Masithethe ngokuKrwitshwa ngexesha lokwabelana ngesondo

Umxholo

• Yintoni i-Erotic Asphyxiation?
• Kutheni abantu bethanda ukukrwitshwa ngexesha lokwabelana ngesondo?
• Inkalo yePhysical
• Imeko yezeengqondo
• Ngaba ukrwitshwa ngexesha lokwabelana ngesondo kukhuselekile?
• Ungayifaka njani into yokuKrwitshwa kubomi bakho boSondo
• Inyathelo 1: Yazi i-anatomy yakho.
• Inyathelo 2: Imvume ngaphambi, ngexesha nasemva.
• Inyathelo lesi-3: Nxibelelana ngemida.
• Inyathelo lesi-4: Gcina ingqondo yakho icocekile.
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Ukuba ingcinga yesandla somntu entanyeni yakho-okanye ngokuchaseneyo-ikuguqulela, yamkelekile. Ukukrwitshwa ngexesha lokwabelana ngesondo akuyona into entsha. Asiyonto ingaqhelekanga engazange icingelwe mntu. Kodwa iye yaduma kakhulu (okanye ubuncinci yangena kwingxoxo yoluntu) ngokuyinxenye ngenxa yesiganeko sikaDisemba ka-2019 nomntu waseNew Jersey oneminyaka elishumi elinesithoba owasweleka ngengozi ngelixa wayedlala neqabane.

Ngokungafaniyo nezinye iikinks ezifana nokubotshwa kwentambo kunye nokudlala ngonyawo, ukukrwitshwa kuza neengozi ezinzulu. Ukwenza njalo kususa umntu kwioksijini yakhe, kwaye oko kuza noxanduva olukhulu. Eyona ndlela yokuziqhelanisa nokukrwitsha ngexesha lokwabelana ngesondo, ukuba ukhetha ukuziqhelanisa nalo konke konke, kukuqonda umngcipheko kwaye wenze konke okusemandleni akho ukuzifundisa ngendlela onokuyifaka ngokukhuselekileyo.

Apha, abanyangi ngesondo babelana ngalo lonke ulwazi oludingayo malunga nendlela yokuziqhelanisa nokukrwitsha ngexesha lokwabelana ngesondo ngendlela ekhuselekileyo - kuba isondo elikhuselekileyo lilwazi ngesondo. Masingene kwi-nitty-gritty apho ulwazelelelo lulele ngokukrwitsha ngexesha lokwabelana ngesondo kunye namanye amanqaku aphambili ekufuneka uwakhumbule ngaphambi kokunikezela.

Yintoni i-Erotic Asphyxiation?

Ukukrwitshwa luhlobo lwe-erotic asphyxiation (EA) okanye umdlalo wokuphefumla onokwenziwa ngexesha lokwabelana ngesondo uwedwa okanye kumaqabane (xa usenziwa uwedwa, kubizwa ngokuba yi-autoerotic asphyxiation). "Ukudlala ngokuphefumla kubandakanya ukunqamla ukunikezela komoya kuwe, iqabane lakho, okanye nobabini ngexesha lokwabelana ngesondo," utsho ugqirha wezonyango kwezesondo kunye nonyango lwengqondo, uKristie Overstreet, Ph.D. Kukuthintelwa ngabom kweoksijini ebuchotsheni kulonwabo lwesondo.

Ukukrwitshwa ngexesha lokwabelana ngesondo yenye yeendlela ezininzi zokuphefumula umoya. Ezinye iifom ziquka ukubamba impumlo, ukuvala umlomo, nokubamba umoya. Umdlalo wokuphefumla (ngazo zonke iintlobo zawo) uwela phantsi kweambrela yokudlala - nayiphi na imisebenzi yesondo enokubangela ingozi enkulu.

Kutheni abantu bethanda ukukrwitshwa ngexesha lokwabelana ngesondo?

Ukudlala ngokuphefumla kungakhokelela ekuvuseleleni, "utshilo u-Ashley Grinonneau-Denton, Ph.D. Yintoni enika umntu kuloo meko yokuvuka iyahluka njengoko kukho amanqanaba ambalwa okukrwitshwa okuqwalaselweyo.

