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• Cwangcisa ipati yesine okanye ye-15
• Remix ukuba Magic
• Gxila kwiNtsha
• Uphengululo lwe

Iintshukumo ezilungileyo emoyeni ngeli xesha lonyaka zineziphumo zokwenyani, ezinamandla kwimpilo yakho yengqondo kunye nomzimba. Ukubhiyozela ukuseta i-cocktail yeekhemikhali zobuchopho eziphantse zafana neziyobisi zepati yendalo, utshilo uRobert C. Froemke, Ph.D., unjingalwazi onxulumene ne-neuroscience kunye ne-physiology kwi-NYU Langone Health kwisiXeko saseNew York.

Ezona zithako ziphambili: i-oxytocin, enxulunyaniswa nokudibana kunye nolonwabo kwaye ikhutshwa xa ukunye nabanye abantu; i-noradrenaline, ethi iphakame kakhulu xa unxulumana kwaye ikwenza uzive unamandla kwaye wonwabile; kunye nee-endorphins, imichiza yokuziva ulungile ekhutshwa xa uhleka, udanisa, kwaye usela isibini okanye ezimbini. Kwaye ezi zinto zintathu zenza okuninzi kunokonyusa umoya wakho. I-Oxytocin inokunceda ukulungisa izihlunu ezonzakeleyo kunye nokuphilisa amanxeba, uphando lubonisa. INoradrenaline ibaluleke kakhulu kugxilwe, kunye nee-endorphins (ewe, uhlobo olufumanayo ekusebenzeni) kunokunceda ukunciphisa iintlungu.

Ingqondo yeqela inokuyiphucula imemori yakho. Amaxesha okubhiyoza ahlala ebandakanyeka engqondweni, efuna imisebenzi ekwinqanaba eliphezulu yobuchopho, utshilo uFroemke. Kwindibano, umzekelo, kuninzi ukuvuselela okubonakalayo phakathi kokuhombisa kunye nabantu. Kwaye kuya kufuneka ujonge ubudlelwane obuntsonkothileyo ("Mama, dibana nesoka lam elitsha") kwaye uthathe inxaxheba kwiincoko ezininzi, ngelixa usebenzisa ukuqaphela ubuso, ukumamela umculo, kunye nokuzama ukutya okutsha. "Ingqondo elingana nokusebenza komzimba opheleleyo," utshilo uFroemke.

Iingcali zithi. Ngeli xesha lonyaka, phantse wonke umntu okule mibhiyozo, kwaye umbono ekwabelwana ngawo wenjongo uyomeleza ukuzuza. "Abantu banomdla wokubonisa iimvakalelo zabanye," utshilo uFroemke. "Xa ukunye nabantu abazonwabisayo, kusebenza ukuwenza nzulu amava akho." (Kungenxa yoko le nto abahlobo bokuzilolonga bebambelele kakhulu.)

Eyona nto ilunge kakhulu, izibonelelo ozifumanayo ngeli xesha lonyaka livuyayo akufuneki ziphele xa izibane zeholide zisihla. Ezi ndlela zintathu zophando zixhaswa zizokugcina iqela lihamba ngentwasahlobo nangaphaya.

Cwangcisa ipati yesine okanye ye-15

Inkalo yentlalo yeeholide yintlalontle enkulu kunye: Abantu abasebenzisana nabanye bonwabile kwaye banempilo kunabo bangenantlalontle, kwaye baphila ixesha elide. (Eyeleleneyo: Ukoyisa njani iNgxaki yaseNtlalweni kwaye ulonwabele ixesha kunye nabahlobo)

Ukwandisa izibonelelo zendibano yakho elandelayo, nokuba leliphi ixesha lonyaka, cinga ukuyenza indibano yesine. Ukuchitha ixesha ngokwamaqela amabini okanye amathathu kunokubangela uxinzelelo oluncinci kuba umntu omnye uziva enyanzelekile ukuba agcine abanye bezibandakanya kwaye bonwabile (ngaphandle kokuba nonke nigqibelele). "Kwaye awukwazi ukuba nencoko nabantu abangaphezu kwabane ngexesha," utsho uRobin Dunbar, Ph.D., ofunda i-dynamics yeqela kwiYunivesithi yaseOxford. Nje ukuba ukuqokelela kwakho kubethe ezintlanu, umntu othile uya kuphakama azive eshiywe ngaphandle. Ngezine, nangona kunjalo, ufumana zonke izinto ezilungileyo zokunxulumana ngaphandle koxinzelelo.

Iya ngokuba nkulu? Zisa ukubala kweendwendwe ukuya kuthi ga kwi-15. Ngale ndlela abantu banokuxubana kwaye bahlukane babe ngamaqela amancinci ngaphandle kokuziva bexakekile okanye beziva bodwa, utshilo uDunbar.

Remix ukuba Magic

Imidlalo yeqela, iiklabhu zeencwadi, kunye namaqela amavolontiya anokudala uhlobo lwengqondo esabelana ngayo ngexesha leholide. "Amaqela ezentlalontle asinika uhlobo olufanayo lwezibonelelo zengqondo kwaye masizibonele ngobuqaqawuli obubonakalayo xa iqela liphumelela, njengaxa iqela lakho liphumelela umdlalo," utshilo uJolanda Jetten, Ph.D., unjingalwazi wezengqondo kwezentlalo kwiYunivesithi. waseQueensland e-Australia, ofunda ubulungu beqela. "Banikezela ngelensi esenza ngayo ukuba siqonde umhlaba, sinike injongo, intsingiselo kunye nolwalathiso. Oku kumenza ukuba somelele ngokubanzi njengabantu ngabanye."

Imidlalo yeqela nayo inokonyusa impilo yengqondo. "Imisebenzi efana nebhola ekhatywayo ifuna umsebenzi okwinqanaba eliphezulu lokuqonda kuba kufuneka uvavanye abanye abadlali kwaye wenze iqhinga," utshilo uPredrag Petrovic, MD, Ph.D., unjingalwazi onxulumene ne-neuroscience eKarlinska Institutet eSweden. "Le misebenzi yengqondo inokomeleza i-synapses kwi-prefrontal cortex, enokunceda ekusombululeni iingxaki kunye nokulawulwa kweemvakalelo." (Idibeneyo: Ungakuphepha njani Ukulwa neSO yakho Ngexesha leeholide)

Gxila kwiNtsha

Libala izigqibo zoNyaka oMtsha kube kanye. Ukuzibekela usukelo olufikelelekayo ngamanye amaxesha kunokunceda ukukukhuthaza, kodwa amaxesha amaninzi kuye kube luhlobo olukhohlisayo lokufuna imfezeko, nto leyo ethetha ukuba awulunganga njengoko unjalo, utsho uKristin Ne, Ph.D., unjingalwazi osebenza naye kwiDyunivesithi yaseTexas eTexas. Austin kunye coauthor Incwadi Yomsebenzi Wokuzenzela Imfesane. Ngokwenyani, ukuzamkela ngale ndlela uyiyo yenye yeentsika ezinkulu zolonwabo, uphando olwenziwe ngabantu abangama-5 000 olwenziwa yi-Action for Happiness charity eyafunyanwa.

Ke kulo nyaka, umjelo we-dos-dos kwaye ujolise ekuzonwabiseni. Amava amatsha avula ummandla wobuchopho okhupha i-noradrenaline kuyo yonke ingqondo, ukwakha amandla akho kunye nokuzithemba. Ngoku yinto yokubhiyozela. (Kwaye ukuba awuva ngathi uyayithanda? Funda oku: Kukhuselo lokungabikho koluntu ngalo lonke ixesha)

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