U-Sia Cooper watyhila eyona mizabalazo yempilo yakhe kwileta eya kuMncina wakhe

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Ukuba ubunokubuya ubuye ngexesha kwaye uxelele umntwana wakho oneminyaka emi-5 malunga nekamva eligcinelweyo, awungekhe? Ubunokuthini? Ngumbuzo onzima ukuwuphendula, kodwa umcebisi wokuqina komzimba uSia Cooper utyhile kwiposti yobuntu bakhe ukuba axelele umntu wakhe omncinci ukuba mhle, nokuba athini na amagqabaza ayityhefu anokuthi axelelwe, nangabo basondeleyo kuye. (I-ICYMI, nali ibali likaCooper malunga nokuba kutheni esuse izinto azifakileyo ebeleni.)

UCooper, oqhuba iDiary of a Fit Mommy, uthumele ifoto yobuntwana kwaye wafota izimvo ezininzi ngasemva kwefoto. Amagama arhabaxa anjengathi “Amathanga akho akhangeleka emakhulu,” “Yeka ukutya kakhulu,” kunye “Nezithambiso ezingakumbi” adibanisa uncumo lwakhe. Ngaphezulu kwesithombe, ingxelo kuzo zonke iifowuni ifundeka ngolu hlobo: "Amagama akho abalulekile," ukuveza injongo yeposi. (Inxulumene: Lo Mama ufanelekile ukwiphulo lokungqina ukuba WONKE UMNTU uyajija kwiBikini)

Kumbhalo ongezantsi, uCooper uthetha ngqo nomntwana wakhe oneminyaka emi-5: "Sia oneminyaka emi-5 ethandekayo," wabhala. "Ndifuna ukukuxelela ukuba umhle unje ngale ndlela uyiyo. Nangona kunjalo, uzakukhula uve izinto ekungekho mntwana okanye ulutsha ofanele ukuziva."

Uqhubekile wachaza indlela umama wakhe “awakrazula” ngayo ukuzithemba kwakhe ngaphandle kwezimvo eziyityhefu malunga nenkangeleko yakhe. U Cooper wabhala wathi, "Uqonda kancinci," loo magama aya kuthwala ubunzima kwaye akukhokelele kwindlela emnyama.

Le ndlela yayiquka ingxaki yokutya xa uneminyaka eli-14 ubudala, iingcinga zokuzibulala eneminyaka eli-18 ubudala, kunye nokuphathwa gadalala ngokweemvakalelo kwiminyaka yakhe yama-20, ngakumbi ngexesha lomtshato wakhe wokuqala, izabelo zikaCooper. Kungekudala emva kokuqhawula umtshato nomyeni wakhe wokuqala, wathi wayesokola ukufumana ulungelelwano ebomini bakhe. "Uza kuya kwisikolo sabongikazi kwaye ufunde ukutya iimvakalelo zakho ezikhokelela kwelona xesha lakho lokuqala lokutyeba kakhulu," utshilo uCooper. "Nangona kunjalo, uya kulahleka ngokukhawuleza kwisithuba sonyaka ushiye i-100lbs nje kwaye ufuna ngaphezulu." (Idibeneyo: Lo mfazi ufuna ukuba wazi ukuba ukunciphisa umzimba akuyi kukwenza wonwabe)

Emva kweminyaka yokutsala nzima ngokwasemzimbeni nangokwasemzimbeni, uCooper wafumana ulungelelwaniso kunye nolwazelelelo olufanelekileyo. Ubhala athi wadibana nendoda “ebeza kuba nayo,” yaye ngoku bakhulisa abantwana ababini abahle.

U-Cooper utyhile okuninzi ngaye kule post, kodwa akenzanga njalo ukuze afumane uvelwano okanye ingqalelo. Ufuna abantu bayazi loo nto, nokuba lingakanani ixesha elihambayo, "la magama mancinci anamathela." Amagama anjenge "atyebile kakhulu," okanye "iindudumo zamathanga," okanye "ihagu etyebileyo" awanjalo nje amagama. "Abantwana abanjengawe bathambisa la mazwi njengesiponji," u-Cooper ubhalele umntu wakhe omncinci, "kwaye oko kungakhokelela kubomi bolwaneliseko okanye kubomi bentliziyo ebuhlungu kunye nentlekele." (Idibeneyo: Oko Sithethayo Ngokwenene Xa Sibiza Abantu Amafutha)

Kungakhathaliseki ukuba ubomi buphuma njani, inqaku likaCooper kukuba wena bajongane nohambo lwakho. Ukuba kuyakubakho amahla ndinyuka, kwaye abantu bangazama ukukukhathaza, kodwa luxanduva lwakho "ukuvumela ubomi bakho bube libali kwabanye apha endleleni," utshilo. Ubunzima bakho bunokukufundisa izifundo ezibalulekileyo, kwaye kukuwe ukuba udlulisele ubulumko bakho kwabanye kwaye "uqhubeke ulwa," wabhala watsho uCooper. "Ngothando, uSia oneminyaka engama-29."

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