‘Ndawubuyisa Umzimba Wam’ Emva Kokuzalwa, kodwa Kwakunzima

Umxholo

• Kwaqala njengokutya
• Ukuncoma ukumangalisa kukamama omtsha, hayi umzimba wakhe

Ukungalali ngokwaneleyo yinxalenye yobuzali obutsha, kodwa ukuswela ikhalori akufuneki kube njalo. Lixesha lokuba sijongane nolindelo lokuba "sibuyele umva."

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Umzimba wam wenze izinto ezimangalisayo. Xa ndandineminyaka eyi-15, yaphola ekusebenzeni iiyure ezingama-8. Ndandinesifo sokuqaqamba kwamalungu omzimba, kwaye ummandla weqonqa lomqolo wam wawufuna ukudityaniswa.

Kwiminyaka yam engama-20, yandixhasa kwimidyarho emininzi. Ndibaleke ii-marathons ezingaphezulu, i-marathons yesiqingatha, kunye ne-5 kunye ne-10Ks kunokuba ndinokubala.

Kwaye kwiminyaka engama-30, umzimba wam wawuthwele abantwana ababini. Kwiinyanga ezili-9, intliziyo yam yabamba kwaye yabondla.

Ewe kunjalo, oku bekufanele ukuba sisizathu sokubhiyozela. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, ndazala intombi kunye nonyana ophilileyo. Ngelixa ndandisoyika ubukho babo - ubuso babo obugcweleyo kunye neempawu ezijikeleziweyo zazigqibelele- andikhange ndizive ndinelunda ngendlela endikhangeleka ngayo.

Isisu sam besiphazamisekile kwaye singabukeki. Iinqe zam zazibanzi kwaye zinkulu. Iinyawo zam bezidumbile kwaye zingenasiporho (nangona ndinyanisekile, imilenze yam engezantsi ayikaze ijongeke kakhulu), kwaye yonke into yayithambile.

Ndaziva ndinentlama.

I-midsection yam yawa njengekhekhe engaphekwanga.

Yi le eqhelekileyo. Ngapha koko, enye yezona zinto zimangalisayo ngomzimba womntu kukukwazi ukutshintsha, ukutshintsha, kunye nokutshintsha.

Nangona kunjalo, amajelo eendaba acebisa ngenye indlela. Iimodeli zivela kwindlela yokubaleka kunye nemagazini egubungela iiveki emva kokubeleka, ijongeka ingatshintshanga. Abaphembeleli bahlala bethetha malunga #postpartumfitness kunye #postpartumweightloss, kunye nokhangelo olukhawulezayo lukaGoogle lwegama elithi "ukunciphisa ubunzima bomntwana" kuvelisa ngaphezulu kwezigidi ezili-100 zeziphumo… ngaphantsi komzuzwana.

Kananjalo, ndaziva ndicinezelekile ukuba ndenze izinto ngokugqibeleleyo. Ukuze "ndibuyise umva." Kakhulu kangangokuba ndityhale umzimba wam. Ndilambe umzimba. Ndingcatshe umzimba wam.

“Ndachacha” kwisithuba esingaphantsi kweeveki ezi-6 kodwa oko kwayonakalisa impilo yam engqondweni nasemzimbeni.

Kwaqala njengokutya

Iintsuku zokuqala emva kokubeleka zazilungile. Ndandinemvakalelo kwaye ndingalali kwaye ndikhathazekile kakhulu. Khange ndibale calories (okanye ibrashi iinwele) de ndiphume esibhedlele. Kodwa xa ndifika ekhaya, ndaqala ukutya ukutya, into ekungafuneki yenziwe ngumama oncelisayo.

Ndiphephe inyama ebomvu namafutha. Andikhathalelanga imikhwa yendlala. Ndandihlala ndilala isisu sam sigquma ngokungxola, ndaye ndaqala ukuzilolonga.

Ndibaleke i-3 yeekhilomitha kwiintsuku nje emva kokubeleka.

