Umongikazi ongumSilamsi oTshintsha iiMbono, uMntwana omnye ngaxeshanye

Umxholo

• Ukuhleka kwigumbi lokuhambisa
• Ukutshintsha imbono yokuba "Muslim" kuthetha ntoni
• Ukuba ngumama wamaSilamsi eMelika
• Abafazi abahlukeneyo, iimbono ezahlukeneyo
• Ukwenza unxibelelwano

Ukusukela oko wayengumntwana, uMalak Kikhia wayenomdla wokukhulelwa. “Nanini na xa umama wam okanye abahlobo bakhe bekhulelwe, bendihlala ndibeka isandla okanye indlebe kwisisu sabo, ndiziva kwaye ndimamele umntwana xa ekhaba. Kwaye ndibuze imibuzo emininzi, ”utshilo.

Ukuba yintombi endala kwezine, uthathe inxaxheba kwindima enkulu ngokunceda umama wakhe ukuba anyamekele oodadewabo. “Bendihlala ndizithanda iintsana. Ndandinekiti yokudlala yabongikazi ngeminyaka yoo-1980, ene-stethoscope, isirinji, kunye ne-Band- Aids, kwaye ndandidlala ngayo nonodoli noodade wethu, utshilo. Ndiyazi ukuba ndikwishumi elivisayo ukuba ndifuna ukuba ngumongikazi osebenzela abantwana nasekubelekiseni. ”

Kwakuyiphupha ayenze ukuba lizaliseke. Ngoku umongikazi osebenzayo kunye nonikezelo eGeorgia, uMalak uncede ukuhambisa abantwana abangaphezulu kwama-200 kunye nokubala. "Kuyinyani into abayithethayo: Ukuba ufumana umsebenzi owuthandayo, akufuneki usebenze usuku olunye ebomini bakho," utshilo.

Ukuhleka kwigumbi lokuhambisa

UMalak sisizukulwana sokuqala saseLibya naseMelika. Abazali bakhe bafuduka eBanghazi njengabafundi ngo-1973 baya kwiYunivesithi yaseSanta Barbara. Ngeli xesha, babenabantwana babo bokuqala ababini-kubandakanya uMalak - ngaphambi kokuba usapho lufudukele eColumbia, eMissouri ukuya kwiDyunivesithi yaseMissouri. UMalak uchithe ixesha elininzi ebuntwaneni bakhe apho. Xa watshata ngo-1995, wafudukela eGeorgia.

Ukusebenza eMzantsi, uninzi lwezigulana azibonayo azingama-Arabhu okanye amaSilamsi. Nangona enxibe ikepusi xa ekhupha, ibheji yomqeshwa wakhe ngekratshi ibonisa umfanekiso wakhe enxibe i-hijab.

"Andizifihli ukuba ndingumSilamsi," utshilo. "Ngapha koko, ndihlala ndizisa kwizigulana zam ukuze zazi ukuba eli nenekazi lihlekisayo liqhelekile ngumSilamsi." Banokude bafumane noboya obunombala omfusa-phantsi phantsi kwekepusi yakhe yokukhuhla.

Kwaye uMalak uthi unamava amahle kunye neentsapho. Uthi: "Ndizama ukukhanyisa izinto kwaye ndibenze oomama bazive bengenalo ixhala." "Ukuba ndibona ukuba umama unovalo, ndingathi," Kuqhubeka ntoni apha? Ngaba udumbile okanye ugcobile okanye uqhinekile? ’Bayayihleka loo nto ize iqhekeze umkhenkce.”

UMalak uthi ufumana imiyalezo emininzi kuFacebook evela kwizigulana zimbulela ngokwenza amava abo okuzala. "Xa ndandihambisa usana lwam lwe-100, ndafumana imvume kusapho ukuba ndibeke umfanekiso wakhe kunye nam kwimidiya yokuncokola, kwaye kwaba ngathi yinto ehamba yodwa," uyakhumbula. “Xa abaguli bam bangaphambili babona lo mfanekiso, baqala ukuphawula ukuba bangaphi na abantwana babo! Zehla iinyembezi. ”

Ukutshintsha imbono yokuba "Muslim" kuthetha ntoni

Njengobungqongqo njengoko enjalo, uMalak uyavuma ukuba unocalucalulo emsebenzini, ngokuthe ngqo nangokungathanga ngqo. Esona siganeko sigqamileyo savela kwisikolo sokonga, xa wayesebenza kwiziko ledayisisi.

Kwakubekwe kwidolophana yaseGeorgia eyayingafani kakhulu, kwaye wayenxibe i-hijab yakhe emsebenzini. Ukhumbula amadoda aliqela echaza ukuba ayifuni iArabhu ukuba iwakhathalele.

“Omnye umnumzana othile wakwenza kwacaca ukuba akafuni ndimkhathalele kuba ndingumArabhu nomSilamsi. Uthe waziva engakhuselekanga kwaye wathi kum, 'ngekhe wazi.' ”

UMalak wanxibelelana noogxa bakhe ukuqinisekisa ukuba ukhathalelwe ngokufanelekileyo nanini na xa ekweli ziko, kodwa xa umphathi wakhe waqaphela ukuba akazange amkhathalele, wajongana noMalak.

"Wandijonga efile emehlweni kwaye wathi kum:" Ungumongikazi omangalisayo. Ndiyakuthemba. Kwaye uthathe isifungo kwisikolo sabongikazi ukuba uyakunyamekela zonke izigulana nokuba zithini. Ndinomqolo. '”

Ukusukela ngelo xesha ukuya phambili, uMalak uqala ukuyikhathalela le ndoda. "Ukhalaze ekuqaleni, kodwa bendizakumxelela ukuba ndim okanye ulinde ixesha elide ukuba kufumaneke omnye umongikazi."

