"Ingqondo yokukhulelwa" Yinyani-kwaye yinto entle

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Ngaba ukhe uzibuze ukuba umama wakho ubonakala njani ukuba uyazi xa unosuku olubi kwaye uyazi into efanelekileyo yokuthetha ukuze uzive ungcono? Ewe, unokuba noxanduva lokufunda kwakhe kwengqondo-okanye ubuncinci ukukhulelwa kwakhe kuwe. Ukukhulelwa kuguqula ubume bengqondo yomfazi, kumenza ngcono kwizakhono ezizodwa ezifunekayo zokuba ngumama, ngokophando olutsha olupapashwe kwi Indalo

Abaphandi balandela abafazi abangama-25, beskena ubuchopho babo ngaphambi kokuba bakhulelwe, emva kokuba umntwana ezelwe, kwaye emva kweminyaka emibini kwakhona. Bafumanise ukuba into engwevu yabasetyhini-icandelo lobuchopho elilawula imvakalelo kunye nenkumbulo phakathi kwezinye izinto-yancitshiswa kakhulu ngexesha lokukhulelwa kwaye yahlala incinci nakwiminyaka emibini kamva. Baye bagqiba kwelokuba amanqanaba aphezulu okukhulelwa kwehomoni anciphise izicwili zobuchopho babafazi, eguqula iingqondo zabafazi ngokusisigxina.

Yep, "ukukhulelwa kwengqondo," into ehlekisayo eyenziwa ngabafazi ibenza balibale kwaye balile, yinto yesayensi. Kodwa ngelixa ukuncipha kwengqondo kunye nokungakwazi ukuyigcina kunye ngexesha lokuthengisa i-diaper ethandekayo kunokuvakala njengento embi, olu tshintsho luqhelekileyo kwaye lunokuba nenjongo ebaluleke kakhulu koomama, utsho u-Elseline Hoekzema, isazi se-neuroscient kwiYunivesithi yaseLeiden eNetherlands. Okhokele isifundo kwiUniversitat Autonoma de Barcelona eSpain.

Olu tshintsho luvumela ingqondo ukuba ijolise ngakumbi kwaye ikhetheke ngokukodwa, ngokulungiselela umfazi ukuba enze imisebenzi ethile yokuba ngumama, utshilo uHoekzema. (Yinkqubo efanayo eyenzekayo ngexesha lokufikisa, uyongeza, evumela ukuba ingqondo igxile kwizakhono zabantu abadala.) Zeziphi izakhono ozilolayo ngexesha lokukhulelwa? Izinto ezinjengokukwazi ngcono ukuqonda ukuba abanye baziva njani kwaye balindele ngcono iimfuno zabo-izakhono ezibalulekileyo kuye nawuphi na umama omtsha (okanye omdala).

"Oku kunokubonakalisa njengokuphucula amandla omama okuqonda iimfuno zomntwana wakhe okanye ukukwazi kwakhe ukuqonda izoyikiso zentlalo," utshilo uHoekzema.

Ngelixa uHoekzema egxininisa ukuba abaphandi abakwazi ukufikelela kwizigqibo ngqo malunga nendlela oku kuguqula ngayo isimilo, oku kuthenwa kunye nokulola ngenene kuya kuchaza okuninzi malunga nokukhulelwa, "njengesiqhelo sokuhlala" esithatha iingcinga zomfazi okhulelweyo kwinxalenye yakhe yokugqibela ukukhulelwa. Ke ukuba nabani na uyabuza ukuba kutheni ucinga ukuba yeyiphi ibhedi eyeyona ikhuselekileyo okanye ufumane izibane ezigqibeleleyo zegolide ze-nursery, ungabaxelela ukuba ulindele iimfuno zomntwana.

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