Nceda! Umntwana wam omncinci akazukutya

Umxholo

• Yintoni eqhelekileyo?
• Nini ukubiza ugqirha
• Ukwenza ixesha lokutya liphumelele
• Khuthaza ukuzimela
• Cinga ngaphandle kwebhokisi
• Yenze umcimbi wosapho
• Qhubeka nokunikela
• Ukutya kunye nokutya izimvo
• Ukwazisa ukutya okutsha
• Umgca wezantsi

Uzamile konke: ukubonisana, ukubongoza, iinkuku zenkukhu ezimile okwe-dinosaur. Kwaye umntwana wakho omncinci akasayi kutya. Isandi esiqhelekileyo? AWUKHO wedwa. Iintsana ziyaziwa ngokuba zi-ahem, ukhetho xa kufikwa ekutyeni.

Okwangoku, emva kwesitrayikhi eside sokulamba esivela kumncinci wakho, usenokuzibuza: Ngaba ujongene ne-run-of-mill picky "threenager" - okanye ngaba olu luphawu lwengxaki enkulu? Kwaye, nangayiphi na indlela, ungawusondela njani umba womntwana ongatyiyo?

Nangona ukutya okukhethiweyo (okanye nokuba yi-hiatus yesikhashana ekudleni ngokupheleleyo) ngokuqhelekileyo akuyiyo imbangela yokukhathazeka, kukho amaxesha apho kulungele ukufumana uncedo lobuchwephesha. Sifumene ulwazi malunga nokuba ubize ugqirha nini, ubambe nini umhlaba, kunye nendlela yokunyusa amathuba wokuba umntwana wakho ajoyine iQela lePlate elicocekileyo.

Yintoni eqhelekileyo?

Njengokuhla nokuhla koqeqesho lwe potty kunye nexesha lokuncipha kwexesha, ukutya okukhethiweyo kuza nomhlaba wokuba ngumzali omncinci.

Ukuba umntwana wakho omncinci ujika impumlo kuyo yonke into oyibeka phambi kwabo, mhlawumbi ayibonisi izakhono zakho zokuba ngumzali okanye ingxaki yezonyango. Kusenokwenzeka ukuba umntwana wakho ahambe kwinqanaba eliqhelekileyo lokukhula.

"Ukutya okukhethiweyo (okanye 'okukhethiweyo') kuhlala kubonakala phakathi kweenyanga ezili-12 ukuya kwezili-18," utshilo uYaffi Lvova, i-RDN, ojolise ekondleni kokubeleka, kosana nakwisondlo sabantwana. "Igama elisemthethweni loku 'kukutya okungafunekiyo': uloyiko lokutya okutsha. Eli nqanaba lihambelana nokukwazi ukuhamba. Imbono exhaphakileyo yeyokuba ubundlobongela, indlela yokuzikhusela yindlela ekhusela umntwana 'ngokungathi kunjalo,' ngokungathi kunjalo. ”

Kwaye emva kokukhula ngokukhawuleza okukhulu kunyaka wokuqala wobomi, abantwana baqala ukutyeba kancinci kancinci. Oku kunganciphisa indlala yabo ngokwendalo, kubenze babe nakho ukutya amancinci amancinci.

Umdla okhulayo womntwana wakho omncinane kwihlabathi elibangqongileyo nawo unokuba negalelo ekunciphiseni kwabo ukutya. Baninzi kakhulu ukuba babone kwaye benze ngoku abanokuhamba, basenokungabi nawo umonde wokuhlala phantsi kwisidlo sesintu.

Iindaba ezimnandi zezokuba, abantwana abakule minyaka bahlala bekulungele ukuqaphela xa belambile ngokwenene ufumana ingqalelo yabo. Oogqirha babantwana kudala bacebisa abazali abasakhasayo ukuba "bajonge iveki, hayi usuku" xa kufikwa ekutyeni. Uyakuqaphela, umzekelo, ukuba umntwana wakho uhlala kwi -fishfish crackers iveki yonke, emva koko ngequbuliso iingcuka phantsi kwesidlo sangokuhlwa senkukhu ngoMgqibelo ebusuku.

