Indlela yokwabelana ngesondo ngokukhuselekileyo xa ulala nomnye umfazi

Umxholo

• Kutheni iSex ibalulekile kuye wonke umntu *
• Iminwe kunye nokuBetha
• Ukwabelana ngesondo ngomlomo okanye iimpundu
• Isikere
• Umtya-kwi-Sex
• Ngaba unemibuzo engakumbi?
• Uphengululo lwe

Kuhle! Ulala nomnye umntu obhinqileyo, kwaye oko kuthetha ukuba awunakukhathazeka malunga nokukhuselwa okanye iikhondom, akunjalo? Ingxolo yebuzzer

Akulunganga.

Ukuba ucinga ukuba ulala nomntu wesini esinye okanye umntu obhinqileyo (nangona kunjalo uyichonga okanye uyichaza loo nto!) Ayinabungozi okanye uye waba no-doc ukugxotha incoko yesini esikhuselekileyo emva kokufunda ukuba abo ulala nabo bangabanye abantu abane-vaginas, awuwedwa. Kukho ukunqongophala okunzulu kolwazi olukhoyo kubasetyhini abathandana nabasetyhini kunye nabasetyhini abathandanayo nabasetyhini, utshilo umongikazi u-Emily Rymland, FNP-C, DNP, ogxile kukhathalelo lwe-HIV kwaye esebenza njengophuhliso lwezonyango olukhokelayo kunye ne-Nurx, iqonga lempilo yezesondo.

Kutheni kukho ulwazi oluncinci kangaka malunga nesondo esikhuselekileyo se-lesbian? Kwelinye icala, ulwazi malunga nokhuseleko lwe-LGBTQ+ ngesondo lulahlekile kakhulu kwiinkqubo ezininzi zokufundisa ngesondo: Olunye uphando lufumanise ukuba kuphela yi-4 pesenti yabafundi be-LGBTQ+ abafundiswa ulwazi olwakhayo malunga nabantu be-LGBTQ+ kwiiklasi zabo zempilo. "Kukho ugxininiso olugqithisileyo malunga nokukhulelwa kunye nokukhulelwa kwinkqubo yokufundisa ngesondo ukuba, ngenxa yokuba abasetyhini kunye nabasetyhini abalala nabanye abanini-vulva abakwazi ukukhulelwa, bazive bekhuselekile," utsho. (Bona: I-Sex Ed ifuna kakhulu i-Makeover)

Kwelinye icala, "inkqubo yezonyango xa iyonke ayikhululekanga ngokuthetha ngento yokuba abantu basetyhini balala nabanye abantu basetyhini kunye nendlela yokwenza oko ngokukhuselekileyo," utsho uRymland. Uphando luxhasa ibango lakhe: Olunye uphononongo lwe-2019 lufumanise ukuba ngaphantsi kweepesenti ezingama-40 zoqeqesho kwezempilo zivakalelwa kukuba banokuzilungisa ngokuzithemba iimfuno ezithile zamalungu oluntu lwe-LGBTQ +. Ngaphantsi kwesiqingatha kubi kakhulu, bantu. (Akuphelelanga apho. Funda: Kutheni uluntu lwe-LGBTQ lufumana ukhathalelo lwempilo olubi ngakumbi kunooNtanga babo abaNgqongileyo)

Kutheni iSex ibalulekile kuye wonke umntu *

Okokuqala, "abasetyhini abalala nabanye abantu basetyhini bayasinda kwii-STI," utshilo uRymland. Abantu baso nasiphi na isini, amalungu esini, okanye isini banokusayina i-STI. Ukuba awusazi isimo sakho se-STI, iqabane lakho elizayo alizazi ubume babo be-STI, kwaye / okanye omnye wenu okwangoku une-STI, usulelo lwe-STI lunokwenzeka.

Ukuthetha ngesimo sakho se-STI kunye neqabane lakho (nokuba siphi na isini!) Kubalulekile ekunikezeleni imvume enolwazi, uyacacisa ugqirha wezesondo kunye notitshala we-STI uEmily Depasse. Nangona kunjalo, kuphela liipesenti ezi-5 zabantu abavavanywe kwinyanga ephelileyo, iipesenti ezingama-34 zavavanywa kunyaka ophelileyo, kwaye iipesenti ezingama-37 ziye zavavanywazange kuvavanywe, ngokutsho kophando lwakutshanje yiSuperdrug Online Doctor, umboneleli ngenkonzo esekwe e-UK. Ewe. (Awunasizathu: ngoku unokuvavanywa ii-STD ekhaya.)

