Ngaba kufuneka ube ngumhlobo ne-Ex yakho?

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Mhlawumbi umgama omde awuzange usebenze kakuhle njengoko ubunethemba. Okanye mhlawumbi ukhe wakhukuliseka ngokwendalo. Ukuba bekungekho siganeko sengozi esakhokelela ekubeni nobabini nihlukane, unokulingwa ngakumbi ukuba uhlale unxibelelana, a Idina Menzel kwaye Taye Diggs, abathi baceba ukuhlala kufutshane emva koqhawulo-mtshato.

Kodwa nangona kukho iinjongo ezintle, iingcali zilumkisa ukuba isenokungabi yingcamango entle. “Kwanakwiimeko apho isigqibo sokwahlukana besilingana, omnye umntu usoloko eneemvakalelo ezinamandla kunomnye,” ulumkisa ngelitshoyo uLisa Thomas, ingcali yonxulumano kummandla waseDenver. "Ukubonana kodwa ukungabikho kunye kunokuzisa iimvakalelo ezininzi kwaye umntu unokugqibela ukulimala."

Oko akuthethi ukuba kuya kufuneka umkhenkce ngokupheleleyo ungabikho. Apha, indlela yokuphatha i-ex yakho xa ezi meko zintathu ziqhelekileyo "zobuhlobo" zisenzeka. [Twitha eli cebiso!]

Iqela le-Run-In

Ukuba wena kunye nesakhelene phakathi kwezentlalo, ukuphepha kulula ukuthetha kunokwenza. Ukuba nesicwangciso endaweni-umhlobo onokungenelela okanye uluhlu lwezihloko oya kuthi ungazukuxoxa-ngoyena ndoqo, ngakumbi kwezi nyanga zokuqala, utshilo uThomas. "Ukwazi into oza kuyenza kwangaphambili kwenza ukuba iimvakalelo zincinci ziyakufumana okona kulungileyo kuwe, kwaye uya kubuyela kwakhona. ngenxa yamaxesha akudala ngenxa amasiko."

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Ngelixa ulinga ukubetha irestyu yaseIndiya eniyithandayo nobabini, zibuze ukuba ingokuhlwa izokukunceda njani-ngakumbi ukuba ujongene ne-ex yangoku. Ukuba ufuna ukubuyela kunye, okanye ufuna ukusika izinto ngokulungileyo, kulungile kuwe ukumazisa, utsho uThomas. "Kodwa xa uchitha ixesha elininzi ukuchitha ixesha kunye nomntu wakudala, uphoswa ngamathuba okukhula, ungasathethi ke ngokuzivalela kwamanye amathuba okuthandana," ukhumbuza uThomas. Ukuba usuka kwixesha elidlulileyo lakudala, ukubamba ngokufutshane kupholile ngokupheleleyo-ngena nje ungalindelanga.

Ukudityaniswa ngengozi

Kungenxa yokuba ingqondo yakho iyaqonda ukuba kutheni ukwahlukana bekuyimfuneko akuthethi ukuba umzimba wakho uya kulandela ngokuzenzekelayo, ulumkisa uKaren Ruskin, umbhali we Incwadi kaGqirha Karen yoMtshato. Nangona ukulala kunye kungatshintshi indlela oziva ngayo malunga nokwahlukana, kuyindalo ukuqikelela okwesibini okanye ukuthandabuza izinto, ngakumbi ukuba ubusuku bebulungile, utshilo. Yiyo loo nto kufuneka ulandele naluphi na uxolelwaniso olunje kunye nexesha elipholileyo ukuze ufumanise ukuba kutheni le nto yenzekile. Ngaba kungenxa yokuba nobabini nisendaweni enye? Ngaba kungenxa yokuba nobabini nifuna ithuba lesibini kubudlelwane? Nokuba sithatha siphi isigqibo, qiniseka ukuxoxa ngaso emini, ngelixa iimpahla zivuliwe, utsho uRuskin.

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