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"Ndandilila naye." Lawo ngamazwi u-Oscar Pistorius awasebenzisileyo enkundleni ukuchaza uthando awayenalo ngentombi yakhe, uReeva Steenkamp, ​​owamdubula wambulala kunyaka ophelileyo. Nokuba uyakholelwa okanye awalikholelwa ibali likaBlade Runner malunga nokwenza impazamo kwisithandwa sakhe somntu oqhekeza indlu, uvumile ukuba nomona kwaye abe namandla kuye.

Ewe kunjalo, uninzi lwamadoda luyakwazi ukugcina umona wawo ulawulwa. Kodwa uninzi musa. Ngapha koko, phantse onke amadoda aba namava ohlobo lokuthatheka uPistorius awavuma ukuba wenze phantsi kwesifungo. “Izenzo zolwaphulo-mthetho zothando zikholisa ukwenziwa ngamadoda,” utsho uHelen Fisher, Ph.D., isazi ngebhayoloji kunye nombhali Kutheni le nto Sithanda: Indalo kunye neChemistry yothando lweRomantic. Amadoda nawo anamathuba amabini anesiqingatha ngaphezulu kunabasetyhini ukuba bazibulale, utshilo uFisher, esongeza ukuba, ngokweemvakalelo, amadoda ahlala ebuthathaka kwaye aguquka ngakumbi kwizini ezibini xa kufikwa kubudlelwane (ubuncinci kubudlelwane. amanqanaba okuqala).

Ngelixa kungekho nzulu nzulu yesayensi kwi-neurology yekhwele, nantsi indlela enokuthi iphazamisane nengqondo yendoda ukuba iyakha kwaye iyakha.

Usuku 1: IVeki yokuqala yoBudlelwane

Izifundo zibonisa isini (okanye ukubakho kwesini) ezibangela ukukhutshwa kwe testosterone, ekwabizwa ngokuba yihomoni yencindi. I-Testosterone ikhukula ingingqi ye-hypothalamus yengqondo yendoda yakho kwaye iqhube umnqweno wayo wokuzala. Ngelishwa, u-T ukwanyusa ubundlongondlongo kunye nokubakho kwakhe ukuze oyikise abanye abakhweli, utshilo uFisher. Yiyo loo nto ichaza ukuba kutheni enokukhetha umlo kunye nabahlobo bakho abangamadoda kwaye ajonge phantsi nawuphi na umntu ophakathi kweenyawo ezingama-20 zakho. Esinye sezizathu zolu hlaselo lwaphambi kwexesha lunokuba nenqanaba lokunyuka kwehomoni vasopressin, ethi ezinye izifundo zezilwanyana zinxulunyaniswe nembono yokuma komhlaba phakathi kwamadoda athandanayo, utshilo uFisher.

Usuku 27: Iveki yesine yobudlelwane

Amanqanaba T omntu wakho asephakanyisiwe. Kwaye ngoku xa usenza ulwalamano olusondeleyo lothando, uFisher uthi unokuba nakho ukufumana imichiza yobuchwephesha bobuchwephesha njenge-dopamine (ethumela amanqanaba emandla akhe kunye nokugxila eluphahleni) kunye ne-norepinephrine (ebonelela ngovakalelo oluphezulu). Idityaniswe nomona, ezi hormone zinokukhokelela ekuziphatheni okungaphaya, uFisher uqikelela. Amanqanaba aphezulu e-norepinephrin anokunciphisa ukutya kwakhe ukuba uziva enomona.Ngokusisiseko, "uyi-soup" yazo zonke ezi khemikhali zengqondo, ezinokumenza abe sisithunzi esingalindelekanga sesiqhelo sakhe, utshilo uFisher.

Usuku 85: Inyanga yesithathu yoBudlelwane, kunye nokuNgaphaya kwayo

Nangona lukhona uphando oluncinci malunga nefuthe lexesha elide kwingqondo, uFisher uthi ngekhe amangaliswe ukuba ixesha elide linokuba nefuthe loxinzelelo emzimbeni nasengqondweni yendoda yakho. I-Testosterone yinto ye-caustic, utsho, kwaye ekugqibeleni inokuthintela ukukhutshwa kwehomoni ezixhalabileyo njenge-cortisol, edityaniswe nokuzuza ubunzima, ukudakumba, kunye nezinye iingxaki ezingeyompilo. I-testosterone kunye ne-cortisol inokuthi icinezele ukukhutshwa kwe-serotonin yokulawula ubuthongo, uphando oluvela kwiYunivesithi yasePisa e-Italiya bonisa. Ngenxa yoko, indoda yakho ayilali ngokwaneleyo ebusuku, enokuthi ibe negalelo kwingxwabangxwaba yeemvakalelo. Ukuqhubeka kwamanqanaba aphezulu ala mahomoni kunokuwonyusa amajoni akhe omzimba, anyuse amanqanaba okudumba, utshilo uFisher. Uhlolisiso lubonisa ukuba loo nto inokumenza agule ngakumbi.

Ngaphezulu kwayo yonke loo nto, uphando oluthile lwakutshanje oluvela kwa-Israyeli luye lwadibanisa i-oxytocin kwiimvakalelo ezimbi ezifana nentiyo. I-Oxytocin ihlala ibizwa ngokuba yi "hormone yothando" kuba iyangxama ngexesha lesigaba sokudibanisa phakathi kwabathandi. Kodwa inokuthoba iimpendulo zeemvakalelo zazo zonke iintlobo-ezilungileyo okanye ezimbi-enokuthi incede ichaze isimo sengqondo esikrakra kuwe, ababhali bophononongo bathi.

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