UKerry Washington Wenze uthelekiso oluqaqambileyo phakathi koNyango kunye noQeqesho lomntu

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Unyango lwalusisihloko esikhohlakeleyo-esingenakufika ngokulula kwincoko ngaphandle kwempixano okanye isigwebo.

Ngethamsanqa, ibala elijikeleze unyango liyaqhawuka kwezi ntsuku, enkosi kakhulu kubantu abadumileyo abavula imizabalazo yabo yempilo yengqondo kwaye basebenzise amaqonga abo ukwenza le miba ibe yesiqhelo.

Kutshanje, uKerry Washington kunye noGwyneth Paltrow bahlala phantsi kwincoko kaPaltrowGoop I-podcast yokuthetha ngendlela unyango olubanceda ngayo bahlale belungile ngokwengqondo nangokomzwelo. (Idibeneyo: UKristen Bell Ukwabelana ngeeNdlela zokuNgena kunye naKho phakathi kwaKhe nokuLwa kweMeko yeMpilo yeNgqondo)

Omabini la mabhinqa aqaphele ukuba xa babekhula, banikwa umyalezo-ziintsapho zabo kunye noluntu ngokubanzi-ukuba neemvakalelo, kungasathethwa ke ukuzibonakalisa, yinto "embi". Ngapha koko, uWashington waqhula esithi umama wakhe wamthumela kwisikolo semidlalo yeqonga njengomntwana kuba "uneemvakalelo ezininzi" kakhulu. "Umyalezo endinawo wawusithi: 'Ungabinazo iimvakalelo, kwaye ukuba unazo, xoka ngazo, kwaye ungazibandakanyi neemvakalelo zakho," utshilo uWashington kuPaltrow.

Kodwa ngoku, uWashington uthe usebenza ngokufunda "ukuhlala kwindawo yakhe yokungakhululeki" kunokuba azityhalele kude ezo mvakalelo. "Siliqela elinabantu abasindileyo," uxelele uPaltrow. "Sifuna ukulungiswa ngokukhawuleza, asifuni ukuziva iimvakalelo, sifuna ukuhamba ngaphaya kweemvakalelo, sifuna ukuzixubha. Sifuna ukwenza nantoni na ukuba singaziva sisengozini."

UWashington wabanga unyango ngokumnceda enze olu tshintsho kwimpilo yakhe yengqondo. "Ndifumene unyango ekholejini, kwaye ndicinga ukuba ndiludinga ngokwenene," uxelele uPaltrow. "Ibe luncedo kakhulu. Bendingena ndiphuma kunyango ixesha elininzi lobomi bam." (Eyeleleneyo: Kutheni wonke umntu kufuneka azame unyango ubuncinci kanye)

Nangona kunjalo, uWashington wathi umntu usanda kubuza amava akhe ngonyango. Umntu ubuzile ukuba ingaba "yingxaki" na leyo iWashington ibibona ugqirha iminyaka emininzi kangaka kwaye nokuba oko kunokuthetha ukuba ufuna ukubona okwahlukileyo.

"Bendifana," Hayi, andikho kunyango ukuba lwenziwe, "u-Ihlazo inkwenkwezi yatsho ngempendulo yakhe kuloo mntu. "Esi sisipho endizinika sona. Indlela endinomqeqeshi ngayo emzimbeni wam-lo ngumqeqeshi wam wengqondo. Kuba ebomini bam, ndihlala ndithatha umngcipheko omtsha. Ndifuna ukufunda nokukhula. Ndifuna ukunika ngokwam inkxaso yengqondo kunye neemvakalelo ukuze ndihlale ndimile ngokwasengqondweni nangokweemvakalelo-ngokwam, ngomsebenzi wam, nosapho lwam. Ndiyaluthanda [unyango], kwaye ndicinga ukuba lubaluleke kakhulu. "

I-BTW, iWashington ichanekile malunga nokufana nonyango lokuzilolonga. Uphando lubonakalisile ukuba ukuthetha nonyango kunxulunyaniswa notshintsho olunokulinganiswa, oluqinisekileyo kwingqondo, kakhulu njengokusebenza komzimba kungakhokelela kutshintsho olubonakalayo, lomzimba emzimbeni wakho. Ngelixa umqeqeshi wakho enokukunceda ufunde ifom efanelekileyo yeskat, ugqirha unokukufundisa izinto ezinje ngeendlela zokusombulula iingxaki, iindlela zokulwa impilo esempilweni, kunye nendlela yokuchonga kunye nokwaphula imikhwa emibi-zonke ezinezibonelelo zexesha elide kwingqondo yakho impilo. (I-FYI, nangona kunjalo, ayisiyongcamango ilungileyo ukuxhomekeka ekusebenzeni njengonyango lwakho- nasi isizathu.)

Kwindima kaWashington njengomzali, uthe ngoku "uzama ukuba neemvakalelo zokwenyani" phambi kwabantwana bakhe, u-Isabelle noCaleb, ebaxelela "ukuba sonke sineemvakalelo, kwaye sihlala kuzo kunye kwaye sithethe ngayo kwaye nibe lapho omnye nomnye. (Idibeneyo: UJessica Alba Ukwabelana ngesizathu sokuba aqale ukuya kunyango kunye nentombi yakhe eneminyaka eli-10 ubudala)

Bukela ividiyo esezantsi ukubona uPaltrow kunye neWashington baxoxa ngonyango, impilo yengqondo, kunye nokunye:

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