Izibonelelo zeNoFap: Ngaba ziyinyani okanye zibaxiwe?

Umxholo

• Zeziphi izibonelelo ezinokubakho?
• Izibonelelo zengqondo
• Izibonelelo zomzimba
• Ngaba izibonelelo zixhaswa lulo naluphi na uphando?
• Uphando malunga nokuphulula amalungu esini
• Uphando lwamanyala
• Kuthekani ngokugcinwa kwamadlozi?
• Ngaba kukho nayiphi na ingozi?
• Nini ukubona ugqirha
• Ukwamkela isimilo esinyanzelekileyo
• Umgca wezantsi

I-NoFap iqale kwiReddit kwi2011 ngexesha lokudibana kwi-Intanethi phakathi kwabantu abaye bancama ukuphulula amalungu esini.

Igama elithi "NoFap" (ngoku igama elibizwa ngegama kunye neshishini) livela kwigama elithi "fap," eliyintetho ye-intanethi yesandi sokukrala. Uyazi - fapfapfapfap.

Oko kwaqala njengengxoxo engaqhelekanga ngoku yiwebhusayithi kunye nentlangano ekhuthaza ukuyeka nje ukuphulula amalungu esini kodwa iphonografi kunye nezinye iindlela zokuziphatha ngokwesondo.

Abaphulaphuli ekujoliswe kubo kubonakala ngathi ngamadoda athe tye, aneepokotho ezincinci zabafazi kunye ne-LGBTQIA + abantu.

Abaxhasi bathi ukwamkela indlela yokuphila ye-NoFap kunika uluhlu lwezibonelelo, ukusuka ekucaceni kwengqondo ukuya ekukhuleni kwemisipha. Kodwa ngaba bukhona ubunyani kula mabango?

Zeziphi izibonelelo ezinokubakho?

Siza kuqala ngamanqanaba aphezulu e testosterone. Yiyo le nto evuselele ingxoxo yaseReddit yoqobo emva komhla emva kokuba umsebenzisi abelane ngesifundo esidala esingafumananga ukunyusa iintsuku ezi-7 zonyusa amanqanaba e testosterone ngo.

Oku kwavusa abanye ukuba bahambe iveki bengakhange baphulula amaphambili, abanye babo baye babelana ngezinye izibonelelo zokuba "fapstinence." Oku kubandakanya izibonelelo zempilo yengqondo nengokwasemzimbeni kunye nokuvuka ngokomoya kunye neepiphani.

Izibonelelo zengqondo

Amalungu oluntu lwaseNoFap axele ukuba afumana inani lezibonelelo zengqondo, kubandakanya:

• ukwanda kokonwaba
• ukukhulisa ukuzithemba
• ukwanda kwenkuthazo kunye nokuzimisela
• amanqanaba asezantsi oxinzelelo kunye noxinzelelo
• ukukhula ngokomoya
• ukuzamkela
• isimo sengqondo esiphucukileyo kunye noxabiso ngesini esahlukileyo

Izibonelelo zomzimba

Ezinye zezibonelelo zomzimba ezabiwe nguNoFappers zezi:

• amanqanaba aphezulu amandla
• ukukhula kwezihlunu
• ukulala ngcono
• Ukuphucula ukugxila kunye nokugxila
• ukusebenza ngcono komzimba kunye namandla
• ukuphucula okanye ukuphilisa ukungasebenzi kakuhle kwe-erectile
• ukuphucula umgangatho wesidoda

Ngaba izibonelelo zixhaswa lulo naluphi na uphando?

Kukho ubungqina obuninzi be-anecdotal ngaphakathi kwendawo yaseNoFap. Amalungu amaninzi ayavuya ukwabelana ngemivuzo abayifumene ngokuyeka i-masturbation okanye i-pornography.

Kunokubakho isiphumo se-placebo ekudlaleni, oko kuthetha ukuba abantu bajoyina uluntu olulindele iziphumo ezithile kwaye zenze ukuba zenzeke.

