Nasi isizathu sokuba sonke siqwalaselwe kunye noMeghan Markle

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Umtshato wasebukhosini, apho uMeghan Markle uza kutshata neNkosana uHarry (ukuba ubungazi!), Ziintsuku ezintathu. Kodwa i-TBH, abatshatileyo baziva ngathi ngumtshato womhlobo wethu osenyongweni kunomnyhadala wamanye amazwe-iinyanga, umhlaba ubusoloko ucinga ngazo zonke iinkcukacha, uqikelelo lwasendle kunye nodliwanondlebe oludlulileyo olwenziwe ngumdlali weqonga kubo bonke ubuhle kunye nencam yomzimba awakhe wayinika. (Ukuba unomdla, nantsi indlela uMeghan Markle asebenza ngayo ngaphambi komtshato wasebukhosini).

Kodwa kunjalo hayi eneneni umtshato womhlobo wakho osenyongweni emva kwayo yonke into-kutheni usathe phithi kangaka?

Ewe, iingcali zengqondo ziyibiza ngokuba yi "celebrity worship syndrome" kwaye ngokophando, ayisiyiyo yonke loo nto ingaqhelekanga. Kuphononongo olupapashwe kwi Ijenali yaseBritani yePsychology, abaphandi bathi ukunqulwa kwabantu abadumileyo kuluhlu ngalunye. Kumanqanaba asezantsi, kubandakanya ukuziphatha kwakho okusisiseko kokufunda malunga ne-celeb, ukuskrola kwi-IG yabo yokutya, okanye ukubukela (okanye umtshato wabo) kwiTV. Kodwa kumanqanaba aphezulu, unqulo lwabantu abadumileyo luthatha indalo yobuqu-uyazixakekisa ngeenkcukacha zobomi babo kwaye uchonge nomntu odumileyo. Uyoneliseka yimpumelelo yabo kwaye wenzakele ukusilela kwe-celeb ngokungathi yeyakho. Kwimeko kaMeghan Markle, kubonakala ngathi ilizwe liphela linetyala elinzima lokunqula abantu abadumileyo.

Ngokweengcali zengqondo, ukuthabatheka kwethu ngokudibeneyo kunokwenzeka ngenxa yezinto ezimbalwa. "Ufuzisela intelekelelo yokuba uninzi lwabantu kufuneka lukhukuliswe yiNkosana eCharming," ucacisa watsho uBrandy Engler, Psy.D, ingcali yezonyango e-LA. Iingcali zonyango zihlala zichitha ixesha elininzi zikunceda ukuba uyeke ezi ngcamango zingekho ngqiqweni ukuze ukwazi ukubona iqabane lakho njengomntu wokwenene-kungekhona njengesisombululo somlingo kuzo zonke iinkxalabo zakho kunye nokungaqiniseki, utsho. "Kule meko, uMegan Markle ufezekisa umnqweno [weNkosana enomtsalane] kwaye sonke siyayingqina kwaye siphile ngokunyanisekileyo," utshilo u-Engler.

Inyani yokuba uMeghan Markle ubonakala njengomntu onokuthi ube ngumhlobo wakhe mhlawumbi yongeza kwinto. "UMeghan akazange azalwe etyebile okanye kwilungelo," ucacisa uRebecca Hendrix, ugqirha wezengqondo eNew York. "Ungumfuziselo wephupha laseMelika kuba usebenze ngokuchaseneyo nobuhlanga, isini, kunye nodidi lwezoqoqosho ukuze aphumelele." Unomsebenzi onempumelelo, irekhodi yomkhondo wokukhuthaza ukuxhotyiswa kwabasetyhini kunye nemiba yezempilo yabasetyhini kwihlabathi jikelele. Kwaye unxiba izihlangu ezoyikekayo, ezifikelelekayo. (Bona: Apho Ukuthenga i-Megan Markle's Favorite White Sneakers) "Ngubani ongayi kungcambu kuye?" Ubuza uHendrix. Engqondweni yakho, ukumila kwakhona komntu onezi mpawu kunokuziva ngathi uzimisele ngokwakho, utshilo.

Okokugqibela, kukho umbono wokuba i-duchess yexesha elizayo luphawu lwethemba kunye nokutshintsha-into onomdla kuyo ngokwasengqondweni. "Kuba kulindeleke ukuba uHarry atshate nomntu osondele ekhaya kumanqanaba amaninzi, iingcambu zoluntu kule ntsomi yanamhlanje kunye nesibini esineentlanga ezimbini nangakumbi njengoko zisinika ithemba lotshintsho," utsho uHendrix. Olu hlobo lwethemba lokufumana amandla linamandla ngakumbi kunokuba unokuqonda. "Oku kubalulekile kwingqondo yaseMelika-siyayifuna le," utshilo u-Engler. "Iyasikhuthaza kwaye iyasinceda ukuba sizimisele ukuba zezona zinto zilungileyo kuthi-nokuba konke kuyinkohliso."

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