Kukuthini ukuzivalela kwilizwe langaphandle xa uhleli evenini undifundisile ngokuba ndedwa

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Akuqhelekanga ukuba abantu babuze ukuba kutheni ndingahambi nomnye umntu okanye kutheni ndingakhange ndilinde iqabane endiza kuhamba nalo. Ndicinga ukuba abanye abantu baxakiwe ngumfazi ohambahamba kwihlabathi elikhulu, eloyikisayo, elingakhuselekanga lilodwa kuba uluntu luthi sifanele ukudlala indima yamantombazana ahlala ebandezelekile. Ndicinga ukuba abantu abaninzi bayanikezela kwi-fairytale enetyhefu ethi, ngaphandle kothando olwahlulelweyo, awungekhe wakhe ubomi (okanye olo cango lumhlophe). Kwaye ke kukho abanye abaninzi abathandabuza nje izakhono zabo. Ekugqibeleni, kukho abo bathi bangaba lilolo. Nokuba kwenzeka ntoni, bonke badla ngokutyhala amaxhala abo kunye noxinzelelo kum.

Siza kudlula kumaqela amabini okuqala (abo balindele iqabane ukuba liphile ubomi babo kwaye abo bangacingi ukuba bangazonwabisa bodwa) -kuba kubo ingxaki, hayi imna ingxaki. Makhe sigxininise kwabo bantu banesithukuthezi. Kulungile ukuva ukuba amanye amava (hayi onke) abelwana ngawo nabantu obathandayo. Kodwa, ngamanye amaxesha, abantu obathandayo ababelani ngonxano lwakho olunganelisekiyo lwamava anje. Kwaye ndilinde i-PTO yabahlobo okanye uthando olungafumanekiyo ukuze ndifumane kuphela ngoko qala ubomi bam bungathi ndilinde impompo engxamisekileyo ukuba yome. Ukuba ndinyanisekile ngokupheleleyo, ukubukela iiNgxangxasi zeVictoria ezisuka eZimbabwe nabahlobo abasandula ukuzifumana kwakuvuyisa kakhulu kunokuhlala ndilindele ukuba kubekho umntu oza kuyenza nam. Kwakunzima.

Ndihambile amazwe angama-70 kule minyaka imbalwa idlulileyo kunye nam, nam, kunye nam. Ndikwinkampu yasendle kwiipaki zesizwe zaseAfrika kwaye ndikhwele iinkamela kwiintlango zaseArabia. Ukunyuka intaba eziphakamileyo zeHimalaya kunye nokuntywila kubunzulu beCaribbean. Ukuhamba ngeenyawo ukunqumla iziqithi ezingahlali bantu kuMzantsi-mpuma weAsia kunye nokucamngca kwiintaba zaseLatin America.

Ukuba bendilinde omnye umntu oza kukhwela, ishifter yegear iya kuhlala ipaki.

Ngokuqinisekileyo, umntu oza kwabelana naye ngala mabali angamangalisa. Kodwa, isihogo, ndiyonwabile kwinkululeko yam. Undifundisile ukuba ukuba "wedwa" nokuba "ulilolo" kukude kakhulu. Konke okuthethileyo, okokuqala ngqa kuhambo lwam, kunzima ukuvuma: Ndingu leeetle Ndedwa.

Kodwa ndityhola (kwaye, ngandlela thile, ndiyabulela) kwi-COVID-19.

Ndizithatha njengomnye wabanethamsanqa kuba, mna, abahlobo bam, usapho lwam kunye nam sisempilweni sonke, ubuncinci basasebenza (abanye bethu ngaphezu kwabanye) kwaye baye bagcina inkangeleko ethile yengqondo (nabanye bethu ngaphezu koku. others) ngalo lonke eli xesha linzima. Okwesibini, ndizifumene "ndibambekile" phesheya eOstreliya, nto leyo, ukuba ndingakhanyeli ezona nyani zisemthethweni ze-COVID-19 apha, ayizange ibethwe kakubi sisibetho kuninzi lweplanethi. Ukuthintela isithuba esingangenyanga sizimele ebantwini kwityholo lase-Aussie-endaweni yoko, ndisilwa neepythons ezininzi emva kwemini-ndiye ndahlala ngaphandle kweyona ngxaki inkulu yehlabathi kwimbali yamva nje ngelixa ndinganxibanga zihlangu kwaye ndinxibe ibhikini. Ngelixa uninzi lwehlabathi lutshixelwe ngaphakathi emakhayeni abo, ikhaya lam linamavili: iveni eguqulweyo ngo-1991 apho bendikhe ndamisa inkampu ngaphesheya kweelwandle ezikude kwenye yezona ndawo zincinci ezinabemi abaninzi behlabathi. Le ndlela yokuphila yenza ukuba wedwa kube kubi kakhulu (njengoko i-Aussies benokuthi) "kuhambo," ngokuthelekisa.