Le ayisiyonto imbi, ngokuyimfuneko. Abanye abantu banokuxhamla kuyo kwaye bafumane ezinye zezicwangciso ezinikezelwa kwiwebhusayithi ezixabisekileyo.

Uphando malunga nokuphulula amalungu esini

Ukuyeka ukuphuma ejaculating kwiintsuku ezimbalwa kunokunyusa i-testosterone kunye nokuphucula umgangatho wesidoda. Nangona kunjalo, akukho phando lubuyisela amanye amabango anxulumene nokungahambisi.

Uninzi lweengcali ziyavuma ukuba ukuphulula amalungu esini yinto esempilweni kwaye iyinxalenye yophuhliso lwesini oluqhelekileyo. ibonisa ukuba ukuphulula amalungu esini kubuntwana nakwiminyaka yokufikisa phakathi kwabasetyhini kunxulunyaniswa nokuziphethe kakuhle kunye namava ezesondo emva kwexesha ebomini.

Ezinye izibonelelo zempilo yomzimba nezengqondo ezinxulunyaniswe nokuphulula amaphambili zibandakanya:

• ukuphucula isimo
• ukulala ngcono
• uxinzelelo kunye noxinzelelo
• isiqabu xa usiya exesheni
• Umngcipheko omncinci womhlaza wesibeletho (uphando luyaqhubeka ukukhangela eli khonkco)

Uphando lwamanyala

Ngelixa kungekho phando lungako malunga nephonografi, obunye ubungqina bubonisa ukuba inezibonelelo ezinokubakho.

Into enomdla kukuba, uninzi lwezibonelelo zoononophala eziqwalaselwe kolunye lolo phando zininzi ezifanayo nezo zeNoFappers ingxelo yokufumana amava emva kokuyeka iphonografi.

Abathathi-nxaxheba abangamadoda nabasetyhini kolu phando baxela ukuba iphonografi elukhuni yayiluncedo kubomi babo ngokwesondo kunye nemibono kunye nesimo sengqondo malunga nokwabelana ngesondo, amalungu esini esahlukileyo, kunye nobomi ngokubanzi. Kwaye okukhona bebukele, kokukhona izibonelelo zisomelela.

Kuthekani ngokugcinwa kwamadlozi?

Okokuqala, masikucacise ukuba ukugcinwa kwamadlozi kunye neNoFap akuyona into efanayo, nangona uhlala uyibona isetyenziswe kwimeko efanayo kwiifom ze-intanethi.

Ukugcinwa kwamadlozi yinto yokuthintela ukunyuka. Ikwabizwa ngokuba yi-coitus reservatus kunye nolondolozo lweseminal. Yindlela abantu abahlala beyisebenzisa kwisini se-tantric.

Umahluko ophambili phakathi kokugcinwa kwamadlozi kunye neNoFap kukuba unokuthintela ukubonakaliswa ngexesha lokonwabela umsebenzi wesondo kunye ne-orgasm. Injalo loo nto: Unokuba nenye ngaphandle kwenye, nangona inokuthatha isenzo.

Abantu bakholelwa ukuba ibonelela ngeendlela ezininzi zokomoya, zengqondo, kunye nezomzimba njengeNoFap.

Ukugcinwa kwamadlozi kufuna ulawulo olomeleleyo lwezihlunu kunye nokufunda ukutshintsha izihlunu zakho zangaphambi nje kokuphuma.

Unokuziqhelanisa nokugcina amadlozi ngokwakho okanye neqabane. Ukuzivocavoca kweKegel kunye neminye imisebenzi yomgangatho we-pelvic kunokukunceda uyiqonde.

Ukuba unomdla kwizibonelelo ezichaziweyo zeNoFap ngaphandle kokuyeka iphonografi okanye ukuphulula amalungu esini, ukugcinwa kwamadlozi kunokuba yenye indlela oyifunayo.

Ngaba kukho nayiphi na ingozi?

