Kukhutshwa iNarcissism enobubi

Umxholo

• Zithini iimpawu ze-narcissism enobungozi?
• I-NPD
• APD
• Ubundlongondlongo
• Usizi
• Ngaba iyafana nentlalontle?
• Ngaba iyanyangeka?
• Ukufuna uncedo
• Izinketho zonyango
• Ukuqonda ukuxhatshazwa

I-narcissism enobungozi ibhekisa ekubonakalisweni okuthile, okungaqhelekanga kokuphazamiseka kubuntu. Ezinye iingcali zithathela kule ntetho ye-narcissism olona hlobo luphantsi kakhulu.

Ayibonakali njenge-diagnostic esemthethweni kwi-Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, Fifth Edition (DSM-5). Kodwa uninzi lweengqondo kunye neengcali zempilo yengqondo ziye zasebenzisa eli gama ukuchaza uluhlu oluthile lweempawu zobuntu.

Ngokwe-Campbell's Psychiatric Dictionary, i-narcissism enobungozi idibanisa iimpawu ze:

• Ukuphazamiseka kubuntu (i-NPD)
• Ukuphazamiseka kubuntu (i-APD)
• Ubundlongondlongo kunye nosizi, nokuba ungabanye, wena, okanye zombini
• paranoia

Funda ukuze ufunde ngakumbi malunga ne-narcissism enobungozi, kubandakanya neempawu eziqhelekileyo, ukuba zithelekiswa njani nentlalontle, nokuba iyanyangeka na.

Zithini iimpawu ze-narcissism enobungozi?

I-narcissism enobungozi inokubonisa ngeendlela ezininzi - akukho luhlu lubekiweyo lweempawu. Kwakhona kunzima kakhulu, ngakumbi kumntu ongeyena ochwepheshe bezempilo yengqondo, ukwahlula phakathi kwe-narcissism enobungozi kunye ne-NPD enzima.

Esi sizathu sokuba kutheni kungcono ukuba ungasebenzisi eli gama (okanye elinxulumene nalo, njenge-narcissist) ukubhekisa emntwini, ngakumbi ukuba awungobungcali kwezempilo yengqondo onolwazi ngemvelaphi yomntu.

Kwaye kwakhona, akukho mvumelwano ingcali kwiikhrayitheriya ze-narcissism enobungozi. Kodwa uninzi lweengcali zempilo yezengqondo zixhasa ubukho bayo njengenxalenye ye-narcissism spectrum. Kukho isivumelwano ngokubanzi malunga nokubonakaliswa kweempawu okunokwenzeka.

Kodwa olu hlobo lwe-narcissism lunokubonakala kunye nayo nayiphi na indibaniselwano yeempawu ezivela kwezi ndidi zilandelayo.

I-NPD

Njengokunye ukuphazamiseka kobuntu, i-NPD yenzeka kwibala kwaye ibandakanya uluhlu lweempawu. I-DSM-5 idwelisa iimpawu ezilithoba ezinceda ukufumanisa i-NPD, kodwa zintlanu kuphela ezifunekayo ekuchongeni isifo.

Iimpawu eziqhelekileyo ze-NPD zibandakanya:

• iingcinga ezinkulu kunye nokuziphatha, njengokuzixakekisa ngeengcinga zempumelelo yobuqu, amandla, kunye nomtsalane okanye ukubhenela kwisini
• uvelwano oluncinci okanye akukho kwaphela kwiimvakalelo zabanye abantu okanye iimvakalelo
• isidingo esibalulekileyo sokuqwalaselwa, ukunconywa kunye nokwamkelwa
• Ukuziva unomoya wokuzibona ubalulekile, njengotyekelo lokubaxa italente yobuqu okanye impumelelo
• inkolelo yobungcali bakho kunye nokongama
• imvakalelo yelungelo
• utyekelo lokuxhaphaza abanye okanye ukuxhaphaza abantu ukuze bafumane inzuzo
• ukuzikhukhumeza okanye ukuzikhukhumeza nokuziphatha
• utyekelo lokumonela abanye kwaye ukholelwe ukuba abanye bayabamonela

Abantu abane-NPD bahlala benengxaki yokujongana notshintsho. Banokuziva bedandathekile okanye behlazekile xa baziva bethotyiwe, benobunzima bokungazithembi kunye nokuba sesichengeni, kwaye basabele ngomsindo xa abanye bengakhange bababone ngokubancoma abakufunayo kwaye baziva befanelekile.

