Ngaphandle kwenyani kunye nenkohliso: Iindidi ezili-10 zeSmiles kunye noko zithethayo

Umxholo

• Imisebenzi yokuncuma
• Iindidi ezili-10 zokuncuma
• 1. Uncumo lomvuzo
• 2. Uncumo lokudibana
• 3. Uyancuma uDominance
• 4. Uncumo oluxokayo
• 5. Uncumo olunemincili
• 6. Uncumo olunembeko
• 7. Uncumo olunothando
• 8. Uncumo olunentloni
• 9. Uncumo lwePan Am
• 10. Uncumo lukaDuchenne
• Ukuthatha

Abantu bayancuma ngenxa yezizathu ezininzi. Ungancuma xa ubona i-bestie yakho ekudala ulahlekile kwibango lempahla, xa ubandakanya abo usebenza nabo ngexesha lomboniso, okanye xa ucinga igqwetha lakho langaphambili likhubeka endleleni eya enkundleni.

Abantu banomdla ngoncumo-bonke. Ukusuka eMona Lisa ukuya eGrinch, sithinjiwe ngabo bobabini bokwenyani nobuxoki. Le imbonakalo yobuso ingummangaliso ibingumxholo wamakhulu ezifundo.

Nantsi into esiyaziyo malunga ne-10 yeentlobo ezahlukeneyo zoncumo, ukuba zikhangeleka njani, kwaye zithetha ntoni.

Imisebenzi yokuncuma

Enye yezona ndlela ziluncedo kakhulu zokuhlela uncumo kuhambelana nomsebenzi wabo wentlalontle, okanye iinjongo abazisebenzisayo bengamaqela abantu.

Ukuthetha ngokubanzi, zintathu izinto ezincumisayo: uncumo lomvuzo, uncumo lokudibana, kunye noncumo lokulawula.

Uncumo lusenokuba lolona luqhelekileyo nolulula, kuba nje kukuphakamisa izihlunu zobuso. Kodwa njengendlela yokunxibelelana kwezentlalo kunye nonxibelelwano, uncumo luyinkimbinkimbi, lunamandla kwaye lunamandla.

Ndibonisile ukuba abantu banokuqonda okumangalisayo xa kufikwa kufundo kunye nokuqonda olu ncumo kwiimeko zentlalo.

Uninzi lwabantu luyakwazi ukuchonga ngokuchanekileyo ukuba loluphi uhlobo lokuncuma abalibonayo, kwaye ukubona iintlobo ezithile zoncumo kunokuba nefuthe elinamandla ngokwasemzimbeni nangokwasemzimbeni ebantwini.

Iindidi ezili-10 zokuncuma

Nazi iindlela ezili-10 eziqhelekileyo zokumomotheka:

1. Uncumo lomvuzo

Uncumo oluninzi luvela kwimvakalelo elungileyo-ulwaneliseko, ulwamkelo, okanye ulonwabo phakathi kosizi. Abaphandi bachaza oku njengoncumo "lomvuzo" kuba silusebenzisa ukukhuthaza thina okanye abanye abantu.

Uncumo lomvuzo lubandakanya inkuthazo eninzi yovakalelo. Imisipha esemlonyeni nasezidleleni zombini ziyasebenza, njengezihlunu zamehlo kunye neendawo zobuso. Igalelo elincomekayo elivela kwiimvakalelo lonyusa iimvakalelo ezilungileyo kwaye zikhokelela ekomelezeni okungcono kokuziphatha.

Kuba, xa umntwana ngokungalindelekanga encuma kunina, oko kubangela amaziko emivuzo ye-dopamine kwingqondo kamama. (I-Dopamine yikhemikhali evakalelwa kukuba mnandi.) Ngaloo ndlela umama uyavuzwa ngolonwabo lomntwana wakhe olubonakalayo.

2. Uncumo lokudibana

Abantu basebenzise uncumo ukuqinisekisa abanye, ukuba nembeko, kunye nokunxibelelana nokuthembeka, ukuba ngamalungu, kunye neenjongo ezintle. Uncumo olufana nolu luphawulwe njengoncumo "lokudibana" kuba lusebenza njengezihlanganisi zentlalo.

Uncumo olunobuntu ludla ngokubonwa njengomqondiso, umzekelo.

Oku kuncuma kubandakanya ukutsala phezulu kwemilebe, kwaye ngokutsho kwabaphandi, zihlala zibangela ukuntywila ezidleleni.

Ngokophando, ukumomotheka ngokudibeneyo kunokubandakanya ukucinezela imilebe, apho imilebe ihlala ivaliwe ngexesha lokuncuma. Ukugcina amazinyo efihliwe kunokuba lutshintsho olufihlakeleyo kumqondiso wokuqala woburharha wamazinyo.

3. Uyancuma uDominance

Abantu ngamanye amaxesha bayancuma ukubonisa ukongama kwabo, ukuthetha indelelo okanye ukugculelwa, nokwenza abanye bazive bengenamandla. Usenokubiza ngokuba kukuhlekisa. Oomatshini bokuncuma abalawulayo bahlukile kunomvuzo okanye uncumo olunxulumene noko.

