ULena Dunham Ubhale iSincoko esiThembekileyo malunga namava akhe angaphumelelanga e-IVF

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U-Lena Dunham uvula indlela afunde ngayo ukuba akanakuze abe nomntwana webhayoloji ongowakhe. Kwisincoko esiluhlaza, esisesichengeni sokubhalelwa Imagazini kaHarper, wachaza ngamava akhe angazange aphumelele nge-in vitro fertilization (IVF) kunye nendlela okumchaphazele ngayo iimvakalelo zakhe.

UDunham waqala isincoko ngokubalisa ngesigqibo sakhe esinzima sokwenza i-hysterectomy eneminyaka engama-31. Ubhale wathi: “Xa ndiphulukene nenzala yam ndaqalisa ukukhangela umntwana. “Emva kweminyaka emalunga namashumi amabini eentlungu ezingapheliyo ezibangelwa yi-endometriosis nokonakala kwayo okuncinane, ndaye ndakhutshwa isibeleko sam, umlomo wesibeleko, kunye nelinye lamaqanda am. iibhulukhwe ezimfutshane zejean, kodwa kwiintsuku zasemva kotyando lwam, ndaba nomdla kakhulu kuko.” (Inxulumene: IHalsey ivula malunga nendlela i-Endometriosis Surgeries ezichaphazele ngayo uMzimba wayo)

Kwakamsinyane emva kokuba enziwe isibeleko sokukhupha isisu, uDunham wathi ucinge ngokuthatha umntwana ongamzalanga abe ngowakho. Nangona kunjalo, kwangelo xesha linye, wabhala, wayekwaqhelana nokuba likhoboka le-benzodiazepines (iqela lamachiza asetyenziswa ikakhulu ukunyanga ixhala) kwaye wayesazi ukuba kufuneka abeke phambili impilo yakhe ngaphambi kokuzisa umntwana emfanekisweni. Wabhala wathi, "apho ke ndaye ndazibophelela ekubeni ngumfazi ofanelekileyo kwelona hlambi lomntwana kwimbali yaseMelika."

Emva kokubuyiselwa kwimeko yesiqhelo, uDunham wathi waqala wakhangela amaqela enkxaso kuluntu kwi-Intanethi yabasetyhini abangakwaziyo ukukhulelwa ngokwendalo. Ngelo xesha wadibana ne-IVF.

Kuqala, umlingisi oneminyaka engama-34 ubudala uvumile ukuba wayengazi nokuba i-IVF yayilukhetho kuye, kuthathelwa ingqalelo imvelaphi yakhe yezempilo. “Kwaye kwavela ukuba emva kwayo yonke into endidlule kuyo-ikhemikhali yokuyeka ukuya exesheni, utyando ngabantu abalishumi elinambini, ukungakhathali kokukhotyokiswa ziziyobisi-i-ovary yam enye eseleyo yayisavelisa amaqanda,” wabhala kwisincoko sakhe. "Ukuba sibaphumelele ngempumelelo, banokuchumisiswa ngesidoda esivela kubanikeli kwaye siqhutyelwe kwisigunyaziso."

Ngelishwa, nangona kunjalo, uDunham wathi ekugqibeleni wafunda ukuba amaqanda akhe ebengenakho ukuchumisa. Kwisincoko sakhe, wakhumbula amazwi kagqirha wakhe ngokuchanekileyo xa wayehambisa iindaba: "'Asikwazanga ukufaka isichumiso kuwo nawaphi na amaqanda. Njengoko uyazi, besinabathandathu. Abahlanu khange bathathe. kwaye ekugqibeleni ... ' Wahamba njengoko ndandizama ukukubona - igumbi elimnyama, isitya esivuthayo, isidoda sidibana namaqanda am anothuli kangangokuba atsha.