Le meko ikwahlala ibandakanya ubunzima bokulawula iimvakalelo kunye neempendulo zokuziphatha kuxinzelelo.

APD

Ezona mpawu ziphambili zale meko kukungakhathaleli ngokungafaniyo iimvakalelo zabanye abantu. Oku kunokubandakanya ukuphathwa kunye nenkohliso kunye nokuphathwa gadalala ngokwasemzimbeni okanye ngokweemvakalelo. Elinye icandelo eliphambili kukungazisoli ngesiphoso.

Ukuziphatha ngogonyamelo okanye ubundlongondlongo kunokuba luphawu lwale meko, kodwa abanye abantu abaphila ne-APD abaze baziphathe gadalala.

Abantu abaphila ne-APD babonisa iimpawu zokuziphatha gwenxa ebuntwaneni. Oku kunokubandakanya ubundlobongela kwabanye abantu nakwizilwanyana, ukonakaliswa kwempahla, okanye ubusela. Ngokuqhelekileyo abaqwalaseli okanye abanandaba nemiphumo yezenzo zabo.

Abantu abadala kuphela bafumanisa ukuba bane-APD. Ukuxilongwa kufuna ubuncinci ezintathu kwezi mpawu zilandelayo:

• ukujongela phantsi igunya kunye nemilinganiselo yezentlalo, ebonakaliswa kukuqhubeka ngokungekho mthethweni okanye ukwaphula umthetho
• ipateni yenkohliso, kubandakanya ukuxhaphaza nokunyanzelisa abanye abantu
• ukungakhathali, ukungxamiseka, okanye isimilo esiyingozi esibonisa ukungakhathaleli ukhuseleko lomntu okanye ukhuseleko lwabanye abantu
• ukuzisola okuncinci okanye ukungabikho kwaphela ngezenzo ezinobungozi okanye ezingekho mthethweni
• imeko enobutshaba ngokubanzi, ukuba nomsindo, ukuba ndlongondlongo, ukuphumla okanye ukuphazamiseka
• iphethini yokungakhathali, ikratshi, okanye ukungaziphathi kakuhle
• ubunzima bokucwangcisa kwangaphambili

Ubundlongondlongo

Ubundlongondlongo buchaza uhlobo lokuziphatha, hayi imeko yempilo yengqondo. Abantu abanakufunyaniswa benobundlongondlongo, kodwa ingcali yezempilo yengqondo okanye enye ingcali inokuqaphela izenzo zobundlongondlongo njengenxalenye yeprofayile yokuqonda isifo.

Ukuziphatha okungalawulekiyo kunokwenzeka njengempendulo yomsindo okanye enye imvakalelo kwaye ngokubanzi kubandakanya injongo yokwenzakalisa okanye yokutshabalalisa. Zintathu iintlobo eziphambili zobundlongondlongo:

• UbutshabaUbundlongondlongo. Oku kukuziphatha okujolise ngokukodwa ekonzakaliseni okanye ekutshabalaliseni umntu okanye into.
• Isixhobo sesixhobo. Esi sisenzo sobundlongondlongo esinxulumene nenjongo ethile, njengokutshitshisa ifestile yemoto ukuze ube isipaji.
• Ubundlongondlongo obuchaphazelekayo. Oku kubhekisa kukuziphatha okujolise ngqo emntwini okanye kwinto ebangele imvakalelo. Isenokuphinda ithunyelwe kwakhona ukuba akunakwenzeka ukuba kujolise owona mthombo. Ukubetha udonga endaweni yokubetha omnye umntu ngumzekelo wobundlongondlongo obunomdla, ngakumbi xa isenzo sibandakanya umnqweno wokubangela umonakalo.

Usizi

I-Sadism kukuzonwabisa ukuhlazisa umntu okanye ukubangela iintlungu.