Kodwa nangona ndiziva ndinethamsanqa kangakanani na, ndingaxoka ukuba ndinokuthi ukuvalelwa kwabantu yedwa akuzange kube ngamava anesithukuthezi.

Okumangalisayo kukuba, ndaya e-Australia ngomhla wokuqala wonyaka omtsha ukuzinyanzela ukuba ndijamelane nesithukuthezi endisoyikayo ukuba siza kuvela kanye xa ndiye ndathoba isantya. Andizange ndichithe ngaphezulu kwenyanga kwindawo enye kule minyaka imbalwa idlulileyo (njenge "digital nomad", ukubhala ngokuzimeleyo kuthetha ukuba ndinokuba nomsebenzi kwaye ukutsiba-tsiba ukusuka kwenye indawo ukuya kwenye), yaye ndandinexhala lokuba ngokwenene ndandikhotyokiswe kukuhamba—okanye, kunoko, iziphazamiso zemihla ngemihla ezindithintelayo ekujamelaneni neemvakalelo zam ezintsonkothileyo namaxhala angenakuthatyathwa. Ukuhlala udibana nabantu abatsha, ujongene nemincili yokothuka kwenkcubeko, kwaye ucamngca ngokulandelayo kunye nalapho ungaya khona kuthetha ukuba awusoze uhlale nomntu onguye, apho ukhoyo, into onayo okanye ongenayo (nje, uyazi. , iqabane).

Ungandiva kakubi: Ngelixa abantu abaninzi benokucinga ukuba ndibaleka into ethile (okt eyinyani) ebaleka ngalo lonke ixesha, ndiyazi entliziyweni yam ukuba ndibalekela kwinto ethile (oko kukuthi enye into eyinyani engalunganga okanye engalunganga. ayilunganga kodwa, endaweni yoko, iphumelele ngokwam). Ke, andihambi ngabom ndiphephe iimvakalelo zam, kodwa ngekhe ndithethe inyani xa ndingavumi ngamanye amaxesha mna ngqondweni ziphephe iimvakalelo zam ngokuphambukisa ingqalelo yam kuko konke okutsha okundingqongileyo. Ndingumntu.

Kwaye ke ndazixelela ukuba, ngo-2020, ndiza kuchitha ixesha elithile elizinikeleyo ndihlala kwindawo ethile yokomoya ukuze ndizazi kwinqanaba elinzulu, elinxibelelene ngakumbi-kwaye ekugqibeleni ndizinike ithuba lokwakha unxibelelwano oluzinzileyo nabanye, nabo. . Ithe yatsho, bendisazi ukuba ukuhlala endaweni enye kuya kuthetha amaxesha aqhelekileyo, kwaye bendisazi ukuba oko kuthetha ukuba ndingaqalisa ukuziva ndililolo-ingakumbi kuba ndakhetha ukuhlala kwiveni, kwiikona zelizwe endingazange ndakhe ndaya kulo. kude nekhaya ngokunokwenzeka ngokwasemzimbeni nakwiindawo eziphikisanayo zexesha kuwo wonke umntu endimthandayo. (Kuyahlekisa ukuba abantu abaninzi banenkxalabo yokuba baya kuziva benesizungu ngelixa behamba bodwa, ngelixa ndisoyika ukuba nesithukuthezi xa ndicotha okanye ndiyeka ukuhamba ndedwa.)

Kwaye ndilapha. Ndabeka iinjongo zam; Indalo iphela yazibonakalisa. Injalo nje, ekuqaleni konyaka, isigqibo sokuyeka ukujikeleza umhlaba endaweni yokuba ndikhuphe umhlaba wam wangaphakathi yayisisigqibo: isigqibo. Ngequbuliso, ngokuvalelwa kwe-COVID-19, ayisosigqibo. Olona khetho lwam kuphela.

