Endikufundileyo malunga nokubhiyozela iiNcinci eziPhumeleleyo emva kokubaleka ngaphezulu kwelori

Umxholo

• Indlela eya ekubuyiseleni kwimeko yesiqhelo
• Ukufumana ukufaneleka kwakhona
• Ukufunda Ukuthanda Umzimba Wam
• Ukuphinda uchaze ukusilela
• Uphengululo lwe

Into yokugqibela endiyikhumbulayo ngaphambi kokuba ndigilwe yayisisandi senqindi lam elibetha ecaleni elorini, emva koko ndaziva ngathi ndiyawa.

Phambi kokuba ndiqonde nokuba kwenzeka ntoni, ndaziva ndicinezelekile emva koko ndeva isandi esiqhekezayo. Emva koko ndothuka xa ndaqonda ukuba ukuqhekeka yayingamathambo am. Ndawavala amehlo, ndeva amavili amane okuqala elori ebaleka emzimbeni wam. Khange ndibenalo ixesha lokuqhubekeka nentlungu ngaphambi kokuba kufike iseti yesibini yamavili amakhulu. Ngeli xesha, ndiwavule amehlo kwaye ndawabukela ebaleka emzimbeni wam.

Ndive ngakumbi ukuqhekeka. Ndeva imijelo emavilini esikhumbeni sam. Ndeva ngodaka lubetha phezu kwam. Ndive ngegrabile emqolo. Imizuzu ngaphambi kokuba ndikhwele ibhayisekile yam ngentsasa ethe cwaka eBrooklyn. Ngoku, loo giya yebhayisekile yaxhonywa esiswini sam.

Oko kwakumalunga neminyaka eyi-10 eyadlulayo. Isibakala sokuba inqwelo enamavili ali-18 yabaleka emzimbeni wam, ndaza ndaphefumla emva koko, ingaphaya kommangaliso. (Inxulumene: Njani ingozi yemoto eyitshintshe indlela endibeka ngayo impilo yam)

Indlela eya ekubuyiseleni kwimeko yesiqhelo

Ilori yayaphule zonke iimbambo, yagqobhoza umphunga, yaqhekeza umlenze wam, yaza yakrazula umngxuma esinyini sam, nto leyo eyayibangela ukopha kakhulu ngaphakathi kangangokuba ndafumana izimbo zokugqibela ngoxa ndandityandwa. Emva kokuchacha okunzulu okubandakanya uqhaqho olungxamisekileyo kunye nonyango lomzimba olunzima, ndingasathethi ke ngokuhlaselwa kukuphakuzela kunye nokubuyela umva okuza kundibetha amaxesha amaninzi ngemini, namhlanje ndinokuthi ndiziva ndinombulelo ngenxa yokuhlaselwa yile lori. Ngenxa yamava am, ndiye ndafunda ukubuthanda nokubuxabisa ubomi. Ndiye ndafunda nokuwuthanda umzimba wam ngaphaya kwento endakhe ndacinga ukuba inokwenzeka.

Kwaqala esibhedlele-umzuzu wokuqala unyawo lwam lwachukumisa umgangatho ndathatha inyathelo, yabutshintsha ubomi bam. Xa oko kwenzekayo, ndandisazi ukuba yonke into awayendixelele yona ugqirha yayingalunganga, kwaye babengandazi. Ukuba zonke izilumkiso zabo ukuba mhlawumbi ndingasokuze ndiphinde ndihambe nje yayingengoodds ndandiza kuyamkela. Lo mzimba ukhutshiwe itela kuwo, kodwa ngandlela thile ibifana, Ewe, siza kufumanisa enye into. Ndamangaliswa.

Ebudeni bokuchacha kwam, amaxesha amaninzi ndandidelela umzimba wam kuba wawundothusa gqitha ukuwujonga. Yayilutshintsho olukhulu kakhulu kunokuba lwalunjalo kwiiveki ezimbalwa ngaphambili. Kwakukho i-staples, egcwele igazi, ephuma kumalungu enenekazi lam ukuya kuthi ga kwi-sternum yam. Apho i gear shift yakrazuka emzimbeni wam kwavele kwavela inyama. Ngalo lonke ixesha ndijonge phantsi kwengubo yam yasesibhedlele, ndandilila, kuba ndandisazi ukuba andinakuze ndibuyele esiqhelweni.

