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Ukuqubha yenye yeendlela azithandayo zikaKenlie Tiggeman. Kukho into ephumlileyo ngokuba semanzini, ukanti isengumbulali wokuzilolonga umzimba. Kodwa ngenye imini, xa umntu oneminyaka engama-35 ubudala waseNew Orleans equbha kwindawo yokuzivocavoca, izen yakhe yaphazamiseka xa ebona ibhinqa limi kufutshane nomphetho wedama, limhleka ngelixa libambe ifowuni yakhe.

“Wakhwaza esithi ‘ubukele umnenga,’ utshilo uTiggeman. "Kwaye ebendithatha imifanekiso."

Ngaba sithethile ngo-Tiggeman ubungakanani obudibeneyo?

Ukuba nomntu ongamaziyo akuthabathele kwimpahla yokuqubha ngaphandle kwemvume yakho liphupha elibi lomfazi ngamnye, kodwa ukugculelwa kwamafutha kwakukhohlakele ngakumbi (ukuba oko kuyenzeka) kuba uTiggeman (onobunzima obumalunga neekhilogram ezingama-300) uye wagcina ukwehla kobunzima obungaphezu kweekhilogram ezili-100. okokoko wawa kwiminyaka eliqela eyadlulayo, waphuka unyawo, wafuna uncedo lwamadoda amane ukuba anyuke izinyuko zokuya kunyango kuba wayenobunzima obungaphezulu kweeponti ezingama-400. Oko, wazimisela, yayilixesha lokugqibela lokuba buthathaka, kwaye, ukusukela ngoko, wenza umthambo nokutya ngokufanelekileyo. Nokuba akakho "mncinci," uTiggeman uye wehla emzimbeni, waziva onwabile, usempilweni kakhulu, kwaye okona kubaluleke kakhulu-womelele ngokwaneleyo ukuba enze nantoni na ayifunayo. (Ngaba ubusazi ukuba iFat Shaming inokuwonakalisa umzimba wakho?)

Kwaye uTiggeman wayengazukuvumela umfazi othile ongaqhelekanga ukuba amdilize, ngakumbi hayi emva kokuba engene kwimayile enesiqingatha ukuqubha-umdlalo owawuza kukhupha abantu abaninzi abahamba ejimini. Ke waqubha waya kulo mfazi wabuya waziphindezela, "Ewe, omnye wethu usebenza nge-esile, kwaye omnye wethu ulidonki nje!"

Kwanele ukwenza ukuba nabani na asukume kwaye avuye, kodwa njengoko eqhubeka nokuhamba kwakhe, waphinda wacinga ngokubuya kwakhe enomsindo. “Emva kokuba intlungu yam iphelile, ndaye ndamsizela kuba andikwazi ukucinga ukuba ndingakhe ndingonwabi ngokwaneleyo ukuba ndidilize umntu osebenza nzima ukuze abe ngcono,” utsho uTiggeman.

"Andifuni ukuyenza ibengathi ayenzakalanga kuba yenzekile, kodwa, ngelishwa, ngeli xesha ndandifumene amava amaninzi ngamahlazo atyebileyo kangangokuba ndafunda ukuyeka ukundichaza," uyachaza. (Pst... Nditsho nabantu abadumileyo abanjengoKhloé Kardashian Akakwazi Ukulifumana Ikhefu kwi-Body Image Haters.)

Ayikokuphela kwebali, nangona kunjalo. Kwiinyanga ezimbalwa emva kwesiganeko "sokubona i-whale", u-Tiggeman wabalekela kumfazi omnye kwiklasi yeZumba. Kwaye ngeli xesha yayingumfazi owabanjwa ngumoya. Yayilithuba elifanelekileyo lokuziphindezela- kodwa akakhange alithathe. Endaweni yoko, wanikela ngobubele kunye nokuqonda.

"Ngelixa sonke sasizonwabisa kwaye sikhangeleka sisisiyatha, wayenomsindo kakhulu ngaye ngokungalungeki," utshilo. "Ndiye ndathetha naye emva kwelo klasi ndathi, 'Nabani na okuxelele ukuba awonelanga ngokwaneleyo ugcwele uburharha."

Lo mfazi walila iinyembezi wanika uTiggeman uxolo olude kudala. UTiggeman akazange athabathe naluphi na uvuyo kwintlungu yomnye umfazi. Kodwa “kuyanceda ukuqonda ukuba kutheni abantu bekhohlakele kangaka, nangona bekungafanelanga ukuba babe njalo,” utshilo.

"Ndinabahlobo abaninzi abahlala benomsindo kuluntu ngendlela abaphatha ngayo abantu abafana nam. Kwaye ndandinomsindo ixesha elide, kodwa yonke into eyakhokelela ekuzuzeni ubunzima kunye nokungonwabi, "uyongezelela. "Intetho yakudala ethi 'Abantu abenzakalisa abantu' yinyani. kwaye ngoku ndenza ukhetho lokungayenzi loo nto."

Kwaye ukuba anganika ingcebiso inye kuloo mfazi? "Eyona nto ibalulekileyo endiyifundileyo kukuzithanda ngokwaneleyo ukuze ndiqhubeke ndizama ukuba ngcono, utshilo. Kungenxa yoko le nto uyakumbona ebuyela echibini namhlanje nangomso olandelayo nangolandelayo-nokuba ngubani obukeleyo. (Uphefumlelwe? Funda "Ndingu-200 weeponti kwaye ndifanelekile kunakuqala.")

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