Zithini iinzuzo zokuwola?

Umxholo

• 1. Ukuwola kunciphisa uxinzelelo ngokubonisa inkxaso yakho
• 2. Ukuwolana kunokukukhusela ekuguleni
• 3. Ukuwolana kunokuyinyusa impilo yentliziyo yakho
• 4. Ukuwola kunokukwenza wonwabe
• 5. Ukuwolana kunceda ukunciphisa uloyiko lwakho
• 6. Ukuwolana kunokukunceda ukunciphisa iintlungu
• 7. Ukuwolana kukunceda unxibelelane nabanye
• Zingaphi iihagu esizifunayo?

Sanga abanye xa sonwabile, sonwabile, sibuhlungu, okanye sizama ukuthuthuzela. Ukugona, kubonakala ngathi kuyathuthuzela kwindalo iphela. Kusenza sizive simnandi. Kwaye kuyacaca ukuba ukwangana kuqinisekisiwe ukuba kusenza sibe sempilweni kwaye sonwabe.

Ngokutsho kwezazinzulu, izibonelelo zokuwola zidlulela ngaphaya koluvo lufudumeleyo olufumanayo xa ubambe umntu ezandleni zakho. Funda ukuze ufumane indlela.

1. Ukuwola kunciphisa uxinzelelo ngokubonisa inkxaso yakho

Xa umhlobo okanye ilungu losapho lijongana nento ebuhlungu okanye engathandekiyo ebomini babo, mange.

Oososayensi bathi ukunika omnye umntu inkxaso ngokumchukumisa kunokunciphisa uxinzelelo lomntu othuthuzelwayo. Inganciphisa uxinzelelo lomntu owenza intuthuzelo

Kwesinye kwizibini ezingamashumi amabini ezithandanayo, amadoda anikwa izothuso zombane ezingathandekiyo. Ngexesha lothuko, owasetyhini ngamnye ubambe ingalo yeqabane lakhe.

Abaphandi bafumanise ukuba iinxalenye zengqondo yomfazi ngamnye enxulunyaniswa noxinzelelo ibonakalisa ukunciphisa umsebenzi ngelixa ezo ndawo zinxulunyaniswa nembuyekezo yokuziphatha komama zibonisa umsebenzi omninzi. Xa siwola umntu ukuze simthuthuzele, la malungu engqondo anokubonisa impendulo efanayo.

2. Ukuwolana kunokukukhusela ekuguleni

Iziphumo zokunciphisa uxinzelelo lokwanga zinokusebenzela ukukugcina usempilweni.

Kuphononongo lwabantu abadala abangaphezu kwama-400, abaphandi bafumanise ukuba ukwangana kunokwehlisa amathuba okuba umntu agule. Abathathi-nxaxheba ngenkqubo yenkxaso enkulu kunqabile ukuba bagule. Kwaye abo banenkqubo enkulu yokuxhasa abagulayo babeneempawu ezingalunganga kunalezo zinenkxaso encinci okanye zingenayo kwaphela.

3. Ukuwolana kunokuyinyusa impilo yentliziyo yakho

Ukugona kunokuyilungela impilo yentliziyo yakho. Kwesinye, izazinzulu zahlula iqela labantu abadala abangama-200 laba ngamaqela amabini:

• Elinye iqela lalinamaqabane athandanayo abambana ngezandla kangangemizuzu eli-10 elandelwa kukuwola imizuzwana engama-20.
• Elinye iqela lalinamaqabane athandanayo ahlala ethe cwaka imizuzu eyi-10 kunye nemizuzwana engama-20.

Abantu kwiqela lokuqala babonisa ukuncipha okukhulu kumanqanaba oxinzelelo lwegazi kunye nokubetha kwentliziyo kuneqela lesibini.

Ngokwezi ziphumo, ubudlelwane obunothando bungakulungela impilo yentliziyo.

4. Ukuwola kunokukwenza wonwabe

I-Oxytocin yimichiza emizimbeni yethu maxa wambi izazinzulu ziyibiza ngokuba yi "cuddle hormone." Kungenxa yokuba amanqanaba ayo ayenyuka xa siwola, sichukumisa, okanye sihleli kufutshane nomnye umntu. I-Oxytocin inxulunyaniswa nolonwabo kunye noxinzelelo oluncinci.

Izazinzulu ziye zafumanisa ukuba le hormone inefuthe elomeleleyo kwabasetyhini. I-Oxytocin ibangela ukunciphisa uxinzelelo lwegazi kunye ne-hormone yoxinzelelo norepinephrine.

