Kutheni le nto Inja yam ingoyena Myalelo ubalaseleyo woBuhlungu obungapheliyo

Umxholo

• 1. Bayinto entle cuddling
• 2. Zindenza ndizive ndithandwa
• 3. Ziyandigcina ndihamba
• 4. Basoloko bonwabile ukundibona
• 5. Bakwabaphulaphuli abakhulu… Hayi, nyani!
• 6. Bandigcina ndiphakathi koluntu
• 7. Bayandihlekisa
• 8. Bandigcina ndixakekile
• Ukwenza umbono omtsha

Masijongane nayo: Ukuba neentlungu ezingapheliyo kunokudodobalisa kungekuphela emzimbeni, kodwa nasengqondweni, ngokunjalo. Awusoze uqhele ukuziva woyike yonke imihla. Ukusukela oko ndamkela izinja zam, zindincede kakhulu xa kufikwa kumba wokujongana nefuthe lesifo samathambo (RA).

Andizange ndicinge ukuba ukuba nesilwanyana sasekhaya kuya kuba yinxalenye ebalulekileyo ebomini bam, kodwa ukuba nazo ngeenxa zonke kube nefuthe elingenakulinganiswa kumgangatho wobomi bam. Nazi iindlela ezimbalwa ezindincede ngazo izinja zam ukujongana neRA yam:

1. Bayinto entle cuddling

Akukho nto ithuthuzela njengokuzisongela inja ecaleni kwam, ngakumbi ukuba ndizifumana ndiphakathi kwento engathandekiyo. Ukuba nenja yam yokulala ecaleni kwam kunciphisa uxinzelelo lwam xa ndisiya kulala, kananjalo. Inja yam ihlala ikhupha ukuncwina xa ifumana indawo elungileyo yokuhlala ubusuku. Yeyona nto inqabileyo, kwaye iyayivuyisa intliziyo yam. Enye inja yam iyathanda ukubeka ecaleni kwam emqolo ebusuku. Ingathi ndikwisandwich yenja.

2. Zindenza ndizive ndithandwa

Uthando lwenja yinto engenamibandela. Nokuba ndiziva njani, indlela endijongeka ngayo, okanye nokuba ndihlambile, izinja zam ziya kuhlala zindithanda. Ngokoluvo lwam, olu hlobo lothando lungcono kunolo ufumana kuninzi lwabantu. Ndingasoloko ndixhomekeke ezinjeni zam. Uthando lwabo lundinceda ukugxila kancinci kwintlungu yam - ndiphazanyiswa yiyo yonke inja ezincamisayo!

3. Ziyandigcina ndihamba

Ukuzigcina usebenze ngentlungu engapheliyo kunzima kakhulu. Ndiyazi ukuba ndingathanda ukuba kwimeko yomntwana esofeni yam egqunywe ngeengubo. Kodwa ukuba nenja akuniki ukhetho. Nditsho nangeyona mihla yam imbi, ndisazifumana ndisiya kukuhamba okufutshane kufutshane nebhloko. Ukuhamba kukhulu kakhulu kungekuphela kwesilwanyana sam, kodwa nakum. Andiqondi nokuba ndiyazilolonga. Kwaye, uvuyo olufunyanwa yinja ekubeni ngaphandle luyosulela. Ukubabona bewonwabisa umsila wabo kundenza ndonwabe, nam.

4. Basoloko bonwabile ukundibona

Ukubuya ekhaya kuqeshwa ugqirha kunokuba nzima ngokweemvakalelo okanye ngokwasengqondweni. Akukho nto idlula ukuvula la mnyango wekhitshi kwinja evuyayo ukundibona! Benza ngathi kudala ndihambile, kwaye uvuyo abalubonakalisayo lunokutshintsha ngokwenene isiphumo somhla wam.

5. Bakwabaphulaphuli abakhulu… Hayi, nyani!

Ndihlala ndizifumana ndincokola nenja yam. Uhleli nje umamele. Ukuba kunokwenzeka ukuba ndiyalila, ukhotha iinyembezi ebusweni bam. Kubonakala ngathi uhlala ekhona kum nokuba sekutheni. Ngokwenene umhlobo wam osenyongweni. Nokuba andithethi amagama, ubonakala esazi ukuba ndimfuna nini kakhulu.

6. Bandigcina ndiphakathi koluntu

Izinto zinokudakumba xa uneentlungu ezingapheliyo, ngakumbi ukuba awusenakuphinda usebenze. Unokuba sisidlakudla xa uziva ngathi uphulukene nenjongo yakho.

Ndilahlekelwe sisazisi sam xa ndiyekile ukwenza iinwele ndathengisa isalon yam. Kodwa okoko ndifumene izinja zam, ndiye ndaphuma ngaphezulu. Ngoku ndizifumana ndiphanda iipaki nomhlobo wam osenyongweni. Sisoloko sisiya kulepaki yenja kwiidolophu ezibiyelweyo. Sidibana nabantu abatsha kwaye senze abahlobo abatsha, nditsho abambalwa abanaRA.

Ndiyazi ukuba ndinomdla wokukhasa kwiqokobhe lam elincinci, kodwa ukuya kwiipaki zenja kunye neeklasi zentlalo yenja kunokuba yindlela entle yokuhlangana nabantu abatsha kunye nokuhlala kunye nesilwanyana sasekhaya, kusigcina sobabini siyinxalenye yehlabathi phaya.

7. Bayandihlekisa

Ubuntu bezinja bunokuba bukhulu kangaka. Andikwazi kungayihleki ezinye zezinto abazenzayo mihla le. Enye yezinja zam iyabhomboloza kumabonwakude xa kukho isilwanyana kuyo. Omnye uthanda ukuphosa iibhola zakhe zerabha phezulu emoyeni, kaninzi-ninzi kwakhona.

Inja ingakwenza wonwabe ngeendlela ezininzi ezahlukeneyo. Ngubani onokujonga iintlungu xa uxakeke kangaka kukuhleka?

8. Bandigcina ndixakekile

Inja ingamgcina umntu exakekile engqondweni. Xa uneqabane, awujolisanga kakhulu ekuguleni okanye kwintlungu.

Ndiyazi ukuba ingqondo yam iye yahlala ixakekile kuba ndizifumene zombini izinja zam. Ukuwahlamba, ukuwondla, ukudlala nawo, ukubukela umabonwakude nawo, kwanokuya kwiindawo kuwo kugcina ezinye ezam iingcinga ezingathandekiyo. Kumnandi ukungabambeki entlokweni yam.

Ukwenza umbono omtsha

Ndaziva ndilahlekile xa kwafunyaniswa ukuba ndine-RA. Kodwa xa aba bantwana babini boboya bangena ebomini bam, izinto zaba ngcono kakhulu kum, ngokwengqondo nangokwasemzimbeni. Ndikulindele ngeempelaveki zethu epakini yenja kunye nabanye abanini bezinja kwaye ndiphume phandle. Nangona kwakungaze kulindelwe ukuba ndibenenja enye ebomini bam, ndingasathethi ke ezibini, andinakucinga usuku ngaphandle kwazo.

UGina Mara kwafunyaniswa ukuba une-RA ngo-2010. Uyayithanda ihoki kwaye unegalelo kwiCreakyJoints. Nxibelelana naye kwi-Twitter @ginasabres.