UMeghan Markle wathi "Wayengafuni Ukuphila kwakhona" Xa Wayeyinkosi

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Ngexesha lodliwanondlebe phakathi kuka-Oprah kunye neDuke kunye neDuchess yaseSussex, uMeghan Markle akazange abambe nto-kubandakanya iinkcukacha ezisondeleyo zempilo yakhe yengqondo ngexesha lakhe lobukumkani.

Owayesakuba nguDuchess utyhile ku-Oprah ukuba nangona "wonke umntu [kwintsapho yasebukhosini] emamkele," ubomi njengenxalenye yobukumkani babunesithukuthezi kwaye bubodwa. Kuninzi kakhulu, enyanisweni, ukuba ukuzibulala kwaba yinto "ecace gca kwaye iyinyani kwaye yoyikisa kwaye ihlala ihleli," u-Markle uxelele u-Oprah. (Eyeleleneyo: Ukufumana uFitness Kundibuyisele umva kwiBrink yokuzibulala)

"Ndandineentloni ukuyithetha ngelo xesha kwaye ndineentloni ukuba ndiyivume kuHarry. Kodwa ndandisazi ukuba ukuba andizange ndiyithethe, ngoko ndiya kuyenza, "kuchaza uMarkle. "Bendingafuni kuphila kwakhona."

Njengoko uMarkle echazayo kudliwanondlebe (kwaye nehlabathi labona kwizihloko), wakhawuleza wabonwa njengelungu elitsha losapho lwasebukhosini ukuze abonakaliswe njengobephikisayo, nobukho obucacileyo. Xa wayevula malunga nokuphononongwa awayejongene nako kumajelo eendaba aseBritane, uMarkle wavakalisa ku-Oprah ukuba uziva eyingxaki kusapho lwasebukhosini. Ngenxa yoko, wathi "ucinga ukuba [ukuzibulala] kuya kusombulula yonke into kuye wonke umntu." UMarkle uthe ekugqibeleni waya kwisebe lezabasebenzi kwiziko lasebukhosini ukuze afumane uncedo, waxelelwa ukuba akukho nto banokuyenza kuba "engelilo ilungu elihlawulwayo leziko." Ayisiyiyo loo nto kuphela, kodwa uMarkle uthe waxelelwa ukuba akanakufuna uncedo kwimpilo yakhe yengqondo kuba ukwenza oko "akuzukulungela iziko." Kwaye ke, ngamazwi kaMarkle, "Akukho nto yenziweyo." (Inxulumene: Iinkonzo zeMpilo zeNgqondo eziSimahla ezibonelela ngeNkxaso efikelelekayo kunye neFikelelekayo)

UMarkle ukhumbule kwakhona ukuba kwakunzima kangakanani ukufihla umzabalazo wakhe kunye nempilo yakhe yengqondo eluntwini. "Kufuneka siye kulo msitho eRoyal Albert Hall emva kokuba ndixelele uHarry ukuba andisafuni kuphinda ndiphinde ndiphinde," uxelele uOprah. "Kwimifanekiso, ndibona indlela amaqhina akhe abambelele nkqi ngayo kum. Siyancuma, senza umsebenzi wethu. KwiRoyal Box, xa kucinywe izibane, bendilila nje."

Ngaphambi kokuba abelane ngamava akhe ngeengcinga zokuzibulala, uMarkle uveze u-Oprah ukuba nasekuqaleni kwexesha lakhe lobukumkani, wayenesizungu. Uthe ufuna ukuya kwisidlo sasemini kunye nabahlobo bakhe kodwa endaweni yoko wayalelwa lusapho lwasebukhosini ukuba alale phantsi kwaye wagxekwa "ngokuba kuyo yonke indawo" kwimithombo yeendaba-nangona, enyanisweni, uMarkle uthe wayevalelwe yedwa ngaphakathi, ngokoqobo , iinyanga.

"Ndiyishiyile indlu kabini kwiinyanga ezine - ndikho kuyo yonke indawo kodwa andikho ndawo ngoku," uxelele uOprah ngelo xesha ebomini bakhe. Wonke umntu wayenenkxalabo nge-optics - indlela izenzo zakhe ezinokuthi zikhangeleke ngayo - kodwa, njengoko uMarkle wabelana no-Oprah, "ngaba kukho nabani na oye wathetha ngendlela evakalelwa ngayo?

Isithukuthezi asiyonto yokudlala. Xa unamava angapheliyo, kunokubangela iziphumo ezibi. Ukuziva unesithukuthezi kunokuchaphazela ukusebenza kwe-dopamine kunye ne-serotonin (i-neurotransmitters ezenza uzive ulungile) kwingqondo yakho; njengoko ukusebenza kwabo kuncipha, unokuqala ukuziva uphantsi, mhlawumbi udandathekile, okanye unexhala. Ukubeka ngokulula: isizungu sinokuwonyusa kakhulu umngcipheko woxinzelelo.

Kwimeko kaMarkle, isithukuthezi sabonakala singoyena nobangela weengcinga zokuzibulala awathi wazifumana. Nokuba zithini na ezona meko, inqaku lelokuba, ngobuhle njengoko ubomi bomntu bunokubonakala ngaphezulu, ngekhe wazi ukuba bangasokola phi ngaphakathi.Njengoko uMarkle watshela u-Oprah: "Awuyazi into eyenzekayo kumntu osemva kweengcango ezivaliweyo. Yiba novelwano ngento enokwenzeka ngokwenene."

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