Funda Oku Ngaphambi kokuba Uncede Umhlobo Wakho ngoxinzelelo

Umxholo

• 1. Uxinzelelo sisifo
• 2. Kuchaphazela ukuzixabisa
• 3. Senzakalisiwe
• 4. Asidingi ukuba usilungise
• 5. Ukhuseleko lwethu lubethelela inkxaso yakho
• Kuya kubakho amaxesha apho kungayi kubakho ngqiqweni
• 7. Singazibuyisela kwimeko yesiqhelo xa siphinde sachacha, kwaye iya kukukhathaza
• 8. Siza kufunda ukuhlala nayo
• 9. Sifuna ukuba ubonakale
• 10. Eyona nto inkulu onokusenzela yona, kukuzinzisa nokuba sempilweni kwakho
• 11. Nyaniseka ngomzabalazo wakho wokwamkela yonke le nto
• 12. Fumana inkxaso ebomini bakho

Inyani yokuba ukhangela iindlela zokunceda umhlobo ohlala noxinzelelo iyamangalisa. Ungacinga ukuba kwihlabathi likaGqirha uGoogle, wonke umntu uza kwenza uphando malunga nento esembindini kubomi babahlobo bakhe. Ngelishwa, akusoloko kunjalo. Kwaye nokuba benze uphando, oko akuthethi ukuba wonke umntu uya kufumana iindlela ezifanelekileyo zokuxhasa abahlobo babo kunye nabantu ababathandayo.

Ndijongane noxinzelelo olukhulu ngaphakathi nangaphandle iminyaka eyi-12 ngoku. Ngamanye amaxesha, ndandifumana uvelwano nenkxaso ebendiyifuna, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha bendingayifumani. Nantsi into endinqwenela ukuba abahlobo bam babeyazi ngaphambi kokuzama ukundixhasa.

1. Uxinzelelo sisifo

Mhlawumbi uye wayiva le ngaphambili - ngokuphindaphindiweyo. Andizanga apha ukuza kukuchazela ubunzima bezinto ezenza ukuba uxinzelelo lube sisifo, ungazifumana kuyo yonke indawo. Into ekufuneka uyazi kukuba isizathu sokuba kube nzima ukuba eli nqaku liqondwe, kungekuphela kwithiyori, kodwa ngokwenza, kungenxa yokuba nakho. Umbutho wakhelwe abantu abomeleleyo kunye nabakhuthazayo. Sonke sifundisiwe kwasekuqaleni ukuxhasa le nkqubo yengcinezelo.

2. Kuchaphazela ukuzixabisa

Ayisijonganga nje kuphela ngeempawu, kwaye nendlela uluntu olujonga ngayo kuthi, kodwa sikwajongana nokunxunguphala okukhulu okujikeleze ukukhubazeka kwethu okufumanekayo. Ngephanyazo, asisenalo ixabiso elifanayo ngokwentlalo, ngokweziqu zethu, kwaye rhoqo kunangoku, ngokutsho kwakho.

3. Senzakalisiwe

Ngabanye, ngabahlobo, ngosapho, nangazo zonke iintlobo zabathandekayo. Kwaye ukuba khange sibekho, sivile ngabanye abakhe. Ndinqwenela ukuba ibiluthando, imfesane, kunye nenkxaso kubo bonke abantu abasingqongileyo, kodwa loo nto ayifane yenzeke. Asinakuthemba ukuba usibonise ezi zinto ngenxa yoko.

4. Asidingi ukuba usilungise

Asingomsebenzi wakho lowo-ngowethu. Yinto elula leyo.

5. Ukhuseleko lwethu lubethelela inkxaso yakho

Kuninzi okuhle onokukwenza, kodwa ngelishwa, kuninzi onokukwenza okungalunganga.Amaxesha anokuvela xa ungasakhuselekanga kuthi, kwaye kufuneka siphume siye kugxila kwimpilo yethu.

Kuya kubakho amaxesha apho kungayi kubakho ngqiqweni

Wamkelekile kwihlabathi loxinzelelo. Ukudakumba sisifo esineewaka ezahlukeneyo zobuso. Unokuba neempawu ezithile ngolunye usuku, kunye neempawu ezahlukileyo ngokupheleleyo ngokulandelayo. Iya kubhideka kwaye iphazamise, kuthi sobabini.

7. Singazibuyisela kwimeko yesiqhelo xa siphinde sachacha, kwaye iya kukukhathaza

Utshintsho luyoyikeka, kwaye yenye yezona zinto zinzima. Ukuba besihleli noxinzelelo ixesha elide, emva koko sinokuqonda ukuba asikulungelanga ukubuyela kwimeko yesiqhelo.

8. Siza kufunda ukuhlala nayo

Oku kuvakala ngokungqalileyo, kodwa kuya kufuneka ulungele ukuba nomhlobo ovulekileyo-kwaye ngokuziqhenya-ophila noxinzelelo. Ayisiyo ukuba sinikezele, ayisiyiyo eyokuba siphukile. Kungenxa yokuba le yinxalenye yethu kwaye, kwabanye bethu, ayipheli. Yinxalenye yenyani yethu, kwaye ukuba sikhetha ukuyamkela, nawe kufuneka uyamkele.

9. Sifuna ukuba ubonakale

Siza kuyeka inkxaso, imfesane kunye nothando ngamaxesha ahlukeneyo. Kodwa sisafuna ngamandla ukuba abantu babekhona, kuba sonke sifuna inkxaso.

10. Eyona nto inkulu onokusenzela yona, kukuzinzisa nokuba sempilweni kwakho

Baninzi kakhulu abantu abazakusitshica iingcebiso kuthi malunga nokwenza ubomi bethu bube ngcono, kodwa abayi kulusebenzisa olo cebiso ebomini babo. Ukuziphatha kweemodeli yeyona ndlela ilungileyo yokusithumela lo myalezo, kwaye kusikhumbuza ukuba ezi zixhobo azenzelwanga thina kuphela, kodwa zenzelwe wonke umntu.

11. Nyaniseka ngomzabalazo wakho wokwamkela yonke le nto

Zamkele iintsilelo zakho, kwaye ufunde ukutshintsha. Bambalwa kakhulu kuthi abafundiswayo ukuba bangabaxhasa njani na abantu abaphila nezifo zengqondo. Unokufunda okuninzi. Kuninzi ekufuneka sifunde. Kodwa ukuba asiyamkeli le nto, samkele ukusilela kwethu, kwaye sitshintshe-sizakutshabalalisa omnye nomnye.

12. Fumana inkxaso ebomini bakho

Ukuxhasa abanye ngemiceli mngeni yabo akukaze kube lula, kwaye ukuba neenkqubo zakho zenkxaso ezomeleleyo zibalulekile ekugcineni inkxaso yakho.

Zininzi ezinye izinto ekuya kufuneka uzifunde, kwaye ufunde ngolu hambo. Ekugqibeleni, ubomi bakho abusoze bufane kwakhona. Kodwa oko akusoloko kuyinto embi.

Ukuba wena okanye umntu omaziyo ufumana iimpawu zoxinzelelo, fikelela kugqirha wakho ukuze akunike inkxaso kunye nonyango. Zininzi iindlela zenkxaso onokuzifumana. Jonga eyethu iphepha lezixhobo zempilo yengqondo ngoncedo olungakumbi.

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