Ngaba ufanele ulinde kude kube semva kweeholide ukuze wohlukane ne-SO yakho?

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Eli bali lapapashwa okokuqala nge-17 kaDisemba 2014.

Ukwahlukana kuyancipha, kungakhathaliseki ixesha lonyaka. Ixesha leholide, nangona kunjalo, linendlela yalo yobugqi yokwenza indawo ebukhali izive inganyamezeleki.Sola izibane ezibengezelayo kunye ne-mistletoe kwaye wonwabile, izibini ezibambe isandla-nokuba siyintoni na isizathu, ukuba awuthengiswanga ngokupheleleyo kwi-SO yakho, ngequbuliso kunokuba sisihendo sokusika amaqhina kwaye ugqibe unyaka uwedwa.

Ukuba ukhathazekile ngokujongeka ukhohlakele okanye wenzakalise omnye umntu, sukuba njalo, utshilo uSofi Papamarko woMhlobo woMhlobo oDibanisa umdlalo eToronto. Ngokucacileyo, akukhathali ukulahla umntu ngeKrisimesi okanye uEva woNyaka oMtsha, utshilo. "Kuyafana nangoSuku lweValentine, usuku lwabo lokuzalwa, okanye umhla ababeka ngawo ikati yabo." Okwangoku, uyachaza, "bubudenge kwaye nokuba yinto ekhohlakeleyo ukuhlala nomntu ixesha elide kunokuba kufanelekile ngenxa yeholide ezayo." Ngaphezu koko, ukuba uhlala kunye, "ukuqhawula ngaphambi kwexesha leeholide kunokuba yinto enhle-kuya kukunika ixesha lokushiya indawo yakho ekwabelwana ngayo kumakhaya akho osapho kwaye uvumele ukuba ufumane amanyathelo alandelayo."

Ukuba awuqinisekanga malunga nokuba lixesha lokwahlukana, yenza into obunokuyenza nangaliphi na elinye ixesha lonyaka: Thetha ngezinto ezikuxhalabisayo neqabane lakho. Ngokuqinisekileyo, ezo ngxoxo zobume-bomanyano zinokungonwabi, kodwa kufanelekile ukuba zicace ngenxa yenu (nobabini). "Ukuba uziva ngathi ulwalamano lwakho lufikile ethafeni okanye ludinga ukuhoywa, yiba nencoko evulekileyo ngalo," ucebisa uMarni Battista, umqeqeshi wokuthandana ovela kuDating With Dignity. "Akukho sidingo sokuhlala kubudlelwane obungakulungelanga wena. Kodwa, ukuba kufanelekile, beka ixesha kunye namandla kulo-ixesha leholide okanye hayi."

Kuthekani ngezi zibini ziyaziyo ukuba azonwabanga, ukanti zincamathele kude kube ngunyaka omtsha? Kungenzeka ukuba ubudlelwane obungenasiphelo bubonakala bukhangeleka ngakumbi kunokujongana neeholide zodwa. "Ngokuqinisekileyo akunakuze kube lula ukuba ungumzala ongatshatanga kwindibano yeholide egcwele amadoda, abafazi, amaqabane, kunye neentsana-phakamisa isandla ukuba ukwiminyaka yama-30 kwaye uhlala etafileni yabantwana!" UPapamarko wongeza. Kwiminyaka embalwa edlulileyo, uLeann, oneminyaka engama-30 ubudala, wayenobudlelwane obuhle kakhulu beenyanga ezisixhenxe kunye nesoka lakhe, uJeff. "Phambi kweholide, ndandiluthandabuza ulwalamano kwaye ndinonyawo olunye ngaphandle komnyango," uyakhumbula. Okwangoku, ukhethe ukuhlala neqabane lakhe elingaphantsi-kunelokugqibelela kunokuba nesibindi kwenye iKrisimesi ebandayo. Uthi: “Ngaphambi kokuba ndidibane naye, ndandineminyaka ndingatshatanga, yaye ndakhumbula indlela endandililolo ngayo. "Ngoko ke, ndagqiba ukulinda ukulahla uJeff de kube emva kokuba ikhefu leholide liphelile.

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