Kukutyikitya ntoni kwiBoston Marathon kundifundise ngokuSeta iinjongo

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Bendihlala ndicinga ukuba ngenye imini, ndinga (mhlawumbi) ndifuna ukubaleka iBoston Marathon.

Ukukhula nje ngaphandle kweBoston, iMarathon ngoMvulo yayihlala ilusuku lokuphuma esikolweni. Ibilixesha lokwenza imiqondiso, ukuvuyisana, kunye nokuhambisa iikomityi zamanzi kunye neGatorade kwiimbaleki ezingama-30,000 ezisuka eHopkinton zisiya eBoston. Ngaloo mini, amashishini amaninzi asekuhlaleni ayavala kwaye abantu baphuphuma ezitalatweni zeedolophu ezisibhozo ezithatha ikhosi yeemayile ezingama-26.2. Uninzi lweenkumbulo zam zasentwasa hlobo zibandakanya olu gqatso.

Kwiminyaka kamva, njengomntu omdala (kunye nembaleki nam ndinesiqingatha semarathoni phantsi kwebhanti lam), xa umsebenzi wandizisela imisebenzi ePennsylvania naseNew York City, ndiyakhumbula ndizibuza ukuba kutheni abantu besebenza ngeMarathon ngoMvulo. Ndiphose umbane wosuku eBoston. Ndisenako ukuziva, nokuba ukude.

Xa ndagoduka ndaya eBoston ndaza ndatyikitya isivumelwano soqeshiso sendlu encinci kufutshane nezifundo, ndaqhubeka nokubukela iimbaleki zihamba minyaka le. Kodwa kulo nyaka uphelileyo ndazibona sele ndicinga nzulu malunga nenjongo yam yokubaleka ugqatso. Ndifanele ndiyenze, Ndicinge. Ndingayenza. Ukujonga ulwandle lweembaleki (kubandakanya abahlobo abambalwa!) Isitalato iBeacon Street (eyinxalenye yendlela yomdyarho), bendiphantse ukuzikhaba ukuba ndingayenzi. (Idibeneyo: Dibana neQela eliKhuthazayo loTitshala eliKhethiweyo ukuba libaleke iBoston Marathon)

Kodwa iinyanga zahamba kwaye, njengoko sonke sisenza, ndaxakeka. Iingcinga zokungazibophelelanga zogqatso lweembaleki mhlawumbi zehla. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, ukubaleka umdyarho wokuzibophelela kukuzibophelela okukhulu. Ndandingaqinisekanga ukuba ndingawulungelelanisa njani umsebenzi osisigxina kunye neemfuno zoqeqesho (kubusika obubandayo baseBoston hayi ngaphantsi). Ngapha koko, ngelixa ndiyithanda ngokwenene imithambo kunye nendlela endiziva ngayo, andikaze ndibengumntu wokuzityhala ngokwam ndidlule endaweni yam yokuthuthuzela. Mhlawumbi ngekhe yenzeke, ndacinga.

Ke, kulo Januwari udlulileyo, ndifumene i-imeyile-ithuba lokubaleka iBoston nge-Adidas. Yayiyinkuthazo nje endandiyidinga ukuba ndithi ewe. Ndizibophelele. Kwaye ngalo mzuzu, ndazibuza ukuba kutheni kundithathe iminyaka emininzi kangaka ukuziphosa. Ndandinomdla ovuyisayo, ndikhuthazwa yiminyaka njengombukeli, ndonwabile lithuba lokubaleka kwidolophu yasekhaya.

Emva koko, kwafika iingcinga ezoyikisayo: Ngaba ndingakwazi nyani ukwenza oku? Ngaba ngokwenene ndandifuna ukuyenza? Inkuthazo yayikhona, kodwa ngaba yayinokwanela ngokwaneleyo?

"Zininzi izinto ezikhuthazayo njengoko kukho iimbaleki ezingenele ugqatso," watsho uMaria Newton, Ph.D., unjingalwazi osebenza naye kwisebe lezempilo, kinesiology, kunye nolonwabo kwiYunivesithi yaseUtah, wandixelelayo xa ndandizisa izicwangciso zam.

Kumanqanaba aphilileyo, andicingi ukuba kukho nabani na iminqweno ukubaleka iikhilomitha ezingama-26.2 (nangona iimbaleki eziphakamileyo zingavumelani nam). Ke yintoni eyenza ukuba siyenze?

