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Umxholo

• 1. Nokuba ungachacha wedwa, imiba esisiseko iya kubuya ikulume esileni.
• 2. Ubudlelwane bakho buhlupheka ngeendlela ongaziboniyo.
• 3. Musa ukuhlala "ubuyiselwe ngokwaneleyo."
• 4. Ukubuyela kwimeko yesiqhelo kunokwenzeka ngakumbi ukuba ufumana uncedo.
• 5. Awuwedwa.
• 6. Unokukhetha.
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Kudala-dala, waxoka kuba ungafuni mntu uzokumisa. Ukutya oye wakweqa, izinto ozenzileyo kwigumbi lokuhlambela, iziqwenga zamaphepha apho wawulanda khona iiponti kunye neekhalori kunye neegrama zeswekile-uzifihlile ukuze kungabikho mntu uza kukungena. Kuba akukho mntu unokuze akuqonde, aqonde ukuba kanjani efunekayo ukulawula umzimba wakho, nokuba yintoni na iindleko.

Kodwa ufuna ubomi bakho bubuyele. Ubomi apho unokumamela incoko epatini ngaphandle kokucinga ngetafile yokutya, ubomi apho ungakhange ube iibhari zegranola kwibhokisi ephantsi kwebhedi yomntu ohlala naye okanye umcaphukele umhlobo wakho osenyongweni ngenxa yokunyibilika okukugcinayo kwindawo yakho. ukuzilolonga ngokuhlwa.

Ndiyayifumana. Oh Nkosi yam ndiyayifumana. Ndachitha iminyaka emine yobomi bam ndityiwa ziingxaki zokutya. Emva konyaka wokuqala okanye njalo, ndaye ndanomdla wokuchacha. Ndaphalaza igazi; Ndalala ebhedini ndiqinisekile ukuba ndizakufa ngobobusuku bokuhlaselwa yintliziyo. Ndayophula ikhowudi yam yokuziphatha, ngokuphindaphindiweyo. Ubomi bam buye bacutheka de kwaba nzima ukuba ubonakale, intsalela eshwabeneyo yobomi. Ukuzinkcinkca kunye nokucoca kubile ixesha namandla ebendifanele ukuwachitha ndifunda, ndenza ukuthanda kwam, ndityala imali kubudlelwane, ndihlola umhlaba, ndikhula njengomntu.

Sekunjalo, andizange ndifune uncedo. Khange ndibaxelele usapho lwam. Ndabona kuphela iindlela ezimbini: ukulwa nengxaki yam ndedwa, okanye ndife ukuzama.

Ngethamsanqa, ndachacha. Ndemka ekhaya, ndandihlala kwigumbi lokuhlambela nomntu endandihlala naye, kwaye emva kokuba iinzame ezininzi zingaphumelelanga, ekugqibeleni ndahlukana nomkhwa wokuzinkcinkca nokuzinkcinkca. Kwaye ndaziva ndinelunda ngokuba ndoyisile ukukhathazeka,

Ngoku, ngaphezu kweminyaka elishumi kamva, ndiyazisola ngokungafuni uncedo nokuvulela abantu ithuba ngokukhawuleza. Ukuba ujamelana nengxaki yokutya ngasese, ndinemfesane enkulu kuwe. Ndiyayibona indlela ozama ngayo ukukhusela abantu ebomini bakho, indlela ozama ngayo ukwenza yonke into ngokufanelekileyo. Kodwa kukho izizathu ezinzulu zokuvula. Nazi ke:

1. Nokuba ungachacha wedwa, imiba esisiseko iya kubuya ikulume esileni.

Ngaba wakha weva igama elithi "unxilile owomileyo"? Izidakwa ezomileyo ziziselo ezinxilisayo eziyeka ukusela kodwa azenzi lutshintsho kwindlela eziziphethe ngayo, iinkolelo zazo, okanye kwimifanekiso yazo. Kwaye emva kokuchacha kwam, bendingu "bulimic owomileyo." Ngokuqinisekileyo, andizange ndiphinde ndizidle kwaye ndihlambulule, kodwa andizange ndijonge ukuxhalaba, ukuzithiya, okanye umngxuma omnyama wehlazo kunye nokwahlukaniswa okwandikhokelela ekubeni ndidle ngokungahambi kakuhle kwasekuqaleni. Ngenxa yoko, ndaqalisa imikhwa emitsha emibi, ndatsalela ubuhlobo obubuhlungu, yaye ngokuqhelekileyo ndazenza lusizi.