Khange ndiwujonge umzimba wam (xa ndingakhange ndiwujonge babe ukuya) ubuncinane unyaka. Kwaye kwathatha ixesha elide ukuba ndamkele umzimba wam ngenxa yale nto uyiyo ngoku.

Kancinci, ndafunda ukugxila kwizinto endizithandayo ngayo-ndafumana iingalo ezomeleleyo ngokwenza idiphu kwisitulo sam esinamavili esibhedlele, i-abs yam iyaphola kwaye ngoku ibuhlungu kukuhleka kakhulu, imilenze yam yesikhumba namathambo ngaphambili ngoku i-leg jacked! Isithandwa sam uPatrick naye wandinceda ukuba ndifunde ukuthanda amanxeba am. Ububele bakhe kunye nokuqwalaselwa kwakhe kwandenza ndachaza kwakhona amanxeba am-ngoku ayizizo izinto endinentloni ngazo kodwa zizinto endiye ndazixabisa kwaye (ngamanye amaxesha) ndibhiyozela. Ndizibiza ngokuba "ziitattoo zobomi" zam zizikhumbuzo zethemba lokujamelana neemeko ezinzima. (Apha, omnye umfazi wabelana ngendlela awafunda ngayo ukuthanda isiva sakhe esikhulu.)

Ukufumana ukufaneleka kwakhona

Inxalenye enkulu yokwamkela ngokupheleleyo umzimba wam omtsha yayikukufumana indlela yokwenza umthambo yinxalenye enkulu yobomi bam kwakhona. Ukwenza umthambo kwakusoloko kubalulekile kum ukuze ndiphile ubomi obonwabisayo. Ndiyayidinga le serotonin-indenza ndizive ndidibene nomzimba wam. Ndandiyimbaleki ngaphambi kwengozi yam. Emva kwengozi, kunye nepleyiti kunye nezikrelemnsi ezininzi emqolo wam, ukubaleka kwakungekho etafileni. Kodwa ndithetha indlela yamandla yokuhamba ngamandla kagranny kwaye ndafumanisa ukuba ndingenza kakuhle kakhulu "ukubaleka" kwi-elliptical. Ngaphandle kwesakhono sokubaleka njengangaphambili, ndinokufumana ukubila kwam.

Ndiye ndafunda ukukhuphisana nam endaweni yokuzama ukuzithelekisa nabanye. Uluvo lwakho lokuphumelela kunye nemvo yokusilela yahluke kakhulu kubo bonke abantu abakungqongileyo, kwaye kufanelekile. Kwiminyaka emibini eyadlulayo xa uPatrick wayeziqeqeshela isiqingatha semarathon, ndaye ndazifumana ndifuna ukwenza enye nayo. Ndisazi ukuba andinakukwazi ukuyiqhuba, kodwa ndifuna ukuwutyhala umzimba wam kangangoko ndinako. Ke ndizibekele injongo eyimfihlelo "yokubaleka" eyam isiqingatha seemarathon kwi-elliptical. Ndiqeqeshe ngamandla ukuhamba kunye nokubetha i-elliptical kwindawo yokuzivocavoca-ndade ndabeka ishedyuli yoqeqesho kwifriji yam.

Emva kweeveki zoqeqesho, ndingakhange ndixelele mntu "ngesiqingatha semarathon" yam, ndaya kwindawo yokuzivocavoca ngentsimbi yesi-6 kusasa ndaya "ndibaleka" ngee-13.1 zeemayile kwi-elliptical ngeyure nemizuzu engama-41, isantya esiphakathi semizuzu esixhenxe kunye nemizuzwana engama-42 Imayile nganye. Andizange ndikholelwe emzimbeni wam-ndaye ndawuganga emva koko! Inokuncama kwaye ayizange. Ngenxa yokuba impumelelo yakho ijongeka yahlukile komnye umntu ayithethi ukuba ingaphantsi kokuphumelela.

