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Umxholo

• Yintoni?
• Ngubani onokuzuza?
• Ingaba isebenza kanjani?
• Ngaba le yinto efanayo nonyango lokwabelana ngesondo?
• Ngaba abantu abathengisa ngesondo ngabasetyhini?
• Unxibelelana njani nomntu obambeleyo?
• Ngaba kusemthethweni?
• Umntu uba liqabane ngokwesivumelwano njani?
• Umgca wezantsi

Sibandakanya iimveliso esicinga ukuba ziluncedo kubafundi bethu. Ukuba uthenga amakhonkco kweli phepha, sinokufumana ikhomishini encinci. Nantsi inkqubo yethu.

Uyazi ukuba yintoni isondo, kwaye mhlawumbi uvile ngegama elithi "surrogate," ubuncinci ngokubhekisele kwiintsana nezisu. Kodwa ukuba uhlaba la magama mabini ngokudibeneyo uyathanda "???" awuwedwa.

Uninzi lwabantu alwazi ukuba zithini ii-surrogate zesini.

Kwaye uninzi lwabo bacinga ukuba banalo indlela ayilunganga, ngokukaJenni Skyler, PhD, LMFT, kunye neAASECT ingcali yezesondo eqinisekisiweyo, isini ngesini, kunye nomtshato onelayisensi kunye nonyango losapho lweAdamEve.com.

"Ayisiyiyo le nto abantu abaninzi bacinga ukuba yiyo."

Yiyo loo nto bekukho into yokunyanzelwa ukuba kuqalwe kubizwe ngokulalana ngokwesondo "ngonyango lwamaqabane ngokwesivumelwano" endaweni yoko, utshilo uMark Shattuck, ogunyazisiweyo ngokwesivumelwano kunye nosihlalo weendaba kunye ne-International Professional Surrogate Association (IPSA).

Ngokomxholo, i-IPSA iye yamkelwa njengegunya elikhokelayo ekuxhaseni ngokwesondo kunye nokunyanga ngokwesondo ukusukela ngo-1973.

Yintoni?

Unyango lweqabane lokuzalela abanye abantu, njengoko kuchaziwe yi-IPSA, ubudlelwane obunyangayo obukhoyo phakathi kwonyango olunelayisensi, umxhasi, kunye nomlingani obambeleyo.

Yenzelwe ukunceda umthengi ukuba akhululeke ngakumbi ngokusondelelana, inkanuko yesini, kunye nokwabelana ngesondo, kunye nomzimba wabo.

Ngelixa olu lwalamano unako phuhla nangaluphi na uhlobo lonyango olunelayisensi, uShattuck uthi uhlala enesiphatho sesini.

Wongeza ukuba iingcali zonyango ngokwesondo zihlala zivuleleke ngakumbi ekusebenzeni ngokwesivumelwano kunakwabanyangi bemveli.

Ke liliphi iqabane ngokwesivumelwano?

U-Shattuck uthi: "Ingcali esebenzisa ukuchukumisa, ukuphefumla, ingqondo, ukuzilolonga, kunye nokuqeqeshwa kwezakhono zentlalo ukunceda umxhasi afezekise iinjongo ezithile zonyango."

Ngamaxesha athile - uthi kumava akhe malunga neepesenti ezili-15 ukuya kwezi-20 zexesha - ukuzimela kwamaqabane kubandakanya ukulala. "Kodwa konke oko kuxhomekeke kumcimbi umthengi asebenza kuwo," utshilo.

Injongo yako konke oku? Ukunika umthengi indawo ekhuselekileyo yokuphonononga nokuziqhelanisa nokwabelana ngesondo kunye nokwabelana ngesondo kwindawo eyakhiweyo.

Inqaku elibalulekileyo: Akukho ndawo ugqirha abukele okanye abandakanyeke ngokuthe ngqo kwinto eyenzekayo phakathi kweqabane lokumela kunye nomthengi.

"Umthengi udibana neqabane lakhe ngokwesivumelwano ngokwahlukeneyo," ucacisa uShattuck. Kodwa umxhasi unika i-Therapist kunye neqabane labo ngokukhanya okuluhlaza ukuze bathethe omnye nomnye malunga nenkqubela yabo.

"Ingcali, umxhasi, kunye neqabane lokungena endaweni yokunxibelelana kakuhle kwaye ihlala iyinto ebalulekileyo ekuphumeleleni kunyango lweqabane," utshilo.

Ngubani onokuzuza?

Ngokwenyani awunakufikelela kwi-surrogate yeqabane ngaphandle kokuba unonyango olunelayisensi, ngokwe-Shattuck.

