Indlela yokwenza iSex yeshawa emangalisa ngokwenene

Umxholo

• Iingcebiso zeNgcali malunga nendlela yokuSebenzisa iSondo
• 1. Ukuhlambana kwenzeni kube sisenzo esihendayo ngokwako.
• 2. Thatha ukhuseleko uluthathele ingqalelo.
• 3. Musa ukwenza ulonwabo luxhomekeke kwiintlobano zesini.
• 4. Fumana ilube.
• 5. Musa ukoyika ukuzisa iithoyi.
• Ngaphezulu kwayo yonke enye into, khumbula oku.
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Ukwabelana ngesondo kwishawari kunomoya wokonwaba kwaye unomtsalane - kwaye ngesizathu esihle. Ukuba namanzi ashushu ahamba phezu kwemizimba yenu, ukuhlambana omnye nomnye ngeesepha ezithandekayo, kunye nokuhlanjwa kweenwele omnye nomnye kuyinto evuselela inkanuko. Kukho into eshushu kakhulu malunga nokungcola okuncinci xa ucoceka. (Kwakhona, yindawo yokubamba ixesha lokwabelana ngesondo!)

Kodwa eneneni ukuba Isondo leshawari lifana nomqobo omkhulu wokugqibela kwindawo yethu yesondo. Sonke sithetha ngayo, kodwa akukho mntu ubonakala eyazi indlela yokulala ngesondo kunye naluphi na ubabalo (okanye i-orgasms). Ngethamsanqa, nazi iingcebiso ezimbalwa zobungqina bobudenge bokumisa ukubhideka. Nasi isikhokelo sakho esingenangqondo sendlela yokuhlambela ngesondo kumnandi, kumnandi, kwaye kuyonwabisa.

Iingcebiso zeNgcali malunga nendlela yokuSebenzisa iSondo

1. Ukuhlambana kwenzeni kube sisenzo esihendayo ngokwako.

Into yokuqala kunye neyona nto ibalulekileyo ekufuneka uyazi malunga nokuba nesini eshaweni kukuba i-mindset yiyo yonke into. * Ugqaliso lwezinto ezingathandekiyo kufuneka lube kumava onke okuba kunye kunye, hayi ukuba ungakhawuleza njani ukufumana umntu Ilungu lobudoda okanye lokudlala kwilungu lobufazi lomnye umntu. (Jonga: Iimbono ze-Foreplay zishushu kunokungena ngokwazo)

Yazi xa uphuma ebhafini uziva njani super zen? Kungenxa yokuba amanzi afudumeleyo anceda ukukhulula izihlunu zakho kunye nokuzola inkqubo yakho yemfesane enovelwano, elawula imisebenzi engazibandakanyi (njengokuphefumla) kunye nokuphendula kwakho kokuphumla. Ukuba inkqubo yakho yemfesane yovelwano ayikho kwimowudi ebandayo, yenza ukuba kube nzima ukuba umzimba wakho uzole ngokwaneleyo ukuze uvuswe ngokupheleleyo ngokwesondo. (Ngakumbi apha: Ukonyusa njani iSex Drive yakho)

Ukuze uvumele amanzi afudumeleyo ukuba enze umsebenzi wawo, thatha ixesha lakho kwaye nenze ukuhlambana omnye komnye. Hlamba iinwele zeqabane lakho kwaye bahlambe ezakho. Hlabani imizimba yomnye nomnye ngesepha. Hlikihla izihlunu zakho ezibuhlungu kwaye uchukumisane kuyo yonke indawo. Nobabini niya kuphelela emtyibilizini kakhulu. (Olo luvo lunokuziva lumangalisa, kodwa lumka: Gcina isepha kude kwilungu lobufazi, njengoko inokuthi ikhokelele kusulelo olunje nge-bacterial vaginosis kunye nosulelo lwegwele. kakuhle kuqala.)