Kwaye nangona oku kungavakala kufanelekile, ubuncinci ephepheni - bendixelelwa rhoqo ukuba ndikhangeleka ndimkhulu kwaye ndinethamsanqa kwaye abanye bandiqhwabela izandla "ngokuzinikezela" kunye nokunyamezela - ukufuna kwam impilo ngokukhawuleza kwaba yinto engafunekiyo. Ndizamene nomzimba ogqwethekileyo kunye nokutya emva kokubeleka.

Andindedwa. Ngokophando luka-2017 oluvela kubaphandi baseYunivesithi yaseIllinois naseBrigham Young University, iipesenti ezingama-46 zoomama abatsha bakhathazekile yimizimba yabo yasemva kokuzalwa. Isizathu?

Imigangatho engekho ngqiqweni kunye nemifanekiso yabasetyhini abafowunelwe "ababuya babuya" iiveki emva kokubeleka zabashiya baziva bengenakuzinceda kwaye bengenathemba. Ukugxilwa kweendaba ngokubanzi ekukhulelweni nako kudlale indima.

Kodwa yintoni esinokuyenza ukutshintsha indlela abafazi abazijonga ngayo? Sinokubiza iinkampani eziqhubela phambili iinjongo ezingekho ngqiqweni. Sinako "ukungalandeli" abo baxhasa iipilisi zokutya, izongezo, kunye nezinye iindlela zethspiration phantsi kwesimo sempilo. Kwaye sinokuyeka ukuthetha ngemizimba yabasetyhini emva kokuzalwa. Ixesha.

Ewe, oku kubandakanya ukuqhwaba izandla emva kokuphuma komzimba.

Ukuncoma ukumangalisa kukamama omtsha, hayi umzimba wakhe

Uyabona, oomama abatsha (kunye nabazali) bangaphezulu kakhulu kobume, ubungakanani, okanye inani kwisikali. Singabapheki, oogqirha, abaqeqeshi bokulala, abongikazi abamanzi, abathandi kunye nabanonopheli. Siyabakhusela abancinci bethu kwaye sibanika indawo ekhuselekileyo yokulala- kunye nomhlaba. Siyabonwabisa abantwana bethu kwaye siyabathuthuzela. Kwaye sikwenza oku ngaphandle kokucinga okanye ukuqhwanyaza.

Uninzi lwabazali bathatha le misebenzi ukongeza kwindima yexesha elizeleyo, ngaphandle kwendlu. Uninzi lwenza le misebenzi ukongeza ekunyamekeleni abanye abantwana okanye abazali abalupheleyo. Abazali abaninzi bayayenza le misebenzi ngenkxaso encinci okanye bengenayo kwaphela.

Ke endaweni yokubeka izimvo ngenkangeleko yomzali omtsha, thetha ngempumelelo yabo. Bazise ukuba ngowuphi umsebenzi abawenzayo, nokuba yonke into abayenzileyo kukuphakama banike omnye wabo ibhotile okanye ibele. Bhiyozela impumelelo ebonakalayo, njengesihlambi abasithathileyo ngale ntsasa okanye isidlo esishushu abakhethe ukusitya ngorhatya.

Kwaye ukuba uye uve umama omtsha ekhathaza umzimba wakhe, kwaye uthethe ngokubonakala, mkhumbuze ukuba isisu sakhe sithambile kuba kufanelekile. Kuba, ngaphandle kwayo, ikhaya lakhe beliya kuthi cwaka. Ii-coos zasebusuku kunye ne-cuddles ngekhe zibekhona.

Mkhumbuze ukuba amanqaku akhe awolulayo yibheji yentlonipho, hayi iintloni. Imigca kufuneka inxitywe ngokuzingca. Kwaye umkhumbuze ukuba isinqe sakhe sandisiwe kwaye amathanga athe kratya kuba kufuneka omelele ngokwaneleyo-kwaye azinzise ngokwaneleyo-ukuxhasa ubunzima bobomi bakhe nobabanye

Ngaphandle koko, oomama emva kokubeleka, akudingeki ukuba "ufumane" umzimba wakho ngenxa yokuba awulahlekanga. Kukonke. Ihlala ikunye nawe, kwaye nokuba injani na imilo nobungakanani bakho, iya kuhlala ikho.

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