Le yipatheni eqhelekileyo phakathi kwabantu abazama ukusebenza ngokuphazamiseka kokutya bebodwa. "Ezona ndlela zokuziphatha zisenokungalali," utshilo uJulie Duffy Dillon, ugqirha obhalisiweyo wezokutya kunye nengcali yokutya eqinisekisiweyo eGreensboro, kuMntla Carolina. "Kodwa imiba esisiseko ihleli kwaye ikhula."

Icala elisezantsi lale meko kukuba unyango lwesifo sokutya lunokusombulula ngaphezulu kakhulu kunolwalamano lwakho nokutya. "Ukuba ufumana uncedo ekufumaneni nasekujonganeni nemiba esisiseko, unethuba lokususa ipatheni yokuba sehlabathini engakuncedisiyo, kwaye unethuba emva koko lokuba nobomi obonelisayo," utshilo u-Anita Johnston , Ph.D., umlawuli weklinikhi weenkqubo ze-'Ai Pono Eating Disorder Programme eHawaii.

2. Ubudlelwane bakho buhlupheka ngeendlela ongaziboniyo.

Ngokuqinisekileyo, uyazi ukuba abantu obathandayo babhidekile kukuguquguquka kweemvakalelo zakho kunye nokucaphuka. Uyayibona indlela ababuhlungu ngayo xa urhoxisa izicwangciso zakho ngomzuzu wokugqibela okanye urhoxile kwiingcinga ezikhuselekileyo zokutya xa bezama ukuncokola nawe. Unokucinga ukuba ukugcina imfihlo yokuphazamiseka kwindlela otya ngayo yindlela yokuhlawula ezi mpazamo.

Andizukunika enye into onokuzikhathaza ngayo, usenokucinga. Kodwa imfihlo inokonakalisa ubudlelwane bakho ngeendlela ongaziqondi nokuziqonda.

Uyabakhumbula abo bazali ndizamile kakhulu ukubasindisa? Kwiminyaka elithoba emva kokuba ndachacha kwindlela endanditya ngayo, utata wabulawa ngumhlaza. Kwakukufa okucothayo, okukrakra okubuhlungu, uhlobo lokufa olukunika ixesha elininzi lokujonga into ongathanda ukuyithetha omnye nomnye. Kwaye ndacinga ukumxelela nge-bulimia yam. Ndaba nomfanekiso-ngqondweni wam ekugqibeleni ndachaza isizathu sokuba ndiyeke ukuqhelisela ivayolin xa ndandikwishumi elivisayo, nangona wayezama ngamandla ukundikhuthaza, nangona wayendiqhubela kwizifundo veki nganye yaye ebhala ngenyameko yonke into eyayithethwa ngutitshala wam. Yonke imihla wayeza evela emsebenzini abuze ukuba ndiyaziqhelanisa na, kwaye bendixoka, okanye ndiqhale amehlo, okanye ndibile ngomsindo.

Ekugqibeleni, andizange ndimxelele. Khange ndichaze. Akwaba bendinayo. Ngapha koko, ndinqwenela ukuba ngendamxelela kwiminyaka eli-15 eyadlulayo. Ibingase ndinqande ingxabano yokungaqondi ukuba ingene phakathi kwethu, inkcaso eyacutheka ngokuhamba kwexesha kodwa ayizange iphele.