Ukufunda Ukuthanda Umzimba Wam

Kukho isicatshulwa endisithandayo- "Awuyi ejimini ukohlwaya umzimba wakho ngento oyityileyo, kodwa uye uyokubhiyozela oko umzimba wakho unakho yenza. ngenxa yalo mzimba ugqitywe kakhulu.

Ndandingumgwebi omangalisayo womzimba wam ngaphambi kwengozi-ngamanye amaxesha kwakungathi sisihloko endisithandayo sencoko. Ndiziva ndibuhlungu ngakumbi ngalento bendiyithetha ngesisu kunye nesinqe. Ndingathi zazityebile, zinezothe, njengezinyama ezimbini zenyama enombala wenyama efakwe kumathambo am. Xa sicinga ngasemva, babefezekile.

Ngoku ndicinga malunga nokuchitha ixesha ukuba bekubaluleke kakhulu kwinxalenye yam eyayiyinto, ethandekayo. Ndifuna umzimba wam wondleke, ndithandwe, kwaye womelele. Njengomnini walo mzimba, ndiza kuba nobubele kuwo kwaye ndilunge kuwo kangangoko kunokwenzeka.

Ukuphinda uchaze ukusilela

Into eye yandinceda kwaye yandiphilisa kakhulu ngumbono woloyiso oluncinci. Kuya kufuneka sazi ukuba impumelelo yethu kunye nempumelelo yethu ziya kujongeka zahlukile kunezabanye abantu, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha kufuneka zithathwe ngenene, ngokuthe ngcembe-inqaku elincinci lokulinganisa kancinci ngexesha. Okwam, oko kuhlala malunga nokuthatha izinto ezindoyikisayo, njengohambo lokunyuka intaba kunye nabahlobo. Ndiyakuthanda ukunyuka intaba, kodwa ndihlala ndihamba ndedwa ukunciphisa iintloni xa kufuneka ndiyeke okanye ndihambe kancinci. Ndicinge nokuxoka ndisithi andiziva mnandi kanti mandihambe ngaphandle kwam. Kodwa ndazixelela ukuba mandibe nesibindi ndizame. Injongo yam-incinci yam-yayikukuvela kwaye ndenze konke okusemandleni am.

Ndiyakhawuleza ukugcina isantya nabahlobo bam kwaye ndigqibe uhambo olupheleleyo. Kwaye ndibhiyozele i-shit ngaphandle kolo loyiso luncinci! Ukuba awuzibhiyozeli izinto ezincinci, phantse akunakwenzeka ukuba uhlale unomdla-ingakumbi xa unomqobo.

Ukufunda ukuwuthanda umzimba wam emva kokugilwa yilori kuye kwandifundisa ukuchaza ukusilela kwakhona. Kum ngokobuqu, ukusilela yayikukungakwazi ukufikelela imfezeko, okanye ubuqhetseba. Kodwa ndiye ndaqaphela ukuba umzimba wam wakhiwe ukuba ube yile nto uyiyo, kwaye andinakucaphuka ngenxa yoko. Ukusilela ayikuko ukungabikho kwemfezeko okanye ukungaphumeleli kwesiqhelo akuzami. Ukuba uzama yonke imihla, kukuphumelela-kwaye yinto entle leyo.

Ewe zikhona ngokuqinisekileyo iintsuku ezilusizi kwaye ndisaphila nentlungu engapheliyo. Kodwa ndiyazi ukuba ubomi bam buyintsikelelo, ngoko ke kufuneka ndiyixabise yonke into eyenzekayo kum-elungileyo, embi, kunye nokubi. Ukuba andikhange ndiyenze, ibiya kuba kukungabahloneli abanye abantu abangakhange bafumane elo thuba lesibini. Ndivakalelwa kukuba ndiphila ubomi obongezelelekileyo ebekungafanelekanga ukuba ndibufumane, kwaye bundenza ndizive ndonwabe kakhulu kwaye ndinombulelo ngakumbi ngokuba lapha.

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