Ukubaleka ngexesha lokukhulelwa kundilungiselele ukuBeleka

Umxholo

• Iinzuzo Zokubaleka Ngexesha Lokukhulelwa kwam
• Ayenzi ukuba ibelula
• Ukubaleka njengoMama oMtsha
• Uphengululo lwe

"Karla, ubaleka yonke imihla, akunjalo?" Ugqirha wam wokubelekisa wayevakala njengomqeqeshi onikela intetho. Ngaphandle kokuba "umdlalo" wawungumsebenzi kunye nokuhanjiswa.

"Hayi yonke imini," ndatsho ndiphefumlela phezulu.

"Ubaleka iimarathoni!" watsho ugqirha wam. "Ngoku tyhala!"

Xa ndandibeleka, ndavuya gqitha kuba ndandiza kubaleka ngalo lonke ixesha lokukhulelwa kwam.

Ukubaleka ngoxa ukhulisa omnye umntu kwakufana nokuzala. Kwakukho amaxesha amnandi, amaxesha amabi, kunye namaxesha amabi kakhulu. Kodwa ibonakalise ukuba ngamava amahle axabisa yonke i-ahem-bump endleleni.

Iinzuzo Zokubaleka Ngexesha Lokukhulelwa kwam

Ukubaleka kwandinceda ukuba kuqheleke ixesha lobomi bam elaliyinto engekhoyo. Ndaziva ngathi i-parasite yasemzini ithathe umzimba wam, iwonakalisa amandla am, ukulala, ukutya, amajoni omzimba, ukusebenza, umoya, uburharha, imveliso, uyayibiza. (Ukukhulelwa kuza neziphumo ebezingalindelekanga.) Ngokulula, umzimba wam awuzange uzive njengowam. Endaweni yomatshini onokuthenjwa endiza kwazi nothando, umzimba wam waguqulwa waba likhaya lomnye umntu. Ndenze isigqibo ngasinye malunga zonke iinkcukacha zobomi bam ngalo mntu wumbi engqondweni. Bendi "ngumama," kwaye kwathatha ithutyana ukuyisongela ngokupheleleyo ingqondo yam kuloo nto intsha. Ibindishiya ndiziva ndingahambelani nam ngamanye amaxesha.

Kodwa ukubaleka kwakuhlukile. Ukubaleka kundincedile ndaziva ngathi mna. Ndidinga oko kunanini na ngaphambili xa yonke enye into yayiyi-topsy-turvy: isijikelezi-seewotshi, ukugula rhoqo, ukukhathala okudakisayo, kunye nokuziva ungcwele-ndizokhe ndive-mama. Ngapha koko, ukubaleka ibisoloko ilixesha lam elithi “me”, xa ndivala umhlaba ndibila ndikhuphela uxinzelelo. Istroller siyokuthenga kakhulu i-BABY ivenkile iphantse yandinika ukubetha. Kodwa ukuya kubaleka emva koko kwandinceda ndafumana i-zen. Ndijonge ngakumbi emzimbeni wam, engqondweni nakumphefumlo kunalo naliphi na elinye ixesha. Ngokulula, ndihlala ndiziva ndibhetele emva kokubaleka. Inzululwazi iyavuma. I-sesh yokubila enye inokuphucula umoya wakho ngexesha lokukhulelwa, ngokutsho kophononongo kwi Ijenali yoNyango lwezeMidlalo kunye nokuPhila koMzimba.

Ndiye ndancama lonke ithuba endilifumanayo. Kwiinyanga ezine, ndagqiba ukuqubha emanzini ndiyinxalenye yogqatso lwetriathlon, ndaphumelela kuqala kukhuphiswano lweqela. Kwiinyanga ezintlanu, ndabaleka iDisneyland Paris Half Marathon nomyeni wam. Kwaye kumanqaku eenyanga ezintandathu, bendonwabele i-5K enzima kodwa incoko.