I-DSM-5 idwelisa ukuphazamiseka kwengqondo ngokwesondo njengemeko ebandakanya ukuvuswa kwesondo okunxulunyaniswe nombono wokubangela umntu ongavumelaniyo nentlungu engafunekiyo. Kodwa i-sadism yona ayisiyo isifo sokuqonda kwengqondo, kwaye ayisosondo rhoqo.

Abantu abanotyekelo olubi banokuthi:

• ukonwabele ukukhathaza abanye
• ukonwabele ukubukela abanye beva iintlungu
• bafumana ulonwabo ngokwesondo ngokubona abanye besentlungwini
• bachithe ixesha elininzi becinga ngokwenzakalisa abanye abantu, nokuba abakwenzi oko
• ufuna ukukhathaza abanye xa ucatshukisiwe okanye unomsindo
• Konwabele ukuhlazisa abanye, ngakumbi kwiindawo zikawonke-wonke
• bathambekele kwizenzo ezinobundlobongela okanye isimilo
• ziphathe ngendlela elawulayo okanye elawulayo

Ezinye iingcali zicebisa ukuba isimilo esibuhlungu sinceda ukuseta i-NPD kunye ne-narcissism enobungozi ngaphandle. I-Narcissism ihlala ibandakanya ukufuna ukuzimela kunye neenjongo, kodwa abantu abane-NPD basenokubonisa ukuzisola okanye ukuzisola ngokwenzakalisa abanye kwinkqubo.

Ngaba iyafana nentlalontle?

Abantu abaninzi basebenzisa igama elithi sociopath kwincoko eqhelekileyo. Usenokuyiva isetyenziselwa ukuchaza abantu ababonakala ngathi abakhathalelanga abanye abantu okanye abo baxhaphazayo basebenzise abo babathandayo.

I-Sociopathy ihlala ibhekisa kwiimpawu kunye nokuziphatha okuqhelekileyo kubonwa nge-APD. Kodwa ngokufanayo kwi-narcissism enobungozi, intlalontle isetyenziswa kuphela njengegama elisesikweni, hayi isifo esithile.

I-narcissism enobungozi ayifani nentlalontle, kuba iimpawu ze-APD ziyinxalenye kuphela yale narcissism subtype.

Ngaba iyanyangeka?

Ngokubanzi, unyango lunokunceda nabani na ofuna unyango ngenjongo yokubeka iinzame zokuphucula iimvakalelo zabo, indlela abaziphethe ngayo okanye indlela abasabela ngayo ngokweemvakalelo.

Ngokuqinisekileyo kunokwenzeka ukuba abantu abaphila ne-narcissism enobungozi, okanye naluphi na olunye uhlobo lwe-narcissism, banokuya kunyango kwaye basebenze ukutshintsha indlela yokuziphatha enefuthe elibi kubomi babo okanye kumalungu osapho lwabo, amaqabane kunye nabahlobo.

Ukufuna uncedo

Abantu abahlala neempawu zalo naluphi na uhlobo lwe-narcissism abanokufuna uncedo ngokwabo. Bahlala bengaqondi ukuba kukho into engalunganga ngezenzo zabo kunye nokuziphatha.

Kodwa banokuba nezinye iimpawu ezibakhokelela kunyango, kubandakanya:

• ukudakumba
• ukucaphuka
• imiba yokulawula umsindo

Ngamanye amaxesha, banokukhuthazwa ukuba bangene kunyango ngenxa yomyalelo wenkundla, isigwebo esivela kwiqabane elithandanayo okanye kwilungu losapho, okanye esinye isizathu.

Nangona kunjalo, ukuze unyango lusebenze, kufuneka ekugqibeleni bazifunele unyango.

Izinketho zonyango

Ukuba ucinga ukuba umntu osondeleyo kuwe unokujongana nokuphazamiseka kobuntu, njenge-NPD okanye i-APD, kubalulekile ukuba ukhumbule ukuba kunokwenzeka ukuba utshintshe. Unyango unako nceda, okoko nje bezimisele ukusebenza ukwenza umsebenzi obandakanyekayo.