"Uya kudidizela atsale," uyancuma. Kodwa wahlala ngobungcali kwaye wasamkela isimo sakhe sengqondo de kwenzeka into engalindelekanga. "Ekugqibeleni, ndaba ngumongikazi amthandayo kwaye wayeza kundicela ukuba ndimhoye."

Njengokuba ubudlelwane babo bukhula, le ndoda yacela uxolo kuMalak, imchazela ukuba uxelwe gwenxa. "Ndimxelele ukuba ndiyayiqonda kwaye umsebenzi wam kukubonisa abantu baseMelika icala elihle lamaMuslim aseMelika."

Ukuba ngumama wamaSilamsi eMelika

UMalak akangomongikazi onceda oomama abatsha ukuzisa iintsana zabo emhlabeni. Ukwangumama uqobo, enoonyana abathathu kunye neentombi ezimbini. Bonke bangabemi abazelwe eMelika njengaye, kwaye bonke bakhuliswa ngamaSilamsi.

Oonyana bakhe abangamawele bakwisikolo samabanga aphakamileyo, kwaye iintombi zakhe zineminyaka eli-15 neli-12 ubudala, ngelixa unyana wakhe wamazibulo esekholejini nakuMkhosi weSizwe woMkhosi.

“Wayefuna ukujoyina xa wayeneminyaka eyi-17. Andiwuqondi umkhosi kwaye konke endinokucinga kukuba uya emfazweni, ”ukhumbula oko. “Kodwa yindoda eyomeleleyo neqhayiya ngeli lizwe njengam. Ndinebhongo kakhulu ngaye. ”

Ngelixa uMalak ekhulisa iintombi zakhe ngemigaqo yamaSilamsi, ubakhulisa ukuba bakhululeke ukuthetha ngemiba yabasetyhini kunye nokuziphatha ngokwesini. “Ukusukela besebancinci, bafundiswa igama lobufazi. Ndingumongikazi osebenzela nabelethileyo, ngapha koko! "

Ukwakhulisa ukuba bazikhethele, njengokuthi banxibe i-hijab okanye bangayinxibi. "Njengabafazi, sinelungelo lokulawula ukuba kwenzeka ntoni ngemizimba yethu." Uyongeza, "Andenzi ukuba amantombazana anxibe i-hijab. Ndicinga ukuba kukuzibophelela, ke ukuba bathatha isigqibo sokuyinxiba, yinto ekufuneka bezibophelele ekuyinxibeni. Ndikhetha ukuba balinde ukuba bathathe isigqibo de babe badala. ”

Abafazi abahlukeneyo, iimbono ezahlukeneyo

Ayisiyo kuphela ukuba uMalak usebenza ukutshintsha imbono kunye nokuqonda kwangaphambili njengomongikazi nomama, ukwanceda ukuhlanganisa ukwahlukana ngokwenkcubeko ngezinye iindlela. Njengomfazi ongumSilamsi osebenza kwimpilo yabasetyhini, ukwimeko ekhethekileyo, ngamanye amaxesha unceda abanye abafazi abangamaSilamsi ukuba bahambe ngendlela entsha xa kufikwa kukhathalelo lwempilo.

“Kwinkcubeko yethu, imiba yabasetyhini, enjengokuya exesheni nokukhulelwa, ithathwa njengeyimfihlo kakhulu kwaye ayixoxwa namadoda. Abanye abantu basetyhini baye kude bangathethi ngale micimbi kunye nabayeni babo, utshilo, ekhumbula esinye sezihlandlo apho wabizwa khona ukuba adibane nonikezelo kumfazi othetha isiArabhu onengxaki. “Babenetoliki eyindoda ethetha naye emnxebeni, emxelela ukuba makatyhale ngaphandle umntwana, kodwa akaphenduli.

Uthi: "Ndiyakuqonda ukuthandabuza kwakhe." “Wayeneentloni zokuba umntu angamxelela ngento malunga nokukhulelwa kwakhe. Ndaye ndangena ebusweni bakhe ndamxelela ukuba funeka emtyhalele ngaphandle umntwana ngoku, kungenjalo uzakufa. Waqonda kwaye waqala ukumtyhalela ngaphandle ngaphandle ngokukhuselekileyo. ”

Kwiinyanga ezintathu kamva, kwafana nomkhwekazi okhulelweyo webhinqa weza esibhedlele ecela uMalak. Wayenomsebenzi ongeyonyani kodwa wabuya, ndaza ndamhambisa umntwana wakhe. Ludibaniso olunje olunomvuzo. "

Ukwenza unxibelelwano

Nokuba uzisa abantwana abasandul 'ukuzalwa emhlabeni, efundisa iintombi zakhe ukuba zikhululeke njani kwimizimba yabo, okanye etshintsha umbono ngesigulana esinye ngexesha, uMalak uyazi kakuhle inkxalabo- kunye namathuba amakhulu-okuba ngumongikazi ongumSilamsi eMelika. .

"Ngaphandle, ndingumfazi ongumSilamsi onxibe i-hijab ... Ndihamba ndisiya kwindawo kawonke-wonke, kwaye kuthe cwaka ngokufihlakeleyo wonke umntu endijongile," utshilo.

Kwelinye icala, njengomongikazi wezabasebenzi kunye nonikezelo, uMalak ulandela umsebenzi wakhe wamaphupha kwaye unxibelelana nabantu ngamanye amaxesha abo osondeleyo, nolonwabo. Kwaye kule mizuzu apho afezekisa into ebalulekileyo - wakha iibhulorho.