Ndine-OCD. Ezi ngcebiso zi-5 ziyandinceda ndisinde kwiXhala lam leCoronavirus

Umxholo

• Ngento enzulu njengobhubhane, i-OCD yam isebenze ngoku yenza ingqiqo.
• 1. Ndiyibuyisela kwiziseko
• 2. Ndizicelela umngeni wokuba ndiphume ndiye ngaphandle
• 3. Ndibeka phambili ukuhlala ndiqhagamshelene ngaphezu 'kolwazi'
• 4. Andimiseli mithetho
• 5. Ndiyavuma ukuba, enyanisweni, ndisenokugula

Kukho umahluko phakathi kokulumka nokunyanzelwa.

"Sam," isoka lam lithe cwaka. “Ubomi kusafuneka buqhubeke. Kwaye sifuna ukutya. ”

Ndiyazi ukuba banyanisile. Siye sazibamba ngokuzimela yedwa ixesha elide. Ngoku, sijonge phantsi phantse zonke iikhabhathi ezingenanto, yayilixesha lokuba ubeke ulungelelwaniso lwentlalo ekusebenzeni nasekuvuseleleni kwakhona.

Ngaphandle kwembono yokushiya imoto yethu ngexesha lobhubhane uziva ngathi ungcungcutheka ngokwenyani.

"Ndikhetha ukulamba, ngokunyanisekileyo," ndincwina.

Ndine-obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD) uninzi lobomi bam, kodwa ifikelele kwi-fever pitch (pun ayijoliswanga) ngexesha lokuqhambuka kwe-COVID-19.

Ukuchukumisa nantoni na uziva ngathi ubeka isandla sam ngokuzithandela kwisitovu sesitovu. Ukuphefumla umoya ofanayo naye nabani na okufutshane nam uziva ngathi uphefumlela isigwebo sentambo.

Kwaye andoyiki nje abanye abantu, nam. Ngenxa yokuba abathwali bentsholongwane banokubonakala bengabonakali, ndisoyika nangakumbi ukusasaza ngokungazi kuNana othandekayo okanye umhlobo ongenakuxolelwa.

Ngento enzulu njengobhubhane, i-OCD yam isebenze ngoku yenza ingqiqo.

Ngandlela thile, ingathi ingqondo yam izama ukundikhusela.

Ingxaki kukuba, akuncedi nto - umzekelo-ukunqanda ukuchukumisa umnyango kwindawo enye kabini, okanye ukwala ukutyikitya irisithi kuba ndiqinisekile ukuba usiba luza kundibulala.

Kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo akuncedi ukunyanzelisa indlala kunokuthenga ukutya okuninzi.

Njengomfana wam wathi, ubomi kusafuneka buqhubeke.

Kwaye ngelixa kufanelekile ukuba silandele ngokupheleleyo ii-odolo zendawo yokuhlala, sihlambe izandla zethu, kwaye siziqhelanise nomgama ekuhlaleni, ndicinga ukuba bebeyinto ethile xa besithi, "Sam, ukuthatha amayeza akho ayisiyonyanzelo."

Ngamanye amagama, kukho umahluko phakathi kokulumka nokungahambi kakuhle.

Kule mihla, kunokuba nzima ukuxelela ukuba loluphi uhlaselo lwam loloyiko "olunengqiqo" kwaye loluphi olwandisiweyo lwe-OCD yam. Kodwa okwangoku, eyona nto ibalulekileyo kukufumana iindlela zokujongana noxinzelelo lwam ngaphandle kokuhoya.

Nantsi indlela endigcina ngayo uvalo lwam lwe-OCD:

1. Ndiyibuyisela kwiziseko

Eyona ndlela ndiyaziyo yokuqinisa impilo-yam engqondweni nasemzimbeni- kukuzigcina ndondlekile, ndifumana amanzi, kwaye ndiphumle. Ngelixa oku kubonakala kucacile, ndihlala ndimangalisiwe yindlela isiseko esiwela ngayo endleleni xa kuvela ingxaki.

