Gqirha othandekayo, andizukuzilinganisa iibhokisi zakho zokujonga, kodwa ngaba uza kujonga ezam?

Umxholo

• Uninzi loogqirha alunalo uqeqesho xa kufikwa kumba wokukhathalela abantu be-transgender
• Sonke sinamandla okwenza utshintsho oluncinci kwaye umahluko omkhulu

“Kodwa umhle kakhulu. Kutheni ungayenza loo nto? ”

Njengokuba la mazwi eshiye umlomo wakhe, umzimba wam wakhawuleza wajija kwaye umhadi wesicaphucaphu wantywila esiswini sam. Yonke imibuzo ebendiyilungiselele entlokweni yam phambi kokuqeshwa inyamalale. Ngokukhawuleza ndaziva ndingakhuselekanga- hayi emzimbeni, kodwa ngokwasemphefumlweni.

Ngelo xesha, bendicinga ngokulungelelanisa umzimba wam kunye nokuchazwa kwam ngokwesini. Into endiyifunayo yayikukufunda ngakumbi nge testosterone.

Eli yayilinyathelo lokuqala endalithathayo ukuqokelela ulwazi malunga nefuthe lesini esinqamlezayo emva kokubuza isini sam kunye nokuzabalaza kwidysphoria yesini ngaphezulu kweminyaka emibini. Kodwa endaweni yokuziva ndikhululekile kwaye ndenza inkqubela, ndaziva ndoyisiwe kwaye ndingenathemba.

Ndandinentloni yindlela endandilukhathalele ngayo uqeqesho kunye namava athi umnikezeli wokhathalelo oluphambili anesihloko sesini kunye nempilo ye-transgender. Wayengumntu wokuqala endakha ndamxelela-phambi kwabazali bam, phambi kweqabane lam, phambi kwabahlobo bam. Mhlawumbi wayengayazi loo nto… kwaye nangoku akayazi.

Uninzi loogqirha alunalo uqeqesho xa kufikwa kumba wokukhathalela abantu be-transgender

Kufunyenwe ukuba kwabaphenduli bezonyango abangama-411 abasebenza (kwezonyango), phantse iipesenti ezingama-80 ziye zanyanga umntu odlulayo, kodwa iipesenti ezingama-80.6 azikaze zifumane naluphi na uqeqesho malunga nokukhathalela abantu abadlulayo.

Iiklinikhi zazithembile kakhulu okanye ngandlel 'ithile ngokweenkcazo (iipesenti ezingama-77.1), zithatha imbali (iipesenti ezingama-63.3), kunye nokumisela iihomoni (iipesenti ezingama-64.8). Kodwa ukuzithemba okuphantsi kwaxelwa ngaphandle kommandla wehomoni.

Xa kuziwa kukhathalelo lwempilo oluqinisekisa isini, iinkxalabo zethu azikho nje ngongenelelo lonyango. Isini simalunga kakhulu kakhulu neyeza kunye nemizimba yethu. Ukuziqhelanisa nokusebenzisa igama lomntu kunye nesimelabizo esingqinelweyo kungangenelela ngokulinganayo kunamandla kwaye kubalulekile njengamahomoni. Ukuba bendisazi yonke le minyaka mihlanu idlulileyo, ngekhe ndasondela kwizinto ngokwahlukileyo.

Ngoku, ngaphambi kokuba ndenze idinga nogqirha omtsha, nditsalela umnxeba eofisini.

Nditsalela umnxeba ukufumanisa ukuba ukuziqhelanisa kunye nomboneleli unamava kwizigulana eziguqukayo. Ukuba abenzi njalo, kulungile. Ndilungisa nje izinto endizilindeleyo. Xa useofisini kagqirha, ayingomsebenzi wam ukufundisa. Xa ndingena, amathuba okuba abasebenzi baseofisini baya kundibona njengendoda okanye ibhinqa.

Esi ayisosiganeko sodwa. Kuphononongo lweTransgender yase-2015 ka-2015, iipesenti ezingama-33 zixele ukuba zinamava amabi kugqirha okanye omnye umboneleli wezempilo onxulumene nokuba ngumtshintshi, kubandakanya:

• Iipesenti ezingama-24 kufuneka ufundise umboneleli malunga nabantu be-transgender ukuze ufumane ukhathalelo olufanelekileyo
• Iipesenti ezili-15 ukubuzwa imibuzo engafunekiyo okanye engeyomfuneko malunga nokuba ngumfazi oguqukayo, engahambelani nesizathu sokundwendwela
• Iipesenti ezisi-8 ukwaliwa unyango olunxulumene notshintsho

Xa ndigcwalisa iifom zokungenisa kwaye ndingaziboni iindlela zokubonisa isini esingaqhelekanga, ndicinga ukuba oko kuthetha ukuba umboneleli kunye nabasebenzi bezonyango banokungabi nalwazi malunga nokuba yeyiphi na into engeyiyo eyokwabelana ngesini, okanye abanawo lo mba. Akukho mntu uya kubuza malunga nezimelabizo zam okanye aqinisekisiweyo (ngokuchasene nomthetho) igama.