Ukujonga iipateni ezibanzi kunokukunceda ubone ukutya okwaneleyo ngokuhamba kwexesha, endaweni yomzuzu. (Nangona loo mzuzu unokuqiniseka ukuba uyanda xa ubandakanya ubisi olonakalisiweyo kunye nomhlaba womzala kwikhaphethi yakho.)

Nini ukubiza ugqirha

Ngelixa ukutya okukhethiweyo sisigaba esiqhelekileyo kubantwana abaninzi abasakhasayo, ngokuqinisekileyo likho ixesha kunye nendawo yokubiza ugqirha. Ugqirha wezilwanyana unokukhupha okanye ufumanise izizathu ezinokubangela ukuba umntwana wakho angadli, njengeengxaki zesisu, iingxaki zokugwinya, ukuqhina, ukukhathazeka kokutya, okanye i-autism.

Ngokuka-Lvova, licebo elilungileyo ukufuna uncedo kugqirha wakho okanye kugqirha wezokutya kwabantwana xa umntwana wakho:

• yamkela ukutya okungaphantsi kwama-20
• ukunciphisa umzimba
• ukungathandi okanye ukwala amaqela okutya apheleleyo (iinkozo, ubisi, iiproteni, njl.
• ihamba kangangeentsuku ezininzi ingatyi
• uzibophelele kwimveliso ezithile zokutya okanye kwiindidi zokupakisha
• Ifuna ukutya okwahlukileyo kusapho lonke
• ixhala kwiimeko zentlalo ngenxa yokutya
• unempendulo yeemvakalelo ngokutya okungathandwayo, njengokukhala, ukubaleka, okanye ukuphosa izinto

Ukwenza ixesha lokutya liphumelele

Ukucinga ukuba akukho ngxaki yezempilo ibangela ukuba umntwana wakho akhethe ukutya, lixesha lokuba ube nobuchule! Nanga amanye amaqhinga anokunceda ekwenzeni ixesha lokutya kunye nomntwana wakho ukuba aphumelele.

Khuthaza ukuzimela

Isikhalo esisoloko sisithi "Ndiyayenza!" kunokuba nzima, kodwa umnqweno womntwana wakho wokuzimela ngokwenene usisixhobo esiluncedo xa kufikwa ekutyeni. Ukubanika amanqanaba afanelekileyo okuzenzela izigqibo kubangela ukuba abantwana bakho bathande, okungakhokelela ekutyeni okungcono.

Yizisa umntwana wakho ekhitshini kunye nawe njengoko ulungiselela ukutya kunye nokutya okuncinci, ukubakhuthaza ukuba banuke, bachukumise kwaye babone ukutya okwahlukileyo. Unokubavumela nokuba bakuncede ekuphekeni! Izenzo ezisebenzisa izakhono zemoto, ezinje ngokuvuselela, ukugalela, okanye ukungcangcazela yonke yimidlalo efanelekileyo kubantwana abasakhasayo (xa kugadwe).

Ngexesha lokutya, misa umlilo wenkululeko ngokunika ukhetho:

• “Ufuna amaqunube okanye ibhanana?”
• “Ungathanda ukusebenzisa ifolokhwe okanye icephe?”
• “Kufuneka sisebenzise ipleyiti eblue okanye ipleyiti eluhlaza?”

Kububulumko ukuhamba kunye nesinye isibini sokhetho kwisidlo ngasinye ukuze ungangxameli umntwana wakho, kwaye oku kusebenza kakuhle ukuba olu khetho sele luyinxalenye yesidlo esicwangcisiweyo. Nditsho nokhetho oluncinci lomntu olunokubangela indlela yeemvakalelo ezingcono kunye nomdla ngakumbi ekutyeni.

