Xa usapho luba yityhefu

Umxholo

• Cinga emva ebuntwaneni bakho
• Bekulindeleke ukuba uhlangane nemigangatho engekho ngqiqweni
• Wagxekwa kabukhali
• Iimfuno zakho azifezekiswanga
• Cinga ngemeko yangoku
• Uziva ulawulwa
• Awuva uthando, uvelwano, okanye imbeko
• Kukho ukusetyenziswa kweziyobisi okubandakanyekayo
• Uhlukunyezwa ngamazwi, emzimbeni okanye ngokweemvakalelo
• Ukungasebenzi kakuhle kuhlala kungapheliyo okanye kuyaqhubeka
• Indlela yokuphendula kuyo
• Yenza isigqibo ngento oyifunayo
• Ziqhelanise neqela
• Thatha isigqibo sokuba uza kwabelana ngantoni kwaye uza kuyigcina ngasese
• Funda xa usithi hayi
• Ungazami ukutshintsha nabani na
• Cwangcisa iintlanganiso ezisebenzelayo
• Thetha nomntu
• Nini ukusika amaqhina
• Abahloniphi imida yakho okanye imida
• Bayakuhlukumeza ngokwasemzimbeni okanye ngokukuthuka
• Bahlala bekuxokisa okanye bekukhohlisa
• Ukuthetha nabo okanye ukuzibona kubangela uxinzelelo lweemvakalelo
• Uhamba njani 'unganxibelelani'
• Khetha indlela yakho
• Yenza amalungiselelo
• Cacisa ukuba kwenzeka ntoni
• Lungiselela impendulo yabo…
• … Kunye neyakho
• Ukufuna uncedo
• Umgca wezantsi

Igama elithi “usapho” linokusikhumbuza uthotho lweemvakalelo ezintsonkothileyo. Kuxhomekeke kubuntwaneni bakho nakwimeko yosapho yangoku, ezi mvakalelo zinokuba ziqinisekileyo, uninzi lubi, okanye umxube olinganayo kuzo zombini.

Ukuba ufumene usapho olunetyhefu olunamandla, iimvakalelo zakho zinokuhamba ngaphezulu kokukhathazeka okanye ukucaphuka. Endaweni yokunxibelelana okanye nokucinga malunga nosapho lwakho kunokubangela uxinzelelo olukhulu lweemvakalelo.

Ityhefu okanye ukungasebenzi kakuhle kosapho kunokuba nzima ukuyiqonda, ngakumbi xa usazinzile kuyo. Nanku ukujonga kwezinye iimpawu eziqhelekileyo kunye nento onokuyenza ukuba uyaziqonda kusapho lwakho.

Cinga emva ebuntwaneni bakho

Abantu abaninzi abayiqondi imiphumo yosapho lwabo ebuntwaneni de babe sebekhulile.

Ezi mpawu zilandelayo zibonisa ukuba usenokuba ukhe wakhula kwimeko yosapho enetyhefu.

Bekulindeleke ukuba uhlangane nemigangatho engekho ngqiqweni

Amalungu osapho athatha iindima ezahlukeneyo amaxesha ngamaxesha ukuze bancedane. Mhlawumbi ibingumsebenzi wakho ukucoca iiplate etafileni emva kwesidlo sangokuhlwa sangeCawa. Okanye mhlawumbi ukhe uncede ngamanye amaxesha ngokubukela abantakwenu abancinci. Zonke ezi ziqhelekile.

Kodwa le misebenzi bekungafanele ukuba ikugcine ekugqibezeleni ii-asayinimenti zesikolo, ukudlala, okanye ukulala ngokwaneleyo.

Ukuba ukhulele kusapho olunetyhefu, usenokucelwa ukuba:

• umzali okanye uqeqesho lwabantakwenu abancinci okanye ubabonelele ngenkathalo
• uthathe uxanduva njengokupheka ukutya okanye ukwenza imithwalo enzima phambi kokuba wenze ngokukhuselekileyo okanye ngokufanelekileyo
• bonelela ngenkxaso yeemvakalelo ngokungathi uliqabane okanye omnye umntu omdala

Wagxekwa kabukhali

Uninzi lwabazali lukhalimela okanye lugxeke indlela yokuziphatha kwabantwana babo ngamanye amaxesha. Kodwa la magqabantshintshi kufuneka abe ayakhayo kwaye ajolise ekuziphatheni, hayi emntwaneni. Azifanele zikwenze uzive ungaphantsi, ungafunwa, okanye ungathandwa.