Ngokubanzi, utshilo, "umntu oqala ukusebenza neqabane ngokwesivumelwano sele ekwenzile isondo iinyanga ezimbalwa okanye iminyaka embalwa kwaye esenomsebenzi omninzi ekufuneka ewenzile malunga nokuziva ekhululekile ngesondo, ukusondelelana, ukuthandana, kunye nomzimba wakhe . ”

Iingxaki ezinokukhuthaza umxhasi ukuba acebise ukuba babandakanye umntu oza kungena endaweni yabo yokuphilisa- okanye ugqirha wezokwabelana ngesondo ukuba abonise okufanayo kumthengi-kuluhlu oluvela kuxinzelelo lwentlalo ngokubanzi ukuya kukungasebenzi kakuhle ngokwesini okanye uloyiko.

Abanye abantu abanokuxhamla kumandla okuphilisa kwi-surrogacy yeqabane babandakanya:

• amaxhoba okonzakala kunye nokuphathwa gadalala
• abantu abanamava amancinci okanye abanamava ezesondo
• Abanini bamalungu epenisi abanokungasebenzi kakuhle kwe-erectile okanye ukuphuma kwangoko
• Abanikazi be-vulva abanesifo se-vaginismus, okanye enye into eyenziwa ngumgangatho we-pelvic engabangela ukuba ukulala ngesondo kube buhlungu
• abantu abasokolayo ngokwamkelwa komzimba okanye idysmorphia yomzimba
• abantu abanoxinzelelo okanye uloyiko ngokukodwa malunga nokwabelana ngesondo, ukusondelelana, kunye nokuchukumisa
• abantu abakhubazekileyo abenza kube nzima ukuba babelane ngesondo

Ngelishwa, kuba uninzi lwe-inshurensi ayigubungeli i-surrogacy therapy (okanye unyango ngesondo, ngenxa yoko), uninzi lwabantu olunokuthi luxhamle kule ndlela yokuphilisa alunakho ukuyifumana.

Iseshoni enye ixabisa naphi na ukusuka kwi- $ 200 ukuya kwi- $ 400 epokothweni.

Ingaba isebenza kanjani?

Nje ukuba wena kunye nonyango lwakho uthathe isigqibo sokunyanga amaqabane ngokwesondo kunokukunceda, ugqirha wakho wesini unokufikelela kwinethiwekhi yamaqabane abo ukukunceda ufumane umdlalo onokubakho.

Banokuqhakamshelana noMququzeleli weZalathiso ze-IPSA ngoncedo lokufumana iqabane elinemfesane, eliqeqeshwe kakuhle, eliqinisekisiweyo elilingana neemfuno zakho.

UShattuck ubiza ukuba kule mihla uninzi lwamaqabane akho anamaqonga onxibelelwano kwi-Intanethi nakwezoluntu, ke ukuba uyakhubeka kwi-surrogate yeqabane ocinga ukuba lingakulungela, yiza nengcali yezesondo.

Kodwa ukuze usebenze nalo mntu uthandana naye ngokwesondo, bobabini ugqirha wakho wesini kunye neqabane eliza kufuneka lisayine.

Ukusuka apho, "umxhasi kunye neqabane lokudibana baya kudibana ukumisela ukuba ayilunganga na," utshilo uShattuck.

Intlanganiso yokuqala yenzeka kwi-ofisi yezonyango, kodwa zonke iintlanganiso ezilandelayo zenzeka kwenye indawo-zihlala kwi-ofisi yomntu obambeleyo, okanye kwikhaya lomthengi.

"Ukulunga kakuhle" akumiselwanga zizinto ezinje ngokuba utsala kangakanani kwisivumelwano, kodwa ngokuziva unganako (okanye ekugqibeleni unokubathemba).

Ngokwesiqhelo, iqabane lesivumelwano kunye nonyango lwezesondo lisebenza kunye ukuza nesicwangciso sonyango ngokusekwe kwiinjongo zakho. Emva koko, wena kunye neqabane lakho eliza kusebenza kunye liya kusebenza kunye ukuya kuloo njongo.

Izinto isicwangciso sonyango sinokubandakanya:

• ukudibana kwamehlo
• ukucamngca
• Ujoliso kwiimvakalelo
• umthambo wokuphefumla
• imephu yomzimba
• indlela enye okanye ubunqunu bobabini
• ukubamba ngendlela enye okanye ezimbini (ngaphezulu okanye ngezantsi kwempahla)
• Ukwabelana ngesondo (ekhokelwa zizenzo ezikhuselekileyo zesini)

"Akusoloko kuhlala, okanye nokuba ngesiqhelo, Ukulalana phakathi komntu obambisene nomlingane, kodwa xa ikhona, sigxila ekwakheni isiseko esisondeleyo kuqala, ”utshilo uShattuck.

Unyango lweqabane lokuzalela umntu akenzelwanga nto.

Sisebenza kunye kube kanye ngeveki okanye de umthengi afikelele kwiinjongo zakhe. Ngamanye amaxesha kuthatha inyanga, ngamanye amaxesha kuthatha iminyaka, ”utshilo.

"Xa umthengi efikelele kwiinjongo zakhe, sineeseshoni zokuvala ezimbalwa emva koko sizithumele kwilizwe lokwenyani!"