Cinga ngaphandle kwebhokisi

Inxalenye yento eyenza ukuba abantwana abancinci bonwabe kukungaqiniseki kwayo. Impahla yangaphantsi enxitywe entloko? Ngokuqinisekileyo. I-sock engahleliwe njengento yokudlala oyithandayo? Ngoba kutheni? Landela ukukhokelwa yintsana yakho okungafanelekanga ngexesha lesidlo ngokuzama iindlela ezahlukeneyo zokutya. Ukuba umntwana wakho akanguye umthandi wemifuno ene-steamed, zizame zosiwe. Ukuba inkukhu efihliweyo ayifumanekanga, zama ukuyifaka.

Umgaqo ofanayo uhamba ngokutshintsha ukutya okunxulumene nokutya okuthile. Xa amaqanda engahambanga kakuhle kusasa, wahambise kwisidlo sangokuhlwa endaweni yoko. Kwaye akukho sizathu sokuba iintlanzi okanye iinkukhu zingabinakho ukonwabisa itafile yesidlo sakusasa.

Yenze umcimbi wosapho

Kuwo nawuphi na ubudala, kuninzi ekufuneka kuthethwe ngento yentlalo yokutya. Nceda umntwana wakho omncinci azive ekhululekile kwaye afakiwe ngexesha lesidlo ngokwenza imeko emnandi, engaphazamiseki xa kunokwenzeka. Kwaye musa ukwenza ukutya okwahlukileyo kwesitya sakho esincinci, kuba oku kunokunika umbono wokuba kukho umahluko phakathi "kokutya komntwana" kunye "nokutya kwabantu abadala."

Qhubeka nokunikela

Awunakho ukunyanzela umntwana wakho ukuba atye - kwaye xa unesidlo esikhetheke kakhulu, kusenokufuneka uphinde uphonononge inkcazo yakho yempumelelo ngexesha lesidlo.

Kodwa musa ukunikezela! Qhubeka ubeka ukuluma kokutya epleyitini, kwaye ungazobi kakhulu ukuba umntwana wakho uyatya na okanye hayi. Ngexesha kunye nokuvezwa okuphindaphindiweyo, uya kuqala ukubona inkqubela phambili.

Ukutya kunye nokutya izimvo

Abazali abanamaxesha kunye nokunakekelwa kwabantwana bayazi ukuba ukwenza ukutya okuncinci kunye nokutya okutyayo konke kumnandi. Ukuzama umbala, ukuthungwa, kunye nokumila kwiindlela zamanoveli kunokuqinisekisa nokuba umntwana oneminyaka eli-2 onenkani ukuba bafuna ukutya ngokwenene.

Nangona usenokungabi nalo ixesha lokubhaka iichips zasekhaya okanye ujike ii-apple slices kwi-shark jaws yonke imihla, kukho ezinye iitweaks ezincinci onokuthi uzame kwisidlo kunye nexesha lokutya:

• Sebenzisa abacimi becookie ukusika iziqhamo kunye nemifuno kwiimilo.
• Thenga ipakethi yamehlo atyiwa ngokutya ukongeza ukutya.
• Hlela ukutya kwipleyiti yomntwana wakho ukuze abukeke njengobuso okanye omnye umfanekiso owaziwayo.
• Nika ukutya igama elisisidenge okanye elithelekelelwayo, elifana "namavili eorenji" (lisikiwe iiorenji) okanye "imithi emincinci" (ibroccoli okanye icauliflower).
• Vumela umntwana wakho adlale ngokutya kwakhe-ubuncinci okwexeshana-ukukhuthaza isimo sengqondo esifanelekileyo ngaso.

Qaphela, nangona kunjalo, ukuba kukho isicwangciso esinye esithandwayo ezinye iingcali ezingacebisiyo: ukufihla ukutya okusempilweni kwiphakeji enobuntwana, á la efihliweyo-ispinatshi smoothies okanye stealth-veggie lasagna.