NgokukaJohnston, iipateni ezonakalisayo ezisisiseko sokuphazamiseka kokutya azinako ukunceda kodwa zibonakalise kubudlelwane bethu. Uthi: "Umntu othintela ukutya kwabo, uthintela ezinye izinto ebomini babo: iimvakalelo zabo, amava amatsha, ubudlelwane, ukusondelelana." Ngaphandle kokuba ujongane, la mandla anokuthintela amandla akho okunxibelelana ngokunzulu nabanye abantu.

Unokucinga ukuba ukhusela abantu obathandayo ngokufihla ingxaki yakho yokutya, kodwa akunjalo. Endaweni yokuba ubaphange ithuba lokuba bakuqonde, babone ukungangqinelani kunye nentlungu kunye nokunyaniseka kwamava akho kwaye bakuthande nokuba ungakhathalelwa.

3. Musa ukuhlala "ubuyiselwe ngokwaneleyo."

Ukuphazamiseka kwindlela yokutya kusikhokelela kude ekutyeni okusempilweni nasekusebenziseni imithambo ukuze singazi nokuba yintoni "eqhelekileyo". Kangangeminyaka emva kokuba ndiyekile ukuzinkcinkca ngotywala kunye nokucoca, bendisala ukutya, ndizitya ukutya okuthandwayo, ndizilolonge de umbono wam ube mnyama, kwaye ndoyike ukutya endikubiza njengokungakhuselekanga. Bendicinga ndiyaphila.

Bendingenguye. Emva kweminyaka yokuchacha, ndaphantse ndaphakuzela xa ndandithandana kuba irayisi kwisushi yam yayimhlophe kunokuba ibe mdaka. Indoda engaphaya kwetafile yayizama ukundixelela indlela evakalelwa ngayo ngobudlelwane bethu. Andimva tu.

Kumava am, abantu abafumana unyango ngokuqinisekileyo bachacha ngokugqibeleleyo, utshilo uChristy Harrison, ingcali yezondlo ebhalisiweyo eBrooklyn, eNew York. Abo kuthi bahamba bodwa, uHarrison ufumanisa, uhlala ebambelela kwiindlela zokuziphatha ezingalunganga. Ukubuyiswa okwethutyana okunje kusishiya sisesichengeni sokubuyela umva. Phakathi kwabantu abadala abanengxaki yokutya uDillon uyabaphatha, "uninzi lwabo bathi babenengxaki yokutya xa babesebatsha 'besebenza ngokuzimela,' kodwa ke ngoku baguqa ngamadolo. '"

Ewe ukubuyela umva kuhlala kunokwenzeka, kodwa uncedo lobuchwephesha linciphisa amathuba (jonga ngokulandelayo).

4. Ukubuyela kwimeko yesiqhelo kunokwenzeka ngakumbi ukuba ufumana uncedo.

Ndinethamsanqa, ndiyabona ngoku. Unethamsanqa eliphambeneyo. Ngokwokujonga kwakhona Oovimba abagcina ubuchwephesha bengqondo, iingxaki zokutya zinezinga eliphezulu lokufa kwaso nasiphi na isigulo sengqondo. Ezi ndlela zokuziphatha zinokuqala njengeendlela zokuhlangabezana, okanye ukuzama ukubuyisela ulawulo kubomi obumtyibilizi, kodwa bangama-bastards amancinci afihlakeleyo afuna ukubuyisela ingqondo yakho kwaye akwahlukanise nezinto-kunye nabantu obathandayo.

Izifundo zibonise ukuba unyango, ngakumbi unyango kwangoko, luphucula amathuba okubuyela kwimeko yesiqhelo. Ngokomzekelo, abaphandi beYunivesithi yaseLouisiana State bafumanisa ukuba abantu abafumana unyango kwisithuba seminyaka emihlanu yokufumana ibulimia nervosa basengozini ephindwe kane yokuchacha njengabantu abalinda iminyaka eli-15 okanye ngaphezulu. Nokuba uneminyaka yokuphazamiseka, ungoyiki. Ukubuyiselwa kwakhona kungabi lula, kodwa uDillon ufumanisa ukuba, kunye nonyango olufanelekileyo lwezondlo kunye neengcebiso, kwanabantu abaye babandezeleka iminyaka emininzi okanye abaye bafumana ukuphinda babuyele "banokubuyisela ikhulu leepesenti."

