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Umxholo

• 1. Akukho nto ivakala imnandi kwakhona
• 2. Ndizifumana ndifuna ukutya ZONKE izinto
• 3. Ndoyiswa zizinto ezincinci
• 4. Ndiqala ukukhahlela abo ndibathandayo
• 5. Ndifuna ukuzimela kwigumbi lokulala… okanye kwigumbi lokuhlambela… okanye ekhabhathini…
• Ukwazi imiqondiso kuyandinceda ukuba ndithathe inyathelo

Le miqondiso mihlanu yokuba ndikudinga kakhulu ixesha elithile ndedwa.

Kungaba nakuphi na ukuhlwa okuqhelekileyo: Isidlo sangokuhlwa siyapheka, iqabane lam lenza izinto ekhitshini, kwaye umntwana wam udlala kwigumbi labo. Ndingaba sisesofeni ndifunda okanye ndigoqe indawo yokuhlamba kwigumbi lokulala xa iqabane lam liza lindibuze, okanye umntwana wam aqala ukwenza ingxolo ngelixa bedlala.

Ngequbuliso incoko yam yangaphakathi luthotho olude lwe uuuuggggghhhhh ingxolo ngelixa ndiziva iadrenaline yam inyuka.

Lo ngumzimba wam ukhwaza ukuba ndilibele ixesha elithile "mna".

Njengomama, iqabane, kunye nomntu obhinqileyo kuluntu, kunokuba lula ukubanjwa kumjikelo wokuhlala usenzela abanye abantu izinto. Nangona kunjalo, kubalulekile ukuba siqiniseke ukuba siyazikhathalela, nathi. Ngamanye amaxesha oko kuthetha ukuba umke kuyo yonke into ukuze uchithe ixesha ngokwakho.

Ngokungaziniki eli xesha lokuphinda sihlaziye amandla ethu, siba semngciphekweni wokutsha, kokubini ngokwasemoyeni nangokomzimba.

Ngethamsanqa, ndiye ndazibona iimpawu zokulumkisa ukuba ndizityhala kakhulu. Apha ngezantsi luluhlu lweendlela ezintlanu zengqondo yam kunye nomqondiso womzimba wokuba ndilibele ixesha elithile ndedwa kwaye zeziphi iinguqu endizenzayo ukuqinisekisa ukuba ndizijonga kakuhle.

1. Akukho nto ivakala imnandi kwakhona

Esinye sezibonakaliso zokuqala ukuba ndifuna ixesha elithile kum xa izinto zingavumi ukuzonwabisa. Ndingazifumana ndikhalaza ngaphakathi malunga nokukruquka okanye ukuzibekel 'amangomso iiprojekthi zokuyila ebendinokulindela ukuzenza.

Ingathi umoya wam ufuna ukuvuselelwa ngaphambi kokuba uthathe nantoni na ebandakanya ukuchitha amandla okudala.

Xa ndiqaphela oku kusenzeka, ndiyaqonda ukuba lixesha lokuba "ndithandane." Oku kunokuba lula njengokuya kwilayibrari kunye nokubhrawuza kangangeyure okanye ukuzifumanela iti kwaye ndijonge iPinterest kwimibono yeprojekthi yobugcisa.

Ngokuqinisekileyo, ukudityaniswa kwexesha elincinci kunye nokhuthazo olutsha kuya kwenza ukuba iijusi zam zokuyila ziqhubeke kwakhona.

2. Ndizifumana ndifuna ukutya ZONKE izinto

Ndifundile kule minyaka idlulileyo ukuba ndingumntu odla iimvakalelo. Ke, xa ndizifumana ndirhalela ngequbuliso onke amashwamshwam asendlini, sisikhumbuzo esihle sokungena kum kwaye ndibone ukuba kuqhubeka ntoni ngaphakathi.

Ngokubanzi, ukuba ndizifumana ndifikelela kwiichips okanye itshokholethi, kungenxa yokuba ndifuna ukubaleka ngokusebenzisa incasa yam.

Ngamanye amaxesha ndiyakuvuma ukuba ndinestress kwaye ndizibalele ngamanzi ashushu, ndithatha incwadi kunye nokutya kwam. Ngamanye amaxesha ndizakuzibuza eyona nto ndiyifunayo; ayizizo izimuncumuncu kodwa kunoko yiglasi enkulu yamanzi kunye nemon kunye nexesha elithile elithulileyo lihleli kwiveranda engasemva.

Ngokuqaphela umnqweno wam wokutya ngokwasemphefumlweni kwaye ndizingenele ngokwam, ndinokumisela ukuba kukutya endikufunayo ngokwenene na (ngamanye amaxesha kunjalo!) Okanye eyona nto ndiyinqwenelayo ikhefu.

3. Ndoyiswa zizinto ezincinci

Ngokwesiqhelo ndinobuchule ekujongeni uxanduva oluninzi ngelixa ndizolile. Nangona kunjalo, ngamanye amaxesha ndizifumana ndonganyelwa zizinto ezincinci.

Mhlawumbi ndiyabona phakathi ngokwenza isidlo sangokuhlwa ukuba ndilahlekile isithako kwaye ndikhubazekile ngokwasemphefumlweni ndizama ukufumana indawo. Okanye ndiye ndayiqonda emva kokushiya ivenkile ukuba ndilibele ukuthenga ishampu ndaza ndalila.