Kungenxa yoko le nto uRymland esitshongcono Isicwangciso sokusebenza kukuba bobabini (okanye bonke) amaqela avavanywe ngaphambi kokulala kunye okokuqala, kwaye uqiniseke ukuba ufumana ipaneli epheleleyo yovavanyo (gonorrhea, chlamydia, trichomoniasis, herpes, HPV, HIV, hepatitis B , kunye nemolluscum contagiosum). Kodwa noRymland uyavuma ukuba ayisiyonyani - kwaye kulapho iindlela zokwabelana ngesondo ezikhuselekileyo zingena khona.

Ukuba wena neqabane lakho niye navavanywa kwaye yonke into ibonakala icacile, yazini ukuba ii-STI asikuphela kwento exhalabisayo; Abafazi abalala nabanye abafazinangoku Emngciphekweni wezinye izinto ezingonwabisiyo njengokulimala ngokwesondo, ii-microtears, bacterial vaginosis, kunye nee-UTIs. (Idibeneyo: Kutheni ukuba neentlobano zesini neqabane elitsha kunokuthumela ubufazi bakho)

Idatha intle kakhulu, kodwa izifundo ezimbalwa ziye zacebisa ukuba abafazi abalala nabasetyhini babaluleke kakhuluKaninzi kunokwenzeka ukuba ube ne-bacterial vaginosis xa kuthelekiswa nabasetyhini abathandanayo. Kwaye kunokubakho umngcipheko ophezulu wokuba abanini be-vulva badlulise usulelo lwegwele emva-kunye-ngaphandle komnye nomnye.

Kungenxa yoko le nto sibuze uRymland kunye no-Allison Moon, umbhali-mbhaliUkwabelana ngesondo kwamantombazana 101, edunyiswa njengeTHE Isikhokelo esikhuselekileyo sesini sabasetyhini abakhulayo, ukucacisa umngcipheko onokubakho onxulunyaniswa nezinye zezenzo zesondo eziqhelekileyo phakathi kwabanini babanikazi bobufazi kunye nokuba nesondo esithandanayo esikhuselekileyo.

Iminwe kunye nokuBetha

Iminwe, isini esencwadini, ukuphulula amalungu esini, isiseko sesithathu- nantoni na oyibizayo- kubandakanya ukunamathela omnye okanye nangaphezulu kwiminwe yelungu lobufazi, kwaye yeyona ndlela ilula yokuba neentlobano zesini ezikhuselekileyo.

Eyona nto ibalulekileyo apha kukuhlamba izandla kwaye wenze iqabane lakho lihlambe izandla ngaphambi kokuba nayiphi na iminwe iye naphi na. "Ngaba uyafuna nyani zonke iintsholongwane kuzo zonke iidola, isigarethi, ibhotile yebhiya, njl njl. Ubuza inyanga. Um, isihogo hayi awunjalo.

Kwaye i-manicure yakho ibalulekile. Izikhonkwane ezimfutshane, ezigudileyo zingcono kule meko. Nawuphi na umqukumbelo ongajonganga nto unokucaphukisa udonga lwangaphakathi lobufazi kwaye wenze iinyembezi ezincinci ezonyusa umngcipheko wosulelo, utshilo uMoon. Kwakhona, oh. (Idibeneyo: Kutheni iVagina Itch Itch?)

Ezinye iingcali zide zicebise ukuba unxibe iglavu okanye ikhondomu yomnwe xa usabelana ngesondo ngesandla - ngakumbi ukuba une-hangnail okanye usikeka kwiminwe okanye esandleni. Nanini na xa ukhe waphuka esikhumbeni, ufuna ukunxiba iglavu okanye ikhondom yomnwe kuba nayiphi na ibhaktheriya ekwilungu lobufazi inokukhokelela kusulelo,” utshilo uRymland. (Yiya kwisibini esenziwe nge-latex engenamgubo okanye i-nitrile, into ekumgangatho wezonyango ithathwa njengeyona ndlela ilungileyo kubantu abane-allergies ye-latex.)

Gcina ukhumbula ukuba isandla sinokusebenza njengevector, uyachaza. Oko kuthetha ukuba xa ubamba iqabane lakho ngaphandle kweglavu kwaye iqabane lakho linechlamydia okanye gonorrhea, emva koko uzichukumise kamva xa usabelana ngesondo, kunokwenzeka ukuba usulelo lusasazeke kuwe. Ukunxiba isikhuseli ngelixa ubambe iqabane lakho ngomnwe, emva koko ukulahla iglavu emva kokuba inyani inceda ukuphelisa umngcipheko, utshilo.

Ukuba uthatha isigqibo sokuya kwinqanaba lokuzibetha, uninzi lweendlela ezikhuselekileyo zesini ezimiyo. (Ukuba uyazibuza "kanjani ?!" Ithemba, ukubetha inokuba yindlela emnandi kakhulu yokwenza imvakalelo yokugcwala, cinezela ngokuchasene nendawo yakho ye-G kunye ne-A-spot, kwaye udlale ngamandla emandla.)