Emva kokuba uhlambe i-shampoo yakho kwaye ubeke i-conditioner, kukho ithuba elaneleyo lokukhohlisa kwaye ngelixa ulinde imveliso ukwenza umlingo wayo. Cinezela iqabane lakho kwicala leshawa kwaye nibe neseshoni eshushu nesindayo. Unokuba neetres ezithambileyo kwaye i-orgasms. Akukho mfuneko yokukhetha.

2. Thatha ukhuseleko uluthathele ingqalelo.

Usenokuzibuza nokuba ungayenza njani isini eshaweni ngaphandle kokuziva njengeklutz iyonke- okanye uzenzakalise wena okanye iqabane lakho. Ukuqala, fumana imathi yeshawa ukuze uthintele ukutyibilika. Inceda ukwenza isithinteli phakathi kweshawari enesepha kunye neenyawo zakho. (Into yokugqibela nabani na ayifunayo luhambo oluya e-ER kuba befuna ukuyifumana eshaweni kwaye khange bathathe nyathelo.)

Xa kuziwa kwindawo yokuhlambela ngesondo, zigcine zilula. Awudingi ukuphakamisa iqabane lakho emhlabeni ukuze ulale ngesondo. Njengomthetho wesithupha, qiniseka ukuba zihlala zikhona iinyawo ezintathu ezityalwe ngokuqinileyo emhlabeni-okt. zozibini iinyawo zeqabane lakho kwaye enye yeyakho. (Ufuna izinto ezibonwayo? Jonga olu luhlu lweendawo zokwabelana ngesondo ezifanelekileyo.)

Ngokubanzi, kucetyiswa ukuba unamathele kwi-handjobs, i-clit rubbing, kunye nesondo somlomo. Unokonwaba ngakumbi ukwenza ezinye izinto ngaphandle kokwabelana ngesondo.

3. Musa ukwenza ulonwabo luxhomekeke kwiintlobano zesini.

Kwelo nqaku, musa ukwenza yonke into malunga ne-P-in-the-V ngesondo. Ukwabelana ngesondo akupheli ngokulalana, nokuba sisiphi na isini. Ukuba nesondo ngeshawa akumnandi xa unyanzelisa ukulala ngesondo njengokugqibela-konke-konke-injongo. Ngapha koko, musa ukwenza ii-orgasms iinjongo nokuba. Ukuba unayo, kuhle. Ukuba akunjalo, nayo ipholile.

Isitshixo sokulala ngesondo esimangalisayo kukuyisebenzisa njengendlela yokujonga imizimba yomnye nomnye kunye namandla akho okonwaba. Ukuba ucinga ngakumbi njengesibheno sokuzonwabisa okumnandi kwigumbi lokulala emva kokuhlamba, uya kuhlala kulo mzuzu ngaphandle koxinzelelo lokufuna ukuba nabani na eze.

4. Fumana ilube.

Ukuba ukhe wazama kwaye wasilela ukwabelana ngesondo ngokungena kwishawari, usenokuba uphoswe licandelo eliphambili lendlela yokwabelana ngesondo ngeshawa: ukuthambisa. Amanzi, ngelixa ubuchwepheshe "bumanzi" abenzi i-lube efanelekileyo. Ngapha koko, ihlamba i-lubrication yendalo enokwenziwa lilungu lakho lobufazi ngelixa uchukumisana phantsi kweshawa. Qinisekisa ukugcina i-silicone okanye i-oyile esekwe kufutshane. Zama i-Pjur lube (Yithenge, $ 30, ellaparadis.com), Uberlube (Yithenge, $ 20, babeland.com, kunye ne-SKYN Yonke Ubusuku Obude (Yithenge, $ 7, target.com) lube lokuzonwabisa lokuhlamba.

Gcina ukhumbule ukuba i-oil-based lubes ayihambelani neekhondom ze-latex (kuba zithobisa izinto eziphathekayo), ngoko qiniseka ukuba usebenzisa ukhuseleko (okuthi, ahem, kufuneka ube ukuba wena okanye iqabane lakho alizange livavanywe. kutshanje).