Ukuba unengxaki yokugcina ulondolozo lomntu olusisiseko, ndinezinye iingcebiso kuwe:

• Uyakhumbula ukutya? Ukungqinelana kubalulekile. Ngokwam, ndinenjongo yokutya zonke iiyure ezi-3 (ke, ukutya oku-3 kunye nokutya oku-3 yonke imihla-le yinto esemgangathweni kuye nabani na onengxaki yokutya ngokungalunganga, njengam). Ndisebenzisa isibali-xesha kwifowuni yam kwaye ngalo lonke ixesha ndisitya, ndibuyisela ezinye iiyure ezi-3 ukwenza lula inkqubo.
• Uyakhumbula ukusela amanzi? Ndineglasi yamanzi ngesidlo ngasinye kunye nokutya okulula. Ngale ndlela, akukho mfuneko yokuba ndikhumbule amanzi ngokwahlukeneyo - isibali sam sokutya emva koko sisebenza njengesikhumbuzo samanzi.
• Ngaba ulele ngokwaneleyo? Ukulala kunokuba nzima kakhulu, ngakumbi xa uxinzelelo luphezulu. Kudala ndisebenzisa ipodcast yokulala Nam ukuze ndiphumle ngakumbi kwimeko yokuphumla. Kodwa ngokwenene, awukwazi ukungahambi kakuhle ngokuhlaziya ngokukhawuleza kwimo yokulala.

Kwaye ukuba ufumanisa ukuba unoxinzelelo kwaye unamathele emini kwaye awuqinisekanga ukuba wenzeni? Le mibuzo isebenzisanayo (yibhukumise!).

2. Ndizicelela umngeni wokuba ndiphume ndiye ngaphandle

Ukuba unayo i-OCD-ngakumbi ukuba unomdla wokuzihlukanisa-kunokuba nzima ukuba "ujongane" noxinzelelo lwakho ngokungaphumi phandle.

Nangona kunjalo, oku kunokuba yingozi kwimpilo yakho yengqondo, kwaye kunokuqinisa iindlela zokulwa nokusetyenziswa gwenxa ezinokwenza uxinzelelo lwakho lube mandundu ekuhambeni kwexesha.

Logama nje ugcina i-6 yeenyawo zomgama phakathi kwakho nabanye, kukhuselekile ngokugqibeleleyo ukuthatha uhambo ngeenxa zonke kubumelwane bakho.

Ukuzama ukufaka isixa esithile sexesha ngaphandle kuye kwaba yinkohliso kum (bendikhe ndajongana ne-agoraphobia ngaphambili), kodwa ibiyinto ebaluleke kakhulu "ukuseta" iqhosha lengqondo yam nangona kunjalo.

Ukuzahlula ngekhe kube yimpendulo xa usokoliswa yimpilo yakho yengqondo. Xa kunokwenzeka, yenza ixesha lokuphefumla umoya omtsha, nokuba awukwazi ukuya kude kakhulu.

3. Ndibeka phambili ukuhlala ndiqhagamshelene ngaphezu 'kolwazi'

Oku yeyona inzima kuluhlu kum. Ndisebenza kwinkampani yemidiya yezempilo, ke ukwaziswa malunga ne-COVID-19 kwinqanaba elithile kuyinxalenye yomsebenzi wam.

Nangona kunjalo, ukugcina "ukuya kuthi ga ngoku" ngokukhawuleza kwaba sisinyanzelo kum - ngaxa lithile, bendijonga indawo yogcino lwedatha yamatyala aqinisekisiweyo amatyeli amaninzi ngemini… nto leyo ngokucacileyo yayingandikhonzi okanye nengqondo yam enexhala.

Ndiyazi ngokucacileyo ukuba andifuni ukujonga iindaba okanye ukubeka iliso kwiimpawu rhoqo njengoko i-OCD yam indenza ndizive ndinyanzelekile (okanye naphi na kufutshane nayo). Kodwa njengakuyo nayiphi na into enyanzelekileyo, kunokuba nzima ukuyeka.

Kungenxa yoko le nto ndizama ukuseta imida engqongqo ejikeleza nini kwaye kangaphi xa ndizibandakanya nezo ngxoxo okanye isimilo.

Endaweni yokujonga ubushushu bam ngokungathandabuzekiyo okanye iindaba zamva nje, nditshintshe ugxininiso lwam lokuhlala ndiqhagamshelene nabantu endibathandayo. Ndingarekhoda umyalezo wevidiyo sithandwa sam endaweni yoko? Mhlawumbi ndingaseta iqela leNetflix elinesiqhelo nge-bestie ukugcina ingqondo yam ixakekile.

Ndikwazisa nabantu endibathandayo xa ndisokola nomjikelo weendaba, kwaye ndiyazibophelela ekubayekeni "bathathe ulawulo."

Ndiyathemba ukuba ukuba kukho ulwazi olutsha endifuna ukulwazi, kukho abantu abazakufikelela kwaye bandixelele.