Unyango ludla ngokuba nzima, kodwa luhlala luhlawula ngezibonelelo ezinkulu, kubandakanya:

• ubudlelwane obunamandla phakathi kwabantu
• ukuphuculwa kolawulo lweemvakalelo
• ubuchule obungcono bokusebenzela iinjongo

Iindidi ezithile zonyango zinokuba luncedo ngakumbi kunyango lwe-narcissism.

Uphengululo luka-2010 lwezifundo ezijonge kwi-narcissism enobungozi ziphawula ukuba unyango lunokubonisa umceli mngeni, ngakumbi xa ubundlongondlongo okanye ubundlobongela buvela kulwalamano lonyango.

Kodwa ukuthatha uxanduva kunyango kunokukhokelela kwiziphumo ezingcono. Iindidi zonyango ezicetyiswayo zibandakanya unyango olwenziweyo lokuziphatha (DBT) kunye nezibini kunye neengcebiso kusapho, apho kufanelekileyo.

Amayeza anje nge-antipsychotic kunye nokukhetha i-serotonin reuptake inhibitors (i-SSRIs) nayo inokuphucula ezinye zeempawu, kubandakanya umsindo, ukucaphuka, kunye neengqondo.

Inqaku lephephancwadi elisandula ukwenziwa licebisa ukuba unyango lwe-schema lunokuba luncedo kwi-NPD nakwimiba enxulumene noko. Olunye uphando luxhasa oku kufunyanwa.

Ezinye iindlela ezinokuphucula iziphumo zonyango zibandakanya unyango olujolise kugqithiso kunyango olusekwe kwengqondo.

Nangona kunjalo, idatha yeklinikhi kwesi sihloko iyasilela. Olunye uphando luyafuneka kunyango lwe-narcissism.

Ukuqonda ukuxhatshazwa

I-narcissism kunye nemicimbi enxulumene nayo ihlala ibandakanya ubunzima obunxulumene nokuqonda iimvakalelo zabanye abantu. Ungaqaphela imiqondiso, enjengokuziphatha ngokwakho, amagama kunye nezenzo ezikhohlisayo, okanye ipatheni yobudlelwane obungenampilo okanye ubudlelwane obungaphumelelanga.

Ukugcina usapho okanye ubudlelwane phakathi kwabantu kunokuba ngumceli mngeni ngakumbi kumntu one-narcissism enobungozi. Akuqhelekanga kubudlelwane ukubandakanya ukulawula ukuziphatha, ukukhanya kwegesi, kunye nokuxhatshazwa ngokomzwelo.

Ukuba ukufutshane nomntu ophila nge-narcissism enobungozi, kubalulekile ukuba uzikhathalele kwaye ujonge iimpawu zokuxhatshazwa.

Zininzi iindlela ezahlukeneyo zokuziphatha gwenxa, kwaye ezinye zisenokubonakala ngathi azihlukumezi njengabanye. Iimpawu eziqhelekileyo zingabandakanya:

• ukwalatha "iziphene" kwaye ubonakale ngathi uyakonwabela ukukwenza uzive utyhafile okanye ukhathazekile, okanye usithi bayenzela ukulungelwa kwakho
• ukuxoka okanye ukukukhohlisa ukuze ufezekise iinjongo zabo, nokuthethelela indlela abaziphethe ngayo kwaye bangabonisi tyala okanye ukuzisola xa ubabiza njalo
• ukubeka phantsi, ukuhlazisa, okanye ukoyikise, esidlangalaleni okanye ngasese
• ezibonakala ngathi ziyakonwabela ukwenzakalisa ngokwasemzimbeni
• ukubonisa ukungakhathali kwiimfuno zakho okanye iimvakalelo zakho
• Ukuziphatha ngendlela eyingozi okanye eyingozi, ngaphandle kokukhathalela ukuba wena okanye abanye abantu wenzakala kule nkqubo (umzekelo, ukuqhuba ngobungozi nokuhleka xa ubonakalisa uloyiko)
• Ukuthetha okanye ukwenza izinto ezingafanelekanga okanye ezikhohlakeleyo kunye nokubonakala ngathi wonwabele uxinzelelo lwakho
• Ukuziphatha ngendlela enoburhalarhume kuwe nakwabanye abantu okanye kwizinto

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