Kwakhona, hlamba izandla zakho-ngokufanelekileyo konke indlela eya engqinibeni. Enye into engenakuxoxwa? ILube. "Ufuna ukuhamba ngokwenene, ucotha ngokwenene kwaye usebenzise i-lube eninzi ecaleni lokuvula i-vaginal kunye naso sonke isandla sakho," kusho iNyanga. (Nantsi yonke into oyifunayo ukuba uyazi malunga ne-lube-kunye nezinye zezona zilungileyo zokuthenga.)

"Umntuukwenza Inqindi alikho emngciphekweni wazo naziphi na ii-STIs ngaphandle kokuba kamva basebenzise eso sandla ukuzibamba okanye ukusibeka emlonyeni wabo,” utshilo uRymland. Nangona kunjalo, iNyanga icebisa ukuba unxibe iglavu kuba iya kubamba isithambiso ngcono kunesandla sakho seze. "Kwaye, ngeiglavu, ungabona ukuba akukho zindawo zomileyo kwiglavu, ukuze wazi ukuba awusebenzisi ngokwaneleyo, utshilo. Inqaku lokususwa kwesandla:" Xa iqabane lakho lilungile , bavumele ukuba bakhuphe umoya omde owomeleleyo, oya kunceda ukukhulula izihlunu kwaye kukuvumela ukuba ukhuphe isandla sakho ngokulula," utshilo uNyanga.

Ukwabelana ngesondo ngomlomo okanye iimpundu

Umngcipheko wokudluliselwa kwe-STI, ngokwezibalo, kunokuba sezantsi ngexesha lokwabelana ngesondo ngesandla. Okufanayo *akunakuthethwa* ngesondo somlomo - nokuba sisibhino sokwabelana ngesondo ngomlomo okanye ngesondo ngomlomo kunye nalo naliphi na elinye iqabane. "Ukuba une-STI yomlomo okanye yomqala kwaye wenza i-cunnilingus komnye umntu, ungayihambisa i-STI kwizitho zakhe zangasese," utshilo uRymland. Ngokukwanjalo, uthi, "ukuba wenza umlomo ngomntu one-STI yesini, kunokwenzeka ukuba isasazeke emlonyeni okanye emqaleni."

I-Unforch, uninzi lwe-STIs zangasese azinazimpawu kwaphela, ngokutsho koMbutho wezeMpilo weHlabathi, kwaye "uphawu oluxhaphakileyo lwe-STI yomlomo ngumqala obuhlungu ongahambi nomkhuhlane, ngokutsho kukaRymlan, ekulula kakhulu ukuyibhala. (Jonga ngaphezulu: Yonke into ekufuneka uyazi ngee-STD zomlomo)

Yiyo loo nto iNyanga kunye neRymland becebisa ukuba kusetyenziswe idama lamazinyo (cinga: kufana nekhondom enkulu, ethe tyaba) xa kusenziwa i-cunnilingus, uphando olubonisa ukuba yindlela esebenzayo yokuthintela ii-STIs ezinolwelo. Ungasusa incam yekhondom kwaye uyicande phakathi (jonga oku kubonakala kumaziko oLawulo lweSifo kunye noThintelo) okanye usebenzise isongelo seSaran ukuba awunawo amadama amazinyo.

Ngenxa yokuba amadama amazinyo anokuziva encangathi okanye ekrwada ngokuchasene neclit kunye ne-labia, iNyanga icebisa ukuba kubekwe ilube kwicala le-vulva ledama lamazinyo. Ungasusa idama lamazinyo ngokulisebenzisa ukudlala umdlalo wesondo ngomlomo, utshilo. "Unako ukudala ukucoceka okucocekileyo okanye ukutsala imvakalelo kunye nedama kwi-vulva yeqabane lakho."

I-BTW: Kuya kufuneka ubambe idamu lamazinyo xa usabelana ngesondo ngomlomo. "Ukuba wenza i-anilingus kwiqabane lakho, i-gonorrhea chlamydia, i-syphilis, i-herpes, i-HPV, i-hepatitis, i-E. "Ukuba umntu une-parasites kwaye usabelana ngesondo ngomlomo-ezimpundu kunye naye usengozini yezo zifunxi-gazi." (Ngaba unama-Qs amaninzi? Jonga esi sikhokelo kwisini esini.)

Isikere

Mamela, isikere sifumana i-rap embi-kwaye hayi * wonke umntu ophethe i-vulva ungaphezulu kwesi sikhundla. Kodwa ukuba uliQela leClitoral Stimulation, isikere (okanye tribbing, njengoko kubizwa njalo ngamanye amaxesha) inokuba yindlela ENTSHA ENTSHA yokuba neentlobano zesini zesini.