Xa ungathandabuzeki, kukho i-lube esekwe emanzini. Ngelixa ingenawo amandla okuhlala e-silicone okanye ioyile esekwe kwioyile, yikhondomu ye-latex- kunye nesondo-yokudlala ekhuselekileyo (ngakumbi koku kulandelayo). Zama i-lubes esekwe emanzini ezinje ngothando oluCocekileyo oluLungileyo (Thenga yona, $ 7, target.com), Gcina iNdalo (Yithenge, $ 13, igrove.co), kunye nePjur Aqua (Yithenge, $ 20, babeland.com), eziyi paraben-, preservative-, kunye ne-glycerin-free. I-FYI: I-vulva yakho kunye nelungu lobufazi yimbumba yangaphakathi (njengaphakathi komlomo wakho), ebenza ukuba batye kakhulu. Ngentsingiselo, awufuni ukusebenzisa nantoni na ngemichiza okanye ezinye izinto ongafuniyo ukuba zingene emzimbeni wakho. (Ngaphezulu apha: Yonke into ekufuneka uyazi ngeLube)

5. Musa ukoyika ukuzisa iithoyi.

Musa ukoyika ukufumana izinto zokudlala ezenzweni. Kukho iithoyi zesondo ezingenamanzi ezoyikisayo ezinjenge-Unbound's Bender (Yithenge, $29, unboundbabes.com) okanye iWomanizer Starlet (Yithenge, $94,$106, ellaparadis.com) ezilungele isondo leshawa. I-Bender ithambile kwaye kulula ukugoba kuyo nayiphi na i-engile onokuthi uyifune-iluncedo ngakumbi kuba ukuguquguquka ngundoqo kwiimeko zesini seshawa. I-Womanizer, i-clit-suction-vibrator-style vibrator, kulula kakhulu ukuyisebenzisa, enokuba luncedo xa umtyibilizi kwaye umanzi. Ilinganisa isondo ngomlomo xa ubeka umlomo ngomlomo ngaphezulu kweklitorikhi. Ukwenza ukuba kube mnandi ngakumbi, ungafumana i-ducky vibrator yerabha (Yithenge, $ 38, babeland.com) ukuze ilingane ngokugqibeleleyo kwindawo yokulala ngesondo.

Ingcebiso yepro: Ungalibali ukwenza izixhobo zakho ngaphambi kokuba uzisebenzise. Ungagcina ibhotile ekhethiweyo yelube kunye nethoyi kwindawo yeshawari ukwenzela olu setyenziso lukhethekileyo. Qiniseka ukuba uyayihlamba into yokudlala phakathi kwakho konke ukusetyenziswa njengoko inokuqokelela uthuli kunye nesepha scum (ayintle). Izinto zokudlala zesondo ezingakumbi onazo kwindawo nganye yendlu, ngcono!

Ukuba uzibophelele ekuhlambeni ngesondo kwirej, isitulo sokuhlambela okanye isitulo ngumdlalo otshintshayo. Ngayo, ungazama izikhundla ezininzi ngakumbi. Zama i-Lotus, eneneni indawo ye-Tantric yesini enomdla kakhulu, ukuba unesihlalo okanye ibhentshi: Iqabane lakho lihlala esitulweni kwaye uthobe kwilungu labo lobudoda okanye i-dildo. Uyangxama ngapha nangapha ngamanzi ashushu ahamba phezu kwakho.

Ngaphezulu kwayo yonke enye into, khumbula oku.

Eyona nto ithathwayo apha kukuba akukho ndlela ichanekileyo okanye echanekileyo yendlela yokwabelana ngesondo ngeshawa. Kungonwabisa ngokwenene ukuba nje unengqondo elungileyo. Sukulindela ukuthandana nge-rom-com okanye ukungqamanisa; ngqiyama ekudlaleni, kwaye ukonwabele ukuhleka, ukukhubeka, kunye nokuzonwabisa kuko konke. Ukuba ufumanisa ukuba ayikokwakho, kukho izinto ezizezinye zesondo ezikhoyo kuwe. Okukhona wonwabe ngakumbi wonke umntu, kokukhona kubhetele.

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