Iimfuno zakho azifezekiswanga

Akukho ogqibelele. Mhlawumbi abazali bakho bebengakulungelanga ukukuthatha esikolweni ngexesha, bakushiye ulinde. Okanye bakhohliwe ukuhlawula ityala lombane kube kanye kwaye umbane uphume iintsuku ezi-2.

Kodwa amalungu osapho axhasayo kufuneka axhase iimfuno zakho ezisisiseko ngoku:

• ukubeka imida
• ukubonelela ngoqeqesho nothando
• ukukhathalela impilo yakho kunye nokuba sempilweni
• Ukuqinisekisa ukuba uyayifumana imfundo
• Ukuqinisekisa ukuba unokutya kwaye ucoca iimpahla zokunxiba

Ngelixa kunokubakho ezinye izinto ezichaphazelekayo, ukuhamba rhoqo ngaphandle kwezi zinto zilapha ngasentla kunokucebisa ngokuqinileyo ukuba yintsapho enetyhefu okanye engenampilo.

Abazali ababebandakanyeke kakhulu kubomi bakho kwaye bengavumeli indawo yokukhula basenokuba basilele ukuhlangabezana neemfuno zakho ezisisiseko ngokuthintela olu phuhliso.

Indawo yobuqu, kokubini ngokwasemzimbeni nangokweemvakalelo, inceda abantwana ukuba bakhule. Ekugqibeleni, ufuna inkululeko kunye nethuba lokwenza isiqu sakho.

Cinga ngemeko yangoku

Ukuba ukrokrela ukuba ngoku ujongene netyhefu yosapho, qala ngokucinga ngendlela oziva ngayo emva kokunxibelelana namalungu osapho athile.

UKatherine Fabrizio, MA, LPC, ugxile ekusebenzeni kunye neentombi zoomama abanetyhefu. Unika lo mgaqo ngokubanzi wesithupha:

"Ukuba uziva ungonwabanga ngesiqu sakho emva kokudibana nelungu losapho, kusenokwenzeka ukuba kukho isizathu esihle soko, esifanele ukujonga kuso."

Nazi ezinye izinto ezithile ekufuneka ujonge kuzo. Gcina ukhumbula ukuba unokuziqonda ezi ukusuka ebuntwaneni bakho.

Uziva ulawulwa

Amalungu osapho anetyhefu anokuzama ukulawula ezona zinto zibalulekileyo ebomini bakho, kubandakanya ubudlelwane bakho kunye nezigqibo zomsebenzi. Banokuthi bathethe (okanye bathethe ngokungqalileyo) ukuba ukungqinelana nokulindelweyo yimeko yothando lwabo oluqhubekayo kunye nenkxaso.

Awuva uthando, uvelwano, okanye imbeko

Yinto eqhelekileyo ukuba amalungu osapho angaboni ngasonye ngamanye amaxesha. Kodwa ekupheleni kosuku, kuya kufuneka niphathane ngothando nobubele.

Kusapho olunetyhefu olunamandla, unokuziva udelekile okanye udelele endaweni yothando.

Ilungu losapho elinetyhefu linokuthi:

• hlekisa okanye ujongela phantsi ukhetho lwakho
• hlasela amanqaku akho abuthathaka
• chip kude nokuzithemba kwakho

Usapho lwakho lusenokungavumelani nayo yonke into oyithethayo okanye oyenzayo, kodwa kuya kufuneka banike uthando nentlonipho njengoko ufumana eyakho indlela.

Kukho ukusetyenziswa kweziyobisi okubandakanyekayo

Ilungu losapho elisebenzisa ngamanye amaxesha, okanye lisebenzise gwenxa, iziyobisi okanye utywala alunabungozi. Kodwa ukuba likhoboka leziyobisi kunye nokuziphatha okunyanzelekileyo ngamanye amaxesha kungakhokelela kwimpembelelo eyingozi kunye nempilo kubudlelwane bosapho.

