Kutheni ndibaleka iMarathon iinyanga ezi-6 emva kokuba noMntwana

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• Ukomelela Kwasemva Komntwana
• Injongo eNtsha
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NgoJanuwari ophelileyo, ndibhalisele i-2017 Boston Marathon. Njengembaleki yembaleki yembaleki kunye neAdidas ebaleka ukuba ngunozakuzaku, oku kuye kwaba sisithethe sonyaka kum. Ukubaleka yinxalenye enkulu yobomi bam. Ukuza kuthi ga ngoku, ndibaleke iimarathoni ezili-16. Ndade ndadibana nomyeni wam (imbaleki ephumeleleyo kunye nonyango lwezonyango) kugqatso lwendlela e2013.

Ekuqaleni, bendingacingi ukuba ndingabaleka ugqatso. Kulo nyaka uphelileyo, mna nomyeni wam sasibeke iinjongo zethu kwenye injongo ekhethekileyo: ukuqala usapho. Ekugqibeleni, nangona kunjalo, sichithe u-2016 sizama ngaphandle kwempumelelo. Ke kwangoko ngaphambi komhla obekiweyo wokuba ndibhalise, ndaye ndagqiba kwelokuba ndisuse ingqondo yam "ngokuzama" ndibuyele kubomi bam obuqhelekileyo kunye nokubaleka. Njengoko ikamva laliza kuba njalo, kwangaloo mini ndandibhalisele ukuqhuba iBoston, safumanisa ukuba sikhulelwe.

bendi ke uchulumancile, kodwa uyavunywa ukuba ulusizi kancinci. Ngelixa ndagqiba ekubeni ndiqhube uqeqesho ngokukhulelwa kwam kwangethuba (ukuphulaphula umzimba wam kunye nokugawulwa kweemayile ezisezantsi) -ndandiyazi ukuba andizukwazi ukuthatha inxaxheba kwibala eliphakamileyo njengoko bendiqhele ukwenza. (Inxulumene: Ukubaleka ngexesha lokukhulelwa kundilungiselele ukubeleka)

Sekunjalo, ndandivuyiswa kukuba kwisiqingatha sokuqala sokukhulelwa kwam, ndandikwazi ukubaleka iintsuku ezininzi. Kwaye xa uMarathon wangoMvulo esiza, ndaziva ndonwabile. Kwiiveki ezili-14 ndikhulelwe, ndabaleka i-3: 05 marathon-elungileyo ngokwaneleyo ukuba umntwana wethu oyinkwenkwe aqale isiQinisekiso seBoston. Yeyona yeyona marathon imnandi kunye neyonwabisayo endakha ndayiqhuba.

Ukomelela Kwasemva Komntwana

Ngo-Okthobha, ndazala unyana wam uRiley. Ngelixa ndisesibhedlele, bendineentsuku ezimbalwa apho ndiphantse ndaphakama ebhedini. Ndirhalela ukubila kamnandi, umoya omtsha, kunye nokuziva ndomelele. Ndiyazi ukuba ndifuna ukuphuma ndenze nantoni na.

Kwiintsuku ezimbalwa kamva, ndaqalisa ukuhamba naye. Kwaye kwiiveki ezintandathu emva kokubeleka, ndaya phambili kwi-ob-gyn yam ukuba ndibaleke. Ndandinokukrazula-okuqhelekileyo ekuzalweni kwelungu lobufazi-kwaye ugqirha wam wayefuna ukuqinisekisa ukuba ndiphiliswe ngokupheleleyo ngaphambi kokuba ndizibhokoxe kakhulu. Umzimba uqhubeka ngokukhawuleza, notshintsho olukhulu kwiinyanga zokuqala ezimbalwa emva kokubeleka, kwaye ukuqala ngokukhawuleza kunokukubeka emngciphekweni wokonzakala. (Kukwafanelekile ukuqaphela ukuba umzimba ngamnye wahlukile. Ndiye ndanabahlobo ndiziva ndilungile ukubaleka iiveki nje ezimbalwa emva kokubeleka kunye nabanye abakufumanisa kulucelomngeni.)