Nanini na xa ndiqaphela ukuba andisakwazi ukuqengqeleka ngezi zinto kwaye endaweni yoko ndimisiwe ngabo, sisalathiso esihle kum ukuba ndinento eninzi epleyitini yam kwaye kufuneka ndiphumle. Ngokwesiqhelo eli lixesha elifanelekileyo lokuba ndiziqhelanise nokuzikhathalela. Oku kubandakanya:

• Ukundinika ukujonga okwenyani okuqinisekileyo. Ngaba le meko sisiphelo sehlabathi ngenene?
• Ukufumanisa ukuba iimfuno zam ezisisiseko ziyafezekiswa. Ndilambile? Ndidinga ukusela amanzi? Ngaba ndingaziva ndibhetele ukuba ndingalala nje imizuzu embalwa?
• Ukuzabalazela uncedo. Umzekelo, ndingacela iqabane lam ukuba lithathe ishampu ngelixa bephumile.

Ngokususa ezinye zezinto ezincinci epleyitini yam, ndiyakwazi ukubuyisa ixesha elithile kum ukuze ndiphumle ngokufanelekileyo kwaye ndihlaziye kwakhona.

4. Ndiqala ukukhahlela abo ndibathandayo

Ndiyazingca ngokwam ngokuba mhle nokuba nobushushu. Ke xa ingxolo encinci umntwana wam ayenza ukuba ingene phantsi kolusu lwam, okanye xa ndikhathazekile liqabane lam lindibuza umbuzo, ndiyazi ukuba ikhona into.

Xa ndizifumana ndikruqukile kwaye ndonwabile ngabantu endibathandayo, ndiza kuzibeka kulonto usapho lwam kwaye ndilubiza ngokuba "lixesha lokuzibophelela." Oku kugcinelwe xa omnye wethu eqonda ukuba bafikelele kumda wabo kwaye bafuna ukuthatha imizuzu embalwa kude.

Kum, ndiya kuhlala ndiye kwigumbi lokulala ndize ndiphefumle nzulu kwaye ndiziqhelanise nobuchule bokumisa, njengokurabha ilitye eligudileyo okanye ukunuka iioyile ezifanelekileyo. Ndingadlala umdlalo kwifowuni yam okwemizuzu embalwa okanye ndifuye ikati nje.

Ngeli xesha ndiza kuphinda ndicinge ngento endiyifunayo ngalamzuzu.

Xa ekugqibeleni ndikulungele ukunxibelelana nabantu kwakhona, ndiza kubuya ndize ndicele uxolo ngokuqhwaba. Ndizokwazisa umntwana wam okanye iqabane lam ukuba kuqhubeka ntoni, kwaye, ukuba kukho imfuneko, ndibazise ukuba kukho into endiyifunayo.

5. Ndifuna ukuzimela kwigumbi lokulala… okanye kwigumbi lokuhlambela… okanye ekhabhathini…

Ngaphezulu kwesihlandlo esinye ndiye ndachwechwela kwigumbi lokuhlambela nefowuni yam, hayi kuba bendidinga ukuya, kodwa kuba bendifuna ukufumana ixesha lokuthula. Esi senzo sokususa ngokwam kusapho lwam ngumzimba wam endixelela ukuba ndifuna ixesha elingaphezulu ndedwa- hayi kwigumbi lam lokuhlambela nje kangangemizuzu emihlanu!
Xa ndizifumana ndisenza le nto okanye ndinomnqweno wokuzivalela kwigumbi lokulala (ngaphezulu kwento esele ichaziwe apha ngasentla), ndiye ndazi ukuba lelona xesha lokuba ndimke. Ndiza kukhupha isicwangciso sam kwaye ndikhangele ixesha elithile lokucwangcisa isidlo sasemini kunye nam. Okanye ndiza kucela iqabane lam ukuba singathetha malunga nexesha elifanelekileyo lokuba ndimke iintsuku ezimbalwa kwaye ndicwangcise uhambo lokubaleka ebusuku.

Ndiphantse ndihlale ndibuya kula maxesha ndihlaziyekile kwaye ndinomama onothando ngakumbi, iqabane elikhona ngoku, kwaye ngakumbi ngokwam.

Ukwazi imiqondiso kuyandinceda ukuba ndithathe inyathelo

Zonke ezi mpawu zizimpawu ezilungileyo kum ukuba andizinyamekeli ngendlela endifuna ngayo. Xa ndiqala ukuziva ezi zinto, ndinokungena kunye nam ndize ndizalisekise iindlela zam zokuzinakekela.

Ukusuka kwindawo yokuhlambela eshushu kunye nencwadi okanye ukuhamba nomhlobo ukuya kwiintsuku ezimbalwa kude nosapho lwam, ezi zinokunceda ukuvuselela kunye nokuvuselela umzimba kunye nengqondo yam.

Kwaye ngelixa izikhombisi zakho zinokwahluka kwezam, ukuzazi ukuba ziyintoni-kwaye zeziphi ezona zilungileyo ukuzinciphisa-ziya kukunceda ukuba uzikhathalele.

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