Ngaba le yinto efanayo nonyango lokwabelana ngesondo?

Pha UCanzibe ezinye ziyangqamana, kodwa unyango lomlingani ngokwesivumelwano alunyango lwesini.

"Bahluke ngokupheleleyo," utsho uSkyler.

Unyango lwesondo luhlobo lonyango olunceda umntu okanye isibini ukuba sihlengahlengise imiyalezo kunye namava ukuze sibancede bakhe impilo efanelekileyo yezesondo kunye nolwalamano, utshilo.

Ngelixa abathengi ngamanye amaxesha banokubamba izandla-ngomsebenzi wasekhaya- umzekelo, ukuphulula amalungu esini, ukubukela iphonografi, okanye ukwenza u-Ewe, Hayi, mhlawumbi uluhlu lwezonyango ngesondo luthetha unyango.

"Akukho kunxibelelana ngezandla phakathi kwengcali yezesondo kunye nomthengi," utshilo uSkyler.

Unyango lweqabane lokuxhamla xa i-sexistrapist ibiza enye ingcali-ingcali eqinisekisiweyo ye-surrogate-ukuba ibe ngokwasemzimbeni, ngokwesondo, okanye ngokuthandana nomthengi ngaphandle yeeseshoni zonyango ngesondo.

Ngaba abantu abathengisa ngesondo ngabasetyhini?

"Ngelixa sibaxhasa abathengisi ngemizimba, asizithathi njengabathengisi ngemizimba," utshilo uShattuck. “Sizijonga njengabanyangi nabanyangi.”

Ngamanye amaxesha kukho izinto zenyama kunye nezesondo ezichaphazelekayo ngokwesondo, kodwa injongo kukuphilisa-ayisiyiyo ukukhululwa ngokwesondo okanye ukonwaba.

Lo mzekeliso, ngoncedo lweqabane elingu-Cheryl Cohen Greene, unokunceda:

Ukuya kumntu osebenza ngesondo kufana nokuya kwindawo yokutyela emnandi. Ukhetha into ofuna ukuyitya kwimenyu, kwaye ukuba uyayithanda into oyityileyo, uya kubuya kwakhona.

Ukusebenza neqabane ngokwesivumelwano kufana nokuthatha iklasi yokupheka. Uyahamba, uyafunda, emva koko uthathe oko ukufundileyo wagoduka uyophekela omnye umntu ukutya ...

Unxibelelana njani nomntu obambeleyo?

Ngokwesiqhelo, ugqirha wakho wesini uya kwenza intshayelelo. Kodwa ungayisebenzisa le IPSA Surrogate Locator ukufumana umntu olibambela kwindawo yakho.

Ngaba kusemthethweni?

Umbuzo olungileyo. Kuninzi lweUnited States, ukuhlawula isondo akukho semthethweni. Kodwa ukubambelela kwiqabane akufani- okanye ubuncinci akunjalo njalo ntonye - ngokuhlawula ngesondo.

"Akukho mthetho uchasene nokwenza oku," utshilo uShattuck. "Kodwa akukho mthetho uthi umi ngendlela."

Ngamanye amagama, i-surrogacy yeqabane iwela kwindawo engwevu esemthethweni.

Kodwa, ngokukaShattuck, i-IPSA sele ijikeleze ngaphezulu kweminyaka engama-45 kwaye zange yamangalelwa.

Umntu uba liqabane ngokwesivumelwano njani?

USkylar uthi: "Umntu obelana ngesondo unendima ebaluleke kakhulu kubaxhasi, kodwa abadingi kuqeqesho okanye kwizifundo zengqondo."

Ngaba oko kuthetha ukuba nabani na uba ngumlingani ngokwesivumelwano? Hayi.

"Abo basebenza ngokwesivumelwano kufuneka baye kwinkqubo yokuziphatha kunye nokuqinisekisa umzimba, njenge-IPSA," utshilo.

Ngokuka-Shattuck (ngubani, ukuphinda, eqinisekisiwe yi-IPSA), ukuba lilungu lomlingani yinkqubo ebandakanyekayo.

"Kukho inkqubo yoqeqesho yeeveki ezininzi, emva koko kukho inkqubo yoqeqesho apho usebenza phantsi kweqabane eliqinisekisiweyo, kwaye ke ukuba / xa uthathwa ulungele ukuzimela ngokwakho njengeqabane lakho eliqinisekisiweyo, yenza njalo."

I-IPSA ibiza loo ntuthuzelo ngomzimba womntu kunye nokwabelana ngesondo, ukufudumala, uvelwano, uvelwano, ubukrelekrele, kunye nesimo sengqondo sokungagwetywa kukhetho lwabanye lokuphila, imisebenzi yesondo evumelekileyo, kunye nokuzibandakanya kwisini zonke ezi zinto zifunekayo ukuze ube liqabane lesivumelwano.

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