Yenze njani enye inkazana ukuba i Psoriasis ime ngendlela yothando

Ukuvuma izono: Ndakhe ndacinga ukuba andinakukwazi ukuthandwa nokwamkelwa yindoda ngenxa yepsoriasis yam.

“Ulusu lwakho alubi ...”

"Akukho mntu uya kukuthanda ..."

“Soze uzive ukhululeke ngokwaneleyo ukuba ungabelana ngesondo okanye ube nolwalamano olusenyongweni nomnye umntu; oko kungathetha ukuba ubonise ulusu lwakho olubi ... ”

“Awunomtsalane ...”

Kwixesha elidlulileyo, xa kuthethwa ngokuthandana kunye nobudlelwane, ndandiweva la mazwi rhoqo. Kodwa andikhange ndibave kwabo bandingqongileyo. Zazininzi iingcinga ezazisasazeka entlokweni yam nangaliphi na ixesha xa umfana esondela kum okanye endibuza ngomhla, okanye ndaqala ukutyumza umntu.

Ungandivi kakubi - {textend} Ndidibene nabantu abakhohlakeleyo. Kodwa iingcinga ezisengqondweni yam zezona ziye zenzakalisa kwaye zikhohlakele, zibe neziphumo ezihlala ixesha elide, kwaye, ngelishwa, zizinto endingenakuze ndiziphuncule. Xa umntu ekhohlakele kuwe, ekukhetha, okanye ekuxhaphaza, uhlala uva iingcebiso zokuziphepha ngazo zonke iindleko. Kodwa wenza ntoni xa umntu okungcungcuthekisayo kwaye ene-negative wena?

Ndihlala ndihlala rhoqo, kwaye ndinyanisile andikaze ndadibana nezinto ezimbi. Okwangoku, ukuba nesifo esibonakalayo kwenza ukuba ixesha lokwazi ukuba ube nolwalamano olunokubakho lube nzima ngakumbi. Ngelixa ezinye izinto ezingama-20 zifuna ukukhonkxwa, imeko yam indinyanzele ukuba ndazi umntu okwinqanaba elahlukileyo. Kwafuneka ndiqinisekise ukuba umntu okwelinye icala unobubele, ulungile, uyaqonda, kwaye akagwebi. Zonke izinto zesi sifo - {textend} njengokuphuma kwegazi, ukukrwempa, ukubhabha, noxinzelelo - {textend} kunokuba nzima kakhulu kwaye kubangele iintloni ukuziveza komnye umntu.

Ukudibana kokuqala kokubi endikukhumbulayo xa ndathandana ne-psoriasis kwenzeka kunyaka wam wokugqibela kwisikolo samabanga aphakamileyo. Kwabaninzi, ndandiyintshontsho elibi. Abantu abaninzi babhekisa kum njengentombazana ende, engathandekiyo enesikhumba esibi. Ngelo xesha, ndandimalunga nama-90 ekhulwini ndigutyungelwe sesi sifo. Kungakhathaliseki ukuba ndizama kangakanani ukufihla i-flaky, i-purplish, kunye ne-plaques, baya kuhlala bezenza ngandlela-thile.

Ngexesha lokugqibela ndingu 16, ndadibana nomfana endandiqala ukuthandana naye. Sahlala kunye sincokola emnxebeni ngalo lonke ixesha, emva koko wahlukana nam, ngaphandle kokundinika esona sizathu. Ndicinga ukuba wayehlekiswa ngokuthandana nam ngenxa yesikhumba sam, kodwa andiqinisekanga ukuba le yinyani okanye into endiyenzileyo ngenxa yokungaqiniseki kwam.

Ngelo xesha, iingcinga zam zezi:

"Ukuba ibingeyiyo le psoriasis, ngesisindawonye ..."

"Kutheni mna?"

"Ndingaba mhle kakhulu ukuba bendingenakho oku kuqhubeka nolusu lwam ..."

Esi sivumo silandelayo andizanga ndixelele mntu, kwaye bendihlala ndisoyika abantu abazokucinga ngam, ngakumbi usapho lwam. Ndilahlekelwe bubuntombi bam xa ndandineminyaka engama-20 ubudala ukuya kwindoda endandiziva ndithandana nayo. Wayesazi malunga ne-psoriasis yam kunye nokungaqiniseki kwam ngayo. Nangona kunjalo, nangona wayesazi ngolusu lwam, akazange alubone ulusu lwam. Ewe ufunda ilungelo. Akazange alubone ulusu lwam, nangona besabelana ngesondo.

Ndiza kuhamba ixesha elide ukuqinisekisa ukuba akaze abone ubunzima bolusu lwam. Ndiza kunxiba imilenze engqindilili, ethangeni eliphezulu elinemikhono emide, iqhosha laphantsi leepijama. Izibane ziya kuhlala zicinyiwe. Andindedwa kule nto. Kwiminyaka eyadlulayo, ndadibana nenenekazi eliselula eline-psoriasis elinomntwana nendoda engazange yalubona ulusu lwayo. Isizathu sakhe sasifana nesam.

Kwaye ke ndadibana nale bendicinga ukuba ndiyakuhlala nayo ngonaphakade- {textend} owam umyeni ngoku. Sidibene kwikhampasi yale yunivesithi besifunda kuyo sobabini. Ukusukela mhla siqala ukujongana, sabe singahlukani. Ndamxelela kwangoko nge psoriasis yam. Wakhawuleza wandixelela ukuba akakhathali.

Kwandithatha ixesha ukuba ndihlale naye kakuhle, kodwa ukuqiniseka kwakhe ukuba uyandithanda nokuba unesifo sam kwandinceda ndazola. Ungajonga ibali lethu ngokweenkcukacha apha.

Nangona ngoku siqhawule umtshato ngezizathu ezingahambelani ne-psoriasis yam, inye into endiza kuhlala ndiyikhumbula kolo lwalamano lusileleyo: “Ndiyathandwa. Ndiya kuthandwa. Ndifanelwe luthando. ”

Nangaliphi na ixesha ndiqala ukuba nexhala lokuba umntu uza kundamkela na kunye nesifo sam, ndicinga ngala madoda mabini ndiwabalulileyo apha ngasentla angazange andiphoxe okanye andenze ndaziva ndikhathazekile ngokuba ne-psoriasis. Abazange basebenzise isifo sam ngokuchasene nam, kwaye xa ndicinga ngezo zinto, kundinika ithemba ngekamva. Ukuba ndifumene uthando kabini ngaphambili, ndingaphinda ndilufumane.

Ukuba unemicimbi yokuthandana ngenxa yepsoriasis, nceda ukhumbule, “Uyakufumana uthando. Uya kuthandwa. Ufanelwe luthando. ”