Uncumo olugqwesileyo lunokwenzeka ukuba lungalinganiyo: Elinye icala lomlomo liyaphakama, kwaye elinye icala lihleli endaweni yalo okanye litsale ezantsi.

Ukongeza kwezi ntshukumo, ulawulo loncumo lunokubandakanya ukugoba komlomo kunye nokuphakamisa ishiya ukuveza ngaphezulu kwenxalenye emhlophe yamehlo, zozibini ezo zinto zingumqondiso onamandla wokucekiseka nomsindo.

Izifundo zibonisa ukuba uncumo olugqithisileyo iyasebenza.

kuvavanywe amathe abantu kwisiphelo sokuncuma kolawulo kwaye bafumana amanqanaba aphezulu e-cortisol, ihormone yoxinzelelo, ukuya kuthi ga kwimizuzu engama-30 emva kokudibana okungalunganga.

Olu phononongo luye lwafumanisa ukuba isiqhulo esonyuse izinga lentliziyo phakathi kwabathathi-nxaxheba. Olu hlobo loncumo lusisisongelo esingathethiyo, kwaye umzimba uphendula ngokufanelekileyo.

4. Uncumo oluxokayo

Ukuba ujonga isixhobo sokuxoka esingenangqondo, ubuso abukho. Ngokophando, kwawona magosa anyanzelisa ukuthotyelwa komthetho abona amaxoki malunga nesiqingatha sexesha.

Nangona kunjalo, kuye kwakho izifundo eziveze uncumo phakathi kwabantu ababezama ngenkohliso ukukhohlisa abanye kwiimeko eziphezulu.

Uphononongo olwenziwe ngo-2012 lwenza uhlalutyo lwesakhelo sabantu abafotyiweyo ngelixa babongoza esidlangalaleni ukubuya kwelungu losapho elahlekileyo. Isiqingatha sabo bantu kamva sagwetywa ngokubulala isihlobo.

Phakathi kwabakhohlisi, i-zygomaticus enkulu yemisipha-leyo etsala imilebe yakho kuncumo-yadubula kaninzi. Akunjalo kwabo babenentlungu yokwenene.

5. Uncumo olunemincili

Nabani na okhe wabona umboniso bhanyabhanya bhanyabhanya ka-1989 othi "Steel Magnolias" uyakukhumbula indawo yamangcwaba xa uM'Lynn, odlalwa yiSally Fields, ezifumanisa ehleka kabuhlungu mhla angcwaba intombi yakhe.

Ubungqongqo obupheleleyo beemvakalelo zabantu buyamangalisa. Ke, siyakwazi ukuncuma phakathi kokubini ngokweemvakalelo nangokwasemzimbeni.

Iingcali kumaZiko ezeMpilo kaZwelonke acinga ukuba ukukwazi ukuncuma nokuhleka ngexesha lenkqubo yokukhathazeka kuyakukhusela ngelixa uchacha. Into enomdla kukuba, oososayensi bacinga ukuba singancuma ngexesha leentlungu zomzimba ngeenjongo zokukhusela, nathi.

Abaphandi bajonge inkangeleko yobuso yabantu ababephantsi kweenkqubo ezibuhlungu kwaye bafumanisa ukuba bancuma ngakumbi xa abathandekayo bakho xa bebodwa kunokuba bebodwa. Baye bagqiba kwelokuba abantu basebenzise uncumo ukuqinisekisa abanye.

6. Uncumo olunembeko

Usasaza uncumo oluchubekileyo ngokumangalisayo rhoqo: xa uqala ukudibana nomntu, xa uza kuhambisa iindaba ezimbi, kwaye xa ufihla impendulo ukholelwa ukuba omnye umntu ngekhe athande. Uluhlu lweemeko zentlalo ezifuna intetho emnandi lide.

Uninzi lwexesha, uncumo oluchubekileyo lubandakanya umsipha omkhulu we-zygomaticus, kodwa hayi umsipha we-orbicularis oculi. Ngamanye amagama, umlomo wakho uyancuma, kodwa amehlo akho awenzi njalo.

Uncumo olunobuntu lusinceda sigcine uhlobo lomgama oqondayo phakathi kwabantu. Ngelixa uncumo olufudumeleyo oluvuswe yimvakalelo yokwenene ludla ngokusisondeza kwabanye, olo kufutshane akusoloko kufanelekile.

Uninzi lweemeko zentlalo zifuna ukuba nobuhlobo obunokuthenjwa kodwa hayi ukusondelelana ngokweemvakalelo. Kwezo meko, ndifumene uncumo oluchubekileyo lusebenza ngokunyanisekileyo.

7. Uncumo olunothando

Ukuthandana, isayikholoji, kunye neewebhusayithi zamazinyo zinika iingcebiso malunga nendlela yokusebenzisa uncumo lwakho ukudlala ngothando nomnye umntu.

Ezinye iingcebiso zingangqalanga: Gcina imilebe yakho kunye kwaye uphakamise ishiya. Ezinye zi-coy: Ncuma ngelixa ubeka intloko phantsi. Ezinye zihlekisa ngokuqinisekileyo: Ncuma ngekhrim encinci okanye ikofu emilebeni yakho.