Ubomi njengowasetyhini ongagunyaziswanga ekuvalelweni okugunyaziswe ngurhulumente yinto enesithukuthezi ngakumbi kunobomi njengowasetyhini ongatshatanga ekukhangekeni komphefumlo.

Hayi ukukrazula uphondo lwam (kodwa ukukrazula uphondo lwam), bendilutyumza phambi kwe-coronavirus. Ndandinenkolo yezinye i # vanlifers endiza kuhamba nazo rhoqo ukuphuma kwelanga kwaye ndimise inkampu ngalo lonke ixesha lokutshona kwelanga. Ngenxa yokuba zonke zazihlala kumavili azo amane, zazinempahla eshwabeneyo nemigangatho yococeko lobuqu ephantsi njengeyam. (Kwaye, ngesizathu esithile ndingazi, le veni indala yayiyimazibuthe. Andiqinisekanga ncam ukuba ndiyawuqonda umtsalane womfazi ova ivumba lokudityaniswa kokuvuza kwamafutha, imisk, kunye nevumba lomzimba ekuvukeni kulo. Ichibi lokubila kwakhe qho kusasa. Kodwa ndothuswa kukuba yonke le "'sup, ndilala emotweni yam," iyandisebenzela.)

Xa ubhubhani we-COVID-19 wenza amaza e-Australia, umbhali kum wathi: Ukuba ayiloxesha lilungileyo, libali elimnandi. Ndacinga ukuba, ngolunye usuku, ndiza kubhala incwadi malunga nokuhlekisa okwenzeka kusuku olunye lokusinda kwindyikitya yokufa kwilizwe elineminyaka engama-30 ubudala ibhakethi lomhlwa kwelinye icala lehlabathi lilodwa. Kodwa ke abahlobo bam basaba befuna indawo yokusabela, kwafuneka ndithi R.I.P. kuluhlu lwam lweentsana ezincanyiswe lilanga, kwaye ndilahlekelwe zizivumelwano zam eziphambili. Ngokukhawuleza, ndandingenamntu ndingenanto — ndingenabahlobo, ndingenamlingane, ndingenazicwangciso, kwaye kungekho ndawo ndinokuya kuyo. Iindawo zokuma kweenkampu zivaliwe, kwaye urhulumente wanyanzelisa oobhaka abagxothiweyo ukuba bahambe, kodwa kwakungekho nqwelomoya.

Ke, njengoko umntu esenza, ndiye ndaya emantla ukuze ndivale umntu othile ehlathini (i-backwoods, ukuba uyafuna) ngekamva elingenakubonwa kwangaphambili. Ekugqibeleni ndinamava angalibalekiyo ebomini bam — kodwa ndandinexesha elininzi kakhulu ezandleni zam lokuhlala kwezam iingcinga.

Ngelo xesha isithukuthezi endandisithintela ehlathini sandibetha njengejellyfish eblue eblowu kwi-surf. Kwakukudala eza. Kuyimfuneko. Nokuba mhlawumbi usempilweni kum. Iphantse yafana nolindelo lokuba isizungu yayiyeyona nto imbi. Ngoku, ilapha. Ndiyaziva. Iyadika. Kodwa ukubonakaliswa okubuhlungu kunokuba kukukhanyisela kakuhle, nako. Ndenze izityhilelo ezininzi eziluhlaza kwaye ndiye ndavuma kum iinyani ezinzima kwiinyanga ezimbalwa ezidlulileyo.

Inyani yeyokuba ndikhumbula usapho lwam isixa esinganyamezelekiyo, kodwa iinqwelomoya zingcakaza kwaye imeko yangoku yekhaya (iSixeko saseNew York, kunye ne-US ngokubanzi) iyandoyikisa isihogo. Ndiyayikhumbula inkululeko yam yokuya naphi na apho ndifuna khona, nanini na ndifuna. Kwaye ngamanye amaxesha ndikhumbula iqabane endingalaziyo nokulazi. Abahlobo bam banoxinzelelo malunga nokuhlehlisa imitshato yabo, kwaye ndinestress sokuba uthando luziva lungekho lula ngoba andisoze ndidibane nomyeni wam wosuku olunye kwindawo ezivalelwe zodwa zeendonga zam ezine. Abanye abahlobo bahlala bekhalaza malunga namaqabane abo ebaqhuba bephambana bebodwa, kwaye ndinomona wokuba banamaqabane abaqhuba kakubi. Ngeli xesha, yonke imiceli mngeni yemidiya yoluntu "yesibini sokuqala" kunye nokuzilolonga okwenziwa kunye nomhlobo womthambo endingenawo zizikhumbuzo ezingapheliyo zokuba ndinjalo, anditshatanga. Njengaye, hayi kwi-Amy-Schumer-ukunyuka intaba-i-Grand-Canyon-ekuzeni kokusa (ewe, ndibukele Ungatshata Njani ixesha okanye amabini ngokuvalelwa yedwa). Okungakumbi kokuza kuba yedwa-ngonaphakade-kule nqanaba leendlela zendlela. Kwaye andinayo nekati.