UDunham ungomnye wabafazi abamalunga nezigidi ezi-6 e-US abasokolayo ngokungachumi, ngokwe-Ofisi yase-US kwimpilo yabasetyhini. Ngenxa yoncedo lobugcisa bokuzala (ART) njenge-IVF, aba basetyhini banethuba lokuba nomntwana webhayoloji, kodwa izinga lempumelelo lixhomekeke kwizinto ezininzi. Xa uthathela ingqalelo izinto ezifana nobudala, ukuxilongwa kokungachumi, inani leembumba ezidlulisiweyo, imbali yokuzalwa kwangaphambili, kunye nokuphuphuma kwesisu, kuye kuphele ukubakho naphakathi kwipesenti ezili-10 ukuya kuma-40 ithuba lokuhambisa usana olusempilweni emva kokwenza unyango lwe-IVF, kwingxelo ka-2017 evela kumaZiko oLawulo lweZifo (CDC). Oko akubandakanyi inani lemijikelo ye-IVF enokuthi ithathe ukuba umntu akhulelwe ngokwenene, singasathethi ke ngeendleko eziphezulu zonyango lobudlolo ngokubanzi. (Inxulumene: Yintoni i-Ob-Gyns enqwenela ukuba abantu basetyhini bazi malunga nokuchuma kwabo)

Ukujongana nokungachumi kunzima kwinqanaba leemvakalelo, nako. Uphononongo lubonise ukuba amava anesiphithiphithi anokukhokelela ekubeni uzive uhlazekile, unetyala, kunye nokungazithembi-into uDunham awazibonela ngawayo. Kuye Iphephancwadi likaHarper Isincoko, wathi uyazibuza ukuba amava akhe angaphumelelanga e-IVF athetha ukuba "ufumana oko kufanelekileyo." (UChrissy Teigen no-Anna Victoria baye bathetha ngokuphandle malunga nobunzima beemvakalelo be-IVF, nabo.)

“Ndakhumbula indlela asabela ngayo umhlobo wam owayesakuba ngumhlobo, kwiminyaka emininzi eyadlulayo, xa ndamxelela ukuba ngamanye amaxesha ndandinexhala lokuba i-endometriosis yam sisiqalekiso esasifuna ukundixelela ukuba andimfanelanga umntwana,” waqhubeka uDunham. Waphantse watshicela. 'Akukho mntu ufanele ukuba nomntwana.'

UDunham ngokucacileyo wafunda okuninzi kuwo wonke la mava. Kodwa esinye sezifundo zakhe ezikhulu, wabelana ngesincoko sakhe, kubandakanya ukuyeka ulawulo. "Kuninzi onokuthi ukulungise ebomini - ungaphelisa ubudlelwane, ube nengqondo, uzimisele, uxolo," ubhale watsho. "Kodwa awukwazi ukunyanzela indawo yonke ukuba ikunike umntwana oye waxelelwa ngumzimba wakho yonke into eyayingenakwenzeka." (Idibeneyo: Yintoni uMolly Sims afuna ukuba amaNina ayazi malunga nesiGqibo sokuKhulula amaqanda abo)

Nangona bekunzima ukufumanisa oko, uDunham wabelana ngebali lakhe ngoku ngokubambisana nezigidi zabanye "abaphumi-mkhosi be-IVF" abaye batyhubela amahlandinyuka amava. "Ndibhale esi siqwenga kubafazi abaninzi abangaphumelelanga kwisayensi yezonyango kunye nebhayoloji yabo, abaye basilela ngakumbi kuluntu lokungakwazi ukucinga enye indima kubo," utshilo uDunham kwiposti ye-Instagram. "Ndibhalele nabantu abagxotha iintlungu zabo. Kwaye ndibhalele abantu abangabaziyo kwi-Intanethi - abanye babo endinxibelelana nabo, uninzi lwabo ndingakhange ndilwenze - ababonisa kum, ngokuphindaphindiweyo, ukuba ndikude yedwa."

Equkumbela iposi yakhe ye-Instagram, uDunham uthe unethemba lokuba isincoko sakhe "siqala iincoko ezimbalwa, sibuze imibuzo emininzi kunokuba siphendule, kwaye siyasikhumbuza ukuba zininzi iindlela zokuba ngumama, kunye neendlela ezininzi zokuba ngumfazi."

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