Iskra Lawrence Kwisizathu Sokuba Ufanele Ujonge Ngaphandle Kolo Njongo Lwempembelelo yokulahleka kwamanani

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Lixesha lonyaka xa abaninzi becinga malunga nendlela abanokuthi bahlaziye ngayo umsebenzi wabo kunye nendlela yokutya-kwaye kaninzi kuba nenjongo yokunciphisa umzimba. Ngelixa ubunzima ngokuqinisekileyo bubalulekile xa kuziwa kwimpilo, u-Iskra Lawrence ufuna ukuba uyazi eyona ndlela yokuphila inokuba kukungazami ukunciphisa umzimba kwaphela, kwaye ujonge nje ukuphila eyona ndlela isempilweni.

U-Lawrence, ubuso bephulo #AerieReal kunye nommeli we-National Eating Disorders Association (NEDA), uthi ukulahla ubunzima bomzimba njengenjongo-kunye nokugxininisa ekuziphatheni okunentsingiselo, nokuziphatha okunempilo kunokuba yeyona nto uyenzayo uyinyani, ukuzinza komzimba kunye nempilo yengqondo. (Idibeneyo: Iskra Lawrence malunga nesizathu sokuba ungadingi sizathu siqinisekileyo somzimba sokwabelana nge-Bikini Pic)

Uthetha ngamava. “Njengomntu okhe wasokola buqu nge-dysmorphia yomzimba kunye nokutya okungalungelelananga, xa ukuncipha kobunzima bekuyinjongo, bendigxile kumanani angenanto yakwenza nempilo yam epheleleyo kunye nokuba sempilweni,” utshilo. Ubume. "Khange ndisebenzise iindlela ezikhuselekileyo ukufikelela kwezo njongo zinobunzima ezingekho ngqiqweni kwaye ibonakalisa umzimba wam, impilo yonke, kunye nempilo yengqondo-konke ngenxa yokuba inani ebendicinga ukuba kufuneka ndilifezekise laba likhoboka kunye notyekelo."

Uninzi lwabantu lucinga ngokulahla isibini seepounds ngaxa lithile ebomini babo-ukuba oko kukungena kwisinxibo sakho somtshato wephupha, okanye ukuziva "ibikini ilungile" ehlotyeni. Ngelixa ezi ngcinga zibonakala zimsulwa, uLawrence ucacisa ukuba zinokuba yingozi njani ekuhambeni kwexesha. (Idibeneyo: Kutheni Ndenza isigqibo sokungalahli ubunzima bomtshato wam)

"Ngaphandle kokuba uyiqonde, ubeka ixabiso elininzi kwaye uxabiseke kakhulu kumanani kwisikali okanye imilinganiselo yakho, kwaye ayisiyiyo into emisela impilo entle okanye ulonwabo," utshilo.

Ke ulwenza njani olo tshintsho lwengqondo kwaye uthathe ugxininiso ekulahlekeni kobunzima endaweni yokuba usempilweni ngokubanzi? "Kufuneka uqale ukucinga ngempilo njengemvakalelo ngokuchasene nento enokulinganiswa," utshilo uLawrence. "Olovakalelo lokuba namandla, ukuba nethemba, ukuxabisa nokuxabisa umzimba wakho, yeyona njongo kunye namabhongo ekufuneka usebenzele kuwo." (Idibeneyo: Isicwangciso seentsuku ezingama-40 sokuGxobha nayiphi na injongo, kunye noJen Widerstrom)

Kumava am, ukuba unombulelo ngomzimba wakho, uya kufuna ngokuzenzekelayo ukuwukhathalela, uqhuba watsho. "Awuyi kufuna ukuwusebenzisa kakubi ngokuzivocavoca ngokweqile, ukukhawulela, ukubetha, ukuthetha okubi, okanye nayiphi na into oyenzayo."

U-Lawrence ucacisa ukuba xa unolwalamano oluhle nomzimba wakho, ufumana uqhagamshelo lomzimba wengqondo olukutyhalela ngaphakathi ukuba wenze ukhetho olusempilweni. “Xa uthandana nomzimba wakho, ufuna ukuwondla ngendlela elungeleleneyo,” utshilo. "Ingqondo yakho iya kuqalisa ukumamela iimpawu zendalo kunye neempawu zomzimba wakho. Uya kukwazi xa uhluthi kwaye uyazi xa kufuneka utye ngakumbi. Uya kukwazi xa kufuneka uvuke kwaye uhambe kwaye nini kufuneka uphumle kwaye uthathe ikhefu. "

Kodwa xa sithe sakwehla ubunzima, uLawrence uthi sicima ezo mpawu zendalo. "Siyayikhathalela xa silambile, iikhalori ziba lutshaba, kwaye oko kunokukukhokelela kwindlela ekhohlakeleyo," utsho.

