Kuyabonakala ukuba, ukucinga nje ngomntu omthandayo kunokukunceda ujongane neemeko zoxinzelelo

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Ngexesha elizayo xa uziva ukhathazekile, ucinga nge-S.O yakho. inokunceda. Uphononongo lwamva nje lupapashwe IPsychophysiology Ucebise ukuba ucinga nje ngeqabane lakho phambi koxinzelelo unokwehlisa uxinzelelo lwegazi kunye nokuba kunye nabo kwi-IRL. Uguqulelo: Awudingi igxalaba lomzimba ukuze uthembele-udinga nje ukwazi ukuba unenkxaso yomntu omthandayo ukuze ufikelele kumaxesha anzima. (Eyeleleneyo: Umqeqeshi wokuthandana uMatthew Hussey uthi umdlalo wamanqindi unokufundisa okuninzi malunga nobudlelwane)

Nantsi indlela abafikelele ngayo kweso sigqibo: Ngaphezulu kwe-100 yabathathi-nxaxheba okwangoku abathandanayo bahlulahlulwe baba ngamaqela amathathu: Elinye eliza kuchitha ixesha kunye namaqabane abo, elinye elinokucinga malunga neqabane labo, kwaye elinye elinokucinga ngomhla wabo . Emva koko, iqela ngalinye lathi nkxu unyawo lwalo emanzini abandayo kangangemizuzu emine ukuze libangele uxinezeleko, yaye uxinezeleko lwegazi nokubetha kwentliziyo kwalinganiswa. Abaphandi bafumanise ukuba omabini la maqela achitha ixesha kunye namaqabane awo kunye nalawo acinga ngawo abonisa ukwehla okufanayo koxinzelelo lwegazi xa kuthelekiswa neqela lesithathu. Oko kwathiwa, kunokubakho umda omncinci wokuchitha ixesha kunye neqabane lakho enyameni. Iqela eline-QT uqobo lwayo lazisa iintlungu ezincinci emanzini abandayo kunabo babecinga nje nge-boo yabo. (Idibeneyo: Ngaba ufuna ukuchitha? Inzululwazi ithi Hlamba izitya)

Nantsi kanye indlela "iqela lokucinga kuphela" elazisa ngayo iingcamango zabo, ngoko unokuzama kwixesha elizayo xa ubomi bakho buyi-stress fest: Eli qela layalelwa ukuba livale amehlo imizuzwana engama-30 kwaye libone umfanekiso ocacileyo weqabane labo okanye Benza into kunye, kugxininiswa ekwenzeni umfanekiso-ngqondweni ucace gca kangangoko kunokwenzeka.

Kwaye ukuba awutshatanga njengebhili yedola, akukho maxhala-oku akuthethi ukuba i-perk ibekelwe izibini. Ngelixa olu phononongo lujonge abantu ababenobudlelwane bezothando, kunokwenzeka ukuba baninzi abantu ebomini bakho abenza uzive uxhaswa kwaye ukhuselekile (molo Mama!). Kwaye izifundo zangaphambili zibonise ukubaluleka kobudlelwane obungathandekiyo ekugcineni amanqanaba oxinzelelo. Olunye uphononongo lufumanise ukuba ukuva ilizwi likamama wakho kunezibonelelo zokunciphisa uxinzelelo kunye nokumbona ngobuqu. Uphando lukwacebisa ukuba ukuziva uxhaswa ngabathandekayo balo naluphi na uhlobo kunokunceda ukunciphisa iziphumo zoxinzelelo. Ngexesha elizayo xa unosuku olubi, cinga ukuchitha ixesha kunye, ukufowuna, okanye ukucinga nje ngelo xesha usenza laa nto inye nomntu omthandayo.

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