Le miqondiso ingabonisa ubuthi:

• Ukusetyenziswa kweziyobisi ezichaphazela kakubi imeko okanye indlela yokuziphatha
• ukuxhatshazwa ngokweemvakalelo okanye ubundlobongela emzimbeni ngenxa yokunxila
• Ukusetyenziswa kweziyobisi okufihliweyo kubantu bangaphandle kwaye akukaze kuxoxwe ngako

Ipateni yokuvumela ukuba likhoboka okanye ukusetyenziswa gwenxa kweziyobisi nako kunokuba negalelo kwinto enobungozi.

Uhlukunyezwa ngamazwi, emzimbeni okanye ngokweemvakalelo

Naluphi na uhlobo lokuxhatshazwa lunetyhefu - alusebenzi kubundlobongela obuphathekayo.

Ukuphathwa gadalala kukwabandakanya:

• ukuchukumisa okungafanelekanga
• izimbo zomzimba zesini
• Amagqabantshintshi ezesondo ngomzimba wakho
• ukubiza igama
• ubundlobongela
• ukuxhatshazwa ngokwesondo
• ukugxeka kabukhali okanye ngokuqatha
• ukukhanyisa ngegesi

Ngamanye amaxesha, ukuxhatshazwa akukho lula ukukuqonda.

Umzekelo, wena nomntakwenu ninokuphosa amanye amagama amabi ngexesha lokuxabana. Okanye mhlawumbi nigqiba ukuphosa iimpahla kwigumbi lenu. Kodwa niyaxola nixole emva kokuba nithethile.

Ukuba olu hlobo lokuziphatha lwenzeka ngokuphindaphindiweyo kwaye akusekho sisombululo, kunokuba bubudlelwane obunetyhefu.

Ukungasebenzi kakuhle kuhlala kungapheliyo okanye kuyaqhubeka

Zimbalwa kakhulu iintsapho ezivana ngokugqibeleleyo ngalo lonke ixesha. Ukungavisisani, usukuzwano lwabantakwenu, ubudlelwane obuxakekileyo, okanye unxibelelwano gwenxa ziqhelekile, ngakumbi ngamaxesha oxinzelelo okanye otshintsho.

Umzekelo, ilungu losapho linokuziphatha okwethutyana okanye ngeendlela ezingenampilo ngenxa yeengxaki ezingaphandle kosapho olunamandla, ezinje:

• Imiceli mngeni emsebenzini okanye esikolweni
• ingxaki ngobuhlobo okanye olunye ubudlelwane
• ukukhathazeka ngempilo okanye uxinzelelo lweemvakalelo
• ubunzima bezemali

Ezi patheni zokuziphatha kufuneka zibe zezokwexeshana. Umntu onoxanduva unokucela uxolo, avakalise ukuzisola, kwaye asebenze ukutshintsha indlela abaziphethe ngayo bakube beyazi.

Ityhefu yokwenyani ngokwesiqhelo ayitshintshi okanye iphucule ngokulula. Ubuncinci, ngaphandle kwenkxaso yobungcali.

Indlela yokuphendula kuyo

Akukho ndlela ichanekileyo okanye engalunganga yokujongana namalungu osapho anetyhefu.

Abanye abantu bakhetha ukunqamula unxibelelwano ngokupheleleyo. Abanye bazama ukusebenza ngale meko ngokuthintela ukunxibelelana namalungu osapho anetyhefu kunye nokuthatha amanyathelo okukhusela impilo yabo yeemvakalelo xa yenza ukubona usapho lwabo.

Ukuba unemvelaphi enetyhefu, okanye ukuba imeko yosapho lwakho ngoku inezinto ezinetyhefu, ezi ngcebiso zinokukunceda ujonge iintlanganiso kwaye ujongane nayo nayiphi na imiceli mngeni okanye ubunzima obuzayo.

Yenza isigqibo ngento oyifunayo

Ukuchonga into oyifunayo kulwalamano kunokukunceda uhlakulele umbono ocacileyo wemida ofuna ukuyibekela.