4. Andimiseli mithetho

Ukuba i-OCD yam yayinendlela yayo, sasiza kunxiba iiglavu ngalo lonke ixesha, singaze siphefumle umoya ofanayo naye nabani na ongomnye, kwaye singashiyi indlu kule minyaka mibini izayo.

Xa umfana endithandana naye esiya evenkileni, sasibanxibe isuti ye-hazmat, kwaye njengenyathelo elongezelelekileyo, sasizalisa iphuli yokudada ngesibulali-ntsholongwane size silale kuyo busuku ngabunye.

Kodwa yiyo loo nto i-OCD ingenzi imithetho ejikeleze apha. Endaweni yoko, ndinamathela:

• Ziqhelanise nokuhamba kude eluntwini, okuthetha ukugcina iinyawo ezi-6 zesithuba phakathi kwakho nabanye.
• Ziphephe iindibano ezinkulu kunye nohambo olungabalulekanga apho intsholongwane inokunwenwa khona.
• Hlamba izandla zakho ngesepha namanzi afudumeleyo imizuzwana engama-20 emva kokuba ubekwindawo kawonke-wonke, okanye emva kokuvuthela impumlo, ukukhwehlela, okanye ukuthimla.
• Ukucoca kunye nokubulala iintsholongwane kwiindawo ezichukunyiswayo kanye ngemini (iitafile, amaqhina omnyango, iiswitshi ezikhanyayo, imiphezulu yeetafile, iidesika, iifowuni, izindlu zangasese, iimpompo, iisinki).

Isitshixo apha kukulandela ezi zikhokelo kunye akukho Okuninzi. I-OCD okanye uxinzelelo lunokufuna ukuba uhambe ngaphezulu, kodwa kulapho unokuwela kumhlaba onyanzelekileyo.

Ke hayi, ngaphandle kokuba ufike ekhaya usuka evenkileni okanye uthimla nje okanye enye into, akufuneki uhlambe izandla zakho kwakhona.

Kwangokunjalo, kunokuba sisihendo sokuhlamba ngokungqongqo amaxesha amaninzi ngemini kwaye uphume negazi kwikhaya lakho lonke… kodwa kungenzeka ukuba ulonyuse uxinzelelo lwakho xa uthe wajonga kakhulu ucoceko.

Ukucoca iintsholongwane ekubetheni imiphezulu oyichukumisayo rhoqo kuninzi ngokwaneleyo kunokuba ulumkile.

Khumbula ukuba i-OCD ingumngcipheko omkhulu kwimpilo yakho, kananjalo, kwaye ngenxa yoko, ibhalansi ibalulekile ukuze uhlale kakuhle.

5. Ndiyavuma ukuba, enyanisweni, ndisenokugula

I-OCD ayikuthandi ukungaqiniseki. Kodwa inyani kukuba, uninzi lwezinto esihamba kuzo ebomini aziqinisekanga- kwaye le ntsholongwane ayisiyiyo. Unokuthatha yonke into onokuyithatha, kwaye usenokugqibela ngokugula kungekho siphoso.

Ndiziqhelanisa nokwamkela le nyani yonke imihla.

Ndifundile ukuba ukwamkela ngokupheleleyo ukungaqiniseki, njengokungonwabi njengoko kunokuba njalo, lolona khuseleko lwam kukuzikhathaza. Kwimeko ye-COVID-19, ndiyazi ukuba kuninzi kuphela endinokukwenza ukuze ndizigcine ndisempilweni.

Enye yeendlela ezilungileyo zokuqinisa impilo yethu kukulawula uxinzelelo. Kwaye xa ndihleli ngokungahambi kakuhle kokungaqiniseki? Ndizikhumbuza ukuba ngalo lonke ixesha ndicela umngeni kwi-OCD yam, ndizinika elona thuba lifanelekileyo lokuhlala ndiphilile, ndigxile, kwaye ndizilungiselele.

Kwaye xa ucinga ngako, ukwenza loo msebenzi kuya kundinceda kwixesha elide ngeendlela zehazmat suit ezingayi kuze zenzeke. Nditshi nje.

USam Dylan Finch ngumhleli, umbhali, kunye necebo ledijithali kwimithombo yeendaba kwi-San Francisco Bay Area. Ungumhleli ophambili wezempilo yengqondo kunye neemeko ezingapheliyo kwiHealthline. Mfumane Twitter kwayeI-Instagram, kwaye ufunde ngakumbi kwi SamDylanFinch.com.