Ndilindele ukuba ndingalungiswa.

Kwaye kwezi meko, ndikhetha ukubeka phambili uxinzelelo lwam kwezonyango ngaphezulu kokufundisa ababoneleli. Kwezi meko, ndibeka bucala iimvakalelo zam ukuze kusonjululwe iingxaki zam kwezonyango. Le yinyani yam kuko konke ukuqeshwa kwezonyango okanye kwengqondo ngaphandle kweeklinikhi ezijolise kwisini.

Sonke sinamandla okwenza utshintsho oluncinci kwaye umahluko omkhulu

Ndinqwenela ukuba bonke ababoneleli ngezempilo bakuqonde ukubaluleka kolwimi kunye nokwamkelwa komehluko wesini xa ujongene noluntu oluhambisayo. Impilo konke kubandakanya, ukusuka kwi-ego ukuya emzimbeni, kunye negama eliqinisekisiweyo kwiihomoni. Akunjalo nje malunga neyeza.

Sikwixesha kwimbali apho inkcubeko yethu yokwazisa kunye nokuqonda kwe-transgender kunye ne-nonbinary identities kudlula kude kwiinkqubo zethu 'zokuphendula kunye nokuqinisekisa ubukho bazo. Kukho ulwazi olwaneleyo kunye nemfundo efumanekayo yokuba abantu babenolwazi ngesini esingahambelaniyo nesingafaniyo nesesini. Nangona kunjalo akukho mfuneko yokuba olu lwazi kunye novakalelo lusetyenziswe kuseto lokhathalelo lwempilo.

Yintoni enokubakhuthaza abaqeqeshi, kwaye hayi kwilizwe lokhathalelo lwempilo, ukuba batshintshe?

Ayisiyokwakhiwa ngokutsha. Nokuba unezona njongo zihle zobuchwephesha, ucalucalulo lobuqu kunye nokubandlulula zihlala zikhona. Kodwa kukho iindlela zokubonisa uvelwano. Izinto ezincinci kwihlabathi lesini zenza a enkulu umahluko, njengo:

• Ukubeka imiqondiso okanye izinto zentengiso kwigumbi lokulinda ezibonisa bonke abantu besini bamkelekile.
• Ukuqinisekisa iifom ezahlula isondo esabiweyo kwisazisi sesini.
• Ukubonelela ngendawo ezinikezelweyo kwiifom zokungenisa igama (ukuba zahlukile kwigama elisemthethweni), izimelabizo, kunye nesini (eyindoda, eyasetyhini, eyokuhambisa, engafakwanga nto, kunye nezinye).
• Ukubuza wonke umntu (hayi nje i-transgender okanye abantu abangabhinqiyo) ukuba bathanda ukubhekiswa kubo.
• Sebenzisa i-transgender okanye abantu abangahambelaniyo nesini. Ukuzibona ubuya umva kunokuba luncedo.
• Ukulungisa nokuxolisa ngengozi ngokusebenzisa igama elingalunganga okanye isimelabizo.

Ndijonga emva kolo nxibelelwano kunye nogqirha kwaye ndiyabona ngokucacileyo ukuba into endiyifunayo ngalamzuzu yayingelilo ulwazi malunga neehomoni. Ndidinga i-ofisi kagqirha wam ukuba ibe yindawo ekhuselekileyo ngexesha apho ndandingekakulungeli ukwaba olu lwazi naphina.

Ndidinga ugqirha ukuba aqonde ukuba ndingubani na onokwahluka "kwisini" esidweliswe kwirekhodi yam yonyango. Endaweni yokubuza ukuba kutheni, intetho elula enjengale ibiya kwenza umahluko: “Enkosi ngokuza kum nombuzo wakho. Ndiyaqonda ukuba akusoloko kulula ukuza ngaphambili ukubuza ezi ntlobo zezinto. Kuvakala ngathi ubuza umba othile wesini sakho. Ndingavuya ukukuxhasa ekufumaneni ulwazi kunye nezixhobo. Ungandixelela ngakumbi ngendlela oye wajonga ngayo i-testosterone? ”

Ayisiyo malunga nokugqibelela, kodwa ukwenza umgudu. Ulwazi lunamandla kakhulu xa lusenziwa. Utshintsho yinkqubo engenakuqala ade umntu amisele ukubaluleka kwayo.

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