Umhlobo wam naye udale i- #3for31 December Challenge (ebaleka iimayile ezi-3 zonke iintsuku ezingama-31 enyangeni), eyandinceda ukuba ndilawule umkhwa wokubaleka. Xa u-Riley wayeneenyanga ezi-3 ubudala, ndaqalisa ukumzisa ngokubaleka kwam kwindawo yokubaleka. Uyayithanda kwaye kukuzilolonga okukhulu kum. (Kwiimamas ezintsha phaya: Zama ukutyhala abantu abahambahamba bonyuke iinduli!) Umqhubi obalekayo naye undinika inkululeko yokubaleka xa ndifuna, ngenxa yoko akukho mfuneko yokuba ndilinde umyeni wam abekhona ekhaya okanye ndihlale.

Kungekudala, ndaqalisa ukungena kwiingubo zam, ndanamandla ngakumbi kunyana wam, ndaza ndalala kamnandi. Ndaziva ngathi mna kwakhona.

Umyeni wam nabahlobo bam nabo babeqala ukuqeqesha iBoston. Ndine-FOMO enzulu. Ndandihlala ndicinga ukuba kuya kuba kuhle kangakanani ukubona umntu wam omncinci ecaleni kwikhosi kunye nendlela eza kuziva ngayo ukubuyela kwimilo yeemarathon.

Kodwa andifuni ukudana kwinqanaba lam lokuqina. Ndingumntu okhuphisanayo kwaye ndandizicingela ukuba abantu bacinga ntoni malunga nokucotha kwam eStrava.Bendihlala ndihlala ndithelekisa ukomelela kwam nabanye abantu basetyhini. Xa ndingakwazi ukubaleka, ndaziva ndiphantsi. Ngaphezu koko, ukubaleka i-marathon ngumsebenzi omkhulu kunye nosana oluneenyanga ezi-6 ubudala oluncancisayo ekhaya-ndandingaqinisekanga ukuba ndiza kuba nexesha lokuqeqesha. (Idibeneyo: Ama-Moms aFanelekileyo aBelana ngeendlela eziBalulekayo kunye neNyaniso ezenza ixesha lokuSebenza)

Injongo eNtsha

Kwinyanga ephelileyo, iAdidas yandicela ukuba ndithathe inxaxheba kwifoto ye-Boston Marathon. Ebudeni bokudutyulwa, bandibuza ukuba ndingalubaleka na ugqatso. Ndaqale ndathandabuza. Khange ndiqeqeshwe kwaye bendizibuza ukuba ngaba ukwenza ixesha elide kunokuhambelana njani noxanduva lwam njengomama. Kodwa emva kokuthetha nomyeni wam (kwaye ndithathe isigqibo sokunye ukubaleka naye ukuze omnye wethu asoloko ekunye noRiley), ndaye ndagqiba kwelokuba ndilahle ukungazithembi kwam ngefestile ndize ndiye nje.

Ndiyazi ukuba ndinethuba lokubonisa indlela yokuqeqesha ngendlela ekhuselekileyo, ehlakaniphile kwaye ndibe ngumzekelo omhle kubo bonke oomama abatsha. Oko ndenza isigqibo sam, ndibethwe yiyo yonke ingxelo elungileyo kunye nemibuzo endiyifumeneyo malunga nokuqina komzimba emva kokubeleka.

Anditsho wonke umntu kufuneka adubule ukubaleka umdyarho emva kokuba nosana. Kodwa kum, oko bekuhlala "yinto" yam. Ngaphandle kokubaleka kwam (kwaye ngaphandle kweemarathon), ndaziva ngathi isiqwenga sam sasilahlekile. Ndifundile ukuba ekugqibeleni, ukwenza into oyithandayo (nokuba ziiklasi zestudiyo, ukuhamba, okanye iyoga) ngendlela ekhuselekileyo kwaye ukuba nexesha lakho kukwenza uzive umkhulu kwaye ekugqibeleni kukwenza ube ngumama ongcono.

Iinjongo zam zeBoston zahlukile kulo nyaka-baya kuhlala bengenzakalisi kwaye bonwabe. Andizuku "baleka. " Ndiyayithanda iBarathon Marathon-kwaye ndonwabile ukuba ngaphandle kwikhosi kwakhona, ukumela bonke oomama abomeleleyo phaya, kunye nokubona usana lwam ekugqibeleni.

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