhange balibeke phantsi. ”

Ukuba nencoko ethembekileyo malunga nemicimbi esiyibonayo namhlanje kufuna ukujongana neenzima zenyhweba kunye nendlela esebenza ngayo. Ifuna ukuba neencoko ezingathandekiyo malunga nohlanga, ubuhlanga, umkhethe, kunye nengcinezelo, kwaye sonke sizama ukwenza ngcono kunesizukulwana esiphambi kwethu.

Uxanduva alukho kubantu abamnyama ukuba bafundise abantu abamhlophe ukuba bangacaluli ngokobuhlanga. Wonke umntu omhlophe-indoda, umfazi kunye nomntwana-kuya kufuneka enze umsebenzi onzima wentliziyo kubo bonke ubomi babo ukuze enze utshintsho oluhlala luhleli.

UHarvey uthe, “Ndiyacinga ukuba singafumana abantu abamhlophe ngakumbi ukuba sihlale ecaleni, utshintsho luza kuza. Abantu abamhlophe bamanyelwa ngendlela eyahlukileyo, engalunganga, kodwa yinxalenye yendlela ubungangamsha obumhlophe obusebenza ngayo. ”

Ngelixa thina njengabantu abamnyama siqhubeka sithwala umthwalo wokubandezeleka kwabantu bethu, unyamezelo kunye nomonde ngeMelika emhlophe ayizizo zodwa izifundo esinokuzinika abantwana bethu. Njengokuba nje imbali yethu isezintlungwini nasentlungwini ikwagxume ngokulinganayo kuvuyo, uthando, kunye nokomelela.

Ke, ngelixa ububanzi kunye nobubanzi be intetho iyakwahluka kumakhaya ngamakhaya, usapho kusapho, kunye nohlanga ngokobuhlanga, kubalulekile.

Kuyakufuneka kwiintsapho ezimnyama ukubetha ibhalansi phakathi kwentlungu, uloyiko, ukuzingca, kunye novuyo.

Kuyakufuneka kwiintsapho zabamhlophe ukuba babambe umda phakathi kokuqonda uvelwano, iintloni, ityala kunye neendlela zokuzikhusela emadolweni.

Kodwa kuyo yonke le nto siyithethayo, kuyo yonke le ncoko, akufuneki silibale ukusebenzisa izifundo esizifundisiweyo.

"Ndifuna abantu bangabinakho ukuba neencoko kodwa baphile ngazo," utshilo uJackson.

"Umsebenzi waseMelika omhlophe ngoku kukujonga macala onke kwaye ubone apho sicelwa ukuba sincedise kwaye ngaziphi iindlela, kwaye sikwenze oko," utshilo uHarvey.

Andinakuvumelana nabo ngakumbi.

UNikesha Elise Williams ungumvelisi weendaba ophumelele amabhaso ama-Emmy izihlandlo ezibini kunye nombhali ophumelele amabhaso. Wazalelwa kwaye wakhulela eChicago, eIllinois, kwaye waya kwiYunivesithi yaseFlorida State apho waphumelela khona isidanga seBachelor of Science kunxibelelwano: izifundo zemithombo yeendaba ezininzi kunye nokuhlonipha ukubhala kwesiNgesi. Inoveli yokuqala kaNikesha, "Abafazi abane," yanikwa iBhaso likaMongameli we-2018 yaseFlorida kunye nabapapashi boMbutho woMshicileli kudidi lweNtsomi yaBadala yaBadala / yoNcwadi. “Abafazi abane” kwaqatshelwa nguMbutho weSizwe weeNtatheli eziMnyama njengoMsebenzi oBalaseleyo wokuFunda. U-Nikesha ngumbhali osisigxina kunye nomqeqeshi wokubhala kwaye usebenze ngokuzimeleyo kupapasho oluninzi kubandakanya i-VOX, i-Smart Smart Brothas, kunye ne-Shadow kunye noMthetho. UNikesha uhlala eJacksonville, eFlorida, kodwa ungasoloko umfumana kwi-intanethi [email protected], kuFacebook.com/NikeshaElise okanye ku @Nikesha_Elise kuTwitter naku-Instagram.