5. Awuwedwa.

Ukuphazamiseka kwindlela yokutya kuhlala kubangelwa kukuhlazeka-hlazeka ngemizimba yethu, ukufaneleka kwethu, ukuzeyisa-kodwa bayadanisa kunokuba basombulule. Xa sisokola ngokutya okanye ukuzilolonga, sinokuziva siphuke kakhulu, singakwazi ukulawula nezona zidingo zethu zisisiseko.

Rhoqo, eli hlazo lilo eligcina sihlupheka emfihlakalweni.

Inyaniso kukuba awuwedwa. Ngokutsho kweNational Eating Disorders Association, abafazi abazizigidi ezingama-20 kunye namadoda azizigidi ezili-10 eUnited States banengxaki yokutya ngexesha elithile ebomini babo. Baninzi abantu abanengxaki yokutya okungalunganga. Ngaphandle kokuxhaphaka kwale micimbi, ibala elijikeleze ukuphazamiseka ekutyeni kuhlala kuthintela incoko malunga nazo.

Isinqanda-mathe solu kubekwa ibala kukuvuleleka, hayi ukuba yimfihlo. UHarrison uthi: “Ukuba ukuphazamiseka kokutya kunye nokuziphatha okungalungelelananga bekulula ukuxoxa phakathi kwabahlobo nosapho, kusenokwenzeka ukuba besiya kuba neemeko ezimbalwa kwasekuqaleni. Ukholelwa ukuba ukuba uluntu lwethu luzijonga ngokuphandle iingxaki zokutya, abantu baya kufuna unyango kwangoko kwaye bafumane inkxaso enkulu.

Ukuthetha phandle “kunokothusa” uyavuma uHarrison, “kodwa ubukroti bakho buya kukufumana uncedo oludingayo, kwaye kunokunceda ukuxhobisa abanye.”

6. Unokukhetha.

Ima kancinci, usenokuba ucinga. Andikwazi ukuhlawula unyango. Andinaxesha. Andibhityanga ngokwaneleyo ukuba ndiyidinge. Oku akuyonyani. Ndingaqala ngaphi?

Maninzi amanqanaba onyango. Ewe, abanye abantu badinga inkqubo yokunyanga isigulana okanye yokuhlala, kodwa abanye banokuxhamla kunyango lwangaphandle. Qala ngokudibana nonyango, ugqirha otya ukutya, okanye ugqirha onobuchule kwiingxaki zokutya. Ezi ngcali zinokuhamba ngeendlela ozikhethayo kwaye zikuncede ukuba utshate ikhosi yohambo lwakho lokubuyisela.

Ngaba ukhathazekile ukuba akukho mntu uya kukholelwa ukuba unengxaki? Olu luloyiko oluqhelekileyo phakathi kwabantu abanengxaki yokutya, ngakumbi abo bangaphantsi komzimba. Inyaniso yeyokuba iingxaki zokutya zikho kubantu bazo zonke iindidi zobukhulu. Ukuba nabani na uzama ukukuxelela ngenye indlela, phuma ngomnyango ufumane ubuchwephesha obandakanya bonke ubunzima.

Jonga izikhokelo zababoneleli bonyango kunye nezibonelelo eziqulunqwe yi-International Federation of Eating Disorder Dietitians, i-National Eating Disorder Association, kunye ne-Recovery Warriors. Uluhlu lwababoneleli ababandakanya ubunzima, jonga kuMbutho woBungakanani boKwahluka kunye neMpilo.

Ukuba ingcali yokuqala okanye i-dietitian odibana nayo ayifanelekanga, musa ukuphulukana nokholo. Qhubeka ujonge ude ufumane iingcali ozithandayo kwaye ubathembele, abantu abanokukukhokela ekusithekeni nakuthintelo kubomi obuzele, obutyebileyo. Ndiyathembisa ukuba kunokwenzeka.

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