Ukuthatha inxaxheba kwiNoFap akunakulindeleka ukuba kubangele nakuphi na ukwenzakala, kodwa oko kuthetha ukuba uyakuphulukana nezibonelelo ezininzi eziqinisekisiweyo zokuphulula amalungu esini, isini, i-orgasms, kunye ne-ejaculation.

Kwakhona, i-NoFap ayiyiyo indawo yonyango. Ukuzama endaweni yokufuna uncedo lweengcali kunokukuthintela ekufumaneni unyango oludingayo.

Nini ukubona ugqirha

Ukuba unenkxalabo yokuba ufumana naluphi na uhlobo lokungasebenzi kakuhle ngokwesondo, kubandakanya imicimbi ejikeleze ii-erections, i-ejaculation, kunye ne-libido, jonga umboneleli wezempilo.

Ukuba unenkxalabo malunga nokuziphatha kwakho ngokwesondo okanye uziva ulusizi, ungenathemba, okanye ungakhuthazeki, cinga ngokufikelela kwingcali yezempilo yengqondo.

Ukwamkela isimilo esinyanzelekileyo

Andiqinisekanga ukuba ujongene nokuziphatha okunyanzelekileyo malunga ne-masturbation okanye i-pornography?

Jonga le miqondiso iqhelekileyo:

• ukuzixakekisa ngesondo, ukuphulula amalungu esini, okanye iphonografi ephazamisa ubomi bakho bemihla ngemihla
• ukungakwazi ukulawula okanye ukuyeka isimilo
• ukuxoka ukogquma isimilo sakho
• ukuthatheka, ukuqhubeka kweengcinga zesondo kunye nemibono
• ukufumana iziphumo ezibi ngenxa yokuziphatha kwakho, ubuqu okanye umsebenzi
• Ukuziva uzisola okanye unetyala emva kokuthatha inxaxheba ekuziphatheni

Ukuba unengxaki yokuziphatha ngokwesondo okunyanzelekileyo kwaye ufuna inkxaso, ukujoyina indawo yeNoFap ayisiyiyo kuphela into onokukhetha kuyo.

Abantu abaninzi bakufumanisa kuluncedo ukuthetha nabanye ababelana ngamava afanayo. Unokucela ugqirha okanye isibhedlele sasekhaya ngolwazi malunga namaqela enkxaso.

Unokufumana kwakhona imithombo yolwazi kwi-Intanethi. Nazi izibini onokufumana ziluncedo:

• Isazi seengqondo esivela kuMbutho wezengqondo zaseMelika
• umfumani wezesondo oqinisekisiweyo ovela kuMbutho waseMelika wooTitshala bezeSondo, abaCebisi kunye neeTherapists

Umgca wezantsi

Ngelixa abanye abantu benika ingxelo yokufumana uluhlu lwezibonelelo ngokwamkela indlela yokuphila yeNoFap, la mabango awasekelwanga kubungqina obuninzi besayensi.

Akukho nto iphosakeleyo ngokwemvelo ngokuphulula amalungu esini, nokuba uyenza ngelixa ubukele iphonografi. Ukuthatha inxaxheba ekuzithandeni akuyongxaki ngaphandle kokuba kuphazamisana nobomi bakho.

Oko kwathiwa, ukuba uyakonwabela ukuba yinxalenye yoluntu lweNoFap kwaye uyifumana yongeza ixabiso kubomi bakho, akukho bungozi bokunamathela kuyo.

Qiniseka ukuba ulandela umboneleli wakho wezempilo malunga nayiphi na inkxalabo yezempilo nangokwasemzimbeni.

U-Adrienne Santos-Longhurst ngumbhali ozimeleyo kunye nombhali obhale ngokubanzi kuzo zonke izinto zempilo kunye nendlela yokuphila ngaphezulu kweshumi leminyaka. Xa engafakwanga kwindawo yakhe yokubhala ephanda inqaku okanye esenza udliwanondlebe neengcali zempilo, unokufunyanwa edlala ejikeleze idolophu yaselunxwemeni kunye nomyeni kunye nezinja kwi-tow okanye ngokutshiza malunga nechibi elizama ukulawula ibhodi yokuma.