Ukuzikhathalela ukuyeka ukuya exesheni: Abafazi aba-5 babelana ngamava abo

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• Kuthetha ukuthini ukuzikhathalela kuwe, kwaye kutheni kubaluleke kakhulu ngexesha lokuyeka ukuya exesheni?
• Zeziphi ezinye izinto ozenzele ukuzikhathalela ngexesha lokuyeka ukuya exesheni?
• Leliphi elinye icebo onokuthi ulinike umntu okwangoku oyekayo ukuya exesheni malunga nokuzikhathalela?

Nangona kuyinyani wonke umntu onamaxesha okuyeka ukuya exesheni ahlukile, ukwazi ukuphatha ngempumelelo utshintsho olwenzeka emzimbeni oluhamba neli nqanaba lobomi kunokubakho ukuphazamiseka nokuzikhetha. Kungenxa yesi sizathu ukuzinyamekela ngeli xesha kubaluleke kakhulu.

Ukuqonda ngcono ukuba ukuzikhathalela kunokukunceda njani ukuba ujonge olu tshintsho kwaye ufumanise ukuba yintoni esebenzayo kwabanye, sibuze abafazi abahlanu abanamava okuyeka ukuya exesheni ukuba babelane ngeengcebiso zabo. Nantsi into ebebeyithethile.

Impilo kunye nokuphila kakuhle kuchaphazela ubomi bomntu wonke ngokwahlukileyo. Sacela abantu abambalwa ukuba babelane ngamabali abo. La ngamava abo.

Kuthetha ukuthini ukuzikhathalela kuwe, kwaye kutheni kubaluleke kakhulu ngexesha lokuyeka ukuya exesheni?

UJennifer Connolly: Ukuzikhathalela kuthetha ukuqiniseka ukuba ndenza ixesha lokuba ndibonelele ngokwasemzimbeni, ngokweemvakalelo nangokwasemoyeni. Amaxesha amaninzi abantu basetyhini ngabanonopheli babantwana babo okanye abatshatileyo, kuphela kukuzifumanisa bekhathalela abazali babo abalupheleyo ngelixa besiya exesheni.

Ngexesha lokuyeka ukuya exesheni, imizimba yethu iyatshintsha, kwaye kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba sitshintshe ezinye zezo zinto sizikhathaleleyo. Ingathetha nokuba yimizuzu eyi-10 ngemini yokucamngca okanye yejenali, ibhafu entle, okanye ukuthatha ixesha lokudibana nentombi.

UKaren Robinson: Kum, ukuzikhathalela kuthetha ukunyaniseka kum, ukujongana noxinzelelo ebomini bam, ukwenza imikhwa emitsha yokubuyela kulomntu ndandinguye ngaphambi kokuba ndiyeke ukuya exesheni, ndibeke phambili "ixesha lam" lokwenza izinto endizithandayo, nokwenza imisebenzi yokuthomalalisa. njengokucamngca.

Ukuzikhathalela kukucinga kakuhle, ukulala kakuhle, ukwenza umthambo, ukukhathalela impilo yam emzimbeni nasengqondweni, kunye nokutya okusempilweni ukunika umzimba wam ithuba lokujongana notshintsho kubomi obuphakathi.

UMaryon Stewart: Abasetyhini abadumileyo bayatsaleleka ukunceda wonke umntu ebomini babo, bahlala betyeshela ezabo iimfuno. Ukuyeka ukuya exesheni lixesha apho bafuna, kube kanye, ukugxila ekufundeni ukuhlangabezana neemfuno zabo ukuba uhambo olugudileyo ngokuyeka ukuya exesheni yile nto banayo engqondweni.

Ulwazi olwaneleyo malunga nezixhobo zokuzinceda, ezixhaswa ngophando, zibalulekile njengokufaka. Ukufunda indlela yokuhlangabezana neemfuno zethu kunye nokuzikhathalela kubomi obuphakathi yeyona nto iphambili ekubuyiseni impilo yethu kunye "nokuqinisekisa ikamva" lempilo yethu.

Zeziphi ezinye izinto ozenzele ukuzikhathalela ngexesha lokuyeka ukuya exesheni?

UMagnolia Miller: Kum, ukuzikhathalela ngexesha lokuyeka ukuya exesheni kubandakanya utshintsho kwindlela yokutya kunye nokwenza yonke into esemandleni am ukuqinisekisa ukuba ndilala ngokwaneleyo ebusuku. Ndiye ndakuqonda ukubaluleka kokuzilolonga ukunceda ukususa uxinzelelo lwento eyenzekayo emzimbeni wam. Ndizenzile zonke ezo zinto ngomhlakulo.

Mhlawumbi, nangona kunjalo, eyona nto iluncedo endizenzele yona phantsi kwesibhengezo "sokuzikhathalela" yayikukuzithethelela kunye neemfuno zam ngaphandle kokuxolisa. Ukuba, umzekelo, bendifuna ixesha lokuba ndedwa kude nabantwana bam nomyeni wam, andizisanga nasazela kum ngelo xesha.