Ngelixa zininzi iimpembelelo zenkcubeko kwezi ngcebiso kunye nobungqina obuncinci bokuthelekisa ukubuyisela ukusebenza kwazo, kukho ubungqina bokuba ukuncuma kukwenza ube nomtsalane ngakumbi.

Olunye uphononongo lufumanise ukuba umtsalane uphenjelelwa kakhulu luncumo, kwaye uncumo olonwabisayo, olunzulu "lunokuhlawulela ukungathandeki okuthe kratya."

8. Uncumo olunentloni

Uphononongo olucatshulwe rhoqo lowe-1995 lufumanise ukuba uncumo oluchukunyiswe ziintloni ludla ngokuhamba nokuthambeka kwentloko kunye nokushenxisela amehlo ngasekhohlo.

Ukuba uneentloni, uya kubuchukumisa ubuso bakho rhoqo, kananjalo.

Uncumo olunentloni lukuqinisekisile ukuhamba kwentloko. Nangona kunjalo, khange iqinisekise ukuba abantu abaneentloni bahlala bencuma bevale imilomo. Uncumo lwabo aluhlali ixesha elide njengolonwabo okanye ngoncumo.

9. Uncumo lwePan Am

Oloncumo lufumana igama lalo kubahambi beenqwelomoya bePan Am ababefuneka bahlale bencuma, nokuba abathengi kunye neemeko zabenza bafuna ukulahla iipakethi zamandongomane kule ndlwana.

Ngokubanzi kuthathwa njengokunyanzelwa kunye nokukhohlisa, uncumo lukaPan Am lunokubonakala lukhulu kakhulu.

Uphononongo lubonisa ukuba xa abantu bebuza, basebenzisa umzamo owongezelelweyo kwi-yygomaticus enkulu yemisipha.

Ngenxa yoko, iikona zomlomo ziphezulu kakhulu, kwaye uninzi lwamazinyo luvezwa. Ukuba uncumo olubonakalayo alulingani, icala lasekhohlo lomlomo liya kuba phezulu kunecala lasekunene.

Ukuba ungomnye wabantu abaphantse babe zizigidi ezi-2.8 abaqeshwe kwicandelo lenkonzo yabathengi, okanye ukuba umsebenzi wakho ufuna ukuba unxibelelane rhoqo noluntu, unokufuna ukuphinda uqwalasele ngokungakhathali ukuhambisa uncumo lwePan Am, njengoko lunokuchaphazela impilo yakho.

Uphononongo lwamva nje olupapashwe kwiJenali yezeMpilo yezeNgqondo yezeMpilo lufumanise ukuba abantu ekufuneka bonwabile rhoqo emsebenzini bahlala begqiba ekubeni basele uxinzelelo emva kokuba bephumile.

10. Uncumo lukaDuchenne

Lo ngumgangatho wegolide. Uncumo lukaDuchenne lukwabizwa ngokuba luncumo lolonwabo lokwenene. Yeyona ibandakanya umlomo, izidlele, namehlo ngaxeshanye. Yiyo apho ubuso bakho bonke bubonakala bukhanya ngokukhawuleza.

Ukumomotheka okuqinisekileyo kweDuchenne kukwenza ubonakale uthembekile, uthembekile kwaye unobungane. Bafunyenwe bevelisa amava enkonzo kubathengi angcono kunye neengcebiso ezingcono. Kwaye banxulunyaniswa nobomi obude kunye nobudlelwane obunempilo.

Kuphononongo luka-2009, abaphandi bajonga ubungakanani boncumo kwiifoto zencwadi yekholeji kwaye bafumanisa ukuba abasetyhini ababenoncumo lukaDuchenne kwiifoto zabo babesenokwenzeka ukuba bonwabile emtshatweni kamva.

Kolunye uphononongo olwapapashwa ngo-2010, abaphandi bavavanya amakhadi ebaseball ukusukela ngo-1952. Bafumanise ukuba abadlali abaneefoto zabo ezibonisa uncumo olunamandla, olunyanisekileyo baphila ixesha elide kakhulu kunabo babencumile.

Ukuthatha

Uncumo luyahluka. Nokuba babonisa ukugqabhuka okwenyani kwemvakalelo okanye benziwe ngenjongo yokuhambelana nenjongo ethile, uncumo lusebenza imisebenzi ebalulekileyo kwiinkqubo zonxibelelwano lomntu.

Banokuvuza indlela abaziphethe ngayo, bakhuthaze ukudibana kwezentlalo, okanye basebenzise ubukhosi kunye nokuzithoba. Zingasetyenziselwa ukukhohlisa, ukudlala ngothando, ukugcina izithethe zentlalo, ukubonisa iintloni, ukujamelana nentlungu, kunye nokuvakalisa iimvakalelo.

Kuko konke ukungaqondakali kunye nokwahluka kwabo, ukumamatheka yenye yeendlela ezinamandla zokunxibelelana ukuba singobani kwaye sizimisele ntoni kwimeko zentlalo.