Ukugcina unxibelelwano phakathi kwengqondo nomzimba wakhe kwakungumceli mngeni kuLawrence ngokwakhe. "Xa ndandiqala ukumodela, ndandigxile kakhulu kwisikali, ndaye ndagxila ekujongeni indlela ethile, kangangokuba andizange ndiqonde nokuba ndinengxaki yempilo yengqondo," utshilo. "Ndisebenza nzima kakhulu, kangangokuba ndandinesiyezi kwaye amehlo am aya kuba mnyama. Ndandibhala ngokugqithiseleyo ukuba zingaphi iikhalori endizisebenzisayo, kwaye ukutya kwam kwakunzima kakhulu kangangokuba ndandisoloko ndidiniwe kwaye ndihlala ndilala phakathi kwemini. Nangona kunjalo, engqondweni, ndandisoloko ndiziva ndisilele kuba ndandingenakufikelela kubuhle okanye umgangatho endizibekele wona okanye into endandicinga ukuba uluntu luyilindele kum." (Idibeneyo: Kutheni ukuhlazeka komzimba kuyinto enkulu kakhulu-kunye nento ongayenza ukuyiyeka)

Emfamekiswe kukufuna ukutshintsha inkangeleko yakhe, uLawrence wayengayihoyi yonke imiqondiso awayeyinikwa ngumzimba wakhe. "Kwakungxola kakhulu ukuba ndizenzakalisa, kodwa ndaqhubeka nokuyihoya de kube ngenye imini, into icofe nje," utshilo.

"Ndiyekile ukuzama ukutshintsha indlela ebendikhangeleka ngayo kwaye ndamkela umzimba wam ukuba unje," utsho. "Ngaloo nto, ndayeka ukutya ukutya, ukukhawulela kunye nayo yonke into eyayonakalisa umzimba wam nokuzithemba."

Ngoku, sonke siyamazi uLawrence ngokwaphula imigangatho yobuhle yoluntu kunye nokukhuthaza abantu ukuba balwele ukonwaba, hayi ukugqibelela. Umzekelo wokuziphatha komzimba uvele kwimikhankaso emininzi yeAerie ene-zero retouching kwaye uhlala ethumela imiyalezo ekhuthazayo kunye nenkuthazo 'kwigrama. (Fumanisa ukuba kutheni efuna uyeke ukumbiza ngobukhulu.)

Ibali lakhe liyisikhumbuzo sokuba ngelixa kuyinto eqhelekileyo kwaye isempilweni ukuba ufuna ukwenza utshintsho kwindlela ophila ngayo, kubalulekile ukuba ukhangele emzimbeni wakho kwaye ungalahli umbono omkhulu. Kwaye ekupheleni kosuku, inani kwisikali sodwa mhlawumbi alisayi kukugcina ukhuthazeka ukuba uhlale usempilweni ixesha elide. (Idibeneyo: Iindlela ezi-6 zokwenza iNguqu yakho yezeMpilo ukuba igqibe)

"Yenza utshintsho olubalulekileyo kuwe ngenxa yezizathu ezidlula ubunzima," utsho. "Oko kunokuthetha ukuba namandla amaninzi, ukuhlakulela indlela engcono yokulala, okanye ukuba nesimo sengqondo esingcono ngokutya. Umba ongundoqo kukwenza ukhetho olukwenza uzive ulungile, kwaye uthembele ukuba uya kuba kubunzima obunempilo kuwe. " (Eyeleleneyo: Uyakukwazi njani xa ufikelele kubunzima bakho)

Namhlanje, injongo kaLawrence kukugxila ekubeni ngoyena mntu anokuba nakho konke ukufikelela kuzo zonke iinkalo zobomi bakhe. Uthi: "Ndihlala ndizinyanzela ukuba ndingoyena mntu wonwabileyo, osempilweni, onamandla kunye nohlobo oluqinisekileyo lwam," utshilo. "Ndiyakhuphisana kakhulu kwaye ndinokuba nzima kakhulu kum xa kufikelelwa ekufezekiseni iinjongo zam," uqhuba watsho. "Ngaloo maxesha, ndiyazikhumbuza ukuba andizange ndiphumelele kwaye kulungile. Imingeni kunye nezithintelo zonke ziyinxalenye yohambo, ukuba nje uqhubela phambili."

Ukuba wena okanye umntu omaziyo unengxaki yokutya, inombolo yasimahla ye-NEDA, eyimfihlo yokunceda (800-931-2237) ilapha ukunceda:–NgoLwesine ukusuka nge-9 kusasa ukuya kwi-9. ET nangoLwesihlanu nge-9 ukuya kwi-5 ntambama Amavolontiya oncedo lweNEDA anika inkxaso kunye nolwazi olusisiseko, afumane iindlela zonyango kwindawo yakho, okanye akuncede ufumane iimpendulo kuyo nayiphi na imibuzo onokuba unayo.

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