Ndaye ndazithemba ngamandla wam okuthetha hayi ukuba ndiziva ndifuna ixesha kunye nobomi bam kudala uxinzelelo olungafunekiyo. Ndaqala ukuqaphela ukuba kwakungekho mfuneko yokuba ndibonise zonke izicelo zam, kwaye andisaziva ndinyanzelekile ukunceda omnye umntu azive ekhululekile ngesigqibo sam.

U-Ellen Dolgen: Indlela yam yokuzikhathalela yemihla ngemihla ibandakanya ukuzilolonga (ukuhamba noqeqesho lokunganyangeki), ukulandela inkqubo yokutya ecocekileyo nenempilo, ukucamngca kabini ngemini, kunye nokufunda ukuthi hayi ke andilumi ngaphezu kokuba ndihlafuna. Ndizama nokuchitha ixesha elininzi kangangoko kunokwenzeka nabazukulwana bam, kwaye isidlo sasemini kunye nabahlobo bam bamantombazana kufuneka!

Ndingumlandeli omkhulu wamayeza othintelo, ke enye indlela yam yokuzikhathalela ibandakanya utyelelo lonyaka kunye nengcali yam yokuyeka ukuya exesheni kunye nokuzalisa itshathi yeempawu zam zokuyeka ukuya exesheni. Ndihlala ndinolwazi nezinye iimviwo, ezinje ngee-mammograms, i-colonoscopy, ukuskena kwamathambo, kunye nokuhlolwa kwamehlo.

Stewart: Ukuyeka kwam ukuya exesheni kwaqala xa ndandineminyaka engama-47 ubudala, nto leyo ndandingalindelanga kwaphela. Xa ndiqala ukuziva nditshisa, ndayisusa njengengcinezelo, njengoko ndandiza kuqhawula umtshato ngelo xesha. Ekugqibeleni, kwafuneka ndivume ukuba yayizidlala zam.

Ndizenzele uxanduva ngokugcina ukutya kunye nedayari yokuxhasa kunye neempawu zempawu mihla le. Ndandisele ndizilolonga, kodwa ndandisoyika xa ndiphumle. Ngenxa yolunye lophando endilufundileyo ngokuziphumza ngokusesikweni ukunciphisa ukukhanya okutshisayo, ndaye ndagqiba kwelokuba ndizame ukucamngca nge-Pzizz. Oku kundenze ndaziva ndihlaziyekile kwaye ndipholile.

Izixhasi endizikhethileyo zanceda ekulawuleni ama-thermal surges kunye nokuqhelanisa umsebenzi wam wehomoni. Ndakwazi ukulawula iimpawu zam kwiinyanga ezimbalwa.

Ukudibanisa: Ngexesha lokuyeka ukuya exesheni, ndiye ndacamngca mihla le kwaye ndaqala ukugxila ekutyeni ukutya okune-organic. Ndiqale ukuthambisa amafutha emzimbeni wam wonke emva kweshawa nganye ukuze ndikhusele ulusu lwam olomileyo. Ndinengxaki yokulala ebusuku, ndiye ndazinika imvume yokulala nencwadi emva kwemini ukuze ndiphumle kwaye bendisoloko ndilala kancinci.

Andinantloni zokuba ndithethe nogqirha wam kwaye ndaqala ukuthatha i-antidepressant ukujongana noxinzelelo oluziswa kukutshintsha kwehomoni.

Leliphi elinye icebo onokuthi ulinike umntu okwangoku oyekayo ukuya exesheni malunga nokuzikhathalela?

Ukudibanisa: Yiba nobumnene nesiqu sakho, kwaye umamele oko ukutshintsha komzimba wakho. Ukuba uziva uxinezelekile, fumana umntu onokuthetha naye. Ukuba unenkxalabo yokubeka ubunzima, phakamisa umthambo wakho kwaye unike ingqalelo kwiikhalori ezingaphezulu onokuthi uzitye ungazi. Kodwa qiniseka ukuba unomonde kuwe kunye nomzimba wakho. Owu, kwaye ulale kwikotoni! Ezo zibilo ebusuku zinokuba zasendle!

UMiller: Ndiza kumxelela kuqala ukuba ukuya exesheni kukutshintsha hayi isigwebo sobomi. Utshintsho lokuyeka ukuya exesheni lunokuba lukhulu kwaye lubonakale lungapheli. Oku kunokukwenza uzive ngathi awusoze uphinde uzive "uqhelekileyo" kwakhona. Kodwa uza kuyenza.

Ngapha koko, lakuba lifikile ixesha lokuyeka ukuya exesheni, hayi kuphela [abanye abantu basetyhini] abaya kuziva "beqhelekile" kwakhona, kodwa [kwabanye] kukho ubumnandi obuhlaziyiweyo bokuzithemba namandla obomi. Nangona kuyinyani ukuba ulutsha lwethu lusemva kwethu, kwaye oku kungangunobangela wokulila kunye nelahleko kwabanye abantu basetyhini, kuyinyani ukuba inkululeko kwimijikelo yokuya exesheni nakubo bonke ubunzima bomzimba obuhamba nayo iyavuya ngokufanayo.