Xa kwakunzima, ndandisazi ukuba ndenzela mna nosana lwam into elungileyo. "Ukukhulelwa ngoku kujongwa njengexesha elifanelekileyo kungekuphela nje lokuqhubeka kodwa kunye nokuqalisa indlela yokuphila esebenzayo," ngokutsho kwephepha lakutshanje elipapashwe kwiphephandaba. Ijenali yoMbutho Wezonyango waseMelika. Ukuzivocavoca ngaphambi kokubeleka kunciphisa umngcipheko wokukhulelwa okunje ngesifo seswekile sokukhulelwa, i-preeclampsia, kunye nokuhanjiswa kwe-cesarean, kunciphisa iimpawu eziqhelekileyo zokukhulelwa njengentlungu yomqolo, ukuqunjelwa, kunye nokudinwa, kukhuthaza ukutyeba okunempilo, kwaye komeleze intliziyo kunye nemithambo yegazi. Kungenxa yoko le nto i-American Congress ye-Obstetricians kunye ne-Gynecologists ikhuthaza abantu ababhinqileyo abakhulelweyo ukuba bafumane ubuncinci imizuzu engama-20 yokuzilolonga ngokuzolileyo yonke imihla. Ukubila ngexesha lokukhulelwa kunokunciphisa amaxesha emisebenzi kunye nokunciphisa umngcipheko weengxaki zokuhambisa kunye noxinzelelo lomntwana, ngokutsho kwesifundo esenziwe kwiYunivesithi yaseVermont. (Qiniseka nje ukuba uyazi ukuba ungayiguqula njani imithambo ngokufanelekileyo.)

Iintsana nazo ziyaxhamla; Ukusebenza kwakho ngaphambi kokubeleka kunokunika umntwana wakho intliziyo esempilweni, lutsho uphando olupapashwe kuyo Uphuhliso loluntu lwakwangoko. Baxhotyiswe ngcono ukuphatha uxinzelelo lomntwana, indlela yokuziphatha evuthiweyo kunye ne-neurologically ngokukhawuleza, kwaye banamafutha asezantsi, ngokujonga eSwitzerland. Kananjalo abafane babe neengxaki zokuphefumla.

Ewe ezi zibonelelo bezingahlali zicacile. "Kwiminyaka elishumi eyadlulayo, ngexa ndandikhulelwe intombi yam, ugqirha wam wamazinyo wandenza ndangena kuzo zonke ezi mvavanyo," uphethe irekhodi lomama kunye nelomdyarho ophumeleleyo uPaula Radcliffe wandixelela kwiDisneyland Paris Half Marathon. URadcliffe uthe ugqirha wakhe wayethandabuza malunga nokubaleka ngexesha lokukhulelwa. "Ekugqibeleni, ngokwenene wathi, 'Ndifuna ngokwenene ukuxolisa ngokukoyikisa kakhulu. Umntwana usempilweni ngokwenene. Ndiza kuxelela bonke oomama bam abenza umthambo ukuba baqhubeke."

Ayenzi ukuba ibelula

Ngamanye amaxesha ukusebenza ngexesha lokukhulelwa kwakunzima kakhulu. Ndibaleke isiqingatha sesibini sokubaleka ngokukhawuleza kwiveki yokuqala yokukhulelwa (kwaye ndomisa amatyeli asibhozo kwinkqubo). Emva kweeveki ezintlanu ndandingakwazi ukuhamba iikhilomitha ezi-3. (Intlonipho enkulu ku-Alysia Montaño okhuphisane kumkhondo we-USA kunye nabemi belizwe ngelixa ekhulelwe.)

"Ndaziva ngathi ndiwile eweni," imbaleki ye-Balance entsha ye-Balance uSara Brown uthi malunga nezo veki zokuqala kuthotho lwe-Run, Mama, Run.

Ukunyuka kwamahomoni kunokubangela amanqanaba okudinwa, ukuphefumla, isicaphucaphu, kunye neseti yezinye iimpawu. Ngamanye amaxesha bendidimazeka, ndiziva ngathi ndiphulukene nawo onke amandla am, amandla am kunye nonyamezelo lwam ngaxeshanye. Imayile yam yeveki eyehliswe ngesiqingatha kwaye ezinye iiveki andinakukwazi ukuyibaleka yonke ngenxa yomkhuhlane (eyoyikisayo!), I-bronchitis, ukubanda, isicaphucaphu seyure yonke, kunye nokudinwa okuphele amandla okuhlala kwiinyanga zam zokuqala ezine. Kodwa bendisoloko ndiziva ndihleli kakubi esofeni yam kunokuba bendisenza ngelixa ndibaleka, ndiye ndagabha, ndigabha, ndomisa umoya kwaye ndifunxa umoya omninzi wendlela.