"Ingxaki yale ndlela iphindwe kabini," utsho uLvova. Okokuqala, umntwana akazi ukuba bayatya, kwaye bayakonwabela ukutya. Okwesibini, kukho umba wokuthenjwa. Ngokufihla ukutya okungafunekiyo ngaphakathi kokutya okuthandwayo, kuye kungeniswe ukungathembani. ”

Ukwazisa ukutya okutsha

Nabantu abadala banokulumka ngokuzama izinto ezintsha. Ke ukuba umntwana wakho omncinci unika i-tofu okanye ityhuna ecaleni kwamehlo, zama ukukhumbula ukuba utshintsho kunzima. Okwangoku, ukwazisa ukutya okutsha yinxalenye ebalulekileyo yokunceda umntwana wakho atye ukutya okusempilweni kunye nokuphuhlisa inkalakahla ebanzi.

Ukunyusa amathuba okuba umntwana wakho ozamayo azame (kwaye ayithande) into entsha, musa ukwenza kakhulu ngaxeshanye. Namathela kukutya okutsha okutsha ngosuku, kwaye ungakufaki kwisitya somntwana wakho.

IAmerican Academy yoGqirha boSapho icebisa ngokunika umntwana wakho icephe lokutya eli-1 kunyaka ngamnye ubudala. Eli candelo (umzekelo, 2 tbsp yokutya okunikwe umntwana oneminyaka emi-2 ubudala) kuhlala kuncinci kunokuba umzali acinga ukuba kufanelekile.

Xa usazisa ukutya, kuhlala kunceda ukukubeka kumxholo wento eqhelekileyo. Oku kunokujongeka njengokuhambisa isosi yokuntywila njenge ketchup kunye nekholifulawa, ukhonza iipepile ebomvu ecaleni kwento oyithandayo efana nengqolowa, okanye i-pizza yokuthambisa ngearugula. Kwakhona, ukuxuba-ukungafihli-yeyona nto ibhetele yokubangela ukuba umntwana wakho abone ukuba ukutya okutsha akukho nto yoyikayo.

Ngaba umntwana wakho uyakonwabela ukutya kwindawo yokutyela? Eli isenokuba lixesha elifanelekileyo lokubavumela bazame into engaqhelekanga. Ngomngcipheko omncinci wokutya okuchithiweyo (kunye nemali), iyalela isitya esingaqhelekanga ngakumbi kwaye umeme umntwana wakho ukuba azame.

Nokuba yeyiphi na indlela yakho, qiniseka ukunika umntwana wakho indumiso eninzi endleleni. Isindululo sokuba kwiintlobo ezahlukeneyo “zokukhuthaza” oomama ababesebenzisa abantwana babo ukuba batye- njengokucinezela okanye ukubanyanzela- indumiso yayisisicwangciso-qhinga esinye esasisebenza ngokukuko.

Umgca wezantsi

Ukuba umntwana wakho omncinci ubonakala ngathi udlulile ngexesha lesidlo, kunokwenzeka ukuba esi sisiqhelo (nangona siyacaphukisa) isigaba sophuhliso lwabo. Ngexesha, ukuthanda kwabo kunye nemikhwa yabo inokukhula njengoko uqhubeka unikezela ngokutya okwahlukeneyo.

Nangona kunjalo, xa ukwala ukutya kuqhubeka kangangeentsuku okanye umntwana wakho ebonisa naziphi na iimpawu zokulumkisa ezidweliswe apha ngasentla, musa ukoyika ukucofa ubungcali bolondolozo lwempilo.

Uphononongo luka-2015 lufumanise ukuba uninzi lwabadlayo abakhetha iminyaka yobudala besikolo abafuna ukhathalelo lonyango abalufumani uncedo abaludingayo. Ke sukuxinezeleka malunga "nokukhathaza" ugqirha wakho wabantwana. Ukutsala umnxeba okanye ukwenza idinga kunokukunika uxolo lwengqondo olufunekayo. Ukuba ngumzali omncinci yigig enzima, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha ufuna ingcali ukukunceda uhlele izinto.