Yithi uyakuthanda ukuchitha ixesha elingaqhelekanga kunye nodade wakho ngeempelaveki, kodwa hayi xa ebuza ngobomi bakho bothando. Uyazi ukuba uya kwabelana ngezo nkcukacha nomama wakho, oya kuthi emva koko afowunele ukugxeka nokuhlekisa ngawe.

Usafuna ukugcina ubudlelwane nodade wakho, isisombululo esinye sinokuthintela utyelelo lwakho kunye nodade wakho kube kanye ngenyanga kwaye umxelele kwangethuba ukuba awuzukuxoxa ngokuthandana.

Ukuba nemida ejikeleze unxibelelwano kunokukuxhobisa kwaye kukuncede uzive ungcono malunga nonxibelelwano okhetha ukulugcina. Kodwa nje ukuba uzibekele loo mida, zama ukungayiweleli. Ukutshibilika kunokukubuyisela kwimeko enzima okanye engenampilo.

Ziqhelanise neqela

Xa uchitha ixesha kunye namalungu osapho, ungavumeli ukuba bakutsalele kwimicimbi yosapho onqwenela ukuhlala bodwa. Akunyanzelekanga ukuba ubandakanyeke kuyo nantoni na ongathanda ukuyiphepha.

Ukuchongwa kungabandakanya:

• ukungathathi nxaxheba kwiimeko ezimdaka
• ukunqanda izihloko eziza neemvakalelo ezinamandla
• ukugcina incoko ilula kwaye ingaqhelekanga
• ukuphelisa incoko okanye ukushiya ukuba kukho imfuneko

Ukuba uzama ukuhlala ucacile kwityhefu, zama ukuziqhelisa:

• Ukuthatha isigqibo kwangaphambili ukuba zeziphi izihloko ofuna ukuziphepha
• Ukucinga ngeendlela zokutshintsha umxholo
• Ukuphendula umbuzo oxhokonxayo okanye ohlekisayo ngomnye umbuzo
• ukwazisa amalungu osapho ukuba awufuni kuxoxa ngezihloko ezithile

Oku kunokuba nzima ekuqaleni, kodwa ngokwenza okuthile, baya kuqala ukuziva bendalo ngakumbi.

Thatha isigqibo sokuba uza kwabelana ngantoni kwaye uza kuyigcina ngasese

Awudingi ukuba wabelane ngayo yonke into nosapho lwakho. Unokukufumanisa kuluncedo ukugcina iinkcukacha ezibalulekileyo zabucala kumalungu osapho anetyhefu anembali yokuzisebenzisa ukukugxeka, ukuhlekisa okanye ukukukhohlisa.

“Amalungu osapho amaninzi ayityhefu ziingcali zokukubeka kwindawo yokuzikhusela ngokwenza ukuba uziveze ungaphindisi. Kodwa akufuneki uzichaze okanye unike nabani na ukufikelela kwiingcinga zakho zangaphakathi, utshilo uFabrizio.

Ngaphambi kokuba ubone usapho lwakho, cinga ngokuzikhumbuza ngento onokukhetha ukungabelani ngayo. Ukuba kuyenzeka, yiza nenye okanye iindlela ezimbini zokutshintsha isifundo xa kufuneka njalo.

Oko kwathethi, kuhlala kulungile xa usitsho nje, "kungcono ndingathethi ngempilo yam / ukhetho lokutya / izakhono zokuba ngumzali / ubomi bothando," kwaye ndiyiphelise incoko.

Funda xa usithi hayi

Ukuzibekela imida kunye nokuthi hayi kwizinto ezinokubeka esichengeni loo mida kunokukunceda uhambe ngokulula okanye iipateni zobudlelwane ezinobungozi ngokulula.

Akusoloko kulula ukuthi hayi kumalungu osapho.UFabrizio wongeza, "Ukuba uyala nayiphi na indlela yokuziphatha yelungu losapho (nokuba ikrwada kangakanani), uzibeka emngciphekweni wokukulahla."