Ndiyazi ukuba ukushukuma okungenangqondo kwii -apps zokuthandana okanye ukuthumela imiyalezo ngee-ex zam azizizo iindlela ezisempilweni zokujamelana nobulolo ngoku. Kwaye ukutya ukutya okune-junk andikudingi ukukhenkcezisa iveni yam. Kodwa, yeha, ndilapha

Ezinye iintsuku zisisithukuthezi kunezinye, kodwa ndifunde amanqaku aneleyo malunga nokwenza uninzi lokungatshati ngexesha lokuvalelwa yedwa (isihogo, ndade ndabhala enye!): Ziqhelise ukuzikhathalela! Ukuphulula amalungu esini ngakumbi! Ziphathe ngesidlo sangokuhlwa kunye nobusuku be-movie! Funda isakhono esitsha! Ngena kwinto oyithandayo! Yiba ngumntu osisiyatha kwaye ube nepati yomdaniso ophambeneyo kwaye ushukumise i-booty yakho ngokungabikho mntu ubukeleyo kuba akukho mntu ngenxa yokuba u-LOL uwedwa!

Mamela, ndiphumeze okuninzi ngexesha lokuvalelwa yedwa. Kudala ndihamba ngedijithali (ndisebenza kwaye ndibhala ndikude), ukusefa, ukusonga ubucwebe becingo, ukubhala incwadi, ukucofa ukulele, kwaye ndiphila phantse zonke ezinye iingoma ze #vanlife. Ndade ndadaya iinwele zam ezipinki kuba ndiluhlobo-lokuphila ubomi bam obugqwesileyo ngeendlela ezininzi. Ungaze ucinge ukuba ngamanye amaxesha ingqondo yam yeha-ndiye indishiye ndingaboni ngasonye kwizinto eziluncedo zokuba ndedwa, ungazenzi impazamo: Ndiyazi ukuba ukuchitha ubhubhani we-COVID-19 ngaphandle kweqabane kuthetha ukuba akufuneki ndinikele ubungqina kuye. I-TikTok yomnye umntu ofanele ukukruquka ithatha okanye ihambe i-halfsies ekuthatheni kwam e-Thai. Kungenxa yokuba iintloni ezisetyenzisiweyo kunye nokwabelana ngekheri (kwaye-thixo-ukulwa nomntu ekuphela kwakhe onamathele endlini) uncanca ngaphezu kokulala wedwa.

Kodwa ndiyazi ngokulula ukuba, ngeentsuku ezithile, kucacile ukuba kubhetele ukuba ndikhe ndedwa kwaye ndijamelane nesithukuthezi endisaziyo ukuba siza kodwa oko kudityaniswe yimida ye-COVID-19. Ukuba kukho into enye endiyifundayo kule nkqubo yokuza ubuso ngobuso kunye nam, kukuba kuyimfuneko ukuvuma kwaye ndamkele nantoni na endivakalelwa ngayo njengekrwada kwaye iyinyani ngaphandle komgwebo. Kungenxa yokuba ukwenza ngathi yonke into inomdla we-peachy okoko nje ndibetha imaski yobuso kwaye ndibhabha kwi-rom-com ndiziva ngathi ndinokubaleka njengokuceba i-adventure yam elandelayo.

Ngoku, ndifunda ukunganamathelisi kwezo mvakalelo zokuba lilolo kunye namandla angandisebenzisiyo. Ukusuka kwiveni endala erusi kunxweme olungenanto uwedwa. (Kulungile, elicandelo lihle kakhulu.)

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