I-ICYDK, isikere kubandakanya ukuphulula i-vulva yakho komnye umntu, nakweyiphi na indawo okanye nakweyiphi na itempo evayo kamnandi kuni nobabini. (Ukufunda ngakumbi malunga nokusika, jonga: Isikhokelo seZona ndawo ziBalulekileyo zeSini seSini kunye neZinto ezili-12 zokwazi malunga ne-Scissoring)

Kodwa, ukukhangela akukho ngaphandle komngcipheko. Ngapha koko, iskiss is theUbuncinci isenzo sokuziphatha ngokwesini esikhuselekileyo kuba sibandakanya ukudibana ngqo ne-vulva kunye nokuhanjiswa kolwelo, utsho uMoon. Ukubeka nje, ii-STI ezisasazeka ngonxibelelwano lolusu (njenge-herpes kunye ne-HPV) nangamanzi obufazi (njenge-chlamydia, i-gonorrhea kunye ne-HPV) zonke zinokudluliselwa ngeli xesha lokuhamba. Kukho ukubakho kwengozi eyandayo ye-bacterial vaginosis okanye usulelo lwegwele emva kokukrala.

Yiyo loo nto iNyanga icebisa ukuba kufakwe ilube kumacala omabini edama lamazinyo kwaye ube neqabane elinye liyitsale icoke phakathi kwemizimba yakho njengokusila kwakho, i-hump kunye nokuhlikihla kunye. Unokuzama neLoral, eneengubo zangaphantsi ezinedama lamazinyo elakhelweyo. Kushushu kwakhona: Isikisi ngeempahla; zama iileggings. :

Umtya-kwi-Sex

Ukuba uyakonwabela ukungenwa, i-strap-on-sex lukhetho olukhulu kuba iqabane lakho linokungena nge-dildo ngelixa zingenazo zombini izandla zeminye ~imisebenzi ~. (Molo, ingono yengqondo.)

Kubaqalayo, uya kufuna ukuqinisekisa ukuba i-dildo yakho yenziwe ngezinto ezingenayo i-porous kwaye i-harness kulula ukuyihlamba. (Ngolwazi oluthe kratya malunga nokuba ungayithenga njani into yokudlala ekhuselekileyo kunye nekhwalithi esemgangathweni, jonga esi sikhokelo sokuthenga).

Okulandelayo, wena neqabane lakho niza kufuna ukuqala ukucotha, ukusebenzisa i-lube, kunye nokunxibelelanaokuninzi. Ukuba uliqabane elibotshelelwe ngaphakathi, yazi ukuba ukunqongophala kwe-biofeedback kunokuba nzima kakhulu. Umzekelo, awunakuziva xa i-dildo yakho ibethe iqabane lakho lomlomo wesibeleko, kodwa iqabane lakho liya kuthi!

Owona mngcipheko mkhulu wokosulela ngesifo se-STI okanye usulelo ngesondo olubhinqileyo luyenzeka ukuba wena neqabane lakho nabelana ngesixhobo esifanayo kunye ne-dildo, utshilo uMoon. “Xa kunjalo, zombini ii-vulvas zakho ziya kukhuhla kwindawo enye,” utshilo. "Ke ukuba uza kutshintshela, licebo elihle ukusebenzisa iikhondom kwi-dildo ukuze ungazihlambisi phakathi kokusebenzisa, kwaye omabini amaqabane abe nezixhobo zawo zokubopha, utshilo. (Idibeneyo: Eyona ndlela yokuCoca iithoyi zakho zesondo)

Ewe, ungasebenzisa umtya kwi-sex ye-anal nayo. Kule nto, "qiniseka ukuba awusoze uphume ekungeneni kwi-anal ukuya kwi-vaginal ngaphandle kokutshintshisa ikhondom okanye ukuhlamba into yokudlala," kusho uNyanga. Ukuya kwi-anus ukuya kwilungu lobufazi kunokuzisa iibhaktheriya ezingafunekiyo ezonyusa umngcipheko we-bacterial vaginosis.

Ngaba unemibuzo engakumbi?

Iyavakala loo nto. Oku kuqala kuphela ukugubungela iziseko. Thatha kumfazi olala nabanye abafazi; kukho iindlela ezininzi zokwabelana ngesondo onokuzonwabela (*qhwanyaza*). Ke, ukuba unemibuzo emininzi malunga nokwabelana ngesondo ngokukhuselekileyo, qiniseka ukuba ubuza ukubuza umboneleli wakho wezononophelo lwempilo okanye kwanegcisa kwivenkile yakho yezesondo yasekuhlaleni. Okwangoku, nantsi indlela yokuba nesondo elikhuselekileyo nelonwabisayo, ngokweengcali; ukuba neentlobano zesini ezikhuselekileyo ngokubanzi, nokuba liqabane; kunye nesikhokelo sangaphakathi sokulala nomnye umfazi okokuqala.

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