Ukuba uyazi ukuba imeko iyakwenza ukuba ungonwabi, uxinezeleke, okanye ungonwabi, ukuthi "hayi" kunokuba lolona khetho lwakho. Ungachaza ukuqiqa kwakho ukuba uyafuna, kodwa ungaziva ngathi kunyanzelekile.

Ilungu losapho elinetyhefu linokuzama ukukucenga okanye ukukhohlise utshintshe ingqondo. Yiba nokuzithemba kwisigqibo sakho kwaye wazi ukuba uzenzela into elungileyo. Amalungu osapho akuthandayo kwaye akuxhasa kufuneka ukuba aqonde kwaye axhase loo mfuno.

Ungazami ukutshintsha nabani na

Xa ujongene namalungu osapho anetyhefu, akuqhelekanga ukubamba ithemba lokuba bayakutshintsha. Unokucinga ngomhla abathi ekugqibeleni baqonde ukuba bakwenzakalise njani kwaye baqale ukusebenza ngokutshintsha indlela abaziphethe ngayo.

Ngokuqinisekileyo, abantu banako kwaye bayatshintsha, kodwa kungaphaya kolawulo lwakho. Ngaphandle kokubaxelela indlela oziva ngayo, ubacela ukuba baqwalasele umbono wakho, kwaye ubakhuthaze ukuba bathethe nonyango okanye enye ingcali, akukho nto ingako onokuyenza.

Oyena mntu wena unako utshintsho nguwe. Oku kunokubandakanya ukujongana neemvakalelo ezingakhiyo abazibangelayo, ukuziqhelanisa, okanye ukufunda ukuthi hayi.

Cwangcisa iintlanganiso ezisebenzelayo

Ukuzinika amandla nakuphi na ukudibana onako ukwenza umahluko omkhulu.

UF Fabrizio ucebisa oku kulandelayo:

• Thatha isigqibo sokuba uza kudibana phi kwaye nini. Intlanganiso yesidlo sasemini kwindawo kawonke-wonke inokukunceda ukuba uthintele uninzi lweengxaki ezinokubakho.
• Cinga ukuthatha utywala etafileni. Utywala bunokunyusa uxinzelelo kwimeko esele ihlawulisiwe, ke ukuphepha utywala kunye neendibano ezibandakanya utywala kunokunceda ukunciphisa amathuba okunxibelelana okunzima okanye okuphazamisayo.
• Cacisa malunga nokufumaneka kwakho. Umzekelo, usenokuthi, "Ndifumene iyure yesidlo sasemini namhlanje."
• Khathalela indlela yakho yokuhamba. Ngale ndlela, unendlela yokuhamba xa ufuna njalo.

Ukuseta iintlanganiso ngokwemigaqo yakho kukunceda uthathe amandla kwakhona kwaye uzive ukhuselekile ngexesha lokunxibelelana.

Thetha nomntu

Nokuba okwangoku uxakeke yimeko yosapho enetyhefu okanye usebenza ukoyisa iziphumo zobuntwana obunzima, ukwabelana ngeemvakalelo zakho nomntu kunokuba luncedo olukhulu.

Oku kuluncedo ngakumbi ekugcineni ukubambelela kwinyani ukuba amalungu osapho anetyhefu okanye ukuphazamisa ukuhlangana kukwenza uzithandabuze.

Ukusebenza nengcali yezempilo yengqondo kufanelekile, kodwa ukuvula iqabane okanye umhlobo nako kunokunceda. Akunyanzelekanga ukuba wabelane ngeenkcukacha zonke. Ngamanye amaxesha kwanokunika umfanekiso ngokubanzi wale meko kunokukunceda uveze ezinye zeengxaki zakho kunye noxinzelelo.

Nini ukusika amaqhina

Ngamanye amaxesha, ukunqamla unxibelelwano lelona nyathelo lilungileyo, nokuba omnye umntu akazimiselanga kukwenzakalisa. Ukuba ubudlelwane benzakalisa ngaphezu kokulungileyo, lukhetho olufanele ukuqwalaselwa.

Ukuthatha isigqibo sokunqamula unxibelelwano nosapho lwakho, nokuba buhlungu kangakanani na, kunokuba nzima kakhulu. Ezi ngcebiso zenzelwe ukunceda ukukhokela inkqubo yokucinga kunye namanyathelo alandelayo.