Olunye uphononongo lufumanise ukuba izibonelelo ezilungileyo ze-oxytocin zazinamandla kwabasetyhini ababenobudlelwane obungcono kunye nokuhlala bethanda ukuhlangana kunye namaqabane abo athandanayo. Abasetyhini babone iziphumo ezincomekayo ze-oxytocin xa bebambe iintsana zabo kufutshane.

5. Ukuwolana kunceda ukunciphisa uloyiko lwakho

Oososayensi bafumanise ukuba ukuchukumisa kunokunciphisa uxinzelelo kubantu abanokuzithemba okuphantsi. Ukuthinta kunokugcina abantu ukuba bangazahluli xa bekhunjuzwa ngokusweleka kwabo.

Bafumanise ukuba nokuthinta into engaphiliyo - kule meko ibhedi e-teddy-incede ukunciphisa uloyiko lwabantu malunga nobukho babo.

6. Ukuwolana kunokukunceda ukunciphisa iintlungu

Uphando lubonisa ukuba ezinye iindlela zokuchukumisa zinokunciphisa iintlungu.

Kwisifundo esinye, abantu abane-fibromyalgia babenezonyango ezintandathu zonyango. Unyango ngalunye lwalubandakanya ukukhanya okuchukumisayo kulusu. Abathathi-nxaxheba baxele ukonyuka komgangatho wobomi kunye nokunciphisa iintlungu.

Ukuwolana lolunye uhlobo lokuchukumisa olunokunceda ukunciphisa iintlungu.

7. Ukuwolana kukunceda unxibelelane nabanye

Unxibelelwano oluninzi lomntu lwenzeka ngamazwi okanye ebusweni. Kodwa ukuchukumisa yenye indlela ebalulekileyo yokuthumela imiyalezo komnye nomnye.

Oososayensi bafumanise ukuba umntu ongamaziyo wayenakho ukubonakalisa iimvakalelo ezahlukeneyo komnye umntu ngokuchaphazela amalungu ahlukeneyo omzimba wabo. Ezinye iimvakalelo ezichaziweyo zibandakanya umsindo, uloyiko, ukwenyanya, uthando, umbulelo, ulonwabo, usizi, kunye novelwano.

Ukuwolana kuyathuthuzela kwaye kunxibelelana nohlobo lokuchukumisa.

Zingaphi iihagu esizifunayo?

Ingcali kwezosapho uVirginia Satir wakhe wathi, “Sifuna ukwangana kane ngosuku ukuze siphile. Sifuna ii-hugs ezisi-8 ngosuku zolondolozo. Sifuna ukuwolwa kali-12 ngosuku ukuze sikhule. ” Ngelixa oko kunokuvakala njengokuwola okuninzi, kubonakala ngathi ukwangana okuninzi kubhetele kunokuba kungonelanga.

Ke, zingaphi iihagi ekufuneka unazo ngemini yempilo efanelekileyo? Ngokwenzululwazi egqwesileyo, kufanele ukuba sibe baninzi kangangoko kunokwenzeka ukuba sifuna ukuvuna ezona ziphumo zihle.

Ngelishwa, uninzi lwabantu baseNtshona namhlanje - ngakumbi abantu baseMelika - bayabanjwa. Abantu abaninzi baphila bodwa okanye bexakekile benobudlelwane obuncitshisiweyo ekuhlaleni nasekuchukumiseni.

Iindibano zethu zale mihla zentlalo zihlala zityhala abantu ukuba bangabambi abanye abangazalani ngqo nabo. Nangona kunjalo, kubonakala ngathi abantu banokuzuza lukhulu ngokuthinta abanye ngakumbi.

Ke, ukuba ufuna ukuziva ubhetele ngesiqu sakho, ukunciphisa uxinzelelo, ukuphucula unxibelelwano, kwaye wonwabe kwaye usempilweni, kubonakala ngathi ukunika kunye nokucela ukwangiwa ngakumbi yindawo elungileyo onokuqala kuyo.

Ukuba uziva unovalo malunga nokufuna ukwangana okuninzi, qala ngokubabuza kubahlobo nakumalungu osapho akufutshane kuwe kuqala.

Inzululwazi ingqina ukuba ukwangana rhoqo nabo basondeleyo kuwe, nokuba kukufutshane, kunokuba neziphumo ezihle ngakumbi kwingqondo nasemzimbeni wakho.