Okuvuyisayo kukuba, ndawufumana umoya namandla am kwakhona kwikota yesibini. Ukubaleka kwaba ngumhlobo wam kwakhona, kodwa kwazisa umhlobo omtsha-umnqweno osoloko ukho wokuchama. Kanye xa ndaziva ndomelele ngokwaneleyo ukuba ndingahamba ixesha elide kuneekhilomitha ezi-3, uxinzelelo kwisinyi sam lwenza ukuba kungenzeki ngaphandle kwekhefu lokuhlambela. Ndenze imephu yokuma emngxunyeni ecaleni kweendlela zam ndaza ndajika ndaya kumatshini wokunyathela, apho bendinokuphuma khona kwigumbi lokuhlambela ngokulula. Ukuba akukho enye into, ukubaleka ngexesha lokukhulelwa kwandinyanzela ukuba ndenze ubuchule. (Inxulumene: Lo mfazi ugqibile i-60th Ironman Triathlon Ngelixa ukhulelweyo)

Ndikhankanyile ukugabha? Ewe kufanelekile ukukhankanya kwakhona. Ndihambile ndaya esitratweni ndiphinda ndibuyela ndaza ndaziva ndisiva ivumba elibi lenkunkuma kunye nomchamo wezinja. Ngexesha lokubaleka, kuye kwafuneka ukuba nditsalele ecaleni kwendlela xa iliza lobuzaza lindihlambile-kaninzi ngexesha lekota yokuqala, kodwa nakwiinyanga ezingaphaya.

Ukuba ukujula phakathi ekubalekeni akuyoyiki ngokwaneleyo, khawufane ucinge umntu ohexayo ngelixa uyenza. Ewe, ama-naysayers asekhona. Ngombulelo, zazinqabile. Kwaye xa umntu eneneni Ndiyazi Ndathetha phezulu ("Nguwe Qiniseka bekufanele ukuba usabaleka?") Ndazixakekisa ngezibonelelo zempilo, ndathi ugqirha wam uxelelwe ukuba ndiqhubeke ndibaleka, kwaye ndachaza ukuba uluvo lobuthathaka obukhulelweyo luluvo lwakudala kakhulu, oluyingozi ngokuyingozi kakhulu. Ewe, thina wayenayo loo ncoko. (Ingcamango yokuba ukwenza umthambo ngelixa ukhulelwe kukubi kuwe yintsomi.)

Kodwa oko kwakungeyona nto imbi kakhulu. Ndixinze umsipha esifubeni sam xa imidlalo yam yemidlalo ibingasakwazi ukuphatha amandla amabele am akhula ngokukhawuleza. Kwakubuhlungu oko. Ndifumene ikhabethe elitsha leyona bras yenkxaso iphezulu.

Umzuzu ombi kakhulu? Xa ndigqiba kwelokuba ndiyeke ukubaleka. Ngeeveki ezingama-38, iisoseji zam iinyawo zam zaziziva ngathi ziza kuqhuma. Ndikhuphe imitya kuzo zonke iiteki zam kwaye ezinye bezingazukubopha tu. Ngaxeshanye, intombi yam "yehla" endaweni. Uxinzelelo olongezelelweyo kwi-pelvis yam lwenza ukubaleka kakhulu. Khangela isikhalo esibi. Ndaziva ngathi ndilahlekelwe ngumhlobo wam wakudala, umntu owayenaye, ngokoqobo, wayenam ebunzimeni nasebubini. Ukubaleka yayihlala ihleli kubomi bam obutshintsha ngokukhawuleza. Xa ugqirha wam wakhwaza, "Tyhila!" okokugqibela, ubomi buqale ngokutsha.

Ukubaleka njengoMama oMtsha

Ndiqale kwakhona ukubaleka, ngentsikelelo ye-doc yam, kwiiveki ezintlanu ezinesiqingatha emva kokubeleka umntwana oyintombazana osempilweni. Ngelo xesha, ndandihamba yonke imihla, ndityhala intombi yam kwisitrato sayo. Akukho kubetha okwangoku. Zonke iinyanga zokubaleka ngaphambi kokubeleka zandinceda ukuba ndilungele indima yam entsha njengomama.

Ngoku iinyanga ezili-9 ubudala, intombi yam sele indonwabisile kwimidyarho emine kwaye ithanda ukusondeza izandla zayo nasedolweni. Kancinci ayazi ukuba ulungiselela i-diaper yakhe yokuqala kwi-Disney Princess Half Marathon, apho ndiya kubaleka emva kokubeleka kwam i-13.1-mayile. Ndiyathemba ukubaleka kwam kuya kumkhuthaza ukuba enze ukuba qete kube yeyona nto iphambili ebomini bakhe, kanye njengokuba kwakunjalo ngeentsuku zakhe zokuqala.

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