Abahloniphi imida yakho okanye imida

Ukuba awuqinisekanga ukuba unqumle unxibelelwano sisigqibo esifanelekileyo, uFabrizio ucebisa kuqala ngokuchaza iimfuno zakho kwaye unike amalungu osapho lwakho ithuba lokubonisa ukuba bayayihlonipha imida oyibonakalisileyo.

Ukuba abasakwazi ukwenza oku emva kokuzama okumbalwa, izinto ezinokwenzeka azizukutshintsha nangaliphi na ixesha kungekudala. Ukuyeka ukunxibelelana kunokuba lolona hambo lusempilweni kwimeko.

Bayakuhlukumeza ngokwasemzimbeni okanye ngokukuthuka

Kukhuselekile ngokubanzi ukuba uziqhelanise namalungu osapho akwenzakalisa ngokwasemzimbeni. Ukuba kufuneka ubabone, zama ukuhlala uhlangana nabo esidlangalaleni okanye ube nomntu othile kuwe.

Ukuphathwa gadalala kunokuba nzima ngakumbi ukukuqonda, kodwa eminye imizekelo ibandakanya:

• ukubiza igama
• Ukuhlazisa umzimba
• Ubukrwada okanye indelelo
• ukugxekwa kukhetho lwakho lobomi
• intetho enentiyo, umkhethe, okanye izithuko

Bahlala bekuxokisa okanye bekukhohlisa

Amalungu osapho axoka rhoqo xa ethetha inyani anokukwenza uzive ungonwabanga kwaye udidekile. Unokuba nobunzima bokuthemba nabani na, usapho okanye enye into.

Ukuba ukhomba le ndlela yokuziphatha kwaye iyaqhubeka, ukunqamla umnxibelelwano kunokuba kuphela kwendlela yokuziqhela kuyo.

Ukuthetha nabo okanye ukuzibona kubangela uxinzelelo lweemvakalelo

Xa ungaziva mnandi malunga nokubona usapho lwakho, okanye xa naluphi na unxibelelwano lukhuthaza kuphela iimvakalelo ezingalunganga, kunokuba lixesha lokuba uqwalasele ukuba ukuthatha ikhefu kunokunceda ukuphucula imeko.

Ukuba uneengcinga ezinje Kutheni ndizibeka kule nto? okanye Ngaba kufuneka ndibabone? khumbula ukuba awunayo unayo ukuzibona okanye ukuzibeka kuyo nantoni na ongafuniyo ukujongana nayo.

Ukusika unxibelelwano akufuneki ukuba kube sisigqibo esisisigxina, nokuba. Unokufuna nje ixesha elithile kude nemeko.

UF Fabrizio uqukumbela ngelithi: “Ngaphezu kwako konke, khumbula ukuba unokukhetha xa unento yokwenza nomntu onetyhefu.”

Uhamba njani 'unganxibelelani'

Nokuba ufuna nje umgama wethutyana okanye ikhefu elingenammiselo kumalungu osapho anetyhefu, kuyanceda ukwenza isicwangciso ngaphambi kwexesha.

Khetha indlela yakho

Ngaba uziva ukhuselekile kwaye ukhululekile ukubaxelela ubuso ngobuso? Ukuba akunjalo, akukho nto iphosakeleyo ngokwenza umnxeba okanye ukuthumela i-imeyile. Khumbula, unokukhetha.

Ukuba umntu unembali yokuba nobundlobongela ngokwasemzimbeni, kunqande ukudibana nabantu. Usenokucinga ngokufikelela kwinkxaso yezomthetho. Umyalelo othintelayo okanye okhuselayo unokufuneka ukuqinisekisa ukhuseleko lwakho.

Yenza amalungiselelo

Cinga ngokuza ngamanqaku aphambili ofuna ukuza nawo, ukugcina izinto zilula kwaye ukuya kwinqanaba.

Ukuba usete imida okanye umda kwaye basilele ukuhlonipha ezo, unokuchaza ukuba njengesona sizathu siphambili emva kwesigqibo sakho.

