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Ayiyomfihlo into yokuba ukuskrola kwi-Instagram kunokukwenza ube nomona-kwaye uchaphazele kakubi impilo yakho yengqondo. Ngapha koko, uphononongo olupapashwe kunyaka ophelileyo lwafumanisa ukuba i-Instagram lelona qonga lonakeleyo lezoluntu kwezempilo yakho yengqondo. (Abaphandi bayibeka kumgaqo "thelekisa nokuphelelwa lithemba" -uthelekisa eyakho ngamanye amaxesha amandla okomelela komzimba kwi-Iskra Lawrence yokungoyiki, umzekelo, emva koko uphelelwe lithemba malunga nokuba kutheni wena ayinakukwazi ukonwaba nomzimba wakho.) Ngenxa yoko, usebenza ixesha elongezelelekileyo ukwenza ukuba ubomi bakho be-Insta bujongeke ngokugqibeleleyo njengaye wonke umntu-masibe yinyani, wonke umntu uyayenza kwinqanaba elithile. Kodwa ngokutsho kukaJessica Abo, umbhali we Ayihluzwanga:Unokonwaba njani njengoko ujonga kwimithombo yeendaba, akunyanzelekanga ukuba kube njalo.

Ngaphezulu, intatheli, isithethi kunye nombhali, waba nomdla kwimbono yendlela imidiya yoluntu enefuthe ngayo kulonwabo xa efumanisa ukuba abantu bacinga ukuba ungomnye wabo bantu baphila ubomi obugqibeleleyo be-Insta. "Abantu bahlala bethetha ngendlela ekubonakala ngathi ndiphila obona bomi bumangalisayo, kuba bandibona ndigquma iveki yefashoni ngenye imini ndaze ndakhwela inqwelomoya ndenza intetho ngengomso, utshilo.

Ngomzuzu, olo hlobo lokuncoma lunokuncoma, kodwa u-Abo naye wafumanisa ukuba iyakhathaza. Akukho mntu ubomi bufezekileyo (duh) kwaye uzama ukuphila ngokukhohlisa ukuba kunjalo? Thetha nge uxinzelelo. (Ngaphandle koko, njengoko uninzi lwempembelelo lubonakalisile, uninzi lwale mifanekiso yi-BS kunjalo.)

Ukuzama ukugcina ujongano-lobomi bam obugqibeleleyo kubotshelelwe kwimiphumela emibi yempilo yengqondo amaxesha amaninzi-ingxelo enye ye-2017 evela kwiRoyal Society yezeMpilo yoLuntu e-UK ifumanise ukuba amaxhala oxinzelelo kunye noxinzelelo luye lwasukela ukufika kwamajelo onxibelelwano.

"Ndifuna ukuqala ukwakha incoko kuzo zonke iinkalo zobomi bam malunga nokuba ungubani-kwaye ungazifaneli-ayifanelekanga-ayisiyonto ilungileyo kuphela kodwa yeyona nto iyinyani, utshilo u-Abo. Oko kwakuthetha ukuthumela ixesha elingafakwanga-njengexesha alimaze ngalo igxalaba lakhe ngelixa wayetsala nzima eSpanx ngaphambi komtshato.

Akunjalo nje ngokuba #yinyani, njengoko u-Abo wafumanisayo, ezi ncoko zokwenyani zinokukwenza uzive ukhululekile-kwaye ngendlela eyonwabileyo kunokuba ubambeke kumjikelo ongaqhelekanga womona. Ngaphezu koko, uthi xa omnye umntu esabelana ngento abanengxaki nayo, akasaziva eyedwa kubunzima bakhe.

Eso simo sengqondo sinokwasulela. "Ukuba siqala ukwabelana ngomxholo othembekileyo kokutya kwethu, mhlawumbi kuyakubakho le mpembelelo inkulu apho endaweni yokuba abantu babelane ngezi zinto zigqamileyo, baya kwabelana ngokwenzekayo ngenene ngemihla yabo."

