Yintoni i-Empty Nest Syndrome kwaye ziziphi iimpawu

Umxholo

• Zithini iimpawu?
• Kwenziwe ntoni
• 1. Wamkele umzuzu
• 2. Ukugcina unxibelelwano
• 3. Funa uncedo
• 4. Ziqhelanise nemisebenzi

Isifo sendlala esingenanto sibonakaliswa kukubandezeleka okugqithisileyo okunxulumana nokuphulukana nendima yabazali, ngokumka kwabantwana ekhaya, xa besiya kufunda phesheya, xa batshata okanye bahlala bodwa.

Esi sifo sibonakala sinxibelelene nenkcubeko, oko kukuthi, kwiinkcubeko apho abantu, ngakumbi abasetyhini, bazinikezela ngokukodwa ekukhuliseni abantwana, ukushiya kwabo amakhaya kubangela ukubandezeleka okukhulu kunye nesizungu, ngokunxulumene neenkcubeko apho abafazi basebenza khona kwaye baneminye imisebenzi ubomi babo.

Ngokubanzi, abantu abakweli xesha lokushiya abantwana babo ekhaya, bajongana nolunye utshintsho kumjikelo wabo wobomi, ofana nokuthatha umhlala-phantsi, okanye ukuqala kokuyeka ukuya exesheni kwabasetyhini, ezinokunyusa iimvakalelo zokudakumba kunye nokuzithemba okuphantsi.

Zithini iimpawu?

Ootata noomama abaphethwe yindlala engenanto bahlala bebonisa iimpawu zokuxhomekeka, ukubandezeleka kunye nosizi, okunxulunyaniswa neemeko zokudakumba, ukuphulukana nendima yomkhathaleli wabantwana babo, ngakumbi kubafazi abanikezele ubomi babo ngokukodwa ekukhuliseni abantwana babo, kuba Kunzima kakhulu kubo ukubabona behamba. Funda ngendlela yokwahlulahlula usizi kuxinzelelo.

Olunye uphononongo luthi oomama bahlupheka ngaphezulu kootata xa abantwana beshiya ikhaya, kuba bazinikezela kakhulu kubo, ukuzithemba kwabo kuthotyiwe, kuba baziva bengasasebenzi.

Kwenziwe ntoni

Isigaba xa abantwana beshiya ikhaya kunokuba nzima kakhulu kwabanye abantu, nangona kunjalo, kukho iindlela ezithile zokujongana nale meko:

1. Wamkele umzuzu

Umntu makamkele abantwana bemka ekhaya ngaphandle kokuthelekisa esi sigaba, kunye nenqanaba xa beshiya abazali babo. Endaweni yoko, abazali kufuneka bancede umntwana wabo ngeli xesha lotshintsho, ukuze aphumelele kweli nqanaba litsha.

2. Ukugcina unxibelelwano

Nangona abantwana bengahlali ekhaya, oku akuthethi ukuba abaqhubeki nokutyelela amakhaya abazali babo. Abazali banokuhlala kufutshane nabantwana babo nokuba bahlala bodwa, batyelele abanye, batsalela umnxeba okanye balungiselele ukhenketho kunye.

3. Funa uncedo

Ukuba abazali bakufumanisa kunzima ukoyisa eli nqanaba, kufuneka bafune uncedo kunye nenkxaso kusapho nakwizihlobo. Abantu abanesi sifo banokufuna unyango kwaye ngenxa yoko kufuneka babone ugqirha okanye ugqirha.

4. Ziqhelanise nemisebenzi

Ngokubanzi, ngeli xesha lokuhlala kwabantwana ekhaya, abazali baphulukana nomgangatho wabo wobomi kancinci, kuba bayancama ukwenza izinto abazithandayo, banexesha elingaphantsi komgangatho njengesibini kunye nexesha labo.

Ke, ngexesha elongezelelekileyo kunye namandla angaphezulu, unokuchitha ixesha elininzi kwiqabane lakho okanye wenze umsebenzi omisiweyo, njengokuya ejimini, ukufunda ukupeyinta okanye ukudlala isixhobo somculo, umzekelo.