Unokubazisa ukuba ungaziva ukhuselekile, uve, okanye uhlonitshwe kulwalamano. Usenokuthi nje ukuba ubudlelwane abuyixhasi impilo yakho okanye ukuhlangabezana neemfuno zakho.

Cacisa ukuba kwenzeka ntoni

Bazise ukuba awuzukunxibelelana nabo okanye uthathe iifowuni, uphendule imiyalezo, njalo njalo.

Ungabacela ukuba bayeke ukunxibelelana nawe, kodwa ke yazi ukuba banokwenza njalo. Ukuthintela iinombolo zefowuni kunye neeprofayili zemidiya yoluntu kunokunceda ukukhusela oku.

Lungiselela impendulo yabo…

Yilungiselele impendulo yabo. Ukuba uyazi ukuba basabela njani kwiimeko ezithile, unokuba nombono olungileyo malunga nokuba bazakuphendula bathini.

Ukubandakanya umntu onika inkxaso, njengeqabane lothando okanye umhlobo omthembileyo, kunokukunceda uhlale womelele nxamnye nayo nayiphi na into yokukhubekisa ityala, ukuhlazisa okanye ukubiza igama.

… Kunye neyakho

Emva kokuqhawula unxibelelwano nelungu losapho elinetyhefu, unokuziva nje ukuba amaza okanye isiqabu. Akuyonto ingaqhelekanga ukuziva ulusizi, unetyala, okanye usizi. Yiba nexesha ukroliweyo emva koko ukuziqhelanisa nokuzikhathalela, nokuba kukuchitha ixesha nomhlobo osenyongweni okanye ukuhamba uhambo olukhulu.

Ukufuna uncedo

Ukukhula kusapho olungenampilo okanye olunetyhefu kunokuba negalelo kwinani leemvakalelo, zokunxibelelana, kunye nemiceli mngeni yempilo yengqondo exhamlayo kunyango.

Umzekelo, ukulawulwa okanye ukulawulwa kunokuchaphazela ukubanakho kwakho ukuzenzela izigqibo. Ungaziva usoyika okanye ukhathazekile xa usenza isigqibo.

Unokufumana iimvakalelo zoxinzelelo okanye uxinzelelo. Ubudlelwane obungenakulindeleka okanye obunobundlobongela bunokubangela uxinzelelo, ngelixa ubudlelwane obubandakanya ukufakela ingqumbo yakho kunokubangela uxinzelelo, utshilo uFabrizio.

Ezinye iziphumo zexesha elide zetyhefu yosapho zinokubandakanya:

• ukuziva ulilolo okanye ulilolo
• ingqondo ephantsi yokuzixabisa okanye ukuzithemba
• iipateni zobudlelwane obunengxaki okanye obungasebenziyo
• iimvakalelo ezingapheliyo zokuziva unetyala, uneentloni okanye ungenaxabiso
• imiba yokuncamathisela
• uxinzelelo lwasemva kwexesha
• Imiba yobuzali

Ukusebenza noqeqeshiweyo wezempilo yengqondo kunokukunceda ukuba uqale uchonge iindlela ityhefu echaphazela ngayo ubudlelwane bakho kunye nokuba sempilweni. Nje ukuba uyibone le micimbi, ungaqala ukuthatha amanyathelo okubuyela kubo.

Umgca wezantsi

Izinto ezinobungozi kwiintsapho kunokuba nzima ukuzibona. Nawuphi na umba okanye imeko ekwenza uzive ungathandwa, ungafunwa, okanye nokuba mbi ngawe ngekhe ibe sisempilweni.

Zonke iintsapho ziyasokola amaxesha ngamaxesha, kodwa amalungu asaziva ithandwa, exhaswa, kwaye ehlonitshwa. Intsapho enetyhefu okanye engasebenziyo, kwelinye icala, inokuziva ingazinzanga, ixinekile, kwaye ihlawulisiwe, kwaye amalungu osapho anetyhefu angadala ingozi enkulu.

Ukuba uqaphele iipateni ezinetyhefu kusapho lwakho, cinga ngokufikelela kunyangi onokukunceda uphonononge iziphumo zetyhefu kwaye unike isikhokelo njengoko ucinga ngokulawula imeko.