Ungayonwabela njani i-IRL njengoko ujonga kwimithombo yeendaba

Imidiya yokuncokola unako kusetyenziswe okulungileyo. (Ukwenza lula, i-Instagram yazisa nje izinto ezintsha ezenzelwe ukuhluza abakuthiyileyo kunye nokukhuthaza ububele.) Nantsi indlela yokusebenzisa umkhwa wakho wemidiya yoluntu ukukunceda wonwabe njengoko ujonge ukutya kwakho.

1. Okokuqala, yazi ukuba awunyanzelekanga ukuba uzithwale zonke.

“Ingcebiso yam kuye nabani na ozama ukuphila ubomi obungacocwanga ngakumbi kukuba ungaziva ngathi kufuneka wabelane ngazo zonke iinkcukacha zobomi bakho,” utshilo uAbo. Abanye abantu (bacinga uLena Dunham) balungile ngokupheleleyo ngokwabelana nayo yonke into, kodwa awunyanzelekanga ukuze ube nokunyaniseka ngakumbi kumajelo asekuhlaleni.

Thumela kuphela into okhululekile kuyo. Mhlawumbi oko kwabelana ngefoto yeencwadi ezigcinwe kwindawo yakho yasebusuku ongakhange uyifunde okwangoku endaweni yeshelufu yeencwadi ehambelana nombala. Okanye ukubhala isitya sakho esihle se-açaí ngento hayi ifanekisiwe (njengendawo yentlekele oyishiyileyo ekhitshini lakho uyilungiselela). Okanye mhlawumbi uthumela enye yeeselfie ezingama-25 "meh" ozithathileyo ngaphambi kokufumana isidima.

Ukwazi ukubonisa amaxesha okwenyani obomi angacwangciswanga ngokugqibeleleyo angavula incoko kubantu abaninzi, utshilo u-Abo. "Inika indlela enentsingiselo yokudibanisa." (Eyeleleneyo: "Akukhathalelwanga kwaye akukhathazwanga" Yintshukumo yethu entsha ye-Instagram esiyithandayo)

2. Jika umona ube yinkuthazo.

Umona onawo xa ubona ifoto yomgca wokugqibela osuka kumdyarho womhlobo inokuba yinto entle, utshilo uAbo. "Ukuba ufumanisa ukuba uziva uchukunyiswa ngumyalezo womnye umntu, lithuba elihle-eli ungalisebenzisa njengendlela yokwenza ukuba ukhule kwaye ube ngumntu ongcono," uyacacisa. (Idibeneyo: Ngaphambi nangemva kweefoto Ngaba # 1 Into ekhuthaza abantu ukuba banciphise ubunzima)

Translation: Yisebenzise njengesizathu sokuqala uqeqesho kukhuphiswano lwakho.

3. Kuphephe ukuphazamiseka okuninzi kumajelo asekuhlaleni.

Kutshanje, uninzi lwabantu abadumileyo bebevula malunga nokuthatha i-hiatus kumajelo asekuhlaleni ngezizathu zempilo yengqondo. (UAriana Grande, uCamila Cabello kunye noGigi Hadid bonke bathuthukile kwimikhwa emibi yemidiya yoluntu.) Ukuba uziva ngathi ukuskrola kukwenza uxhalabe, ayisiyongcinga imbi leyo.

Ngasentla ucebisa ngokuhambisa iiapps kwiscreen sakho sasekhaya nzulu kwifowuni-ngaloo ndlela ayisiyiyo into yokuqala oyibonayo xa uvula isikrini sakho. "Cima izaziso zakho ukuze ungaphazanyiswa ngalo lonke ixesha umntu ephawula ngento," uyongeza. Lincinci ixesha lokujonga yonke into njengaye kuthetha ixesha elininzi lokwakha ubudlelwane nabantu be-IRL.

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