Kubafazi abaninzi, iminyaka yabo yokuyeka ukuya exesheni zezona zivuyayo kwaye zivelisa kakhulu, kwaye ndingabakhuthaza abantu basetyhini ukuba bayamkele le minyaka ngothando nangenjongo.

URobinson: Sukuyeka ukuzikhathalela ngexesha elifanelekileyo ebomini bakho ekufuneka uzikhathalele lona kakhulu.

IDolgen: Yenza uluhlu lweendlela ezizinyamekelayo zokufezekisa ukuzinyamekela. Okulandelayo, fumana ingcali yokuyeka ukuya exesheni efumene inzululwazi kunye nezifundo zamva nje. Le ngcali liqabane lakho lokuyeka ukuya exesheni, ke qiniseka ukukhetha ngobulumko.

Kuyenzeka ukuba uzive ukhululekile ekuphelisweni kwexesha, ukuya exesheni, kunye nasemva kokuyeka ukuya exesheni ukuba ufumana uncedo oludingayo nolufanelwe lulo!

UJennifer Connolly unceda abantu ababhinqileyo ngaphezulu kwe-50 ukuba bazithembe, babe nesitayile, kwaye bazenze ngcono ngebhlog yakhe, Ubomi obuthathwe kakuhle. Isitayile somntu oqinisekisiweyo kunye nomcebisi ngemifanekiso, ukholelwa ngentliziyo epheleleyo ukuba abantu basetyhini banokuba bahle kwaye bazithembe kuyo yonke iminyaka. Amabali obuntu obunzulu obunzulu bukaJennifer kunye nokuqonda kuye kwamenza waba ngumhlobo othenjiweyo kumawakawaka amabhinqa kulo lonke elaseMntla Melika nakwihlabathi. UJennifer ebefuna isiseko somthunzi ogqibeleleyo ukusukela ngo-1973.

U-Ellen Dolgen ngumseki kunye nomongameli Ukuyeka ukuya exesheni ngeMivulo kwaye uyinqununu yeDolgen Ventures. Ungumbhali, ibhlog, isithethi, kunye nempilo, impilo, kunye nommeli wolwazi lokuya exesheni. KwiDolgen, ukuyeka ukuya exesheni yimishini. Uphefumlelwe ngamava akhe alwa neempawu zokuyeka ukuya exesheni, uDolgen uzinikele kwiminyaka eli-10 yokugqibela yobomi bakhe ekwabelaneni ngezitshixo zobukumkani bokuyeka ukuya kwiwebhusayithi yakhe.

Kule minyaka ingama-27 idlulileyo, UMaryon Stewart incede amashumi amawaka amabhinqa kwihlabathi liphela ukuba abuyele kwimpilo yawo kwaye oyise iPMS kunye neempawu zokuyeka ukuya exesheni. UStewart ubhale iincwadi ezithandwayo zokuzinceda ezingama-27, ebhala uthotho lwamaphepha ezonyango, ebhala iikholamu eziqhelekileyo zamaphephandaba kunye neemagazini zemihla ngemihla, kwaye wayenemiboniso yakhe kumabonakude nakunomathotholo. Ukwafumene imbasa yoBukhosi base-Bhritane kwi-2018 ngeenkonzo zokufundisa ngeziyobisi emva kwephulo lakhe eliyimpumelelo eliyiminyaka esixhenxe kwi-Angelus Foundation, neyamiselwa ukukhumbula intombi yakhe, uHester.

UKaren Robinson uhlala eMantla Mpuma eNgilane kunye neeblogi malunga nokuyeka ukuya kwiwebhusayithi yakhe Ukuyeka ukuya exesheni, Iibhloko zeendwendwe kwiindawo zezempilo, uphononongo lweemveliso ezinxulumene nokuyeka ukuya exesheni, kwaye kuye kwenziwa udliwanondlebe kwiTV. URobinson uzimisele ukuba akukho mfazi kufuneka ashiyeke yedwa ukujongana nexesha lokuya exesheni, ukuya exesheni, kunye neminyaka engaphaya.

UMagnolia Miller ngumbhali wezempilo kunye nokuba sempilweni kwabasetyhini, ummeli kunye notitshala. Unomdla kwimicimbi yezempilo yabasetyhini phakathi kobomi enxulumene notshintsho lokuyeka ukuya exesheni. Uphethe isidanga senkosi kunxibelelwano lwezempilo kwaye uqinisekisiwe kwinkxaso yabathengi kwezempilo. UMagnolia ubhale wapapasha umxholo okwi-intanethi kwiindawo ezininzi kwihlabathi liphela kwaye uyaqhubeka nokukhuthaza abantu basetyhini kwiwebhusayithi yakhe, Ibhlog yePerimenopause . Apho ubhala kwaye apapashe umxholo kwimicimbi ephathelene nempilo yehomoni yabasetyhini.