Inkalo yePhysical

"Ngexesha lokukrwitshwa, ingqondo yakho ihluthwe ioksijini," utshilo uKimberly Resnick Anderson, ingcali yezesondo eqinisekisiweyo kunye nonjingalwazi oncedisayo kwizifundo zengqondo e-UCLA David Geffen School of Medicine. "Oku kunokubangela ukuba imeko ye-lucid kodwa ibe-hallucinogenic." Ukunqongophala kweoksijini efikelela ebuchotsheni kubangela amava izigulana zakhe zifanise nokuphelelwa zingqondweni kwaye zithande ukonwabela, utshilo.

Emva koko, "ukubuya kokuhamba kweoksijini, umzimba uphefumla ngokoqobo," utsho uGrinonneau-Denton. "Lo moya uphuma kunye nokukhululwa kwe-dopamine kunye ne-serotonin [ii-neurotransmitters ezimbini] ezinokuthi zikhokelele kwimincili njengoko umzimba usebenza ukubuyela kwimeko yawo yomoya ophelileyo." (Qaphela: Zombini zisemva komthambo wakho ophakamileyo.) Ingqondo ithatha iintlungu kwimeko yesini kwaye iguqulele loo mzimba emzimbeni njengokonwaba. Kungenxa yokuba, eneneni, iintlungu kunye nolonwabo kusebenze iinxalenye ezifanayo zobuchopho ezinxulumene nokubangela i-dopamine.

Imeko yezeengqondo

Kukho icandelo lokudlala amandla. "Olu hlobo lomdlalo wesondo oluyingozi lufuna ukuthenjwa kakhulu kwiqabane elithobekileyo ukuya kobalaseleyo," utshilo uGrinonneau-Denton. Isakhono sokulawula okanye ukunika ulawulo kwiqabane lakho sinokukhululeka. Inokubonisa ukuba sesichengeni okukhulu. (Idibeneyo: Isikhokelo seBDSM saBasaqalayo)

Kutheni le nto umntu enokukrwitshwa inokuba yiyo nayiphi na kwezi zinto okanye indibaniselwano yazo. "Kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuba wonke umntu uthatha inxaxheba kuyo ngezizathu ezahlukeneyo kunye nezibheno," utshilo u-Overstreet. Ukusuka kwiimvakalelo zomzimba ukuya ekudlaleni ngokufa, isizathu sokuba umntu akonwabele ukukrwitshwa ngexesha lokwabelana ngesondo sobuqu, njengawo nawuphi na umdla wesondo.

Ngaba ukrwitshwa ngexesha lokwabelana ngesondo kukhuselekile?

Ukudlala ngokuphefumla kakubi kunokuba yingozi kakhulu, utshilo uGrinonneau-Denton. "Ukhuseleko kunye nemvume zihlala zibalulekile. Kwaye xa kufikwa ekuthinteleni ioksijini, into esiyidingayo sonke ukuze siphile kwaye siqhubeke nokuphila, ngokuqinisekileyo izibonda azibi sezantsi."

Akukho ndlela yokwahlula iingozi ezibandakanyekileyo kukukrwitshwa. Ke kunyanzelekile ukuba uyazi into ozifaka kuyo ngaphambi kokuzama.

Qaphela: Ukuchonga kunye nokuqonda umngcipheko wesenzo sezesondo akufani nokuhlazisa umntu ngokubonisa umdla wabo wesondo. Ukuba ukrwitsha ngexesha lokwabelana ngesondo yinto onomdla wayo ekuphononongeni, ngazo zonke iindlela, yenze-kodwa wenze ngokukhuselekileyo.

Ungayifaka njani into yokuKrwitshwa kubomi bakho boSondo

Ukuthetha ngokujonga umkhwa wokukrwitshwa ngokukhuselekileyo, Nazi ezinye zeendlela ezifanelekileyo zokwenza oko.

Inyathelo 1: Yazi i-anatomy yakho.

"Nangona intamo yayingenziwanga ukuba ibe mfiliba, uxinzelelo oluninzi lunokubangela umonakalo omkhulu ukuba awufundanga malunga nento oyenzayo ngokwengqondo," utshilo uGrinonneau-Denton. Ukuzifundisa malunga ne-anatomy yentamo kunokukunceda ukuba ufunde ukuba yeyiphi i-grips eyona ikhuselekileyo kunye nendlela yokufaka uxinzelelo.

Kukho iindawo ezibalulekileyo zomzimba ezidlula entanyeni okanye ngqo entanyeni, kubandakanya intambo yomqolo, iintambo zezwi, inxenye yomqala, imithambo yegazi ekhupha igazi ebusweni, entanyeni, nasengqondweni, kwaye imithambo yecarotid ehambisa igazi entloko nasentanyeni.