NjengoNewton uthi-zonke iintlobo zezizathu. Abanye abantu babalekela ukuzenzela inzuzo, abanye banxibelelana ngokweemvakalelo kuhlanga, ukuzicel 'umngeni ngeendlela ezintsha, okanye ukunyusa imali okanye ulwazi ngesizathu ababakhathaleleyo. (Idibeneyo: Kutheni ndibaleka iBoston Marathon iinyanga ezi-6 emva kokuba noMntwana)

Kodwa kungakhathaliseki ukuba yintoni isizathu, umzimba wakho unako ukwenza okuninzi. "Ngokucacileyo singayigqiba into ukuba iinjongo zethu zingaphandle kuthi," utshilo uNewton (cinga umqeqeshi okanye ukuvunywa ngumzali, okanye ukunconywa). Kodwa, "umgangatho wenkuthazo awuyi kuba mhle," uyachaza. Kungenxa yokuba, eyona nto iphambili kuyo, inkuthazo imalunga "ngoba," utshilo.

Uncwadi ngesihloko lubonisa ukuba xa sikhetha iinjongo ezinentsingiselo kuthi, sikhuthazeka ngakumbi ukuba sizifezekise. Ndingavuma ngokuqinisekileyo.Kubekho amaxesha kuqeqesho lwam — oko kukuthi ndibaleka ndinyuka iinduli eziphakamileyo amaxesha ngamaxesha ekhephuni okanye emvuleni-xa ndiyazi ukuba ngendandiyekile ukuba bekungengenxa yonxibelelwano lwam nogqatso. Eyona nto ibiyenza imilenze yam ihlale ishukuma xa ivakala ngathi ijelo? Ingcamango yokuba le Uqeqesho lwalundisondeza kumgca wokugqibezela usuku logqatso—into endandifuna ukuyenza. (Idibeneyo: 7 IiPerks ezingalindelekanga zoQeqesho lweRace Race)

Leyo yingqokelela yenkuthazo yangaphakathi, uyacacisa uNewton. Kukunceda zingisa. Xa iqala ukugalela imvula, xa imilenze yakho inyathela phezulu, okanye xa ubetha eludongeni, kungenzeka ukuba uzibuze, ungazami ngokuzimisela, kwaye uyeke ukuba "kutheni" akunanto yakwenza kangako wena. "Awuyi kuqhubeka xa izinto ziba nzima, kwaye awuyi kunandipha ixesha lakho kakhulu," utsho.

Xa ungumnikazi wakho "kutheni," uya kudlula kwiindawo ezinzima, uziqhube xa uziva udiniwe, kwaye ujabulele inkqubo. "Kukho umahluko omkhulu ekunyamezeleni ukuba inkuthazo iyazimela." (Izinto eziNxulumeneyo: Izizathu ezi-5 zokuba iNkuthazo yakho ilahlekile)

Kungenxa yokuba utyale imali kwinkqubo nakwisiphumo. Awukho kuyo nabani na ongomnye. "Abantu abazingisayo, bazingisa kuba ukuba abakwenzi, bayazithoba."

Ekugqibeleni ukuzibophelela eBoston kwakuyeyona nto inzima kuyo yonke le nto kum. Nje ukuba ndenze njalo, ndafumanisa injongo endandingaziqondi ukuba ndinayo. Kodwa ifuna ukuvulelwa umbono omtsha-umceli mngeni omtsha.

Nantso into iNewton ekhuthaza abantu ukuba bayenze ukuba bafuna indlela entsha yokuzicelomngeni: Vula kwaye uzame izinto ezintsha. "Awazi ukuba kukho into evakalayo kuwe de ude wenze into," utshilo. Emva koko uyitshatile indlela yakho. (Eyeleleneyo: IiNzuzo ezininzi zempilo zokuzama izinto ezitsha)

Ewe, ukuqala ngemisebenzi onamava kuyo kwaye uyonwabele (into endiyenzileyo) iyavakala, nayo. Rhoqo kulula njengokubuyela kwimisebenzi ebesiyonwabele ukukhula, nokuba ngumkhondo, ukuqubha, okanye nantoni na eyenye. "Ukuphinda ujonge ezo zinto kwaye uzicel 'umngeni ukuze ufumane ukuthanda okufanayo owawukuko sisicwangciso esihle sokufumana injongo efanelekileyo," utshilo uNewton. "Ukuzibandakanya kwakhona kwezo zinto wawukhe wonwaba ngazo kunokukuzisela uvuyo olukhulu."

Kwaye malunga neveki ndiphuma eBoston, nantso into endiqala ukuyiva: uvuyo.

Apha eBoston, imarathon ingaphezulu komdyarho. Iyinxalenye yesixeko esidityaniswe ngokungenakuhlukaniswa nabantu baso kunye nekratshi laso kwaye, ngeendlela ezininzi, ndicinga ukuba ibisoloko iyinxalenye yam. Ndilwenzile uqeqesho lwam, ndisebenze nzima, kwaye ndikulungele ukujongana nomgca wokuqala.

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