Nokuba usebenzisa izandla, izibophelelo, okanye ezinye izithintelo, kungcono ukubandakanyeka kumdlalo wokuphefumla njengomntu onolwazi. Kule meko, unolwazi malunga nokwenziwa kwentamo. "Kuphephe uxinzelelo oluthe ngqo kwi-trachea [uqhoqhoqho] kwaye ubeke uxinzelelo emacaleni entamo endaweni yoko," utshilo uAnderson. (Idibeneyo: Ezona Zinto zokudlala ziSondo ziBalaseleyo ukuba unomdla wokuzama i-BDSM)

UAnderson ucebisa ngokudibanisa nengcali kuluntu lwe-BDSM kwiqonga elifana neFetlife. Umntu oqhelene nokuziqhelanisa kwaye onakho (kwaye ozimiseleyo) ukukubonisa indlela yokufaka uxinzelelo ngaphandle komngcipheko omncinci.

Inyathelo 2: Imvume ngaphambi, ngexesha nasemva.

"Ungaze ucinge ngokudlala ngokuphefumla ngaphandle kwemvume kuwo onke amaqela," utshilo uOverstreet. Imvume kufuneka ibe sengqondweni yakho ngalo lonke ixesha; kanye akwanelanga. Oku kubandakanya ukubuza ngaphambi kokuba ubandakanyeke ngohlobo lokuphefumla njengokukrwitshwa, kunye nokujonga ngexesha lesigcawu ukubona indlela enivakalelwa ngayo nobabini.

Wonke umntu obandakanyekayo unelizwi malunga nento eyenzekayo. Sukucinga ukuba ngenxa yokuba bekukho imvume ekuqaleni okanye okokuqala ukuba kuya kubakho imvume kuyo yonke indawo okanye ngalo lonke ixesha. (Nantsi kanye into ebandakanya imvume kunye nendlela yokuyicela ngokufanelekileyo - ngaphambi nangexesha lamava okwabelana ngesondo.)

Inyathelo lesi-3: Nxibelelana ngemida.

"Qinisekisa ukuba uyakwazi ukuthetha, ukuthetha ngokucacileyo, kwaye uphulaphule," kusho u-Overstreet. Kuya kufuneka uzive ukhululeke ngokwaneleyo kunye neqabane lakho ukuze wakhe kwaye ubonakalise imida yakho, kubandakanya iindlela zokuthetha nezingathethiyo. Kwaye kufuneka bazive bekhululekile ukwenza kunye nokuvakalisa okufanayo nawe. Wonke umntu kufuneka abe kubude obufanayo ngaphambi kokubandakanyeka kumdlalo wokuphefumla njengokukrwitshwa.

“Musa ukuba nelizwi elikhuselekileyo kuphela, kodwa ‘nentshukumo ekhuselekileyo’ efana nokwenza uphawu loxolo ngesandla okanye ukunyathela/ukukhaba unyawo izihlandlo ezine,” utsho uAnderson. Xa uthintela ukuphefumla komntu, imikhombandlela engeyiyo yomlomo (intshukumo ekhuselekileyo) inokuza iluncedo.

Ukuthetha kunye nokumamela iqabane lakho kukugcina ukho. Unokufumana ukuqonda okungcono kwezinto ozithandayo nongazithandiyo, izinto abazithandayo nabangazithandiyo, kunye nokwenza indawo ejikeleze indawo ekhuselekileyo.

Inyathelo lesi-4: Gcina ingqondo yakho icocekile.

Ufuna ukubakhona (kwaye ungabinangqondo) kangangoko ukuze uqiniseke ukuba amava akhuselekile kwaye ayonwabisa njengoko kunokwenzeka. Kwakhona, imvume phantsi kwempembelelo ayivumi ngokwenyani. "Iikhemikhali zinokuphazamisa isigwebo, ukunciphisa ukunyaniseka kunye ne-acuity, kwaye kubangele ukulala okanye ukucima - ukwenza ukulimala okanye ukufa ngakumbi," kusho uAnderson. Ukuba ufuna ukuziqhelisa ukukrwitsha ngexesha lokwabelana ngesondo, shiya utywala kunye neziyobisi ngaphandle kwenxaki, kukhuseleko lwakho nakumaqabane akho.

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